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The Only Person Who Wants To See Your Ultrasound Picture Is Your Mom

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ac1hvI was so excited for our first ultrasound. I was thrilled for the opportunity to actually make out some limbs and a skeletal system on the little being I was housing. That little alien-looking baby was mine – and I loved him from first glimpse. It’s a little hard to be objective about these things when said alien-baby is in your womb. Don’t be surprised if others aren’t as thrilled as you are to see its image.

There doesn’t seem to be much etiquette on disclosing ultrasound photos – but there should be. Even though I understand the excitement surrounding the image, I never quite got why someone would share something like this on Facebook. Or even worse – have a party and invite others to watch the ultrasound go down.

Not sure why it doesn’t strike more women as odd to be showing the 400+ friends on their Facebook page an ultrasound image of the inside of their uterus. Not that I don’t get it – by the time you get around to showing anyone this image you’ve probably been keeping the secret of your pregnancy for months. Having a baby is exciting. Actually seeing an image of your little baby – even if it looks freaky and transparent – is really cool. Just maybe not something you need to expect your casual acquaintances to appreciate.

Simply sharing these images for a Facebook like seems totally harmless when you remember a trend that never quite took off from last year.Ā Remember the ultrasound party trend? It never actually became a trend (thank God), but there were stories of people actually hiring ultrasound techs with their own equipment to come to their homes and give mommy-to-be an ultrasound – in front of her guests. This took pregnancy overshare to a whole new level. Can you imagine having guests watch you get all that goopy jelly crap they put on you during an ultrasound smeared all over your belly? No thanks.

It’s just a picture. Share it if you want – I don’t think you’ll be offending anyone. Just don’t be surprised when people aren’t as thrilled about it as you are. Nine times out of ten, they won’t even be able to make out what they are looking at. Ultrasounds are like Rorschach tests – if you’re not pregnant, most of the time you don’t even see a baby. You see an alien. Or a ladybug.

Show your little alien to whoever you want. Just don’t expect them to be as excited as you are to see it.

59 Comments

  1. Ursi

    July 15, 2014 at 4:04 pm

    With the ultrasound technology available today I actually find them much creepier now than ever. Whereas before it was just a statically black and white splatter now it’s some HR Giger shit.

    I’m happy to look but no one should be kidding themselves that it’s not kinda scary looking.

    • Alene

      July 15, 2014 at 4:08 pm

      I JUST COMMENTED that I am pretty sure I’m having a xenomorph šŸ™‚

    • The Redhead

      July 15, 2014 at 4:25 pm

      My brothers wife had on of those high-definition ultrasounds at only 12 weeks. The picture is crazy, he looks like a little monster, but you can clearly see his little boy parts. We couldn’t believe that they were able to find out the gender so soon.

    • LiteBrite(UterineDudebro)

      July 15, 2014 at 4:38 pm

      Ours was pretty creepy looking.

      However, it also looked like our son was sticking his tongue out at us, so that made it a little better.

    • AE Vorro

      July 15, 2014 at 6:02 pm

      Okay, that’s just awesome.

    • noodlestein's danger tits

      July 15, 2014 at 4:40 pm

      YAAASSS, was just coming here to say this! Those freaking 3D scans are scarier than the inside of Satan’s butthole!

    • jane

      July 15, 2014 at 4:59 pm

      I literally (not metaphorically) almost barfed when I saw my daughter’s 3D ultrasound. I was 18 weeks along and had just barely phased out of morning sickness and it looked like I was having a sickly skeletor. So disgusting. My husband thought it was the coolest, so I made him fold it over so he could look at that one and I only saw the less barfy black and white ones.

    • AE Vorro

      July 15, 2014 at 6:02 pm

      Yes, yes, yes. My father-in-law sprung for 3D sonograms when my SIL was pregnant with her first kid. I love my nephew and all, but those were fucking creepy. What a waste of money.

    • Iwill Findu

      July 16, 2014 at 12:55 pm

      I was given a $50 gift card for one of those 3D sonogram places, so I thought why the heck not. Looked up their prices to see what I could get and their base prices started at $125. We ended up giving the gift card back to the friends that gave it to us because they were also pregnant and when they gave it to us we were pretty much at the point of use it or lose it, and had already had 2 normal black and whites with print outs. But what’s the point of a gift card that doesn’t cover the cost of the thing I’ll never know. Here spend money on this gift that I’m only giving you a small percent of.

    • AE Vorro

      July 16, 2014 at 12:59 pm

      That is a weird gift choice, I totally agree.

    • Fondue

      July 15, 2014 at 7:01 pm

      My ultrasound tech wanted to show us our baby’s face, but she accidentally hit the “skeletal level” button. All we saw was a close-up of our baby’s skull. That was fucking scary.

  2. Alene

    July 15, 2014 at 4:07 pm

    Our ultrasound pictures live on our fridge. I think they’re hilarious because one of the face shots makes it look like I will actually be giving birth to a xenomorph, and one makes it look like her hand is growing out of her mouth. I fully realize that I the only one who will find this funny or interesting, so the fridge is where they stay.

    • Hibbie

      July 15, 2014 at 6:21 pm

      I’m glad I’m not the only one who put an ultrasound image on the fridge!

    • Zettai

      July 15, 2014 at 7:08 pm

      I do it too–I don’t know where else to put them! It’s like a fetus report card.

    • Larkin

      July 16, 2014 at 2:42 pm

      Me too! Our fridge is covered with ultrasound photos at this point, from featureless bean to creepy 3d xenomorph baby.

  3. NoMissCleo...JustMe

    July 15, 2014 at 4:08 pm

    I was happy to see my best-friend’s sonogram because it was such a long process for her to even become pregnant. What killed me was when she showed it to another co-worker of ours, the co-worker exclaimed, “that looks JUST like MY daughter’s sonogram!” No shit.

    • Maria Guido

      July 15, 2014 at 4:16 pm

      Hahaha!

  4. Kendra

    July 15, 2014 at 4:26 pm

    I’m the weird person who loves seeing ultrasounds and finds them really cool. I really can’t understand people who think they are gross, and this is coming from a girl who will pass out if she cuts herself. I get that not everyone is going to be excited about it, but I think it’s just a “scroll by if you don’t like it” thing when it comes to facebook.

  5. allisonjayne

    July 15, 2014 at 4:34 pm

    Ha. I showed my mom my ultrasound picture to announce to her that I was pregnant. She thought I was trying to tell her that I have cancer. I have no idea why she thinks I’m so crazy that I would tell her I have cancer by showing her a photo of it.

    In all fairness to my mom, it was a post-transfer ultrasound that didn’t look like much. I just figured that me handing her an ultrasound photo while sitting across from her all excited would’ve been pretty obvious, but apparently not.

    • AE Vorro

      July 15, 2014 at 6:07 pm

      Ha! Birth announcement fail. That’s a great story.

    • jane

      July 15, 2014 at 6:12 pm

      Guess what? We’re having an ovarian cyst!

  6. wispy

    July 15, 2014 at 4:34 pm

    I love seeing ultrasound pictures! I think they are cool and if someone wants to show me theirs I will gladly ooh and ahh over it. The title of this is funny to me though because my mom could not be bothered to look at one ultrasound picture. It did hurt my feelings, like can you not just pretend for 30 seconds that you are excited to see this? Ugh. My in-laws are the complete opposite of her though, to the point of creepiness. We had a 3D ultrasound done and the place uploaded all of them to our “personal viewing” website. My in-laws printed off every.single.picture and put them in a file folder entitled “grandchild number 1” and they recently told us they go over the photos weekly. Uhhhhh…..?

  7. LiteBrite(UterineDudebro)

    July 15, 2014 at 4:37 pm

    Even my mom didn’t give a rat’s ass about my ultrasound picture. The only one who really wanted to see it was my husband.

    • Nica

      July 15, 2014 at 5:31 pm

      Same here. Only my husband was interested and only mildly so. Once the u/s tech and the perinatologist told is all looked good with each kiddo, that was that. The u/s pix are in a drawer somewhere in my house, I think. I haven’t looked at them in years…
      That said, I LOVED going for my anatomy scan both times and seeing it “live.” It was so exciting to see the baby moving around and to see all the parts in such detail – you could see the hemispheres of the brain, the kidneys, blood vessels, awesome! But, it doesn’t translate well into the printed image and I think a video of your scan (which is available at some places) would be a) overkill and b) something I’d probably never look at again once that baby was in my arms!

    • cmichelle

      July 15, 2014 at 8:51 pm

      My husband was the most excited (probably followed closely by his mom). I felt so bad for him when he proudly showed the picture to a friend, and the friend promptly told him that it looked like a blob.

  8. Rachel Sea

    July 15, 2014 at 4:39 pm

    If I were meaner I would reply to Facebook ultrasound pictures with one of my own. You show me your uterus, I show you my gallbladder.

    • RW

      July 15, 2014 at 5:00 pm

      I think this is a perfectly acceptable response to fetus photos!

    • Jennie Blair

      July 15, 2014 at 6:36 pm

      They didn’t give me copies of my gallbladder ultrasound šŸ™

    • Rachel Sea

      July 15, 2014 at 6:47 pm

      I asked for a printout. The tech thought I was weird, but he did it.

      Honestly though, one ultrasound looks so much like another, you could take any image off the internet and no one would know.

    • guest

      July 15, 2014 at 6:59 pm

      Didn’t someplace in Britain get in trouble for doing just that? They sent each lady home with the same sonogram picture..

    • Rachel Sea

      July 15, 2014 at 7:26 pm

      Yeah, might have been a video too.

  9. middleofnowheremom

    July 15, 2014 at 4:54 pm

    We just finished a major outdoor construction project where we built the mother of all decks onto the back of our home. I posted a finished project picture and recieved over 100 likes on it. 100! I laughed, and then remember that I’d gotten maybe 40-50 on the post of a picture of our youngest the day he’d be born, and laughed harder. Having a baby, or announcing a pregnancy is exciting and your friends are excited for you, but they are more excited about the prospect of a new deck to drink on!

    • jo

      July 16, 2014 at 12:11 am

      Yeah because they want you to have a barbeque with lots of alcohol

  10. Nichole

    July 15, 2014 at 5:02 pm

    Hanging my head in shame- I share 3 of mine on Facebook during my last pregnancy. First one to announce we were pregnant with twins, one a few weeks later that clearly showed 2 babies and a 3rd of their heads side-by-side later on. I really only shared them because it was crazy seeing 2 on the ultrasound at the same time.

    • AE Vorro

      July 15, 2014 at 6:05 pm

      I think not-so-typical ultrasounds are share-worthy. I would LOVE to see one of twins! Hasn’t happened to any of my close friends, thus far.

    • jane

      July 15, 2014 at 6:11 pm

      My husband’s best friend let my husband know that they were having babies 2+3 by sending him the ultrasound. Given that baby 1 wasn’t even a year old when this ultrasound happened, it was a pretty good way to share the news. The reaction was like this “what tha…oh X+Y are having a…wait…HAHAHAHAHA.”

    • Maria Guido

      July 15, 2014 at 7:41 pm

      I’ve actually never seen an ultrasound with twins and I think i would love to!

    • Nichole

      July 15, 2014 at 8:35 pm

      The first was at 8 weeks and the second was 11-12 weeks. A friend said they were in bunk beds in the second one.

    • jo

      July 16, 2014 at 12:14 am

      Awhhhhhhh

    • Nichole

      July 16, 2014 at 10:02 am

      Twins is a little crazy!

  11. Karin

    July 15, 2014 at 5:06 pm

    In my first ultrasound, I saw a gerbil. No lie, that’s as the first thing I said to the OB. I started laughing and said, “It looks like a gerbil!”

  12. amp

    July 15, 2014 at 5:36 pm

    Mine looks like a little gummy bear with stubby arms. In my video you can see it waving its stumpy gummy bear limbs. I admit, I sent it to a few friends (just a clip of it waving) asking them if it was normal for a gummy bear to implant in my uterus. I thought it creepy and hilarious. No one else thought it was as funny as me though šŸ™

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    July 15, 2014 at 5:41 pm

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  14. AE Vorro

    July 15, 2014 at 6:04 pm

    My cousin’s ultrasound for her second son was epic. She asked the sonographer not tell her the sex, but her baby’s penis was the ONLY thing you could see. Needless to say, she looked at the picture and we had a gender-specific baby shower…

  15. Neonstarr

    July 15, 2014 at 6:17 pm

    I got my first ultrasound at 11weeks, and I was amased it look like a baby. I didn’t post it in facebook but I did send it to close friends ,as a way of telling them I’m pregnant- hey, guess what! Boom ultrasound picture.
    And I sent it to my parents, and siblings.

    Facebook still doesn’t know I’m pregnant, which apparently is strange for people that I don’t want my pregnancy in status’s and wall posts.

    • Guest

      July 16, 2014 at 8:37 am

      My husband and I haven’t posted anything about my pregnancy on Facebook. We’ll probably end up announcing the birth on it, just so that people finally know, but overall, we’re like “if you’re actually a friend, you already know”.

    • Neonstarr

      July 16, 2014 at 5:08 pm

      Exactly! That’s what we plan on doing šŸ™‚

  16. Hibbie

    July 15, 2014 at 6:17 pm

    My mom framed the ultrasound picture I sent her. She’s adorable.

    • TashaB

      July 16, 2014 at 2:23 pm

      Both my mom & my MIL did that – munchkin is the first grandchild and they were both ridonk excited

    • Larkin

      July 16, 2014 at 2:43 pm

      My mom made mine the background on her laptop. She does that with almost any photo I send her; it’s become a running joke to my husband and me at this point.

  17. Jennie Blair

    July 15, 2014 at 6:36 pm

    I shared a few of mine, not all and no crotch shots, but a very scary one that took the cake for scariest fetus ever from my friend.

  18. Zettai

    July 15, 2014 at 7:06 pm

    Jeez. I barely want to look at MY ultrasounds. The latest looks like X-ray baby, with a face-front skull and its pretty freaky. My husband sends them to his mom but I’m not sure why. “Hey the kid is still alive” I guess, which I suppose, is why we go to the doctor at all.

  19. Yves

    July 15, 2014 at 11:22 pm

    …i like to see friends ultrasound pics. I think they’re the coolest! Maybe i’m in the minority?

  20. Colleen

    July 16, 2014 at 10:38 am

    This. A million times this.

  21. Benwhoski

    July 16, 2014 at 2:20 pm

    Honestly, I’m pretty indifferent to standard, 2D ultrasounds because I usually don’t know what I’m looking at anyway. They just like grainy black and white blobs to me.

    As opposed to the 3D ultrasounds that look like they were taken directly from my worst fever-fueled nightmares.

  22. Larkin

    July 16, 2014 at 2:35 pm

    Yeah, I’ve never understood posting the ultrasound on Facebook. Your random friends you haven’t seen since high school don’t really want to see it. Haha. I emailed it to my family and my in-laws, and I showed it in person to a couple of friends and coworkers who wanted to see it… but that was it. I will say that pretty much everyone was actually pretty intrigued/horrified by the 3D ultrasound they did at my 20-week anatomy ultrasound, so that one got a lot of attention when I showed it to people. Though I did feel vaguely guilty when my mom told me she cried over how beautiful it was after my husband and I kept prefacing it with, “Check out our scary monster baby!” Haha.

  23. Jayamama

    July 16, 2014 at 4:54 pm

    The only time I didn’t mind an ultrasound on facebook so much was when my sister-in-law was announcing that she was having twins. It was great to see two little blobbies rather than just one. Other than that, I don’t really want to see your ultrasound. Kthx.

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