I've decided this is the year to take Christmas back from your kids. Do something this month for you or you and your significant other if you have one. Here are some ideas that came to mind when I remembered that I too exist in the month of December:
1. Have An Adult Night At Home
Even if you don't have the time or money to really go out, dedicate an evening by yourself or with your partner to drink wine and stare at the tree. I find myself SO harried this time of year and usually, my husband is brushed aside while I try to get it all done. It's good to remember that WE still exist.
2. Open Gifts Alone
My parents always did this and I never understood why until I had my own kids. They would open their gifts to each other on Christmas Eve, after the kids had gone to sleep. It's a small gesture but a meaningful one- you will definitely not be able to appreciate whatever your spouse has done for you while you trip over Barbie parts and a mountain of wrapping paper scraps.
3. Do Something Pamper-y
Even if it's just a quick manicure or hair trim, do something where you are being taken care of. I am a wild woman this time of year- it's nice to slow down and remember that I matter.
4. Go On A Light-Spotting Date
If you can get someone to watch the kids, go buy lattes and drive around neighborhoods to see the lights. It's seasonal and relaxing. My favorite talks with my husband usually happen in the car when the kids are sleeping or we are alone. Add in pretty Christmas lights and it's almost like a date.
5. Don't Always Cater To The Kids
If you make Christmas dinner, don't worry too hard about making something the kids will eat. They can always have a peanut butter sandwich if they don't like your Chateaubriand. This is a time of year for decadent and amazing foods- we can ditch the bland pasta for one night and no one will die.
6. Don't Drive Yourself Crazy Shopping
If a gift your kid wants is near impossible to find, give up or find a substitute. Start to prepare them now that Santa ran out or whatever. No material position is worth your sanity and your child will forget about it eventually, I promise.
7. Get Yourself A Nice Christmas Outfit Too
If you can afford it, buy yourself an outfit you feel good in. Every year, I make sure my kids are dressed to the nines and then on Christmas Eve, I'm tugging at my sweater and feeling sloppy and unattractive. Over the last seven years, I've barely thought of my own Christmas outfit- no more.
8. Decorate The Way You Like
As long as it doesn't mean broken things that you treasure, use the decorations you like- not everything has to be kiddified. I remember an older mom lecturing me about my pretty decorations pre-kid and saying I should switch to colored lights on the tree once I have children because white lights are boring. Sorry, lady- I loves me some twinkly white lights and they have stayed. The kids get enough shit.
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