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This Mom’s Heartwrenching Facebook Post Proves You Never Know What Other Parents Are Going Through
Every mom has experienced a public meltdown with their child. It’s stressful and embarrassing and often, there’s no way to stop it. Sometimes, when leaving isn’t an option, we just have to ride it out and hope that everyone around us is supportive. A mom’s recent Facebook post shows exactly how a bystander’s reaction can make or break the moment.
Taylor Myers was with her four-year-old daughter at Walmart when the little girl had a meltdown. Myers’ daughter, Sophie, has severe ADHD. They were in line to check out, and that’s when things got bad.
“As I stood in the customer service line of Walmart to cash my paycheck with a cart of groceries (and some wine), Sophie sat/stood/did head stands in the cart, whining over a bag of chips I took away and because she called me a butthole in line,” Myers wrote in her Facebook post. “She’s relentless. I know this. I live with it. Her ADHD and obsessive little heart gets on these subjects of things she finds unjust and wrong and it doesn’t stop until she eventually falls asleep or something very dramatic happens to snatch the attention off the obsessed-about subject.”
Myers knew that the only way to deal with her daughter during one of these episodes is to ignore her. She said that while she often will leave a store during one of Sophie’s tantrums, but she needed the groceries so she decided to ride it out. And that’s when a stranger decided to be an asshole.
“I tell her for the tenth time to sit down so she doesn’t fall and the next thing I hear is a woman behind me saying ‘oh, for Christ’s sake give her a cookie so she’ll shut up.'”
What a nice woman. /sarcasm
“I could’ve responded in a nicer way,” Myers wrote. “I could’ve explained to her that my four-year-old has pretty severe ADHD, I raise both my children alone, I’m doing my best, and had no choice but to wait it out for the groceries. Instead, I heard ‘she’s four years old and you need to mind your own f***ing business’ come out of my mouth.”
With tears streaming down her face, Myers took her cart over to the self-checkout. While she rung up her items, a woman approached them. But instead of being obnoxious, she actually helped make the situation better. Imagine that!
“As I scan my things, a woman walks up and begins to talk to Sophie. She asks her questions to distract her, but backs me up when Sophie begins to go on about wanting the chips…Honestly, this woman could’ve been the antichrist and I would’ve had more appreciation for her kindness and compassion than I have for anyone else I’ve encountered,” she wrote in her post.
Myers went on to point out that it’s impossible to know the entire story just by looking. “It only takes one comment to break someone down. You never know what someone’s going through. You never know the problems a child has that causes them to misbehave unless you know the struggle of being a parent to a child like mine, you cannot judge. But it also takes one small act of kindness to make a mama feel comfort and validation.”
She finished her Facebook post by writing, “Thank you to the woman in Walmart today, for showing that kindness to my children and I. Thank you for walking us out. Thank you for backing me up. Mamas have to stick together.”