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World Breastfeeding Week: 10 Reasons Why We Don’t Cover Up

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For every story out there about a woman being shamed for breastfeeding in public, there is a person who insists they don’t have a problem with it, yet follows that statement with “but why can’t she just cover up?” Or “why can’t she just bring a bottle when she’s in public?”

Asking a woman to “cover up” because you’re uncomfortable with a totally legal, totally natural act is absurd. Also, “covering up” is not as easy as it sounds. There are several reasons why breastfeeding moms are unable to shield their offensive boobs while trying to feed their children.

1. Some babies don’t like to nurse in a sweat lodge.

Some babies actually will not breastfeed under a cover. If you are confused by this, why don’t you try bringing a blanket with you to dinner and placing it over your head. How is your dining experience?

2. Babies get hungry.

Babies arbitrarily get hungry, and we forgot to bring the cover we don’t own. We were too busy thinking about caring for our children to plan a trip to Buy Buy Baby to buy a cover-up so strangers can feel more comfortable around us.

3. Poor engineering.

A lot of breastfeeding cover ups are made of non-breathable fabric. Truth. We don’t understand this.

4. Because we don’t have to.

There is no law against it, so why do we have to buy one of these things anyway? Need we remind you that breastfeeding in public is legal?

5. There are actual offensive things out there.

Have you turned on CNN lately? There are actual legitimate things in the world to be concerned about.

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158 Comments

  1. Bleu Cheese Bewbs

    August 5, 2014 at 9:10 am

    Waiting on the “Why can’t I whip it out and piss in public” people to get here.

    • Nameless Mom

      August 5, 2014 at 9:15 am

      Oh, but they are whipping it out and piss in is the thing. I’ve never seen a woman breastfeed in public, but last Sunday I saw someone pissing in broad daylight. Good thing I didn’t have the kids. Would be lovely to explain to my stepson why that guy gets to and he doesnt. “Why do I have to keep m I ne covered?” Is easy to explain by siding “because yours aren’t feeding a baby”

    • 2Well

      August 5, 2014 at 10:01 am

      I actually had a friend whip it out and piss one night. Right there in the bushes. Not hidden at all; he just made sure to hit the bushes. Not the most populated street, but we were looking for a bus so people frequent there. It’s only mildly funny when you’re drunk.

    • Spongeworthy

      August 5, 2014 at 9:32 am

      But, but…men can’t take their penis out in public!! This is a problem! It’s not fair! I mean, sure, they can take their shirts off outside, and no one will say a word, but it still isn’t fair. Because something something I can’t stand that women are using their boobs for purposes other than my enjoyment I DONT WANT TO SEE THAT.

    • ASG

      August 5, 2014 at 9:40 am

      Hey I can pee outside without pissing on myself…I just can’t write my name in the snow without falling on my ass

    • Spongeworthy

      August 5, 2014 at 9:52 am

      Not gonna lie…I feel like it would be really fun to be able to write your name in the snow. Especially when drinking. Alas, I just don’t have enough range of motion in my hips to get the job done.

    • Alene

      August 5, 2014 at 1:32 pm

      I have tried. Growing up with four brothers in Wisconsin only left so many options for wintertime entertainment. And no, it did not turn out well for me

    • Bleu Cheese Bewbs

      August 5, 2014 at 10:02 am

      I do love how mercurial they are about boobs. On one hand, they’re all “SHOW ME YOUR TITTAYS!”, and on the other, “YOUR TITTAYS ARE DISGUSTING PUT THEM AWAY!”. I really don’t get it.

    • keelhaulrose

      August 5, 2014 at 10:09 am

      “Show them to me when I can objectify them/you, but when I see they have a function… EWWWWW. They have to have purpose TO ME, not to an infant who needs nutrition.”

    • canaduck

      August 5, 2014 at 3:04 pm

      Pretty much this exactly.

    • WriterLady

      August 5, 2014 at 3:46 pm

      What if you can detect the bulge through their pants? Can I complain then? Kind of like a shirt being too low-cut and showing some cleavage, which of course means that a girl is a slut-bag? (Note to self: Throw out all shirts that have a V-cut shape, but keep the bikini. Because it’s okay when I’m swimming.) I’m soooo confused now.

    • Spongeworthy

      August 5, 2014 at 3:48 pm

      I’m not sure, but I think the proper protocol there is to tell the guy he needs to be more discreet and ask him why he can’t be classy while out in public.

    • Frannie

      August 5, 2014 at 11:45 am

      I always like to ask those people if they would drink urine from another man’s exposed penis, since it’s so clearly the exact same thing. Oddly enough, so far I have yet to get a yes.

    • Kathryn Mackenzie

      August 5, 2014 at 11:59 pm

      I’ve never understood how they think that’s a valid argument. They can already run around showing of their uncovered chests even when they have man-boobs, so they have no right to complain about women being briefly uncovered for an actual reason. The ‘piss in public’ argument would only count if they were complaining that women get to drop their knickers and pee out in the open, so why can’t they.

  2. Andy

    August 5, 2014 at 9:14 am

    I refuse to use one of those nursing tents. Personally I find them cumbersome, and I feel I may as well wave around a flag with “Breastfeeding over here!” when I whip one out. Not exactly discreet. Instead, I wear a shirt that the neckline can be pulled down, and use a long sheer scarf-I have a bunch of them. Most people can’t even tell I’m feeding my baby.

    • Frannie

      August 5, 2014 at 11:40 am

      I TOTALLY agree! Whenever I used my nursing cover I got a lot more looks than when I didn’t, and I felt actually more exposed because people took one look and knew exactly what was happening. And this whole myth of “why don’t you use a cover?” being a solution is total BS. People still gave me dirty looks for nursing in public with the cover. People who hate public breastfeeding are no nicer to you for covering up. They’re going to hate you no matter what you do, so just do whatever makes you and your baby comfortable.

    • guest

      August 6, 2014 at 10:01 am

      This is true. I have a friend who really is just beyond grossed out by breastfeeding. Judging by how disturbed she is at talking about it I know that if she saw it in public with or without a cover it would still gross her out to no end. Nothing is going to change that for her (since it is her issue and something to do with her negative mindset on bodies) so there is no helping it.

    • SunnyD847

      August 5, 2014 at 12:18 pm

      I usually wore a cami under a shirt so when I nursed the over shirt went up and the undershirt got pulled down and very little was exposed. I nursed EVERYWHERE and if people noticed, they rarely said or did anything that let me know.

  3. rockmonster

    August 5, 2014 at 9:18 am

    Oh no, a boob that isn’t being used for sexual activity! Society will break down!

    Again, urine and semen are not nutritious!

    • The Actual Devil

      August 5, 2014 at 10:16 am

      Actually, there’s a whole cookbook on Amazon with nothing but semen recipes that claims it’s quite nutritious,

      I just needed to tell someone that.

    • rockmonster

      August 5, 2014 at 10:29 am

    • The Actual Devil

      August 5, 2014 at 10:35 am

      I wish I didn’t even know.

    • JenH1986

      August 5, 2014 at 11:47 am

      I feel the need to look for this now…thanks.

    • Maria Guido

      August 5, 2014 at 12:56 pm

      Don’t do it!

    • JenH1986

      August 5, 2014 at 1:03 pm

      Too late. Not ok. You’d think when The Actual Devil says something I would know better.

    • whiteroses

      August 5, 2014 at 2:40 pm

      I saw that cookbook and showed it to my husband. He walked away muttering something about deviant whack jobs.

    • JenH1986

      August 5, 2014 at 5:56 pm

      Do you have a FB. I have a group you might be interested in.

  4. JulySheWillFly

    August 5, 2014 at 9:28 am

    I couldn’t cover up even if I really wanted to. Nursing is freaking hard and I needed to see what I was doing or we couldn’t maintain a latch. The only way I could successfully nurse while covered up is if I miraculously grew a third hand and developed x-ray vision.

    Also, the bottle argument is frustrating. Where do people think the milk that goes in the bottle comes from? It’s much easier for you to avert your eyes than it is for me to spend 45 minutes pumping each time I want to leave the house for an hour.

    • Spongeworthy

      August 5, 2014 at 9:45 am

      It was great being able to pump and have bottles when I went to work or was going to be away from my kid for an overnight, but if we were all going out for just a few hours, bringing a bottle was a giant pain in the ass. We had to make sure it stayed cool, then figure out how to warm it up somehow when he was ready for it…no thanks. Way easier for me to find a place to sit for a few minutes and let him nurse, then go back on my merry way.

    • SunnyD847

      August 5, 2014 at 12:15 pm

      I never wanted to waste my supply of “liquid gold” when I was with the baby. The milk I pumped was saved so I could occasionally go places without the baby.

    • Harriet Meadow

      August 5, 2014 at 10:03 am

      Yeah, I had difficulty breastfeeding my son for three months. In the meantime, we had to use a nipple shield, and he had to be positioned just right, held just right…it was impossible to do with a cover on. So we didn’t use a cover. Boom.

  5. ASG

    August 5, 2014 at 9:36 am

    Love # 9. Have boobs will travel!

  6. Bleu Cheese Bewbs

    August 5, 2014 at 9:37 am

    #11 – Because we don’t want to cover up.

  7. Lindsey

    August 5, 2014 at 9:37 am

    If my breasts are so attractive and desirable to you, even when a child is using them for sustenance, there is something wrong with you…not me.

  8. ASG

    August 5, 2014 at 9:37 am

    The only time I used my cover was when I was in the car pumping while hubby was driving

  9. whiteroses

    August 5, 2014 at 10:08 am

    My son was formula fed. I had a lot of people stop me and tell me I was poisoning him, which let me tell you is super helpful when you’re suffering from PPD and firmly convinced you’re the worst mother ever because you’re not quite sure killing yourself is such a bad idea.

    Helpful hint, assholes: unless a kid is picking through the garbage, keep your mouth shut. Breast feeding is not the same as topless dancing, formula isn’t anthrax, and it’s not your damn business what a mother does with her breasts unless you use those breasts attached to that exact woman for sexyfuntimes. Pissing in public is nasty, semen has no nutritional value, and did I mention it’s not your business?

    (Sorry y’all- this topic angers me).

    • Williwaw

      August 5, 2014 at 10:30 am

      I can sympathize – my son was fed a mix of formula and pumped milk from a bottle because he was never able to latch properly. However, I usually tried to find a quiet secluded space to feed him from his bottle if we were in public, because I wanted to avoid the Judgy McJudgersons.

    • whiteroses

      August 5, 2014 at 4:09 pm

      Yes. All of this.

    • Michelle Pittman

      August 6, 2014 at 2:03 pm

      me too — except i kind of loved the formula for the bedtime & midnight feedings because i had TWO horrible sleepers and when the 2nd one came around, i had a 3 year old toddler to deal with who NEVER napped when the baby did and i was freaking tired and couldn’t get more than hour of sleep at a time — except when i used formula at night…

    • WriterLady

      August 5, 2014 at 3:41 pm

      Thank you. The vitriol flows both ways, and I’m super-tired of having people tell others how to feed their young children. I was a FF mother as well, yet I fully support BF mothers–including the normalization of breastfeeding in public. In return, I expect that I won’t be told that my kid is going to develop various illnesses and have an IQ below 50. (I know this is a minority of BF activists, but I hear it and see it too often for my liking.)

    • whiteroses

      August 5, 2014 at 4:14 pm

      I will absolutely never understand why people feel they have the right to tell perfect strangers what to feed their kids or how to feed them. If the child isn’t being abused (and formula isn’t abuse) it’s nobody else’s right to step in, and if you’re under the impression that someone should feed their kid in the way you deem fit just so they don’t make you uncomfortable, you are vastly overestimating your own importance.

      I don’t have to explain what I do with my body and the reasons why I do it to anyone. My kid is happy, healthy and well adjusted. As long as those things are true, everyone but my husband and my kid’s grandparents can step off.

    • WriterLady

      August 5, 2014 at 4:34 pm

      Agreed. Except that in my case one grandparent can also step off the pedestal (my MIL lectured me for all of the reasons why I should be breastfeeding a mere week out of the hospital and still recovering from just having a baby).

  10. keelhaulrose

    August 5, 2014 at 10:20 am

    My friend pulled the most awesome comeback the other day. She, some friends, and I were at a restaurant with her newborn. Baby gets hungry, she starts nursing… No issues for five minutes. Waitress even asks if she wants a box to rest her tea on so we don’t have to keep lifting it for her (big baby takes two hands). After five minutes dudebro sitting across from us complains loudly about her breastfeeding, and asks if she “gets off” on showing everyone her breasts. Without missing a beat friend replies “honey, I strip for a living. This view would normally cost you a $20 cover charge. I know I’ve seen you there before, so you have no problems paying to see them, but when they’re free it’s bad?” Dudebro shut up.
    She’s not a stripper, but she has been a bartender in a strip club. She says she’s not sure if she’s really seen him, but she knows the type.

    • allisonjayne

      August 5, 2014 at 10:26 am

      AWESOME.

    • Véronique the Attachment Shark

      August 5, 2014 at 12:20 pm

      EPIC

    • Maria Guido

      August 5, 2014 at 12:54 pm

      That’s amazing.

    • Alene

      August 5, 2014 at 1:29 pm

      Please hug her for me.

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    • the_ether

      August 6, 2014 at 5:28 pm

      Filing that away.

  11. allisonjayne

    August 5, 2014 at 10:30 am

    Absolutely (on all) especially #9. Honestly, one of the main reasons I chose to breastfeed was because it seemed a lot easier (and cheaper) than using formula. I swear, breastfeeding advocacy groups need to focus on that stuff more than the whole ‘bonding’ and ‘better for your baby’ stuff. Those things may be true, but they’re hard to judge and quantify.

    But not having to measure formula and clean bottles? That’s tangible.

    • Boots

      August 7, 2014 at 3:00 am

      Not having to measure formula & clean bottles at 3am? That’s priceless…

  12. Guest

    August 5, 2014 at 10:33 am

    You have every right in the world to feed kids where they want to be fed. Other people have every right to open carry firearms if they want to. It doesn’t mean that its a good idea to do either just because you can though.

    • rockmonster

      August 5, 2014 at 10:56 am

      Right. You wouldn’t feed a baby in the middle of street traffic.

    • Guest

      August 5, 2014 at 11:11 am

      What I am getting at is if you are doing something functional (going hunting or out and about and the kid is hungry) then I don’t see an issue.
      If you are doing it for attention “look at me look at me I am so cool and making such a great point” then you are a moron.
      Its perfectly possible to carry a firearm quickly and without flash from point a to point b and its easy to put up a piece of fabric while feeding is going on. If you don’t do either then you are probably trying to make a public point.

    • rockmonster

      August 5, 2014 at 11:43 am

      Problems with that logic:
      1. Babies are animate beings and therefore can move by themselves. (They’ll throw the cover off.)
      2. Quite a few babies out there do not like the feeling of fabric on their heads.
      3. Heat waves can and do occur to the level of making covers really uncomfortable.
      The only time I’ve ever heard of someone breastfeeding for attention was some hippie twat with flower crowns kneeling in front of a formula booth on World Breastfeeding Day.

    • Guest

      August 5, 2014 at 12:54 pm

      1. No issue, just put it back in place.
      2. It doesn’t have to be on their heads.
      3. If its that hot what are you doing feeding a baby outside?
      4. Not relevant. And, BTW a bullet can be used to bag yourself some food.
      And yes, that kind of activity is exactly the same as the dude carting around a shotgun for no real reason. We are not really arguing here-as long as someone isn’t using breast feeding for attention I don’t have a problem with it.

    • rockmonster

      August 5, 2014 at 1:12 pm

      We are arguing because you said that not using a cover was the same as only breastfeeding for attention. Or do you just not remember that?

    • Guest

      August 5, 2014 at 1:22 pm

      I do remember that and I stand by that. Have seen public breastfeeding hundreds of times and have never seen it without a cover. What makes those hundreds of women capable of doing that? Are they all super-women?

    • whiteroses

      August 5, 2014 at 1:27 pm

      Every baby is different. Just because all those babies could nurse under a cover doesn’t mean all babies everywhere can.

    • rockmonster

      August 5, 2014 at 1:28 pm

      No, you asshat, those moms all got babies who are okay with nursing with covers.babies have preferences just like any other human, and they are very adamant and vague about them. And you know what? Babies don’t give a damn about strangers’ taboos.

    • Guest

      August 5, 2014 at 2:00 pm

      Fine, I will but that some tiny % of babies like it better without a cover. Does that mean you have to pick the busiest possible spot to feed then? Or can you pick a spot to to do it quietly?

    • Guest

      August 5, 2014 at 2:01 pm

      buy not but….

    • whiteroses

      August 5, 2014 at 2:01 pm

      Do you have kids, out of curiosity? Because I’m willing to bet that if you did, you’d understand that a newborn really doesn’t understand the concept of “waiting until the nice man isn’t uncomfortable with Mommy’s boobies”.

    • Tara

      August 5, 2014 at 3:42 pm

      whiteroses, I think you mean “waiting until the giant doucehbag isn’t uncomfortable…”

    • Véronique the Attachment Shark

      August 5, 2014 at 2:13 pm

      Why would I even HAVE to cover my baby up while he’s feeding? Like many have said before and many will say again, maybe YOU’RE the one who should eat with a blanket on your head if the sight of a breastfeeding woman without a cover offends you so much.

    • Fondue

      August 5, 2014 at 3:59 pm

      Hundreds of times and you still can’t get used to it? And where do you hang out that there are that many breastfeeding mothers around? Maybe you need to choose not to hang out where mothers are likely to feed their babies or young children. Are you a pedophile that hangs around playgrounds or something?

    • The Actual Devil

      August 5, 2014 at 4:04 pm

      I think he’s just making stuff up as he goes, a lot of young children do that when trying to argue.

    • rockmonster

      August 5, 2014 at 1:22 pm

      Breasts don’t fire lethal projectiles. Try again.

    • Guest

      August 5, 2014 at 1:28 pm

      Nice distraction. That is not the argument. The argument is people doing things for attention rather than function.
      You are honestly telling me that when and if you have to breastfeed in public your only option is to always go to the most crowded area you can possibly find and feed without a cover?

    • rockmonster

      August 5, 2014 at 1:38 pm

      No, but I’m sure you bitches will look for the breastfeeding moms in the corners and clutch your pearls, while the rest of us men and women will just say, “Oh, kid’s hungry” and ignore it. we know that you will piss and moan at mothers who are breastfeeding in public, even if they are in the designated lounges.

    • whiteroses

      August 5, 2014 at 1:43 pm

      These are also the same people who bitch at formula feeders. I remain firmly convinced that there’s an entire section of the population who would prefer if moms stayed in their houses and never left them until their kids were eighteen.

    • JJ

      August 5, 2014 at 9:34 pm

      Breastfeeding is a legal right women have including public breastfeeding. Don’t like it look away. Some women like privacy or are self concious and go to private rooms but they aren’t always available. And some women are more used to it and comfortable doing it wherever they have to in order to feed baby. Were not talking about people breastfeeding a freaking 10 year old or school aged kids. Its typically small babies and maybe toddlers at the most.

    • Véronique the Attachment Shark

      August 5, 2014 at 1:45 pm

      well, I don’t know about you, but I know that MY breastmilk is LETHALLY… yummy to my kid. Boom. I went there 😉

    • whiteroses

      August 5, 2014 at 2:24 pm

      1. Have you ever breastfed a baby? They kick. They flail. It would take as long to replace the cover as it would to just get on with it.
      2. I don’t think you know how fabric works. Or breastfeeding. The milk goes in the mouth, which means that the fabric would be over the kids head.
      3. Yes- a sixty degree day and a layer of cloth over someone’s nose and mouth doesn’t cause any heat at all. Ever.
      4. The bullet and breast milk comparison is pretty stupid.

    • Wicked Prophet Kay Sue

      August 5, 2014 at 4:55 pm

      Bullets have no nutritional value?! THERE GOES MY DIET, THANKS A LOT ROCK MONSTER.

    • rockmonster

      August 5, 2014 at 5:03 pm

    • Guinevere

      August 5, 2014 at 5:07 pm

      between bullets and urine, you should have a balanced diet.

    • Wicked Prophet Kay Sue

      August 5, 2014 at 5:11 pm

      I feel like we are on to something.

    • rockmonster

      August 5, 2014 at 5:13 pm

      Of course, don’t you know anything about science?
      http://www.reactiongifs.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/06/duh.gif

    • Fondue

      August 5, 2014 at 5:36 pm

      Don’t forget about semen to round it out!

    • JenH1986

      August 5, 2014 at 11:50 am

      Define functional? going out to eat? That’s functional. Going shopping? Functional. Going to the park? Functional. Going for a walk? Functional. Going to the grocery store? Functional. Feeding a baby? functional. So what you’re saying is a woman should feed her baby as she sees fit?

    • Guest

      August 5, 2014 at 12:50 pm

      I am saying if she does that and is discreet about it there should never be a problem. If she makes a big production about it it says a lot about her-it says the exact same thing that the d-bag toting around the shotgun in yesterday’s story.

    • Maria Guido

      August 5, 2014 at 12:53 pm

      Define “making a big production” out of breastfeeding? I usually leave my soapbox and neon sign at home.

    • Guest

      August 5, 2014 at 1:04 pm

      Moving to the center of a busy location and/or not covering up. In other words, I have no issue with 99% of people who breast feed out in public, just as I have no real issue with people who open carry enroute to hunting or target shooting.
      I simply don’t like grandstanding attention hogs.

    • JenH1986

      August 5, 2014 at 1:06 pm

      So feeding your kid in a busy location is grandstanding? Does that go for formula feeders? Or parents who feed their kids chicken nuggets in a busy location? No?

    • Guest

      August 5, 2014 at 1:23 pm

      Jen, read again please. If you intentionally position yourself in the middle of a busy area yes it is grandstanding when you could easily breastfeed in a quieter area. I.E. you can feed in the booth at McDonalds or you can feed in line while you are ordering. The booth is not grandstanding. See the difference?

    • whiteroses

      August 5, 2014 at 1:29 pm

      Unless she’s yelling “see my tits, my tits are awesome, look at my tits”, she’s performing a basic biological function and you can easily look away.

    • guest

      August 5, 2014 at 2:03 pm

      If you pick the most busy, most public place to feed sans cover that you can find you are exactly yelling “see my tits”.

    • whiteroses

      August 5, 2014 at 2:06 pm

      Not unless you actually say it.

      You’re projecting your hang ups on the world at large, and I’m sad for you. Also, where are these multiple grandstanding breast feeders? Where do you find them? Because a news story or some woman you once saw on the bus doesn’t count.

    • allisonjayne

      August 7, 2014 at 10:17 am

      No, you’re not. You’re doing what you need to do (I’ve breastfed on public transit, in public parks, walking down the street, etc) and your baby needs to be fed.

      Breastfeeding parents don’t automatically have no other needs or wants or things they need to get done just because they happen to be breastfeeding.

      You see a woman nursing her baby on the subway and think “grandstanding show-off who wants everyone to look at her”, I think “woman taking the subway and her baby was hungry”. What’s that thing about zebras versus horses?

      It’s like saying there’s no difference between the dude who stands on the street corner screaming about JAY-SUS and the dude who sits on a park bench reading a bible.

    • JenH1986

      August 5, 2014 at 1:44 pm

      No. Because feeding my kid while we wait in line isn’t grandstanding, it’s feeding my kid. If I’m waiting in line and my kid wants chicken nuggets I’m feeding them chicken nuggets. I’m not asking for applause or recognition for feeding my kid. If I’m formula feeding in a busy location I’m not asking for applause I’m feeding my kid. and If I’m breastfeeding in a busy location, I’m not asking for applause I’m feeding my kid. Most mothers aren’t thinking about/looking for/expecting anything except to feed their kid. Your issues with BF are YOUR issues. Feeding a kid is feeding a kid.

    • Véronique the Attachment Shark

      August 5, 2014 at 1:47 pm

      OK so in one paragraph you say that most people you’ve seen do it under a cover and now you talk adamantly about all of these grandstanding BF mommies. Again, WHERE ARE ALL OF THESE HORRIBLE ATTENTION SEEKERS?? Do you actively seek them out??

    • kitty

      August 5, 2014 at 2:24 pm

      Like that woman who nursed in front of the formula booth right in the middle of the aisle. The flower wreath was very hippie.

    • whiteroses

      August 5, 2014 at 2:27 pm

      One example out of how many nursing mothers?

      Try again.

    • canaduck

      August 5, 2014 at 3:10 pm

      Dude, you are way way out of your league with this half-assed attempt at a comparison. I’m a little embarrassed on your behalf because you obviously know nothing whatsoever about breastfeeding and it’s making you come off as a real moron.

    • Véronique the Attachment Shark

      August 5, 2014 at 1:32 pm

      I have no idea where you encounter all these women dying for attention by breastfeeding. I mean, I’ve never encountered one, and when I’m breastfeeding (without a cover because I really DGAF), the last thing on my mind is to feel as though I want people to look at me – I just want to feed my son and it’s become the most normal thing in the world!

      I’m still waiting for all of you weirdos to come at me in public just so I can respond the way you all deserve to be responded to, but apparently you’re all really rare where I go. That or I have a serious case of the don’t fuck with me face.

      But I get the sense that maybe, you have read about a few women breastfeeding in weird ways online, or saw media reports about breastfeeding sit-ins made to protest unfair treatment, and now think that the majority of us just die for your undivided attention.

      The secret (and you must not tell) is that really, none of us give a fuck what sensibilities we might be hurting in the people who are uncomfortable. The discomfort belongs to you, not me.

    • Guest

      August 5, 2014 at 1:56 pm

      Actually, I don’t care about public nudity at all, so there will never be any discomfort on my part. My point was that women who embrace points 4-10 and shout out to the world that they are breastfeeding so hear them roar are doing exactly what Mr. Shotgun was doing.

    • Véronique the Attachment Shark

      August 5, 2014 at 1:58 pm

      you have yet to have answered my question. Have you ever encountered one of these people? If not, then perhaps it’s because they are so rare that they aren’t even worth being discussed – as much as you wouldn’t discuss any other rare exception in a normal dialogue. Focusing on the exception NEVER leads to productive debate. People keep using these rare “attention seekers” as a reason to continue wanting women to cover up, when really, it has nothing to do with that. So now, please, answer the damn question. Have you ever met one of these mythical “attention-seeking” creatures you keep insisting on bringing up? And if so, how many percentage-wise

    • whiteroses

      August 5, 2014 at 1:59 pm

      They’re not though. You’re arguing that people are afraid or uncomfortable with nudity bc OMG sex. Were that the case for most of the population, Kim Kardashian, most rappers, and nearly everyone in the entertainment industry wouldn’t have a career.

    • Véronique the Attachment Shark

      August 5, 2014 at 1:34 pm

      I think you have to better define “making a production out of it” because really, 99.999% of people will not intentionally walk into the middle of a room, take her shirt off and take her time to plug her kid up to her boob. You might have heard of that one person at the fair and now think we’re all like that.

      But if you see a woman sitting in the middle of the restaurant at a table with a whole lot of other people breastfeeding, or someone stopping at a bench in the mall, maybe, just MAYBE they’re just sitting. Not thinking of where they are and who is looking. They’re just going on about their day to day duties.

    • Guest

      August 5, 2014 at 1:50 pm

      I agree. No issue with any of what you said.

    • rockmonster

      August 5, 2014 at 11:51 am

      I would love for you to actually read the article instead of crowing, “lol dum attention whores who cant just put a cover on lel.”

    • guest

      August 5, 2014 at 12:48 pm

      Really? I did read the article. Why exactly can’t people be discreet? Please do elaborate.

    • whiteroses

      August 5, 2014 at 1:22 pm

      Because it’s not your responsibility to be the discretion police, some kids don’t feed under a cover, and if you don’t like it you really can look away. I promise the nursing mom won’t run after you and beg you to stare at her boobs.

      More to the point, it’s not your business. If it makes you uncomfortable, shut your eyes. Unless her nipples have tassels on them, I promise she’s not doing it for attention.

    • Guest

      August 5, 2014 at 1:31 pm

      The exact same logic should then apply to open carry then, right?

    • whiteroses

      August 5, 2014 at 1:35 pm

      The day bullets and breast milk become the same, you can make that argument. But I don’t seem to recall the last time a rogue breast feeder killed dozens of people in a movie theater using her breast milk. Maybe you can enlighten me?

    • guest

      August 5, 2014 at 1:46 pm

      white, its not the exact same thing, but it is the same process. There are 300 million guns and almost none of them are used in mass shootings. People have a totatlly irrational fear of them as compared to what is 99.97% more likely to kill them. The most dangerous thing on someone who is open carrying is statistically going to be his cell phone (distracted driving).
      Just like some people have a fear of nudity. It doesn’t have to be rational for people to fear it.

    • whiteroses

      August 5, 2014 at 1:50 pm

      What were telling you is that the comparison is specious at best. Most people don’t encounter guns in their every day lives, but if you’re so deathly afraid of nudity that breastfeeding offends you, then I hope you don’t use the internet, watch tv or have sex.

    • JenH1986

      August 5, 2014 at 3:25 pm

      Seeing a baby breastfeeding at absolute worst will make you uncomfortable. Seeing a loaded gun at the absolute worst can kill you. An errant nipple cannot kill you. Someone carrying a loaded gun can, even if it’s by accident. Your attempt to connect those is failing. I’m not sure if you’re trying to start a gun debate or are just not great at articulating your point but guns =/= breastfeeding. They aren’t the same thing.

    • Gangle

      August 5, 2014 at 6:17 pm

      there are three times as many tits and NONE of them have been used to kill people. Guns do and have killed people

    • Guest

      August 5, 2014 at 1:34 pm

      Also, would you have a problem with someone staring at you the whole time and/or taking pictures? If so, why?

    • whiteroses

      August 5, 2014 at 1:35 pm

      I would have a problem with any stranger taking pictures of my child without my permission. And when people stare at me I just assume they’re incredibly rude.

    • Guest

      August 5, 2014 at 1:48 pm

      So you have a problem with people taking pictures of you in public yet you want to be able to breastfeed in public without a cover whenever and wherever you want? Got it.

    • rockmonster

      August 5, 2014 at 1:51 pm

      Are you fucking… Okay, fuck it. You’re troll.This guy is a troll, everyone ignore him, you can’t change his mind, he won’t go away until we ignore him, let’s just go to a different thread.

    • The Actual Devil

      August 5, 2014 at 4:02 pm

      Seriously. I can’t handle the stupid today.

      Plus, nothing can top the perfection that is Spongeworthy’s GIF.

    • whiteroses

      August 5, 2014 at 1:53 pm

      Not of me, of my kid. I work in the tourism industry and am also a teacher. I have people taking pictures of me pretty much constantly.

      Also, I was a formula feeder. But breastfeeding moms have a legal right to feed wherever they see fit. You don’t like it, then tough titties. Literally.

    • Véronique the Attachment Shark

      August 5, 2014 at 1:36 pm

      well, as much as I would have an issue with ANYONE staring at me and randomly taking pictures of me at any time. It’s not different if I have my baby on my boob. Because at the end of the day, once the baby is on the boob, you can’t see much of the boob itself anyway.

    • rockmonster

      August 5, 2014 at 1:40 pm

      Yes! thank you! Babies’ heads are huge!

    • JenH1986

      August 5, 2014 at 3:21 pm

      That’s your definition of discrete. Someone else’s definition may be something else. Those in the Muslim faith believe women should be discrete by covering from head to do. The Christian faith is all over the place and then there are each of us individually. I don’t find a woman breastfeeding to be indiscreet, IF i notice she’s breastfeeding, I register a mom feeding her kid and move on. So you’re attempting to apply your subjective beliefs to a whole group of women. Bottom line: It’s very few women who are running around screaming “look at me breastfeeding”, if it makes you, your friends/family or the guy standing next to you in line uncomfortable then look away or tell them to look away. Lots of things make me uncomfortable, but unless someone is being injured, I let it go and usually have forgotten about it in a matter of minutes.

    • JJ

      August 5, 2014 at 9:30 pm

      Tits and guns are two different things completely. Guns kill people. No one I know of has ever died of seeing a breasts or being squirted with a drop of breast milk. Its milk not bullets. Lots of women breastfeed discretely without cover ups and you never know they are feeding because all you see is baby close to their chest on one side. That’s it. Also I can’t think of to many women besides a few rare nut jobs ones who go around flashing their tits saying look at me I have boobs and breast feed yay me. Most if not all women are concerned primarily about the crying hungry baby in front of them who needs nutrition. That’s it. They don’t sit there both boobs hanging out in the open for minutes at a time just for the heck of it.

    • Maria Guido

      August 5, 2014 at 12:51 pm

      What is this comparison? I don’t even know how to respond to this.

    • Guest

      August 5, 2014 at 1:01 pm

      You don’t think the dude in yesterdays story that everyone here was going off on (shotgun to corner store guy), could not use points 4-10 to justify his actions?
      They work exactly the same to justify not doing something, but to justify seeking attention for doing something. If you can’t see the nuance I can’t help you.

    • Katymonster

      August 5, 2014 at 1:02 pm

      Oh I didn’t realize that seeing a woman walking around with breasts full of milk could make people fear for their lives or worry a public killing was about to go down! My bad!

    • Guest

      August 5, 2014 at 1:12 pm

      Nudity makes some people uncomfortable. Guns make other people uncomfortable. Both are pretty irrational fears.
      Look, people have a right to do both activities, it doesn’t mean that they are d-bags for going out of the way to make others uncomfortable though.

    • Valerie

      August 5, 2014 at 1:14 pm

      And titties could totally kill people. It is literally the exact same thing. Why have I never made this connection before?!

    • Guest

      August 5, 2014 at 1:17 pm

      Of course its not the exact same thing. Its the exact same thought process though. People being shocking because they like being shocking. Are you honestly arguing that its impossible to be discreet while breastfeeding?

    • rockmonster

      August 5, 2014 at 1:25 pm

      It’s not always impossible, just some of the time, you uncultured insensitive swine. Aside from dumb lactivist hippies, breast feeding is almost never done for attention, even if covers aren’t used.

    • Guest

      August 5, 2014 at 1:41 pm

      We are basically in agreement then. I still have never seen anyone not use a cover in public so its awful hard to take this whole issue all that seriously. And I go back to my McDonalds case-if you were feeding out in public without a cover would you do it in a booth or in line to order? If you say booth we are in agreement.

    • rockmonster

      August 5, 2014 at 1:46 pm

      Okay, yes, a booth. but the world hasn’t ended because a nipple may be exposed for maybe three seconds. And the chick who does it in line might be hanging in the back behind everyone. she might also be in line because her order number got called.

    • Véronique the Attachment Shark

      August 5, 2014 at 1:50 pm

      have you ever seen someone BF in line? Maybe it was a long ass line, the person was baby-wearing, and didn’t want to go sit down and give up her spot in line – which in that case, you wouldn’t have seen anything because of the contraption the kid was in. Because at the end of the day, holding a kid while BFing is hard unless the kid is teeny tiny and then you have to carry a tray so really your example makes absolutely no fucking sense. well, as much sense as comparing a boob to a gun.

    • Tara

      August 5, 2014 at 3:39 pm

      I nursed my baby while walking around Target for twenty minutes last week. If I was in line at McDonalds and he was hungry I would do the same thing. You probably have never seen anyone not using a cover in public because it’s actually super easy to nurse a baby without showing any skin. It typically just looks like someone holding a baby.

    • Valerie

      August 5, 2014 at 9:13 pm

      Yeah I was a stealth ninja breast feeder. I cannot tell you how many times I nursed a kid in public and I know for a fact that not only did most people not know I was doing it, but none of them saw a single sliver of my boob at any time. I was just that good. And no, I never used covers- a creative combo of nursing camis underneath my shirts was all it took.

    • Gangle

      August 5, 2014 at 6:11 pm

      i nursed my baby walking down the street yesterday. She was hungry, i had places to go. No cover and nobody noticed…

    • Véronique the Attachment Shark

      August 5, 2014 at 6:52 pm

      HEY!!! You haven’t been here in a while, have you?!

    • Gangle

      August 5, 2014 at 10:10 pm

      Not for a while. Last minute preeclampsia diagnosis and induction followed by extended stay in hospital followed by half-hour feedings with a syringe at home and a million visits with a lactation consultant. Busy days!

    • Véronique the Attachment Shark

      August 6, 2014 at 5:06 am

      i,m so sorry to hear all of that!!! Is everything settling now?

    • Gangle

      August 6, 2014 at 5:27 am

      Things are ok, and it is more proof that things don’t always go as planned. It was pretty scary for both of us, but things are going really well. 🙂 Happy to have my long awaited for bubs!

    • brebay

      August 6, 2014 at 12:10 am

      You really think that many sleep-deprived moms set out every day with the. Goal of shocking a bunch of hypocritical prudes? It’s not like walking down the street with a gun, it’s like walking down the street with a latte.

    • Véronique the Attachment Shark

      August 5, 2014 at 1:28 pm

      well, i mean, if you get it squirted into your eyes and the person has an STI… maaaaaaaybe it could kill them just a little bit sometimes??? :S

    • Spongeworthy

      August 5, 2014 at 3:30 pm

    • Fondue

      August 5, 2014 at 3:51 pm

      Oh yeah, I see. Totally the same thing.

    • Spongeworthy

      August 5, 2014 at 3:56 pm

      Killing someone, feeding someone, all the same, amirite?

    • Wicked Prophet Kay Sue

      August 5, 2014 at 4:53 pm

      Where can I get one of those????

    • brebay

      August 6, 2014 at 12:07 am

      Whoever’s screen name is “Danger Tits” needs to pick a less confusing moniker. ..

    • Wicked Prophet Kay Sue

      August 5, 2014 at 4:54 pm

      I…what?! I can’t even…wait, what? I don’t even know how to respond to this.

      There’s a difference between being “uncomfortable” and being “afraid”. I own firearms. I’ve even written a piece on owning them for this site. And yet, I’d never think of describing someone who is uncomfortable with breastfeeding the same as someone who is afraid of firearms. It’s two completely different situations, two completely different emotions.

    • Gangle

      August 5, 2014 at 6:07 pm

      Since when did breastfeeding equal nudity? I don’t recall ever seeing any woman strip down to feed her baby ever.

    • brebay

      August 6, 2014 at 12:05 am

      One makes people uncomfortable because it kills 13,000 people a year. The other is a few square inches of boob. Get your head out.

    • Guest

      August 5, 2014 at 1:08 pm

      Also, see Rachel’s point right above mine. Pretty sure shotgun guy had that exact same thought process.

    • WhoremonalCrazyLotusSlugalo

      August 6, 2014 at 10:07 am

      I promise not to squirt you in the face with my milk if you promise not to shoot me in the face with yours bullets? I will take my big offensive boobs off and leave them at home if you leave your deadly weapons at home?

      I…
      http://www.reactiongifs.com/r/wtf3.gif

  13. Rachel Sea

    August 5, 2014 at 12:53 pm

    I am 32 goddamn years old, and I spent the bulk of the first two thirds of my life trying to make people who didn’t matter happy, and it made me completely miserable. Strangers can fuck off if they have a problem with anything I ever do. http://gifsec.com/wp-content/uploads/GIF/2014/03/Come-at-me-bro-GIF.gif

    • whiteroses

      August 5, 2014 at 2:40 pm

      Hell yes to this. Times a million.

  14. AE Vorro

    August 5, 2014 at 12:57 pm

    There are a articles that make these same points, but this was over-the-top well done!!! Daaamm, girl!

  15. Use

    August 5, 2014 at 1:20 pm

    LOOK AWAY! So much yes.

  16. scooby23

    August 5, 2014 at 5:36 pm

    Unless the woman in question is naked, standing up on a bench/table, spinning her boobs like a pinwheel with baby on one boob, the other spraying the civilians below with her milk, twerking, and screaming “LAAAAAAAAAA ZEEEEEEEHENYAH LOOK AT THESE TITTTIIIIIEEEESSSSS, I don’t think anyone is entitled to tell her to knock it off.

    • Fondue

      August 5, 2014 at 5:41 pm

      In this particular case, I would be the first person to tell her to knock it off.

    • scooby23

      August 5, 2014 at 9:24 pm

      I’d be the one doing a live report for Mommyish.

      “Attention-Seeking Woman puts on Crazy Breastfeeding Act to the Dismay of all Civilians”

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