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Sorry J. Lo, My Daughter Doesn’t Care How Glam I Am

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She doesn’t care for my frocks, or if I wear matching socks.

She’s not concerned with my looks, she just likes storybooks.

For fashion, she doesn’t give a damn, she doesn’t care how glam I am.

This is a short story Brenna and I wrote in response to Jennifer Lopez claiming to stay “glam” for her children. Never mind that it’s a huge part of her job, she just wants her twins to know that their mom is hot. The absurdness of this quote is unreal.

Children need a lot of things from their parents: unconditional love, support, good role models. But appearance really doesn’t matter at all. Children’t don’t normally pay attention to what people are wearing at all, unless it has a familiar character on it. We’re talking about a group of humans who have no problem wearing rain-boots, tutus and a cape into public. They aren’t too concerned with trendiness.

It would be completely different if J. Lo said that she dressed up because it gave her confidence and self-assurance, which makes her a happier mother. I can completely understand that for some people, their appearance is a very personal source of pride. But Lopez said, “My kids need to know what I look like! Make an effort and say, ‘OK, I need to get back to the person I was.” That’s a not the same sentiment as, “I need to do this for me.”

Kids don’t need to know what you looked like before they were born. And they don’t particularly care what you look like now. One of the wonderful things about children is that they haven’t learned to judge people on their looks yet. I have much more to offer my daughter than a great pair of boots and a cute hairdo. And I hope my daughter, and the rest of the world, respect me for much more than my “glam” look.

5 Comments

  1. Jen

    September 10, 2011 at 7:44 pm

    I’d be surprised if anyone but her children actually know what she “really” looks like. Between the hours of styling and the wall of makeup, who knows?

  2. Abigail

    September 10, 2011 at 8:31 pm

    OBVIOUSLY my children don’t know what I looked like before they were born (I hardly remember, except it was definitely 18 years of bad hair days…), but my three year old definitely notices now. He tells me all the time what I should or should not wear. Usually, I get dressed and he tells me, “Mommy, you look VERY okay today”. Or, I’ll ask him what he thinks and he’ll say: “Um… Mommy, I don’t like that. You look too pretty.” (Date night- he still doesn’t understand what that is for). 🙂 My point is… he notices.

    That having been said, I don’t dress for them. I dress for me. And I’m sure in a wierd, confusing way, that’s what she meant. When you talk to the media that much, some things are bound to come across wierdly.

  3. xobolaji

    September 11, 2011 at 10:13 pm

    celebrity motherhood narcissism has reached an all time high. unfortunately we ‘regular’ moms are the recipient of every tiresome wince and moan that erupts from their privileged lips.

    the very idea itself is comical. JLO has intuited that her children require her to be glam? therefore, so too should those of us who take pride in doing exactly the opposite. wow.

    hopefully years from now JLO will realize the ridiculousness of this statement. particularly when her children take her to task for using them as an excuse for pampering and indulging her beauty, which if truth be told, she has every right to do. she just needs to go easy on the idea that her vanity is a result of her toddler’s desires. what a croc!

  4. IamWhateverYouThinkIam

    September 16, 2011 at 7:45 pm

    I’ve said things that don’t sound quite right, maybe this is a case of that?

  5. a

    September 17, 2011 at 10:36 pm

    That’s because your kid is a toddler, you moron. She will definitely care what you look like when she gets older and would rather die than be seen with her frumpy ugly mom.

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