This is also an issue for us – for mothers.
Is anyone else sick of hearing fellow mothers complain about their husbands? I don't really care what it is that they're complaining about, but there is just far too much negativity shared publicly. It's almost like some women are only comfortable if they're "joking" or making snide remarks about their husband's lack of competence.
It stands to reason that some men will not match your skills in the kitchen, baby-minding and house-cleaning categories. So what? One of the best lessons I learned with our first child was that while I wanted my husband to do everything differently, I realized he had to figure stuff out on his own (from my sleep deprivation, I don't quite remember how I learned this). Sure, I thought he was doing everything wrong – from diapering the baby to getting her to sleep. But because he was able to figure out his own style, that baby – now quite a bit older – knows her daddy can feed her, clothe her and comfort her through thick and thin.
Again, I know some fathers really aren't generous with their time or devotion to their children. My husband would be the first to admit that he's got room for improvement in many categories. But we don't love fathers because they're perfect. We love them and respect them and show them support because it's what we should do even if they're human and mess up time to time.
And rather than denigrate whatever it is that we think they're not doing well, how about we focus on all the wonderful things they do? I'm thankful for my husband for literally fathering our children. For only complaining about a diaper change a handful of times – a truly remarkable feat. For reading to our children every day. For working hard to provide for us. For taking us to church each week. For being willing to watch the girls whenever it's needed. For keeping us safe. I'm thankful that he became a good driver – turning on a dime – the day he drove us home from the hospital after the birth of our oldest. I'm thankful he thinks about their welfare. I'm thankful he cares about their education. I'm thankful simply for the time he spends with them – including the dinners we eat together each night and the walks we take afterward.
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