Top 5 Things Not To Say To A Pregnant Woman Over 40

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Uma Thurman is pregnant! The 41-year-old is already mom to Maya, 13, and Levon, 10, with ex-husband Ethan Hawke. But this will be her first child with longtime boyfriend Arpad Busson. Thurman joins a long list of celebrities who’ve had children later in life, everyone from Brooke Shields to Mariah Carey to Meryl Streep. And like those before here (celeb or not), Thurman will no doubt face at least a few pesky comments about her age. Sure, women are having children later in life – but that doesn’t mean we’re all used to the idea. So, for the sake of the sisterhood, here’s what not to say to a pregnant woman over 40.

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  1. Lulu

    February 29, 2012 at 2:56 pm

    Seriously? I thought this site was more progressive.

    This is really dumb. She’s 41, not 51, it’s not a big deal. Most people I know are having kids at 39 or 40.

    Having kids in your late 30’s or early 40’s is so common these days, especially in cities. A lot of people are having their first kid at 40, possibly after trying a long time, possibly because they weren’t ready until now.

    I’m guessing it’s not as freakshow as you’re making it out to be, unless you live in podunk middle america where the average age is probably 22.

    • Shawna Cohen

      February 29, 2012 at 3:03 pm

      hey lulu. thnx for weighing in. i live in a big city – a progressive one, at that – and it amazes me how many times i *still* witness people making snarky comments to older pregnant women (including a close friend, who just had her first child at age 40). i completely agree with you that having kids in your late 30s/early 40s is so common these days — but there are ppl out there who still feel the need to comment. it’s astounding! i hope one day that won’t be the case cuz it’s certainly an outdated notion.

  2. Poppy

    February 29, 2012 at 4:14 pm

    “But, hi, it’s not like they have a choice.”

    I don’t know if you know, but there’s this amazing thing that you can get, if you’re pregnant and don’t want to be pregnant. It’s called a – wait, let me check my spelling – an abortion. Yeah! An abortion. If you’re pregnant, and you don’t want to be pregnant, you can have an abortion.

    All sarcasm aside, the consideration of whether or not someone is “up for” all those sleepless nights and busy days is actually a very important one. And if someone’s not up for it, then, well, see above. If you don’t want to put the work into having kids, DON’T HAVE KIDS.

  3. Chantel

    March 1, 2012 at 10:41 pm

    Hey Lulu

    Shouldn’t you be commenting on something else… like the finale of Desperate Housewives?

    Because you sound really dumb. I am a woman who lives in NYC with a 2 year old daughter who I had when I was 41.

    I got all the comments that Ms. Cohen posted …. and then some. Life isn’t quite as progressive as we would like to think it is.Now go cry over Bree, Susan and Gabrielle and leave the thinking to the adults.

  4. Deborah

    March 8, 2012 at 1:09 am

    I’m with you, Lulu. I live in a progressive urban/suburban area and many of my friends had babies in their late 30s – early 40s, including me. I had my 2nd (and last) baby at 41, and I have never heard any of these comments. I agree they are horrible and just reading the list made me oh-so-glad I live here, if people really do talk like this in other places.

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