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The 11 Types Of Friends Every Mom Needs

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Types Of Friends Moms NeedLet’s face it, motherhood is hard. With all the focus being on our children, it is sometimes difficult for us to take care of our own needs. We no longer have the time to invest in all of the things that we used to. We can also feel isolated. As our children get older, they are making friends. However, that doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t have our own relationships as well. In fact, mommy friendships are crucial. Often times they will serve as your lifeline. Sometimes even before your own partner. And that is why I am thankful for each and every one of them. I love the fact that I have friends that have qualities (and quirks) that are all their own. And that each friendship benefits me in such a unique and special way. As we get older, we are lucky to have a few really great friends. But, on any given day, we can look forward to the possibly of perhaps meeting our new “bestie.” In honor of all the wonderful women in my life, I present a list of the 11 Types of Friends Every Mom Needs to Have:

The Listener

This one goes without saying. You can vent, vent and vent some more. And she hears you. And never judges. She even puts up with your nonsense rambling and annoying texts at 2 A.M. This woman has the patience of a saint.   She cares and is always there for you. And for that, you are forever grateful.

The Funny/Sarcastic One

Every mom needs one of these. With motherhood, there are inevitably going to be many tears and lots of frustration. The funny friend knows how to lift you up when you are down. Because, well, she is funny. Her one liners are always epic.  She can take you from hysterical tears to uncontrollable laughter faster than you can blink. She can even help you to laugh at yourself. She has a gift. And, with it, she has the amazing ability to heal whatever is ailing you.

The Complimenter

This type of friend is wonderful for an ego boost. When picking up your kids from school, she is the one that marvels about all the weight you lost. Even though you just gained ten pounds. She also notices how put together you look. Even though you haven’t showered in five days. Full of shit? Or just extremely positive?  It really doesn’t matter. Because, very suddenly, you are a thousand shades of awesome.

The One That Talks You Off the Ledge

It is five PM on a Wednesday and you are about to lose your mind. The house is in shambles. The kids are beating the shit out of each other. Nobody is listening. And you have the worst migraine ever. In fact, you are almost positive that you are dying. This friend assures you all will be okay and that “this too shall pass.” And that you are doing a wonderful job as a mom. That all will be better tomorrow and to just chill the hell out. Within minutes, you feel a lot better. And are able to smile through your tears. You can now happily get back to burning dinner.

The One that is Always Good for a Drink

Sometimes we just need to get the hell out of the house. This friend understands completely. She can’t wait to escape from prison as well. Before you can say, “Where to?” she is sitting at the bar waiting for you, cocktail in hand.

The Crafty One

Your son wants Yo Gabba Gabba cupcakes for his party. You can barely bake a cupcake, let alone design any with those creepy characters.  Your crafty friend knows how as she can create anything. She is the one with all of the talent. You bribe her with wine and free babysitting. In exchange, she produce the most beautiful and tasty cupcakes ever.

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  1. Wicked Prophet Kay Sue

    July 8, 2014 at 11:04 am

    This just made me wish I had more friends, lol. 😛

    • JenH1986

      July 8, 2014 at 11:28 am

      I volunteer to be your long distance, sarcastic, listening, drinking friend.

      ETA: Childless

    • Wicked Prophet Kay Sue

      July 8, 2014 at 11:30 am

      That’s great, because my current childless friend is talking about babies now, so I have an opening.

    • JenH1986

      July 8, 2014 at 11:50 am

      LOL we are officially off the trying for babies train. so we can talk about pretty much anything else.

    • Wicked Prophet Kay Sue

      July 8, 2014 at 11:52 am

      I’m sure we could find something, man. I’m about tired of kids and talking about/to them! 😛

    • JenH1986

      July 8, 2014 at 12:57 pm

      HA HA. We can talk books for days. I also suck at technology and I am perpetually asking for help figuring stuff out. Like today. I need to know how to print iPhone messages/texts with the timestamp. Preferably not by screen shot and I’m hitting up everyone I know. lol and I think @thenessymonster:disqus is an excellent leg to our tripod!

    • pixie Ninja Tits

      July 8, 2014 at 1:18 pm

      Yay! I feel so loved!

    • pixie Ninja Tits

      July 8, 2014 at 11:51 am

      I’m here if you want a second person. Because two is better than one, right? 😉

    • Wicked Prophet Kay Sue

      July 8, 2014 at 11:52 am


    • Jezebeelzebub

      July 8, 2014 at 12:32 pm

      I’d like to apply. I enjoy mocking everything, apathy, and SciFi. Han shot first, and Star Trek is Superior SciFi forever and ever, amen. I think Daya is the most irritating character on Orange is the New Black and I like dogs. I have one child because everything I had to do to have her sucked, except the sex part. I have many lofty goals and no intention of realizing any of them. Holler at me.

    • Wicked Prophet Kay Sue

      July 8, 2014 at 12:40 pm

      I love you guys.

    • JenH1986

      July 8, 2014 at 12:57 pm

      I’m gonna go ahead and second Daya being the worst.

    • Stephanie

      July 8, 2014 at 2:00 pm

      Oooh can I be your friend? Cuz you had me at “Han shot first”….

  2. LadyClodia the Modest Rat

    July 8, 2014 at 11:16 am

    Now I feel lonely again. I swear it’s like I’ve been getting weekly reminders of all the friends I don’t have (not just from here, other places too.)

    • Wicked Prophet Kay Sue

      July 8, 2014 at 11:23 am

      I feel you. I’m feeling particularly isolated this week after spending last week around lots of people, especially my aunt who’s like me, only older with no kids.

    • LadyClodia the Modest Rat

      July 8, 2014 at 11:30 am

      I’m sorry. It is hard to back to not having many people around after being around family and friends.

    • jane

      July 8, 2014 at 11:55 am

      Really? Because I come home from vacation and I’m all “please no one be within a 50 yard radius for 24-48 hours.” All I want is quiet for about 3 days.

    • Wicked Prophet Kay Sue

      July 8, 2014 at 12:05 pm

      I miss people. When I worked, I interacted with a lot during the day. I don’t necessarily want them around every moment, but I like being able to find someone when I read something really good, or have a thought, or just want to, and talk to them about it face-to-face right then.

    • pixie Ninja Tits

      July 8, 2014 at 11:54 am

      Agreed. Since pretty much none of my friends live near me, when my boyfriend is busy, I’m basically like “wtf do I do now, I’m so alone”. Of course there’s the ponies, but I can’t drink with them.

    • guest

      July 8, 2014 at 12:19 pm

      You have ponies?!?! #jealous

    • pixie Ninja Tits

      July 8, 2014 at 1:15 pm

      I don’t own them, but I spend enough time at the barn that i could probably make my own pony out of the hair that they leave on my clothes. 😉

    • Jezebeelzebub

      July 8, 2014 at 12:28 pm

      I’m trying to decide if I would give up my nearest and dearest friends in exchange for one pony- let alone multiple ponies. I think the ponies are winning. My friends are great and all, but PONIES! Ponies rule, everyone knows that. And I think they could drink with you if you just pour their beer into a bucket.

    • pixie Ninja Tits

      July 8, 2014 at 1:17 pm

      The pony I ride is pretty awesome, but he’s also super grumpy half the time. At least he doesn’t have much of an opinion about religion or politics. I think he’s secretly plotting to take over the world, though…I can’t imagine what beer would do to him. 😉

    • The Actual Devil

      July 8, 2014 at 9:20 pm

      I know a pony who drinks coffee, never heard of one drinking beer though. I wouldn’t be surprised, ponies eat the weirdest shit.

    • Kelly

      July 8, 2014 at 1:08 pm

      All of the people I like on the internet say they have no friends (myself included). And I don’t understand how we are all so awesome, but we don’t have peeps? How do we get peeps? (My husband says I have to go out and do activities and try really hard not to roll my eyes and be snarky…in which case…I might be stuck with the internet.)

    • LadyClodia the Modest Rat

      July 8, 2014 at 5:13 pm

      Well, I met my husband in a chat room, so he understands about internet friends. 🙂 It’s just so much easier for me to find people that I connect with online. I’m lost when it comes to making offline friends.

  3. Eve Vawter

    July 8, 2014 at 11:19 am


  4. Obladi Oblada

    July 8, 2014 at 12:21 pm

    The only friend I really lack is a drinking one. All my drinky friends live hours away.

    • JenH1986

      July 8, 2014 at 12:58 pm

      How close to Cincinnati are you? I can be a drinky friend.

    • Obladi Oblada

      July 8, 2014 at 1:07 pm

      Ugh…not at all. Tennessee. Thanks anyway. You can have one on my behalf. 🙂

    • JenH1986

      July 8, 2014 at 1:14 pm

      Not close enough for drinks…but we do have very good friends in TN that we visit. It’s only 5 hours to their house. LOTS of drinking going on there.

    • Obladi Oblada

      July 8, 2014 at 3:32 pm

      Nope. Not close enough. Digital friendship will have to do. 🙂
      What part of TN?

    • JenH1986

      July 8, 2014 at 4:36 pm


  5. Valerie

    July 8, 2014 at 1:35 pm

    Number 12- the one you can talk to about poop. Yours, not your kids. Here’s looking at you Megan Zander.

    • Megan Zander

      July 8, 2014 at 1:47 pm

      Hey, everyone needs a poopy friend.

  6. Stephanie

    July 8, 2014 at 2:07 pm

    Oh geez, I’ve only got 1 out of 11. Naturally it’s the drinking one. This whole “raising a kid and having a job” thing really cramped my style friendship-wise.

    • Kathleen Sullivan

      July 8, 2014 at 3:14 pm

      I am very lucky to have a few good friends who have a bunch of these qualities mixed! And drinking friends are THE BEST!! I did a little dance when I moved to my neighborhood and found a bunch of girls who love booze like me. Score! I may never leave!!

  7. NoMissCleo...JustMe

    July 8, 2014 at 7:59 pm

    Proud to say that my lifelong BFF can check off 9 out of 10 of these things.

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