Reddit Nanny Gets Aggressively Adorable Apology Letter From Kids, Including “F This Sh*T” Sentiment

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I have a great admiration for nannies and daycare workers. While I love my kids to death, I don’t love all kids, and I am sure that I could not do what they do. On top of having to deal with boisterous kids all day, nannies and babysitters face common dilemmas time and again: When the kids act up, how much should you tell the parents?

This obviously caring nanny posed her dilemma to Reddit, asking for advice on whether or not to tell the parents about this clearly unapologetic apology letter she received from the kids in her care:

“Hi parents! I’m a nanny for a family with two girls (4 and 8). They’re wonderful on their good days, but lately have been acting up. 

Last week, the older girl told their mother that the younger one had shouted at me and told me that she hated me, which their mother responded to by having the younger one send me an apology letter. The letter included some pictures, and I thought it was a lovely gesture, but I flipped it over to find this (a page with some decorative dots and the words “WHAT THE HELL!” and “Foc Shit Hell” underneath two crosses). 

I’ve never heard the girls swear, or seen them do anything like this before – I assume that the older girl wrote these, but I’m at a loss as to why, and I’m more concerned than upset. I plan on telling the mother that I appreciate the gesture – should I tell her about the extra writing?”


I suppose this is a matter that must technically be taken seriously, but I think it is absolutely hilarious. I also don’t think writing a curse word is abnormal behavior for a young kid who may have heard it spoken by adults before. Case in point: I remember reading my six-year-old sister’s diary when I was a kid (without her knowledge, of course), where she wrote, “I am a bitch. You are a bitch. She is a bitch.” She was very good at verb conjugation at a young age.

At face value, these kids don’t seem like sociopaths. They just seem like normal kids who aren’t very good at offering a sincere apology AT ALL. As a parent, I always want to know what my kids are doing, even if it includes writing curse words on the back of an apology note.

In this circumstance, I would hope that the nanny would tell the parents the entire story. If I was the parent in that situation, I would laugh and save the adorably insincere note for a future chuckle with my adult kids.

(Image: Christin Gasner/Shutterstock)


  1. K.

    April 8, 2014 at 9:34 am

    An “apology” card that says “fuck this shit” on the back is something I’d have a stern discussion about with my kid as I quietly slipped it into the pile of momentos from her childhood.

    • Robotic Socks

      April 8, 2014 at 11:23 am

      Obviously the right thing to do is write that brat a letter back in kind

      skroo u beech! go 2 hel!

    • kay

      April 8, 2014 at 1:53 pm

      we have, framed, a piece of paper filled with “jesus doesn’t want me to say bad words” written over and over from my husband’s childhood.

  2. Eve Vawter

    April 8, 2014 at 9:47 am

    I am a bitch, you are a bitch, she is a bitch <3

    • Bethany Ramos

      April 8, 2014 at 9:48 am


  3. Kay_Sue

    April 8, 2014 at 9:56 am

    I remember secretly scribbling swears in my diary as a kid too. I don’t think the behavior is weird or anything…I’d want to know about it, and we’d have a “talk” about it. I don’t necessarily think there’d be any punishment from an offense like this, but then, I swear like a sailor on Coco Heroin Puffs, although not so much in front of the kids, so I am biased.

    • Obladi Oblada

      April 8, 2014 at 10:32 am

      Me too! I watch it around my kids, but I have a mouth that would make a sailor blush…especially on the ball field. I really have to temper myself there but I’ll be damned if it isn’t hard.

    • Kay_Sue

      April 8, 2014 at 11:22 am

      Mine is while driving. I have internalized it now, but the monologue in my head is crazy obscene. And when the kids aren’t with me…it’s all fair game.

  4. Valerie

    April 8, 2014 at 10:13 am

    I am going to write “foc shit hell” on all the things.

    • Bethany Ramos

      April 8, 2014 at 10:15 am

      Hahhaha I love these crazy kids so much.

    • Bunny Lou

      April 8, 2014 at 3:48 pm

      You know those annoying as hell signatures on text messages that some people still use?

      Yeah, this is going to be mine now

    • Valerie

      April 8, 2014 at 4:31 pm

      Bunny Lou
      Foc Shit Hell

  5. Obladi Oblada

    April 8, 2014 at 10:34 am

    When I read “I am a bitch. You are a bitch. She is a bitch.” I sang it in my head like the Dr. Pepper commercial. Wouldn’t you like to be a bitch too?

  6. HaydenT

    April 8, 2014 at 11:29 am

    Why don’t you guys ever link directly to the Reddit posts?

    • Bethany Ramos

      April 8, 2014 at 11:36 am

      Updated, thanks.

    • Eve Vawter

      April 8, 2014 at 11:38 am

      I do. But you need to realize how lazy bethany is. #LordknowsIknow

      I am not even sure she is awake right now

    • Bethany Ramos

      April 8, 2014 at 11:40 am

      I DID MY BEST.

    • Eve Vawter

      April 8, 2014 at 11:40 am

      Your best kinda blows it out the B-hole ya know.

    • Bethany Ramos

      April 8, 2014 at 11:56 am


    • Eve Vawter

      April 8, 2014 at 11:57 am

      I love my #boltholeBethany

    • Bethany Ramos

      April 8, 2014 at 11:59 am


    • Robotic Socks

      April 8, 2014 at 11:57 am

      Now we’re talking poo.Nanny is the topic though.

    • Véronique Houde

      April 8, 2014 at 1:01 pm

      take your gd espresso machine out of ur cupboard u lazy bitch – you’ll be more productive on the good shit as opposed to the piss coffee you dare to drink everyday. HDY

    • Bethany Ramos

      April 8, 2014 at 1:19 pm

      I know!!!!! I truly need more caffeine in my life.

    • Véronique Houde

      April 8, 2014 at 1:36 pm

      You’re not pregnant so you have no excuse. 😉

  7. gothicgaelicgirl

    April 8, 2014 at 12:54 pm

    I’d be the bad nanny who writes back-
    Thank you for the apology letter-
    Now go fuck yourself while I burn your blankie.

  8. Jessica

    April 8, 2014 at 1:49 pm

    When I nannied I always felt uncomfortable telling the parents when the kids misbehaved. It was like I was tattling on them. So I had the kids tell the parents why they had a rough day. The kids were taking responsibility for their actions, & I could hear the version the kids were telling so there were no surprises. It worked well for us!

    • Bethany Ramos

      April 8, 2014 at 1:54 pm

      Great idea!

  9. jo

    April 8, 2014 at 2:16 pm

    My daughter wrote that her classmate was a “dam bitch” in her diary when she was 7, but I didn’t think anything of it because a diary is a perfect place to call someone a bitch if that’s how you feel! lol I think the nanny should be a little concerned, though…the crosses are what creep me out lol

    • SA

      April 8, 2014 at 3:00 pm

      Yeah, that’s what I thought! Something about the combination of cussing and crosses seems very sinister! 🙂

  10. evilstepmom

    April 8, 2014 at 3:40 pm

    I had to protect my one method of “discipline” while babysitting: “Do you want me to tell your parents?”
    They said no. They stopped what they were doing. I didn’t tell their parents.
    If they kept it up, I totally followed through!

  11. Former Childcare Director :)

    April 8, 2014 at 10:19 pm

    I worked childcare for a long time, & on it’s own, random use of ‘bad’ words (where I worked, they considered ‘fart’ a ‘bad’ word, so…) isn’t a big deal, especially for a child around 8.

    HOWEVER, given that she says both girls are typically good and have only recently begun acting up, THAT would concern me.

    & that would be enough for me to approach the parents but first I’d ask the girls what was up. Sit them down, explain we all get angry sometimes but that when you use mean or hateful words, they can hurt someone’s feelings. Say “You guys hurt my feelings when you wrote this…has anyone ever hurt your feelings before?” and get them talking. They’re a lot more likely to confide in a nanny/caregiver than a parent at that age (sorry but it’s true), so if someone is bullying them or worse, it needs to get found out before it gets worse.

    So nanny! If you happen to read this, please speak to those girls! Think on their recent behavior, talk stuff out with them and then follow your instincts! You might be their only line of defense and not even realize it.

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