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World’s Worst Hospital Calls Security On Breastfeeding Mom

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mom-thrown-out-of-hospital-for-breastfeedingThere have been plenty of stories about breastfeeding moms thrown out of restaurants and shamed for daring to feed their kids anywhere but the privacy of their own homes. I can confidently say I never thought I’d be writing one about a breastfeeding mom ejected from a pediatrician’s office. A pediatrician’s office. You know, that place that is practically wallpapered with posters encouraging you to breastfeed you baby? We’ve reached a new level of absurdity.

Erin Dianne Peรฑa was in the waiting room of her pediatrician’s office at University Medical Center in Lubbock Texas, when she was told to leave the waiting room and find somewhere more private to breastfeed her baby. Here is her Facebook post about the incident:

facebook-post-breastfeeding-shamed

So let me get this straight — the same doctor who is probably encouraging women to breastfeed is also sending the message that it’s an inappropriate thing to do in public? I’m assuming the walls of the pediatrician’s office are peppered in breastfeeding posters, because I have never been in one that wasn’t. But even if they aren’t, one would assume a doctor’s office would be a safe space for a woman to breastfeed her child. I guess we just can’t assume anything when it comes to breastfeeding in public. No matter how much the law protects us or how “safe” we may feel our surroundings are — you just can’t guarantee that there won’t be a total idiot waiting to “school” you on propriety. This doctor delivered her child, by the way. The doctor also essentially turned a four-month-old away from a vaccination appointment.

According to a news story about the incident, there were other mothers breastfeeding in the waiting area, but Peรฑa was the only one not using a cover. Cue all the people screaming, “Why can’t you just cover up! This never would have happened!” Many people find it really hard to wrap their brains around the fact that some children refuse to eat under a cover. But that’s really here nor there. Breastfeeding is legal. There is nothing shameful about it. A woman shouldn’t have to carry all manner of cover-ups and feed her baby in a way she finds uncomfortable because you have an issue seeing a small glimpse of a boob. Not her problem.

Unfortunately, it became Peรฑa’s problem that day, as she was met by a security guard and escorted out of the building when she refused to cover up or hide. The hospital has apologized and says it is working to make sure something like this doesn’t happen again in the future.

If you’re wondering why there is a big deal made when a breastfeeding mother is shamed — allow me to break it down for you. Breastfeeding is difficult. Being a new mom is difficult. You are judged for the decisions you make at every turn. There is a constant barrage of pro-breastfeeding messages during pregnancy, and as soon as you opt to do it you realize there is not a lot of support and still a lot of shame and stigma attached to it. It’s bullshit. No, a breastfeeding woman does not have to cover up or hide. And anyone who implies she does is on the wrong side of the law. Period.

305 Comments

  1. Kheldarson

    October 24, 2014 at 8:22 am

    Bwuh? I’m sorry this is just too much for me to comprehend right now. I’m gonna go reboot my brain now

    *reboot Brain.exe*
    *reboot failed please try again later*

  2. rockmonster

    October 24, 2014 at 8:24 am

    Congratulations, Texas! You’re the new Florida!

    • Courtney Lynn

      October 24, 2014 at 1:00 pm

      That’s the thing, though, Texas grants women the right to nurse in public. The receptionist had no right to do what she did.

    • rockmonster

      October 24, 2014 at 1:23 pm

      I was focusing more on the infuriating/weird news angle, but what the hell?

    • Courtney Lynn

      October 24, 2014 at 1:43 pm

      I know. It just seems like Texas gets more flak than it should sometimes. I know some crazy stuff goes on here, as it seems to in Florida. We’re really not all extreme right crazies!

  3. Jennie Blair

    October 24, 2014 at 8:29 am

    Honestly I find this story suspect. Maybe it’s because the internet is littered with hoaxes and hospitals shove breastfeeding so far down your throat you can’t see day light anymore, but after so many of these online injustices I’m don’t know that I can believe a hospital and pediatrician would do this.

    • Heather

      October 24, 2014 at 8:32 am

      I am with you. There has to be other issues at hand here. Even if she WAS breastfeeding and then was asked to leave, those two events might not have anything to do with each other.

    • Jennie Blair

      October 24, 2014 at 8:34 am

      Yea we have seen stories like that where they were doing something else and happen to be feeding at the time and jump on the news to claim breastfeeding shame

    • Maria Guido

      October 24, 2014 at 9:07 am

      But what could she possibly be doing in a hospital waiting room while holding a four-month-old though?

    • Spongeworthy

      October 24, 2014 at 9:49 am

    • LeggEggTorpedoTits

      October 24, 2014 at 10:32 am

      I hate (love) this gif. It’s awful (hysterical).

    • LA Face, Oakland Booty (and

      October 24, 2014 at 12:41 pm

      This is my new favorite thing in the history of EVER.

    • Maria Guido

      October 24, 2014 at 12:59 pm

      This is amazing.

    • Jennie Blair

      October 24, 2014 at 9:50 am

      Who knows. I’m just skeptical of any story that starts on facebook or reddit. Especially after the KFC girl incident.

    • keelhaulrose

      October 24, 2014 at 10:17 am

      Yeah, but once the medical center comes out with a statement saying it happened we can probably assume it’s not a reddit thing anymore.

    • Jessifer

      October 24, 2014 at 8:45 am

      Yeah, I read this story with skepticism too. Then again, there are some gynecologists out there who refuse to prescribe birth control due to their “personal beliefs”, so who knows what kind of doctors are out there. Frankly, they shouldn’t be practising medicine.

    • Jen TheTit Whisperer

      October 24, 2014 at 8:46 am

      Sorry to burst your “please don’t be true bubble: if you click on the news story, the hospital has responded, suggesting that it did, indeed happen: UMC Spokesperson, Eric Finley, said that University Medical Center takes full responsibility and is working to make sure an incident like this does not occur in the future. Finley also said that UMC Health System supports breastfeeding as the best infant feeding option for moms and babies.

    • Spongeworthy

      October 24, 2014 at 8:56 am

      Oh come on, we all know women are just dying to to whip their tits out in public to make a point! So what if they cancelled her baby’s appointment to get vaccinations? Cover up!

    • Jen TheTit Whisperer

      October 24, 2014 at 9:00 am

      I’m going to level with you Spongie: I can’t wait to be pregnant. Not because I want a baby, or because Mr. TitWhisperer will be a good dad and partner, or because I think I would be a decent parent. It’s because I want to be able to whip my tits out in public and tell people they can’t do anything about it. Nothing to do with feeding that kid I’m trying for, nope I just wanna be able to shake my girls at everyone without consequence.

    • Lackadaisical

      October 24, 2014 at 9:16 am

      The trick is to shimmy your breasts as you feed the baby. Some babies find it hard to latch on while you are gyrating or shimmying, and occasionally your child might get a bump from the tassel on the other (also exposed) breast if you get it spinning well but you get the hang of it eventually and it is well worth it as this is obviously every woman’s secret ambition.

    • LeggEggTorpedoTits

      October 24, 2014 at 9:47 am

      And it keeps their little brains occupied…especially if the tassel is black, white and red.

    • abbys_mom

      October 24, 2014 at 10:45 am

      I don’t get the ugliness and sarcasm just because I disagree, or just because I’ve known someone who did do it for attention? Or because I’ve seen others do it? Why be ugly with smart comments instead of having a rational discussion on why we disagree? Ive never understood that sort of thing on public internet boards.

    • LeggEggTorpedoTits

      October 24, 2014 at 11:04 am

      Because, I find it easier on my soul to keep things light and humorous and the silliness is a way to keep the blood from clotting in my brain when I feel like someone is demanding consideration from others thus completely disregarding the rights and feelings of the people from whom they are demanding consideration.

    • Elizabeth Wakefield

      October 24, 2014 at 5:43 pm

      Then public internet boards might not be the best place for you….

    • candyvines

      October 24, 2014 at 9:55 am

      How do I keep all the glitter out of his eyes?

    • Jen TheTit Whisperer

      October 24, 2014 at 10:00 am

      Glasses. Duh.

    • Lilly

      October 24, 2014 at 10:22 am

      visualizing this while at work is making me snicker too much so thanks for making seem like a weirdo to colleagues.

    • Spongeworthy

      October 24, 2014 at 9:16 am

      Isn’t that why we all breastfeed? To whip our tits out?

    • LeggEggTorpedoTits

      October 24, 2014 at 9:46 am

      It’s why I waited until I was older, so they could be even more offensive and wiggly.

    • Maria Guido

      October 24, 2014 at 9:06 am

      I know. She probably didn’t even wear pants to the appointment.

    • Spongeworthy

      October 24, 2014 at 9:17 am

      Probably just sitting there naked. For attention.

    • abbys_mom

      October 24, 2014 at 9:15 am

      Actually, yes, I worked with a girl who would do it deliberately. Again, not limited to nursing women – it’s just a personality type where, if it weren’t nursing, it would be something else.

    • Spongeworthy

      October 24, 2014 at 9:47 am

      Oh, well, as long as you know one woman who did it, all other arguments are invalid. Shut it down, everyone, nothing more to say here.

    • keelhaulrose

      October 24, 2014 at 10:14 am

      I knew a woman who did it one. Of course, she did it to point out the hypocrisy of a man complaining about women breastfeeding in public when he had, in fact, paid a lot of money to see her topless at the club she worked at the week prior.
      Funny how that works, huh? Boobs as sexual objects are worth money, boobs serving a biological function are offensive.

    • LeggEggTorpedoTits

      October 24, 2014 at 10:29 am

      So many points proven with this one comment I can’t even.

    • Mystik Spiral

      October 24, 2014 at 10:16 am

      And you’re still talking about it. I’d say mission accomplished for that woman!

    • Courtney Lynn

      October 24, 2014 at 1:24 pm

      Then that’s a whole other discussion, isn’t it? Nothing to do with breastfeeding.

    • Heather

      October 24, 2014 at 9:04 am

      The fact that the hospital is investigating does not in any way mean that things actually went down the way she said. SHE says she was kicked out for breastfeeding, and the hospital apologized in a very general manner, but the investigation could reveal that she was asked to leave for some entirely different reason.

    • keelhaulrose

      October 24, 2014 at 9:08 am

      UMC fully acknowledges the incident. Click the link in the story, the quote is actually “regretfully acknowledges” and contacted the mother to apologize because they were in the wrong.

    • Heather

      October 24, 2014 at 9:11 am

      The term “acknowledges the incident” does not imply that they are culpable. They are saying that the woman was escorted out and that they will investigate. That is the PR thing to do. You apologize so people don’t get their panties in a wad, then you figure out what happened and deal with it accordingly.

    • keelhaulrose

      October 24, 2014 at 9:27 am

      “UMC Spokesperson, Eric Finley, said that University Medical Center takes full responsibility and is working to make sure an incident like this does not occur in the future. Finley also said that UMC Health System supports breastfeeding as the best infant feeding option for moms and babies”

      Sounds like they are admitting it happened.

    • Jen TheTit Whisperer

      October 24, 2014 at 9:53 am

      Reading comprehension is hard.

    • keelhaulrose

      October 24, 2014 at 10:16 am

      It’s because the authors don’t just reprint the article word for word. How dare we ask other people to click a link before they make assertions that are disproved by said link.

    • abbys_mom

      October 24, 2014 at 9:10 am

      A hospital will apologize regardless – they try to stop the negative story in it’s tracks by “owning up”.

    • LeggEggTorpedoTits

      October 24, 2014 at 9:58 am

      You realize that you have completely twisted this story to suit your alternative theory? She was probably totally topless (it doesn’t say that)? She was probably doing it for attention because you know someone that did that? The hospital is only apologizing because they have to…

      Isn’t it just possible that the Doctor was a prudish twit? No? You don’t think?

    • Kelly

      October 24, 2014 at 12:26 pm

      What, exactly, do you think the motivation is behind this vast conspiracy and cover-up? I don’t understand what you think is “really” going on here, but I’m listening.

  4. abbys_mom

    October 24, 2014 at 8:31 am

    I don’t know – all we have is her word that she wasn’t almost completely shirtless. I’m a huge supporter of breastfeeding anywhere you need to, with taste and modesty. I did it myself. And no, I don’t care if a baby pulls the shirt up a little far, or see a bit of nipple – it happens, no biggie. It’s just boob. BUT – I have seen women who are trying to make a point or create conflict literally pull their shirt all the way up or OFF (yes, actually saw that at a flea market), and then look around with a look on their face just daring someone to say something. It’s like those gun supporters who deliberately carry 3 or 4 weapons into a restaurant to make a point or start a conflict – and I’m a huge supporter of guns and open carry – but there are just some people spoiling for a fight so they take things to the extreme. So, if she really was just modestly breastfeeding, the doctor’s office is in the wrong, but if, as the doctor said, she literally was sitting there with her breasts just hanging out when it’s not necessary to be that obvious about it, then SHE is in the wrong. Just depends on what really happened.

    • Heather

      October 24, 2014 at 8:34 am

      The fact that she admitted other mothers were breastfeeding without issue makes the whole thing a little more suspect to me, as well.

    • Kelly

      October 24, 2014 at 12:23 pm

      Suspect? What conspiracy would she be trying to promote, exactly? I don’t understand why we are making this mother out to be…crazy, or an exhibitionist, or have some ulterior motive.

    • Guinevere

      October 24, 2014 at 12:33 pm

      What i don’t understand is why she was trying to feed her baby?

    • the_ether

      October 24, 2014 at 3:32 pm

      Especially when it’s so much more modest to let the hungry baby cry

    • Andy

      October 24, 2014 at 8:37 am

      Agree. I breastfed my son in public and both he and I hated the nursing tents. It took trial and error, but I did figure out how to discreetly feed him while showing the least amount of skin possible. Not because I was ashamed, but because I didn’t want the sight of me feeding my child to become filed away in a pervert’s spank bank.

    • LA Face, Oakland Booty (and

      October 24, 2014 at 2:50 pm

      Yes, all the men are spanking it, thinking about you feeding your baby. Totes.
      http://37.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_ly69n4QS821qb9lgyo1_500.gif

    • Kris

      October 24, 2014 at 8:37 am

      So? Even if she was being a giant douchebag about it, does that mean a DOCTOR should berate her and refuse to give her baby vaccinations?!? She did nothing illegal. They had zero right to kick her out and refuse to provide medical services to her child.

    • Spongeworthy

      October 24, 2014 at 8:41 am

      So you’re a huge supporter of breastfeeding as long as the mother does it the way you feel it should be done? Got it.
      Also, in Texas a woman is legally entitled to breastfeed anywhere where she is legally entitled to be. So, you know, the law trumps your feeling on how she should be wearing her shirt.

    • Henrysmama

      October 24, 2014 at 10:05 am

      Are you guys serious? You can’t go around totally topless just because a baby is feeding off of ONE of your boobs! I understand that’s what boobs are for, I get it. But when you’re in public, you need to have a top on. You don’t need to use a cover, but you can’t just completely undress from the waist up and expect no one to take issue with it. Come on.

    • Jen TheTit Whisperer

      October 24, 2014 at 10:08 am

      You do not in fact need a top in several states. You can walk around totally topless legally. New York is one such state.

    • Henrysmama

      October 24, 2014 at 10:39 am

      Is Texas? If so, I stand corrected.

    • alexesq33

      October 24, 2014 at 11:14 am

      aha I thought so. (just said this above but I wasn’t sure!) ๐Ÿ™‚ thx ๐Ÿ™‚

    • Jen TheTit Whisperer

      October 24, 2014 at 11:16 am

      I checked, I can be topless in my state. Jen The Tit Whipper is about to be a thing! Sans child! WOOO! Watch out world ๐Ÿ˜‰

    • alexesq33

      October 24, 2014 at 11:19 am

      BRB checking NJ law on this now….. ๐Ÿ™‚

    • Dirty Old Lady Phillips

      October 24, 2014 at 1:22 pm

      Dude. We couldn’t even buy beer on Sundays in my state until like 2 years ago. Jelly.

    • Jen TheTit Whisperer

      October 24, 2014 at 2:08 pm

      ha ha. We’ve always been able to buy beer on Sunday, just not before noon. Now? Do what you want! Liquor is a-ok too!

    • Dirty Old Lady Phillips

      October 24, 2014 at 1:20 pm

      True story. In fact, I believe the state’s unofficial motto is: I <3 Nude York.

    • LA Face, Oakland Booty (and

      October 24, 2014 at 2:15 pm

      I am totally moving to NY so I can wave my tits to and fro without fear of legal consequences.

    • Alex Lee

      October 24, 2014 at 2:17 pm

      Yes. Not just TO. To AND fro.

      Where is fro, anyway?

    • LA Face, Oakland Booty (and

      October 24, 2014 at 2:51 pm

      It is where all the boobs are. I wish I knew the geo location.

    • noodlestein's danger tits

      October 24, 2014 at 3:47 pm

      So does every straight dude in the world.

    • Jen TheTit Whisperer

      October 24, 2014 at 2:19 pm

      #titspiracy

    • LeggEggTorpedoTits

      October 24, 2014 at 10:23 pm

      *giggles immaturely*. “To and fro” sounds like it takes so long to get from one side to the other like slo-mo boob waving.

    • CrazyFor Kate

      October 24, 2014 at 2:15 pm

      Ontario is the same!

    • Stephanie.C

      October 24, 2014 at 10:18 am

      Men can walk around topless in public and a lot of times I find it completely offensive, but its legal. Its also legal for women to walk around topless in most states, it just doesn’t happen.

    • LeggEggTorpedoTits

      October 24, 2014 at 10:27 am

      Oh man, where I live it’s like a religion…big beer bellies…everywhere.

    • SunnyD847

      October 24, 2014 at 2:22 pm

      Exactly. I see gross shirtless guys all the time, but I don’t tell them to “cover up,” I just look away. Why is that so hard when it’s a breastfeeding mom?

    • Henrysmama

      October 24, 2014 at 10:38 am

      Well if it’s legal in Texas the doctor was 100% in the wrong.

    • Spongeworthy

      October 24, 2014 at 10:20 am

      So do you confront men who are out in public with no top on?

    • Henrysmama

      October 24, 2014 at 10:31 am

      Of course not, that’s legal (sometimes gross, depending on the guy, but whatever.) Do I agree with the double standard? Of course not. But I wouldn’t get all uppity about someone who wasn’t comfortable with a woman walking around totally topless because she happens to be breastfeeding. Again, I personally do not care. I regularly smile at moms I see breastfeeding in public. Doesn’t bother me a lick. All I’m saying is I think some of the pitchforks here are a little over the top.

    • Guinevere

      October 24, 2014 at 10:47 am

      it is also legal for women who are breastfeeding.

    • amp

      October 24, 2014 at 12:21 pm

      There is tons of businesses in my town that have signs that say no shirt–no service. I don’t think my doctors office would allow a shirtless guy to sit in the waiting room either.

    • Spongeworthy

      October 24, 2014 at 12:32 pm

      Yes, but the commenter was talking about being in public, not a private business. And again, if she had a breast out in order to nurse, she was 1) not topless just for the sake of it, and 2) legally allowed to do so. The law in TX states that women are legally entitled to nurse anywhere she is legally entitled to be. So in public or a private business, if she’s allowed to be there, she’s allowed to nurse.

    • Jem

      October 24, 2014 at 10:24 am

      where in the article did it say she was completely undressed from the waist up? Is that how you breast feed? Was I doing it wrong when I breastfed? Because I was able to feed my son in public without a cover AND without being naked from the waist up.

    • keelhaulrose

      October 24, 2014 at 10:29 am

      They can’t win on the legality because it’s totally legal so they have to argue that this woman was sitting there with no shirt, something no one said and the report refutes, to try to win an argument.
      At that point they’ve lost, they just won’t admit it.

    • Henrysmama

      October 24, 2014 at 10:29 am

      Again, I was referring to the commenters who said it wouldn’t matter if she WAS, that the doctor would still be totally in the wrong because, hey, in other countries women can do it!

    • alexesq33

      October 24, 2014 at 11:15 am

      it really doesn’t matter what anyone thinks – the hospital has APOLOGIZED. they admit they were WRONG. so, end of story.

    • Jem

      October 24, 2014 at 1:50 pm

      No, they said it wouldn’t be wrong because it is legal to do it if you wish.

    • CMJ

      October 24, 2014 at 10:24 am

      um. she was topless?

    • Henrysmama

      October 24, 2014 at 10:28 am

      I was replying to the posters that were saying “even if she was, so what? That doctor can shove it!!”

    • keelhaulrose

      October 24, 2014 at 10:32 am

      Legally, yes, the doctor can shove it. She’s performing a legally protected activity, and she has the legal right to be completely topless while doing so (which she wasn’t), so legally the doctor must shove it.

    • LeggEggTorpedoTits

      October 24, 2014 at 10:26 am

      In some places you can! Yay some places! I don’t happen to be a nudist and my nursing practices were dictated by ๐Ÿ˜ฎ my infant! Shocking, I know.

    • Kelly

      October 24, 2014 at 12:17 pm

      Okay, but no one was doing that. So let’s talk about what actually happened, which was that a mother was nursing a child in a waiting room, while wearing a shirt.

      Also, what you take issue with is your problem. The law allows her to nurse where ever she is allowed to be.

    • Personal

      October 24, 2014 at 12:25 pm

      Well, of course I think one should. But I also disapprove of high heels, bellybutton piercings showing, nose rings, etc. Women have the right to do many things I disapprove of personally and I’m good with that.
      I breastfeed just about anywhere. I’m as discreet as I can be, I suppose, but I don’t use a cover.

    • Courtney Lynn

      October 24, 2014 at 1:03 pm

      How did we go from BFing to totally topless?

    • rockmonster

      October 24, 2014 at 9:56 pm

      Somebody just didn’t care and thought that breastfeeding = exhibitionism

    • CrazyFor Kate

      October 24, 2014 at 2:15 pm

      See, this is why we need to advocate for female toplessness as a legal right. What exactly is the difference between a guy’s chest and a woman’s, apart from some culturally specific designations on what’s “sexy”?

    • ted3553

      October 24, 2014 at 4:15 pm

      I see guys all summer long walking around totally topless in public. The only difference between lady boobs and man boobs is that one can feed a baby. I’ve also never actually seen a woman completely topless breastfeeding

    • koshkakot

      October 29, 2014 at 5:50 pm

      Yes. You can. NYC it is totally legal for a woman to doff her clothes from waist up. And expect no issue with it. Come on.
      And you don’t even need a baby hanging off one of those boobs to do so.

    • CRC

      October 24, 2014 at 8:42 am

      I take issue with your insistence that she must breastfeed “modestly.” 1)It is not the hospital’s job to enforce YOUR standards of modesty 2) she’s feeding her kid! She’s not running around shoving her bare boobs in the faces of innocent bystanders! I mean (&#$%&#$(&%#(!!! Your comment would have been a lot better if you had just stopped at “Im a huge supporter of breastfeeding anywhere you need too” because everything you wrote after that suggests that you are NOT in fact a huge supporter unless the mother breastfeeds in the exact way YOU did. Who made you the modesty police?

    • abbys_mom

      October 24, 2014 at 8:54 am

      Geez, chill out people. Maybe “discreetly” would have been a better word. That’s what I meant anyway, just not with both breasts out for no reason, which I’ve occasionally seen women do. I find it suspect that, as others have said, other women were breastfeeding with no issue, but this woman was called out. It sounds like there was a reason for it. Frankly, I don’t think there’s ever a reason to be completely nude up top in public. I’m not the “modesty police”, it’s just a personal opinion. There’s no need to take the entire shirt off, and if the baby is feeding, you wouldn’t see much if any of the breast or nipple. I have, however, seen women sit with both breasts just dangling while the kid was done, or not interested in feeding. I actually worked with a girl who would do it, and then come to work and brag about “upsetting” people – she would actually say “let them say something – I’ll put their ass on the news” So yeah, there are people who do it for attention – it’s not limited to breastfeeding, frankly, I think those people would do things like that regardless, whatever it was, so they can make a stink about their rights and get on the news.

    • LeggEggTorpedoTits

      October 24, 2014 at 8:59 am

      But…it doesn’t say that she was sitting with her shirt off and all of her boobs hanging out. It says that she was “without a cover” and the doctor said that she was walking around with one breast showing. So…I’m just not sure where your coming from, here.

    • Henrysmama

      October 24, 2014 at 10:14 am

      Well if the baby was feeding off of one breast, then I would interpret the “with one breast showing” as the other one. With as much as hospitals and drs push the “breast is best” and the fact that the waiting room was full of breastfeeding mothers, I’m more inclined to believe she was sitting there totally topless, looking for someone to say something to her, than a doctors office kicking her out for no reason.

    • LeggEggTorpedoTits

      October 24, 2014 at 10:23 am

      The doctor doesn’t say that at all. The doctor said A) that she was walking around and b) that only one breast was showing. You can infer what ever you like, but it is not supported by the facts.

      Also, not illegal so…there’s that, too.

    • alexesq33

      October 24, 2014 at 11:19 am

      maybe *gasp* it took the baby a minute to latch properly and in the meantime, the nipple was exposed. This is still not illegal in anyway and actually protected. The hospital was wrong. Anyone with a problem with topless women in Texas needs to avert their eyes because it’s not illegal for any reason. So, that’s really all there is to it.

    • the_ether

      October 24, 2014 at 3:26 pm

      Plus hands up all the peeps here who’ve ever forgotten to cover back up after a feed…

    • alexesq33

      October 24, 2014 at 11:17 am

      LOLing at “all of her boobs”. <3
      picturing Total Recall with 3 boobs right now….

    • LeggEggTorpedoTits

      October 24, 2014 at 11:21 am

      I love that scene!!! YEAH!!!

    • jane

      October 24, 2014 at 9:00 am

      If she was sitting there with her shirt off, then they would have had her removed for indecent exposure. That was not the complaint, so I don’t think that being extreme was the case. Not to mention that this woman even said she would leave a restaurant if they asked her too, so she hardly seems like a militant lactivist.

    • LeggEggTorpedoTits

      October 24, 2014 at 8:49 am

      Wait..what? “I’m a huge supporter of breastfeeding anywhere you need to, with taste and modesty.”

      Who’s standard of taste and modesty? Because if it were up to me “modesty” and “nursing” would have ZERO correlation.

    • Jem

      October 24, 2014 at 10:27 am

      this translates to “I’m a huge supported of breastfeeding anywhere you need to as long as you do it how I would”

    • LeggEggTorpedoTits

      October 24, 2014 at 10:57 am

      Damnit! Now I have to do a poll and ask everyone that nurses or doesn’t nurse what they find to be acceptable, then I have to crunch the numbers and find out what the average is….

      It would just be easier for ME, maybe, if everyone just passed out a list of comfort levels to all they meet and we can all work our asses off to be “considerate” of them.

    • Jessifer

      October 24, 2014 at 8:51 am

      You know, in many countries in the world, it’s absolutely legal for women to be shirtless in public and no one even gives it a second though (or look). Maybe if North America stopped eroticizing the human body, rather than treating it as a totally normal thing, people wouldn’t get their panties all in a twist whenever they see a bare nipple here and there.

    • LeggEggTorpedoTits

      October 24, 2014 at 8:53 am

      #this

    • abbys_mom

      October 24, 2014 at 8:57 am

      So, a naked man in public is ok too, then? What’s good for the goose…anyway, not the same. When I go out in public, I consider that there are others whose rights mean as much as mine. I have a right to breastfeed, so yeah, some of my boob may show. But I do have what’s called CONSIDERATION for others who may not want to see the whole thing, so yes, I’ve always attempted to be discreet. I think sharing a public space means you do what you need to do, while still keeping others and their feelings, thoughts, whatever, in consideration.

    • LeggEggTorpedoTits

      October 24, 2014 at 9:00 am

      A man walking around with his nipples showing is socially acceptable. So…there’s that.

    • Jessifer

      October 24, 2014 at 9:00 am

      My point is that a large part of the reason why many people don’t WANT to see it and are so bothered by it, is because they’ve been taught that being topless is a bad thing and it should be covered up. If you are raised in an environment where you are taught that breasts are for feeding babies and there is nothing to be ashamed of, you are much less likely to care whether the woman breastfeeding beside you is being “modest” or not.

    • Spongeworthy

      October 24, 2014 at 9:12 am

      Her right to legally breastfeed anywhere trumps others’ “right” to see the amount of boob they deem morally acceptable. Should two gay people refrain from holding hands so that they don’t make some homophobe uncomfortable?

    • Henrysmama

      October 24, 2014 at 10:10 am

      Just because you wish the law was different, doesn’t mean someone is wrong for expecting someone to comply with the laws as they are.

    • Jen TheTit Whisperer

      October 24, 2014 at 10:11 am

      Even if she were topless, that’s legal in Texas, so she still did nothing illegal.

    • Henrysmama

      October 24, 2014 at 10:39 am

      Is it really? If so, then I stand corrected. Mea culpa.

    • Ursi

      October 24, 2014 at 10:15 am

      We don’t wish the law were different. The law supports her. It’s the people who don’t respect it like the staff at this hospital that are the problem.

    • Spongeworthy

      October 24, 2014 at 10:21 am

      Thank you, you took away my need to respond in just this manner!

    • Henrysmama

      October 24, 2014 at 10:38 am

      The law says you can breastfeed in public, it doesn’t say you can walk around completely topless in order to do so.

    • Courtney Lynn

      October 24, 2014 at 1:08 pm

      What law are you talking about?! Public nursing is LEGAL in Texas.

    • Stephanie.C

      October 24, 2014 at 9:55 am

      Others may not want to see your boobs, but they have the ability to avert their eyes. Also, breastfeeding or not it is actually legal to be topless in most states: http://gotopless.org/topless-laws

    • Stephanie.C

      October 24, 2014 at 9:57 am

      The specific nudity laws for Texas:

      TEXAS

      * Penal Code Title 9, Section 42.01 Disorderly conduct: public nudity.

      (a) A person commits an offense if he intentionally or knowingly:

      (12) exposes his anus or genitals in a public place and is reckless about whether another may be present who will be offended or alarmed by his act.

      ยง21.08. Indecent exposure.

      (a) A person commits an offense if he exposes his anus or any part of his genitals with intent to arouse or gratify the sexual desire of any person, and he is reckless about whether another is present who will be offended or alarmed by his act.

      RULE ยง59.134 Rules of Conduct in Parks (Texas State Parks)

      (h) Nudity and disrobing. It is an offense to appear nude.

      …doesn’t mention anything about boobs.

    • keelhaulrose

      October 24, 2014 at 10:07 am

      I don’t know, that sounds like an awful lot of man-shaming right there.
      And I’d bet my next paycheck many of the people complaining about a woman breastfeeding sans cover would be completely happy with a woman walking around topless. Because, you know, boobs are sex ornaments that shouldn’t serve a function, or something like that.

    • AP

      October 24, 2014 at 1:54 pm

      So you can whip out your butt in public, provided you don’t spread your cheeks or bend over to show your anus?

      Hm.

    • Courtney Lynn

      October 24, 2014 at 1:07 pm

      SHE HAS A RIGHT TO NURSE IN PUBLIC! THE DR’S OFFICE WAS WRONG! WHY ARE YOU COMPARING THIS TO PUBLIC NUDITY? NOT THE SAME.

    • Assasymphony

      October 24, 2014 at 2:50 pm

      Topless = fully naked? I don’t think so. Men go topless all of the time, and no one days anything, even if it’s not always a pretty sight.

    • Jen TheTit Whisperer

      October 24, 2014 at 9:49 am

      New York City allows a woman to be topless. So not just other countries.

    • SunnyD847

      October 24, 2014 at 2:25 pm

      In Italy all the swim suits for young girls were just bottoms. Why would they need tops anymore than the young boys? I also saw lots of topless old ladies, but the hot girls all wore tops.

    • Assasymphony

      October 24, 2014 at 2:52 pm

      I still don’t understand why swimsuits for girls who haven’t reached puberty have tops. Little girls don’t even have boobs, so even if they should be covered.. there is nothing to cover..

    • Jessifer

      October 24, 2014 at 7:41 pm

      I’ve been to topless beaches before. The only downside is that if you don’t apply enough sunscreen to your nipples… ouch!!!

    • Ursi

      October 24, 2014 at 9:13 am

      Even if you think they’re doing it for attention then why do you care? Why don’t you just ignore her? What business is it of yours?

      And how could any of this make it okay for her to have security called on her? Because too much breast was showing? Oh well. It’s a doctor’s office. Was she dancing around shirtless? Was she shoving her breasts in people’s faces, making a scene? She’s just feeding her damn kid.

      I hate this puritanical crap. It’s not helping anyone. It’s not good for breastfeeding moms, it’s not good for women, it’s not good for our kids. It’s shameful for her to have been treated this way if she did nothing illegal.

    • abbys_mom

      October 24, 2014 at 9:17 am

      I also think it’s shameful to belittle people who may be naturally more modest and embarrassed at seeing that in public (not just nursing, but completely exposed). In sharing a public space, do what you need to, but it’s simply nice to be considerate of others as well, even if you don’t hold to their same feelings of modesty.

    • Ursi

      October 24, 2014 at 9:23 am

      And yet a huge part of etiquette is putting aside your personal discomfort to deal with situations when there is no harm meant but maybe a culture clash or a difference of opinions on what is acceptable. It works both ways. You do that for the other person because you’re in a public space and being polite when there is no intent to offend. No one is being forced to look at her, it’s a waiting room, pick up a magazine.

    • keelhaulrose

      October 24, 2014 at 9:35 am

      At what point do we tell other people to stuff their modesty? There are some people who are offended by obese persons, especially in restaurants, so should we force the morbidly obese to stay home? There are people who are offended by a woman (not a breastfeeding one) showing too much skin, so should we ban bikinis at the beach? How about those offended by a man who is covered with tattoos?
      Any one person walking down the street is offensive to someone, and we usually tell them their modesty is their own responsibility because others have the right to be out and comfortable.

    • Jen TheTit Whisperer

      October 24, 2014 at 9:52 am

      Also, My jeans and t-shirt and short hair might be offensive to someone of a more fundamentalist background. Muslim men find my shorts and tank top immodest. It’s not my business what others think of my modesty (or lack thereof) as long as I’m adhering to the law, they need to shut it.

    • abbys_mom

      October 24, 2014 at 9:54 am

      I can see there’s just a lot of people who want to argue. I’m not into arguing and being mean to others who disagree. My feelings are not that you should not have your rights to do as you please in public, but that “reasonable” compromise is sometimes appropriate. Sometimes, one may be asked to compromise too much, in which case, of course you wouldn’t. I’m just always willing to see both sides of an issue, and consider all involved.

    • keelhaulrose

      October 24, 2014 at 10:10 am

      I don’t think telling a woman to use a cover is reasonable. Whenever I used one my daughter came out drenched in sweat to the point where my pediatrician told me to knock it off (she’s still a sweaty kid) because of dehydration fears. I think a reasonable compromise is to turn your eyes away if you see something that offends you and you have the ability to look elsewhere.

    • LeggEggTorpedoTits

      October 24, 2014 at 10:20 am

    • Angela

      October 24, 2014 at 10:20 am

      Exactly. My children didn’t get sweaty but they did flail their heads from side to side (while clamped down on my nipple) and wouldn’t finish their feeding. When my youngest was 6 months old we went to Disneyland with my sister’s family. Her in-laws were also there and she warned me that they are very judgmental about public breastfeeding so I used a cover everywhere we went. After a couple days my nipples were literally bruised and bloody. I was feeding my 6 month old at least every hour because the cover was so distracting that he’d never finish a feeding. Finally I told my sisters that her in-laws would just have to deal with it. Covering up was not a reasonable compromise. Neither is expecting the woman to pack up and move elsewhere (especially if it’s to a filthy bathroom stall). However, looking away and minding your own business is always reasonable.

    • LA Face, Oakland Booty (and

      October 24, 2014 at 2:24 pm

      Vegans may feel extremely uncomfortable watching you eat meat in a public setting. WOuld you alter your diet to make them more comfortable?

    • Harriet Meadow

      October 24, 2014 at 9:40 am

      This isn’t about people feeling “uncomfortable.” People can feel uncomfortable all they damn well please. But she got KICKED OUT of the pediatrician’s office and her child was refused vaccines. That is WRONG.

    • Henrysmama

      October 24, 2014 at 10:20 am

      The line is drawn at what’s legal, I would assume. It’s not legal, as a female, to sit in a public space topless. It doesn’t matter if you’re breastfeeding, you don’t need to be completely nude from the waist up to do it. If that was really what happened, she was in the wrong. Just because you WISH the laws were different doesn’t mean someone is wrong for expecting them to be followed as they are. She doesn’t need to wear a cover, but she can’t sit there half nude, either. That’s not okay.

    • keelhaulrose

      October 24, 2014 at 10:25 am

      Actually, if you read the link provided elsewhere in the comments, it is more often than not legal for a woman to walk around topless in public, including in major cities like NYC.

    • LeggEggTorpedoTits

      October 24, 2014 at 10:34 am

      Nowhere does it say she was sitting half naked. Also, what laws are you referring to? You’ve mentioned them over and over….which laws say you can’t breast feed in public without a cover?

    • Guinevere

      October 24, 2014 at 10:48 am

      it’s totally legal

    • Elizabeth Wakefield

      October 24, 2014 at 5:40 pm

      Unfortunately the ‘line’ you are trying to draw at legality is incorrect. In Texas, it is absolutely legal to be breastfeeding your child in public – however that has to happen.

    • Angela

      October 24, 2014 at 9:56 am

      I would NEVER belittle a woman for wanting to use a cover or go somewhere private to nurse. She can be as modest as she wants to be. I would never belittle someone for feeling uncomfortable at seeing a nursing woman and chooses to look away or leave the room (although I do think that reflects poorly on our culture’s attitudes in general). However, I do judge anyone who puts the burden of their discomfort on the woman and expects her to to accommodate them.

      I live in a conservative Mormon community where people are often scandalized when a woman wears a sleeveless top. Does this mean that I should not be allowed to wear a tank top in public? For that matter, some people are offended when women wear anything less than a full burka. Does this mean that any of us who choose to wear less than that are inconsiderate because we might offend someone? And even in places where women typically wear burkas they are often blamed for being immodest because it’s not baggy enough or has too large of a slit for the eyes or is a provocative color/fabric.

    • LA Face, Oakland Booty (and

      October 24, 2014 at 2:20 pm

      I don’t understand how a woman being comfortable BF in public in some way makes you give up your modesty, I truly don’t. Please explain.

    • Elizabeth Wakefield

      October 24, 2014 at 5:39 pm

      I am more modest and get a little embarrassed at seeing public breastfeeding, but I’m also mature enough to understand that it’s not about me. I have the choice to avert my eyes and leave the mother alone to take care of her business. She does not have a choice in feeding her child.

    • Mystik Spiral

      October 24, 2014 at 10:12 am

      Exactly. There’s nothing an attention seeker loves more than attention. Want to “put them in their place”? Fucking ignore them.

    • Personal

      October 24, 2014 at 12:23 pm

      But even if a woman were to do what you describe, she has the right to do so. And no one has to keep their eyes on her.

    • Courtney Lynn

      October 24, 2014 at 1:02 pm

      I have YET to see women who nurse in public that make a spectacle of it. Where are these women that so many keep talking about? Are they in some magical portal that can only be opened by those who are looking to be outraged?

  5. Kris

    October 24, 2014 at 8:34 am

    That poor woman! I would have been mortified. Also – why punish the baby?!? What an awful doctor.

  6. Wicked Prophet Kay Sue

    October 24, 2014 at 8:39 am

    On the list of places I imagined this could possibly, stupidly, happen, I have to say a doctor’s office or medical center was nowhere whatsoever.

  7. LeggEggTorpedoTits

    October 24, 2014 at 8:42 am

    Given that the other breastfeeding mothers confirmed that the only difference between their breastfeeding and her’s was that she was “not using a cover”, and that this is in a decidedly conservative State, I tend to believe her story and my temple is throbbing. A normal person’s “not using a cover” is a pearl-clutcher’s “boob hanging out”.

  8. LeggEggTorpedoTits

    October 24, 2014 at 8:52 am

    Where is Candyvines? I need her skills for a gif….I’ve been trying to do it for some time and I’m just not as good at illustrating INSANE ideas about nursing as she is.

    • candyvines

      October 24, 2014 at 9:16 am

      Oh my god, what’s going on in here? This isn’t new, but it works:

    • LeggEggTorpedoTits

      October 24, 2014 at 9:32 am

      I LOVE IT!!!!! Thank you thank you!!!

    • Moliss

      October 24, 2014 at 1:18 pm

      Put those boobs AWAY!

  9. LadyClodia the Modest Rat

    October 24, 2014 at 8:53 am

    The first words that come to mind for this are that this is

    http://i.imgur.com/aYkRx0n.gif

  10. JessGang

    October 24, 2014 at 8:53 am

    I’m sorry but if you are walking around with your boobs hanging out, yes you should leave. I am 100% for women who choose to breastfeed. BUT exactly like what was stated before, it’s like women are baring their breasts in public a la sanctimommy, just to prove a point. You’re making the rest of us look bad. If you want to bare your chest that badly, Asheville, NC has a topless weekend. Look into that.

    • LeggEggTorpedoTits

      October 24, 2014 at 8:55 am

    • JessGang

      October 24, 2014 at 8:59 am

      I bet you change your kids diaper on restaurant’s tables, don’t you? #sanctimommyprobs

    • LeggEggTorpedoTits

      October 24, 2014 at 9:01 am

      Nice comment history. OH You’re up to 2 comments! Hooray! And an OWN vote! YAY YOU!

    • JessGang

      October 24, 2014 at 9:04 am

      Now it’s three! I am not in the habit of trolling sites, to become popular.

    • LeggEggTorpedoTits

      October 24, 2014 at 9:33 am

      Right, you do it to get your rocks off, it’s cool. I get it.

    • Jenuwine

      October 24, 2014 at 9:10 am

      Ooh, ooh! It’s the old classic, “I don’t have a come back, so I’ll just judge your post count” reply! Always fun.

    • LeggEggTorpedoTits

      October 24, 2014 at 9:33 am

      HAAAAAAAA!!!!

      Says the sock puppet. LOL!

    • Jenuwine

      October 24, 2014 at 9:44 am

      No, sorry. I actually agree with you 100% and think JessGang’s comments are ridiculous. It just irks me when someone attempts to use post count to try and discredit someone’s opinion. Her opinion is sad all on it’s own. Post count is irrelevant.

      Of course, my post count is maybe 4, so I’m sure this is meaningless.

    • LeggEggTorpedoTits

      October 24, 2014 at 11:26 am

      Well, it’s good to know…but as for responding to a person with 2 comments in their history that are deliberately contemptuous, that’s really all there is to highlight, right? What, I was going to give the snark any merit?

    • Maria Guido

      October 24, 2014 at 9:08 am

      WHAT.

    • Ursi

      October 24, 2014 at 9:15 am

      What is so “sanctimommy” about feeding your kid in public? What the hell?

      You think it’s only smug mothers who want to put an end to society’s ridiculous aversion to breasts?

    • abbys_mom

      October 24, 2014 at 9:44 am

      I don’t think it’s an “aversion to breasts” for most people. I agree, to completely dissuade BF in public is absurd – some of the breast will be seen, even a little nipple while the kid latches on. People need to deal with that. But many people have different lines where their modesty/discreetness/etc stop. Out of consideration for everyone in a public space, (again, just my opinion) it’s simply kind to try and compromise and at least make an attempt to cover what doesn’t have to be out.

    • Ursi

      October 24, 2014 at 9:51 am

      I think what’s important is for us to be able to conform to our own standards of modesty. A woman shouldn’t be pushed to do what’s uncomfortable for her, whether that means breastfeeding with a cover, without a cover, or not breastfeeding at all. She shouldn’t be made to feel bad if modesty prevents her from doing these things. But I don’t think it’s her job to protect every else from a function she performs in service of her child.

      It would be great if we could make everyone feel happy and comfortable all the time but that’s not the priority when it comes to breastfeeding. The priority is getting the job done, isn’t it? I think it’s on others to be considerate of her needs.

    • abbys_mom

      October 24, 2014 at 9:55 am

      I think it’s on EVERYONE to always consider others. No one person’s right trumps another’s, no matter how we may disagree. Which is why compromise is often a good solution.

    • Ursi

      October 24, 2014 at 10:00 am

      No not really. The right of a woman to be topless for her own comfort in a place where it is inappropriate easily trumped by the discomfort of others. If she’s at a formal function, a job interview, whatever. It’s more important for her to put the comfort of others first in those situations. As it would be for a man who would be inappropriate if he decided to go topless.

      But in terms of the hierarchy of needs, a child getting fed is absolutely more important than standards of modesty being met. That right should take precedent.

    • Guest

      October 24, 2014 at 10:01 am

      Yeah u have a right not to be harmed by others. You d&d not have a right not to be offended. Assuming she wasn’t beating you with her breasts while breast feeding, your rights were not being infringed.

    • Guest

      October 24, 2014 at 10:02 am

      Stupid autocorrect. D&D = do and u = you.

    • LeggEggTorpedoTits

      October 24, 2014 at 10:09 am

      At first, I thought maybe it was a dungeons and dragons thing…and then I totally got it. I can’t blame “early/no coffee” now.

    • rockmonster

      October 24, 2014 at 11:08 am

      Too bad you can’t edit.

    • Ursi

      October 24, 2014 at 10:05 am

      Yeah but that was a great typo. It’s D&D, y’all. Roll to see if I’m offended!

    • rockmonster

      October 24, 2014 at 10:47 am

      Aw, I rolled a 19.

    • Aimee

      October 24, 2014 at 11:07 am

      Does Guest get a saving throw against Unintentional Offense? I don’t have my rule books on me.

    • rockmonster

      October 24, 2014 at 11:08 am

      Wait, who’s DM?

    • LeggEggTorpedoTits

      October 24, 2014 at 10:07 am

      There’s consideration and then there’s conformity. What you’re suggesting is conformity to an unreasonable societal “standard” that — in the opinion of many — should be completely eradicated.

    • Ro

      October 24, 2014 at 10:20 am

      So why then should mothers have to make themselves less comfortable by dressing a certain way, covering up or finding a private place to make others more comfortable when all they really need to do is not look? Literally, turn their heads if they see something they don’t like. The point is, people need to start being more considerate of mothers who need to feed their babies.

    • Kelly

      October 24, 2014 at 12:29 pm

      Interesting how it’s always on everyone to consider others…except for when it’s you that might have to consider the mothers and babies trying to nurse.

    • the_ether

      October 24, 2014 at 1:27 pm

      BOOM

    • Ro

      October 24, 2014 at 10:18 am

      I’ve mistakenly worn the wrong shirt when taking my baby out and had to expose more than I usually like to while feeding them. If they get hungry, they still need to be fed. Why should we be judging women? I don’t see this kind of backlash and shaming for women who dress in low cut clothes. We need to stop shaming and judging each other.

    • keelhaulrose

      October 24, 2014 at 10:38 am

      There are no legal protections against being offended. If I am in a state where it is legal to do so I could walk past a Duggar wedding topless and they are the ones who would be in charge of averting their eyes.

    • Ro

      October 24, 2014 at 10:15 am

      How exactly does one breastfeed without using her “boobs”? I’ve never had the pleasure of seeing a woman walking around topless while breastfeeding. I’d actually like to see that, a woman who could do that must be very talented.

    • JessGang

      October 24, 2014 at 10:25 am

      I said walking around with your boobs out, no breastfeeding.

    • Ro

      October 24, 2014 at 4:47 pm

      Who’s walking around with their boobs out not breastfeeding?? How is that statement even relevant to the article then?

    • Moliss

      October 24, 2014 at 1:17 pm

      Just don’t make a scene! lol

    • Mystik Spiral

      October 24, 2014 at 10:18 am

      “I am 100% for women who choose to breastfeed.”

      No, no you’re not.

    • JessGang

      October 24, 2014 at 10:22 am

      Yes, yes I am. I am NOT 100% for women who choose to use this opportunity to make a scene. And yes, some women do, do that.

    • Mystik Spiral

      October 24, 2014 at 10:23 am

      When you use the word BUT immediately following a proclamation, you are absolutely not 100% what you tried to convince people you are…

      “I’m not a racist, but…”

    • JessGang

      October 24, 2014 at 10:29 am

      I am not trying to convince anybody of anything, just stating my opinion. Just like you.

  11. keelhaulrose

    October 24, 2014 at 9:01 am

    Thank you, I didn’t get my coffee this morning and I needed a wake up.
    http://okasaneko.files.wordpress.com/2011/03/rage2.jpg

    • LeggEggTorpedoTits

      October 24, 2014 at 9:02 am

      Keep reading, it gets better. *gag—-twitch*

  12. abbys_mom

    October 24, 2014 at 9:06 am

    As I said in an earlier statement, when out in public, no one should be prohibited from doing what they need to do, especially breastfeeding. But you ARE sharing a public space – you can do what you need to, and take into consideration others and their feelings on issues. I nursed in public, but I only pulled the shirt up as needed – I did have a restless baby, who didn’t like covers, and who liked the whole boob in her hand, so I did take care to watch she didn’t pull my shirt up too far. For one, I don’t want the whole world to see my entire breast. For another, I realize that though the law supports me, I am indeed SHARING a public space. I don’t have to agree with others’ morals and values, but it’s simply NICE to try and be considerate to others who may not be ready to explain to their kid “why that lady’s boobies are out”. Do women have the right to do that, pull off their entire shirt? Probably, but I hardly see how it’s necessary, or why they cannot take care to consider others. I’ve never really understood the mentality of “It’s my right, I don’t care if you’re offended” – because my mentality is “It’s my right, but I understand your viewpoint even if I don’t agree, and while I’m not willing to disregard my own rights, I AM willing to compromise”. That’s simply where I’m coming from. I don’t like, nor do I agree with, extreme positions on either side of most arguments. Most issues, such as nursing, can be resolved with simple compromise. But there will always be those who are out for an argument or fight, and there’s simply no stopping that, except to just back away from the issue.

    • abbys_mom

      October 24, 2014 at 9:09 am

      Besides, I feel there’s more to this story than her “not using a cover”. Hospitals will apologize regardless, to stop any negative feedback.

    • Jen TheTit Whisperer

      October 24, 2014 at 9:59 am

      Sure it’s NICE. But it’s unrealistic. I’m going to take care of me and mine first and foremost. If I can be NICE, I will. But if my kid won’t eat with a cover, I’m nursing my kid with a cover. You’ll avert your eyes, read a magazine or whatever. Being NICE isn’t my priority, nor should it be. It shouldn’t be your priority either. I could be nursing with a cover and it would offend someone, so now I’m not supposed to nurse in public at all because I might offend someone. What if I have guests over at my house and it’s time to nurse, but they are uncomfortable with nursing, I guess I should nurse in a bedroom to keep them from feeling anything but comfy? You can do what you need to do to feel ok with you. I’m going to do what I need to do. Those aren’t always going to mesh and we are both going to have to deal with that and move on. I’m not going to nurse with a cover because some person who means nothing to me might be offended. Just like I wouldn’t expect that person to wear less perfume because the smell is overpowering to me. I would deal. So should they.

    • abbys_mom

      October 24, 2014 at 10:21 am

      Well to that point, you’re in your home, not in public. The hospital had reports from other nursing patients that they were uncomfortable. The hospital does not only have a responsibility to the one lady, but to EVERYONE. And doctor’s offices will often ask you not to wear perfume to an appointment, to not use your cell, etc, because it bothers other people.

    • abbys_mom

      October 24, 2014 at 10:22 am

      And I agree on the cover, my daughter would never wear one. But a person can cover up the top of the breast with the shirt.

    • CMJ

      October 24, 2014 at 11:07 am

      How can they do this? I am really trying to logistically think about thisโ€ฆ.

    • Jen TheTit Whisperer

      October 24, 2014 at 10:32 am

      Once again. Your being uncomfortable does not make it a crime. Unless she was loud or belligerent, this was totally over the top. I work in retail, do you know how many times a day I have to say “I understand, however, that is within their rights to swear/wear a lot of perfume/wear short shorts? The appropriate response would have been for the staff to say, she has the right to do that and let those people deal. I’m uncomfortable hearing your kid scream at my GP. As are I would guess most other patients. If I complained what would the staff say? “Sorry!” and that would be that. Lots of people do lots of things that bother me. None of those things have resulted in being kicked out of any place. You are still missing the big picture here. A woman was doing what she is legally allowed to do a doctor who likely encouraged and pushed for her to do that very thing kicked her out. There is no “but others” even if her boobs were all out, that is LEGAL and thus the dr/hospital screwed up. Which it appears to have copped to, even if you think it’s just a pat response. They “regretfully acknowledge” they handled this inappropriately and are working on training to make sure it doesn’t happen again. That tells me they know they screwed up. If she were doing anything illegal the cops would have been called or the hospital would have said “this is inaccurate” they didn’t.

    • abbys_mom

      October 24, 2014 at 10:38 am

      I actually don’t think we’re disagreeing that much, just on the more minute issue of why an attempt cannot be made to cover a little better. I’ve always been one to see both sides, and not to be confrontational, so it’s hard for me to see why a person wouldn’t attempt to adjust their shirt – though I do understnd where you’re coming from. We’ll just have to agree to disagree.

    • Ro

      October 24, 2014 at 10:13 am

      I am pretty modest so I always tried to wear a nursing tank with a looser shirt on top so that I only had to expose my nipple. Unfortunately my son was very distracted and would often, without warning, pull off to take a look around. So yes, I was sometimes left with my breast hanging out even though I tried to be ready with a blanket for those occasions. Having said all that, I could care less how another woman chooses to breastfeed or what she wears to do so. I’ve worn the wrong top without thinking on occasion and had to pull the my shirt down from the top exposing my entire breast to feed my baby at the mall. I feel a little self conscious because as I said I am modest, but I’m still going to do it and I’m still not going to hide.

    • LeggEggTorpedoTits

      October 24, 2014 at 10:17 am

      The Buddha walks with a monk along a stony path. The monk says, “I wish they would cover the path with silk to ease my discomfort.” The Buddha says, “Why don’t you cover your feet?” Guess what, you can’t please everyone. Close your eyes or walk away. That’s your choice.

    • the_ether

      October 24, 2014 at 1:23 pm

      Do you really see many women pulling their entire shirt off in order to feed?

    • Elizabeth Wakefield

      October 24, 2014 at 5:47 pm

  13. Ursi

    October 24, 2014 at 9:35 am

    As a naturally modest woman with no children I can assure you I’d take a waiting room crammed wall to wall with breastfeeding mothers without covers and blissfully QUIET babies over one with irritable hungry babies. Bring on the tits.

    • keelhaulrose

      October 24, 2014 at 9:36 am

      Seriously. I’d rather be in a room of topless breastfeeding mothers than a room of crying, hungry infants.

    • alexesq33

      October 24, 2014 at 11:11 am

      THIS!

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    • Rowan

      October 24, 2014 at 11:11 am

      “Bring on the tits” needs to be on a banner in that waiting room.

    • LiteBrite(UterineDudebro)

      October 24, 2014 at 11:24 am

      We get so many t-shirt ideas here on Mommyish.

    • NotTakenNotAvailable

      October 24, 2014 at 11:52 am

      Yep. As a woman in the same boat with horrible eyesight, I can just take off my glasses if I really don’t want to see the tits. I have yet to find a way of plugging my ears so I can completely block the sound of wailing children.

    • rockmonster

      October 24, 2014 at 1:21 pm

      I agree.

      (You got featured, woo!)

    • Ursi

      October 24, 2014 at 1:25 pm

      wooo, 1st time!

    • Johnstone

      October 25, 2014 at 5:33 am

      You’re really interested / excited about featured comments, aren’t you? ๐Ÿ™‚

    • rockmonster

      October 25, 2014 at 10:12 am

      I’ve never seen one before.

  14. Aimee

    October 24, 2014 at 9:36 am

    I’m just amazed that, 62 comments into this post, no one has yet compared this situation to a guy whipping out his dick in a waiting room full of small children.

    • LiteBrite(UterineDudebro)

      October 24, 2014 at 9:38 am

      Someone did compare it to a naked man. So, close?

    • abbys_mom

      October 24, 2014 at 9:41 am

      lol, not exactly what I said, but yeah, go ahead with that. Someone pointed out about the legality of a woman going completely topless, and I said then what’s good for the goose…not a comparison to a woman breastfeeding.

    • LiteBrite(UterineDudebro)

      October 24, 2014 at 9:44 am

      “So, a naked man in public is ok too, then?”

      Your words, not mine.

    • abbys_mom

      October 24, 2014 at 9:50 am

      In response and in comparison to “women going topless”, not women breastfeeding.

    • LiteBrite(UterineDudebro)

      October 24, 2014 at 9:54 am

      Fair enough but it’s still not the same thing. A topless woman feeding her child in public is not the same thing as a man walking around in public naked. Context is key.

    • alexesq33

      October 24, 2014 at 11:12 am

      also aren’t there many places it is legal for a woman to go topless (I think NYC is one of them?) topless is way different than bottomless

    • LiteBrite(UterineDudebro)

      October 24, 2014 at 11:24 am

      That I don’t know. (Quickly checks NYC statutes and books flight to NYC….)

    • Assasymphony

      October 24, 2014 at 2:45 pm

      Plus men walk around topless all the time.

    • iris

      October 24, 2014 at 9:56 pm

      I have no problem with men sitting at pediatrician office topless if women can be topless for breastfeeding. I wouldn’t like to see anyone bottomless at pediatrician office. What about you?

      Like someone says above, men can be topless in many places. women don’t usually walk around topless. So why is it so bad when women show little bit of skin when it is actually necessary when men do it all the time when it’s unnecessary?

    • Assasymphony

      October 25, 2014 at 5:50 am

      I wouldn’t want to see anyone bottomless in a doctor’s office.. so unhygienic, for starters! Woman don’t usually walk around topless, but they should be able to.

    • Maria Guido

      October 24, 2014 at 12:57 pm

      PROGRESS.

    • rockmonster

      October 24, 2014 at 1:20 pm

      How do featured comments work?

    • Moliss

      October 24, 2014 at 1:15 pm

      Someone did above! Because obviously IT’S THE EXACT SAME THING, HELLO.

  15. Henrysmama

    October 24, 2014 at 9:56 am

    I don’t believe a word of her story. With as much as doctors push “breast is best” this is completely unbelievable unless she was sitting there with no top or bra on at all, looking for a confrontation. Do we have anything at all other than a story posted on facebook to back up her claims?

    • keelhaulrose

      October 24, 2014 at 10:19 am

      The medical center admitted it happened, so…

    • Henrysmama

      October 24, 2014 at 10:37 am

      They admitted something happened and said they’re investigating. Would you want to anger a good portion of your client base? FIrst immediate step: apologize profusely, then investigate to see what really happened. If the lobby was really full of breastfeeding moms and the office pushes breastfeeding, her story doesn’t make any logical sense. There’s something missing.

    • keelhaulrose

      October 24, 2014 at 10:39 am

      Said it once before but it bears repeating:

      THEY ARE TAKING RESPONSIBILITY, WHICH IS AN ADMISSION GOOD ENOUGH FOR COURT SO IT IS AN ADMISSION IT HAPPENED.

      Look, evidence:
      “UMC Spokesperson, Eric Finley, said that University Medical Center takes full responsibility and is working to make sure an incident like this does not occur in the future. Finley also said that UMC Health System supports breastfeeding as the best infant feeding option for moms and babies”

  16. momma425

    October 24, 2014 at 10:16 am

    Oh for the love.
    Idk where this is, but if that receptionist is horrified by breastfeeding, she should come take a gander at the horrible things that come wandering into the waiting room where I work. In the last year, I’ve seen a lady with no legs pushing herself around on a skateboard, a guy with an infection in his stomach that made him look pregnant, multiple people with no teeth, a lady so drunk that she somehow managed to break a toilet in the patient restroom, multiple people on way more drugs that I ever thought would be possible to take, and a man so drunk that he left without his motorized power chair. Oh, and I haven’t seen it, but there were supposedly hookers arrested on the corner, and drug deals that went down in our parking lot.
    Breastfeeding? If your biggest problem in the world is a mom sitting in your waiting room breastfeeding, you are sitting pretty my friend.
    Additionally, if the staff was so concerned about her lobby behavior, all they would have had to do is call her son back and room him. We do this all the time at our clinic- if there is someone in the lobby who has an appointment and we don’t want them to be in the lobby for whatever reason- we call their name and put them in an exam room.

    • Personal

      October 24, 2014 at 12:21 pm

      Stop.being.reasonable. It makes others look bad.

    • TheGirlwithRedHair

      October 24, 2014 at 11:41 pm

      I don’t have kids, although I do want them. I also waitress on the side while I’m going to grad school. One time, a woman started breastfeeding her baby while I was taking her order. You wanna know what happened?

      Nothing. Nothing happened. I took her order and brought her and her kids their breakfast. Did the breastfeeding make me uncomfortable? Yes, maybe. Did I carry on about my day with no ill effects? Yes, absolutely. People need to get the eff over it about the breast-feeding. If you’re offended, look away.

    • Blooming_Babies

      October 26, 2014 at 3:49 pm

      This story, I love this story. Awkward things happen all. the. time. life goes on.

  17. abbys_mom

    October 24, 2014 at 10:17 am

    Just a feeling on “breasts” and their role in general – this is just a feeling of mine, and would be interested in what others think on it. I will try to word this in a decent way – I think it’s somewhat odd to expect all people, men and women, to conform and see our breasts as only to feed infants, and therefore, not to feel “uncomfortable” in seeing our breasts out in the open in public. If they do, then that’s their problem, and they must have an aversion to breasts. Yet if we saw a man’s penis in public, we would (most of us) be uncomfortable, because we consider it a sexual organ, and most would agree it’s not appropriate to show a sexual organ in public. I would agree on the difference, except that frankly, breasts serve two purposes – they are for feeding our children, and bonding with them, yet they ARE also sexual organs – meant to be enjoyable during sex for both partners, male and female, female and female, etc. Every day, breasts are emphasized more as a sexual part of the female body, in commercials, movies, magazines – we ourselves get breast augmentation, wear sexy bras, boost them up and out for a night on the town or date night with our partners, and we enjoy them sexually. So in a way, wouldn’t it be reasonable to try and understand that a lot of people, men and women, have just a natural instinct to be uncomfortable when one or both are completely out, with no attempt to cover? I’ve known women to get mad because a man ogles them while nursing, or women get upset – maybe some people just aren’t able to switch off the sexual component. First instinct may be to react and look when seeing breasts, and then be embarrassed that you’re seeing that because for the first few seconds, the kid nursing doesn’t even come into play. I’m not, for a second, saying I agree with that, but what I am saying is that I can understand it. It’s almost like mixed signals – and when in public, the first instinct at seeing a nude part of the body previously thought of as a sexual part is shock – like that feeling you get when you walk in on someone you know in the bathroom. So yeah, for me, I do have sympathy for people who find themselves uncomfortable when seeing a nursing mother who is completely uncovered. That’s why, when I nursed, I did make an effort to be somewhat discreet. I couldn’t use covers, and again, my daughter often pulled up the shirt too far, but I did make a reasonable attempt to be considerate of others. I never got angry because some people view it as a sexual part of the body out in public – because it is. It’s also a beautiful way to feed my child and bond. I simply compromised, as much as I was able. It was a simple thing to cover the unneeded part of my breast. Had I been asked to leave or not nurse in public at all, I would have refused, because again, I think compromise fixes most issues, but there IS a point where compromise becomes participation in denying your own rights. So yes, there is a line, but I don’t think that makes an attempt at some compromise a bad thing.

    • CMJ

      October 24, 2014 at 10:19 am

      I just really don’t see a lot of women breastfeeding with their “breasts” hanging out.

    • LA Face, Oakland Booty (and

      October 24, 2014 at 2:34 pm

      Well, you have not been around when I BF in public. What I like to do is strip off my top and bra, let my titiies dangle, and then attach the baby to one so that he dangles from it. Finally, to complete the scene, I wiggle my upper body to and fro so as to provide a mesmerizing show for all those in the area. It’s like performance art.

    • Guinevere

      October 24, 2014 at 10:21 am

      I just feed my baby. It’s like the old saying goes, “What other people think of you is none of your business.” I do see what you’re saying. I think Maria was actually addressing the double-standard you speak of in her article ๐Ÿ™‚

    • LeggEggTorpedoTits

      October 24, 2014 at 10:51 am

      Just a feeling on being a human in society: It is not your job to make me comfortable. There are many things that make me uncomfortable (stinky arm pits, random people with guns on their hips, *the cleaning of toenails in public*, WAY too much cologne, loud people in quiet places), but I have found it easier and more considerate and less offensive to all parties to avert my eyes or walk away…. because everyone deserves consideration.

      BTW, every part of the human body has the potential to be both sexy and utilitarian. Making that distinction is part of growing up.

    • abbys_mom

      October 24, 2014 at 10:59 am

      That’s your feeling, and it’s fine. Mine is that it IS my job to attempt to make others around me comfortable and happy, if I CAN, and if it is NEEDED. It’s just me, my personality. And yes, everyone deserves consideration, INCLUDING others who are uncomfortable, if possible. That’s my opinion, you have yours. If it’s worth a fight, such as being asked not to BF at all in public, fight. If you’re just being asked to cover up, I don’t understand why that would merit the energy of a fight. Again, my opinion, which will not change, as I’m sure yours won’t. Which is why, after reading some of the comments further down, I don’t really understand (it’s something I’ve never understood about internet boards) why people make smart, mean, harsh comments, even to the point of ugliness and ridicule. There’s an issue posted, so discuss, disagree, but do so respectfully and with kindness “This is what I feel” and “ok, I get that, but this is why I feel differently”. The world doesn’t need more sarcasm, or cruelty, or for people to be made to feel ridiculed for just offering up their perspective.

    • LeggEggTorpedoTits

      October 24, 2014 at 11:11 am

      Unfortunately your commentary reads like a person who is trying to make herself feel better about demanding consideration from others by using phrases that place herself in the position of humble, benevolent, sympathizer rather than the position of the self-serving, demanding central focus.

    • abbys_mom

      October 24, 2014 at 11:17 am

      No, honestly, I shared my opinion earlier, and my feelings were hurt by all the sarcasm after. I’ve never understood why sarcasm and ridicule of another person’s thoughts has to come into play in a discussion of opinions. Again, simply put, my feelings are hurt.

    • LeggEggTorpedoTits

      October 24, 2014 at 11:18 am

      Because your initial comment shamed women for not living up to your arbitrary standard of modesty. Just that. It’s not nice and was responded to in kind.

    • abbys_mom

      October 24, 2014 at 11:21 am

      That’s not true. It’s an opinion that one should make an attempt to cover in public. It’s not about shame – it’s about a shared public space. YOU took it as shaming, that’s your choice. I see it as being considerate of others.

    • Moliss

      October 24, 2014 at 1:11 pm

      Just because it’s an opinion that you have doesn’t make it “nice” – people who care about their right to feed their kids anytime and anywhere without feeling like they are inconveniencing bystanders do take offense to your opinion, so responding defensively is a natural reaction.

    • LeggEggTorpedoTits

      October 24, 2014 at 4:08 pm

      Yes, you’re correct… it is a shared public space that you have to be prepared to share with people who have different standards of modesty and “taste” and either have the grace to avert your gaze or the humility to leave if it is so offensive to your sensibilities.

    • Mystik Spiral

      October 24, 2014 at 1:16 pm

      You certainly do sound like a special snowflake.

    • LA Face, Oakland Booty (and

      October 24, 2014 at 2:35 pm

      Why do you care what random Internet people think? This is a site where 99% of the community is 100% supportive of BF in public, and 200% vocal about it. If this isn’t how you feel, why stick around and be butthurt when people disagree with you?

    • guest

      October 24, 2014 at 2:39 pm

      Ah you must be new around here…you broke the cardinal rule and had an opinion that the clique didn’t agree with…for this you will be shouted down, belittled and probably cursed at. Just another day here on mommyish.

    • Elizabeth Wakefield

      October 24, 2014 at 5:45 pm

      Hi Koolchicken!

    • NotTakenNotAvailable

      October 24, 2014 at 11:48 am

      If you really wanted to make EVERYONE comfortable, then you’d never bring your kids out in public at all. They might scream, and people with heightened sound sensitivities like me would be really uncomfortable. You’d never wear any sort of floral scent, because you might wind up standing next to someone like me with floral allergies who would suffer from a runny nose and red eyes for a few seconds after our encounter. You’d never eat ice cream in public, because you might be around a Type I diabetic like me who loves the hell out of ice cream but can only have it at certain times under certain circumstances, because frankly, we’re not supposed to have it at all.

      Anything you do is going to make someone else uncomfortable. But until we invent replicators, we’ve all got to go out in the world and interact with the general public at some point, at which point we have to learn ways of coping with things that make us uncomfortable.

    • Moliss

      October 24, 2014 at 1:13 pm

      What about people who are “uncomfortable” with my public breastfeeding being considerate of the fact that MY BABY IS HUNGRY? How about being considerate of the fact that maybe I don’t happen to have a cover? Or considerate of the fact that maybe my baby won’t eat under a cover? Or considerate of the fact that I feel uncomfortable feeding my baby in a bathroom or other secluded place, if I happen to not have a cover? If that is your argument, that we all need to be considerate of each other, then it has to go both ways.

    • the_ether

      October 24, 2014 at 12:00 pm

      In the same way that it’s not my problem if a conservative man who believes in ‘modest’ dressing feels uncomfortable seeing my cleavage or leg or upper arm, it’s not my problem if someone feels uncomfortable seeing a hint of nip while I get the kid latched, or a bit of boob skin while he’s feeding. It’s not my responsibility to cater to the morals and sensibilities of other people. It’s my job to feed my kid. Anywhere, anytime.

    • Moliss

      October 24, 2014 at 1:09 pm

      I don’t get the comparison to having a man’s penis out in public. That is in no way the same thing, like, AT ALL. Also, seeing me breastfeeding is not the same as walking in on me using the bathroom. That, too, is not comparable in any way. It’s not like I’m just stripping my boobs out for no reason and waving them around – I’m feeding my kid. There is not a comparison. As for the rest of it, I understand your opinion, although I disagree with it. I do not care if someone is uncomfortable with my public breastfeeding. If my baby is hungry, I am going to feed her, or she is gonna get real pissed, real fast. If I have a cover, cool, if I happen not to, that’s too bad if people are “uncomfortable”. They need to get over it.

    • Mystik Spiral

      October 24, 2014 at 1:15 pm

      “Breasts”… if you can even CALL them that…

    • Ro

      October 24, 2014 at 4:39 pm

      I see what you are trying to say, I disagree though. The sexualization of breasts needs to be taken down a notch, not accommodated by making life harder for mothers. Breasts are not sexual organs. A sexual organ is defined as an anatomical part of the body involved in sexual reproduction and constituting the reproductive system. Most countries have no problem switching from seeing breasts as something for foreplay and something for babies. It needs to be normalized here as well, not hidden away. The mouth is also a very sensual body part, but it also has many other uses that have nothing to do with sex at all.

    • JAN

      October 25, 2014 at 4:38 pm

      I don’t see how or is is an apt comparison to a breast. It has no function to feed, it functions to void a bladder and for sexual intercourse so it is best compared to a vagina. A more apt comparison for a breast is a mouth. It is also involved in feeding and can at times be involved in sexual activities. I guess some cultures do deman we keep women’s mouths covered…but I don’t intend to cater to them either.

  18. rockmonster

    October 24, 2014 at 10:43 am

    Hey everybody, I’m back fromโ€” Holy crap, this thread exploded!

    • LeggEggTorpedoTits

      October 24, 2014 at 10:51 am

      BOOOOM!

  19. Valerie

    October 24, 2014 at 11:09 am

    Actually, our pediatrician’s office was not particularly encouraging of breast-feeding. At every well visit through 12 months I was asked when I would stop nursing and get him on formula. Real nice. If it weren’t for their awesome weekend hours and easy availability of flu vaccine (even during H1N1) I would leave. They are well-connected so I stay. Blah.

    • Ro

      October 24, 2014 at 4:27 pm

      I nursed my daughter for over a year and my doctor seemed more concerned that she might not be getting enough cow’s milk. Like, you know, cow’s milk is far superior to human milk for children over the age of two!

  20. alexesq33

    October 24, 2014 at 11:10 am

    “The hospital has apologized and says it is working to make sure something like this doesnโ€™t happen again in the future.”
    Fire that receptionist and doctor. Problem solved.

  21. Rowan

    October 24, 2014 at 11:16 am

    I’ll just leave this right here…

    • LeggEggTorpedoTits

      October 24, 2014 at 11:20 am

      What? What is it? I feel like I missed something awesome. ๐Ÿ™

    • Rowan

      October 24, 2014 at 11:31 am

      Try closing & reopening the site – sometimes pics don’t load right away.

    • LeggEggTorpedoTits

      October 24, 2014 at 10:15 pm

      Haaaaa!!! I snorted!!

  22. NotTakenNotAvailable

    October 24, 2014 at 11:41 am

    So basically if you have a baby, it’s damned if you and damned if you don’t on any decision you make about raising it. Brb, writing a massive outpouring of gratitude to the makers of Essure for sparing me.

  23. BriarRose

    October 24, 2014 at 11:56 am

    I hate to say it…but it’s Texas. My husband escaped from there for a reason after 24 years…

    • Courtney Lynn

      October 24, 2014 at 1:31 pm

      One medical facility in a big ass state = all of Texas? Sorry, no. I live here and I was born and raised. There are a lot of things in our state gov’t that I disagree with and I will gleefully wave Rick Perry’s corrupt ass out of office in Nov but we have a law that protects nursing moms in public. This woman was well within her rights. Don’t blame Texas, it’s the facility’s fault.

  24. Angela

    October 24, 2014 at 12:14 pm

    OK people. There is no excuse for a doctor’s office to behave this way. Period. This sounds nothing like the situation described, but just for fun let’s say that this woman actually was being disruptive and inappropriate with her breastfeeding. Say she stripped down totally naked and was feeding the baby on one boob and using the other to spray everyone else in the waiting room with milk. As a nurse, I still would not have the woman ejected by security and refuse to vaccinate the child. Why? Well, because I would have grave concerns about mental illness and the safety of the child. It would be extremely negligent of me not to intervene.

    Here’s how I would handle such a situation. I would immediately get an exam room opened and bump her right to the top of the waiting list. I probably would have the receptionist call security but not to eject her. Just to be on standby in case things escalate. I’d tell her we’re ready to see her and ask if she needs help carrying her things. I’d get her settled into the exam. I’d make light conversation to try and gauge her mental state and whether she’s actively psychotic. I’d tell her that we routinely screen mothers of infants for postpartum depression and be sure to get a full psyche history as part of the screen. Then I would call child services and let them know that I feel this mother is likely unstable and may not be a fit caregiver. I would make sure the woman and child stay in the office until social services arrives and yes, we would also examine the child and administer the vaccinations.

    When you work in health care it’s your job to deal with people and provide health care no matter how crazy they are. There is literally no extenuating circumstance that would have made this clinic’s actions acceptable.

    • Kelly

      October 24, 2014 at 12:15 pm

      Wait, WHAT? You’d do a mental health screening because a woman was nursing in the waiting room?

    • Angela

      October 24, 2014 at 12:16 pm

      If she was naked and spraying milk at everyone then yes.

    • keelhaulrose

      October 24, 2014 at 12:43 pm

      Now THERE’S a hell of a visual.

    • LA Face, Oakland Booty (and

      October 24, 2014 at 2:38 pm

      I’ve seen a “film” like this.

    • keelhaulrose

      October 24, 2014 at 4:54 pm

      And I will give all the things to never see it. I have a high fetish threshold, but that’s just… why?

    • Elizabeth Wakefield

      October 24, 2014 at 6:25 pm

    • Assasymphony

      October 24, 2014 at 2:58 pm

      Sounds like fun! ๐Ÿ˜‰

    • Spongeworthy

      October 24, 2014 at 12:18 pm

      I think she’s saying she’d do that IF the woman went to ridiculous means like getting fully naked (like some commenters here seem to want to think this woman did).

    • Angela

      October 24, 2014 at 12:19 pm

      I’ve read other comments suggesting that there may have been extenuating circumstances where she was completely topless or acting totally crazy and disruptive while nursing. My point was that even then there would be no excuse for kicking her out.

    • Kelly

      October 24, 2014 at 1:54 pm

      Ah, gotcha. That sounds compassionate. I didn’t follow at first. Reading comprehension and all. ๐Ÿ˜‰

    • Guest

      October 24, 2014 at 2:57 pm

      Did you READ the comment?

    • LA Face, Oakland Booty (and

      October 24, 2014 at 3:05 pm

      Read a couple comments below…

    • Spongeworthy

      October 24, 2014 at 12:23 pm

      Yea, I used to do admin at a PT clinic, and sometimes we would have patients come in acting a bit erratically (usually due to pain meds or dementia in some of our elderly patients). We would move them to one of our private rooms and have the therapist go in and talk to them. We’d then call their emergency contact if needed to drive them home or to the hospital.

    • Guinevere

      October 24, 2014 at 12:53 pm

      So, this is the way to make the wait shorter? ๐Ÿ˜‰

    • LA Face, Oakland Booty (and

      October 24, 2014 at 2:38 pm

      Pull out the boobs and start spraying!

    • Guinevere

      October 24, 2014 at 2:42 pm

      naked. While my husband does the helicopter.

  25. Courtney Lynn

    October 24, 2014 at 12:57 pm

    What’s really ludicrous is that Texas has a commercial on how it’s our right to BF in public! Without a cover! I’ve definitely nursed both my kids in the pediatrician’s waiting area and I really don’t care who has an issue with it. My pediatrician sure doesn’t, he supports it. Not sure what crawled up the receptionists/Dr’s asses, but since they’re in a hospital, it’s a good place to get that checked out. This mother should complain as high up as she can about this, if she didn’t already. It’s unacceptable.

  26. rockmonster

    October 24, 2014 at 1:20 pm

    Congrats on the feature, @Ursi! Now how does that work?

    • Guinevere

      October 24, 2014 at 1:54 pm

      mod’s choice ๐Ÿ˜‰

  27. Assasymphony

    October 24, 2014 at 2:43 pm

    So the baby still isn’t vaccinated? Ridiculous. Doctor should be ashamed.

  28. sassy nurse

    October 28, 2014 at 9:31 am

    Ridiculous this hospital always boast about getting in magazines being one of the best to work for blah blah blah but seriously maybe they should focus more on little things like patient care isn’t that why you are around also have worked here and breastfed two babies and was very looked down upon if you had to walk away more than once in 12 hours to pump

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