You made that birthing plan (or didn’t) and hopefully you have a newborn infant. Congratulations! But now that the mini human is outside of your body, that gives you plenty of (sleepless) time to ruminate over what the hell happened. Did you get that natural drug-free birth you were hoping for? Did your doctor push an unnecessary c-section on you? Did your labor pretty much scar you for having any future hypothetical children? Let’s see what your labor says about you.
If you were all gung ho about a natural labor and experienced the worst pain of your life and are like WTF
Right now, you’re probably scanning your family and friends for liars. That’s right. People who looked you in the face and, to your estimation, LIED about the the utter trauma that you’re currently coping with. You probably also haven’t touched any of the books from your natural birthing library, either, for fear that all the images and suggestions will trigger your PTSD (which you are seriously considering getting looked at by a professional). You plan on both a). staying in bed for as long as possible and b). punching the next clueless moron who goes off about women’s bodies being “designed for childbirth.” Eat me.
(photo: mark ovaska)
If your epidural didn’t work
Since you’ve returned to the mommy forums, you now find yourself among an entire sisterhood of women who start their birthing stories with, “well, my epidural didn’t work so….” All of sudden, these women are like kindred as you find you both share the complete horror that comes with the words “it doesn’t work for all women.” You feverishly trade details about the look you shot your partner when your doctor said, “we’re just going to have to do this without pain-relief.” What the fuck does he/she mean by “we”?
(photo: Haukeland universitetssjukehus)
If you had a quick, easy, and by the book c-section without wanting a natural delivery
Why didn’t anyone tell you that this shiz is major abdominal surgery? You can’t drive. Your tummy smells. And you can barely walk without tearing up, let alone work out. Why do people call c-sections the easy alternative to childbirth? All your friends who delivered vaginally are generally out about after a few weeks. At the rate you’re going, you’re barely able to make it to the shower and cross the room for a glass of water. Not to mention the screaming baby who is not exactly taking to breastfeeding. You’d go online for tips, but all those silly advice forums are just brimming with ladies who will say that your child’s natural ability to bond was “compromised” by your c-section. And back to Netflix it is.