being a mom
Just Because I’m A Mom Doesn’t Mean I Can’t Wear A Bikini
Every single second that I wore that tankini, I felt bad. Besides the fact that the bra cups seemed to be lined with steel wool, I just wasn’t comfortable. I was constantly tugging at the top and adjusting the straps, I hated how the wet fabric would cling to my belly and make me shiver long after I got out of the water. And I felt unattractive in it. We live in a condo with a pool and looking back, I actively made excuses to avoid taking the kids for a swim these past two years because it never felt like summer to me while wearing that swimsuit.
This year I’ve decided not to care about what people think about my swimwear and to do what makes me feel good. I’ve got a bright orange top that seems pretty well constructed against accidental toddler tugging and some black swim shorts that cover enough to make me feel safe bending over. Let my neighbors whisper that I’m too old to dress this way or that I’m making a spectacle of myself with my bare skin and visible tattoo. Moms shouldn’t feel compelled to get a “mom haircut” or dress a certain way if it’s not what makes them feel good about themselves. There’s no moral dress code you have to follow just because you’re a mom. I don’t care if someone thinks I’m being immodest or trying to hang on to my youth beyond my prime years, you can pull my bikini from my cold, dead fingers.