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This Video Reply To The Steubenville Rape Case Will Give You Hope For Humanity

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youtubemodprimateThis came across my Twitter feed last night and after all of the rape in the news, the victim-blaming, the ugly ugly ugly ugliness of the Steubenville rape case, it made me realize that not everyone in the world is A-OK with the victimization of women. Now yeah, I know, most of the world finds rape horrifying and awful but when you are in the thick of it, as I have been these last few weeks, you sort of start to feel a bit depressed about the situation. As a mom who speaks at length to her sons about how to treat others, especially women, it brings joy to my heart when I see men who put themselves out there and speak out against rape culture, which is exactly what Mod Primate did, and he didn’t do it in an annoying mansplaining way.
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Depending on the age of your kids, and how much they have heard about the case from the news, I think this video is an excellent teaching tool to show your boys. The main message is how we need to stop making excuses that enable and normalize rape culture. I have made the argument before that it’s all well and good to teach our daughters how to protect themselves, we need to also focus our parenting energies on raising boys who don’t rape women. When men speak out against rape, and rape culture, and sexual harassment, it shows boys that not every man thinks it’s cool to treat women as objects, as playthings, as “less-than.” Women are pretty vocal about these topics. The more men who are as vocal as women are shows boys that this just isn’t a problem that effects women, it effects everyone.

I want to see more videos like this, and more articles written by men, and more men just speaking to their sons and friends about rape. Women have done this for ages, it’s great that more men are doing the same.

(photo: Youtube)


  1. meah

    January 11, 2013 at 10:47 am

    Great video. My son’s a bit young yet, but I hope something like this is available to me when he’s older. Thank you, Eve!
    As a side note, it is so easy to get bogged down and depressed by this. Just keep reminding yourself that there are a lot more people like the man in this video, and you and me, than there are rape-apologists and general a-holes. Most people are good… right?!?

    • Eve Vawter

      January 11, 2013 at 10:49 am

      If you say so… hahaha! No, I hear ya <3

  2. traciamc

    January 11, 2013 at 12:01 pm

    Another great article. When I saw it yesterday, I forwarded it to a friend of mine. She’s my daughter’s cheer coach, but she also teaches Health at a nearby high school. She has said that she would like to show this to her class. I’d like to see lots of Health teachers as well as parents show this to their kids.

    I know what you mean about being in the muck with this whole thing. I’m trying hard to take note of the good things going on, like the fact that this case, as disgusting as it is, has started a national and international dialogue about rape. That’s at least one step in the right direction.

    Thanks for sharing!

  3. rob

    January 11, 2013 at 4:05 pm

    From some of the first articles released, and the release from Anonymous she was drugged with a date rape drugged when she was first picked up, before attending any parties ,

  4. Greer Phillips

    January 11, 2013 at 5:13 pm

    I want to buy a tee-shirt with that man’s picture on it and the words “FUCK YEAH!” His mother raised him right.

    • HappyPappy

      January 11, 2013 at 8:50 pm

      Subscribe to his YouTube channel and watch more of his videos. That’s what I’m doing!

  5. Sara

    January 13, 2013 at 7:36 am

    This is absolutely fantastic. On so many levels. I especially love (and wasn’t expecting) the bit at the end, about how when we teach that ALL forms of sexual contact are wrong, we can’t expect our kids to be able to differentiate between those that are truly normal and okay and those (such as rape) that are truly unacceptable and should be prevented and punished when they do occur.

  6. AndiInMI

    January 14, 2013 at 2:39 pm

    Well said! I watched this with my 17 & 12 yr old son’s. I want to be positive that my boys know how to treat women with the same respect that they treat me.

  7. Rocky Ewing

    February 28, 2013 at 10:35 am

    It’s not the culture bc this is only the 2nd rape in Steubenville in the 25 years so culture that before u start running ur mouth, n no those boys don’t deserve to b free they should b locked up for what they’ve done to that little girl they r very sick minded individuals to think that’s its ok to treat women like that bc is not ur supposed to respect n love women I’m just sayin

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