Listen, a new mom needs to be given WHATEVER she asks for. Bringing a newborn home can be one of the most stressful and difficult moments in a new parent's life. And it doesn't necessarily get easier with subsequent babies. If you already have kids at home, adding a newborn in the mix can be incredibly hard. So when a new mom or dad asks that visitors kindly stay away for the first few weeks after baby comes home, then goddamnit, just stay away!
This seems like a PERFECTLY logical request. A lot of parents don't allow visitors in the hospital, and asking them to hold off until they family has settled in is totally fine! When I brought my babies home, I didn't want anyone around either. I was recovering, I was tired, I was stressed out. I also didn't want to expose the baby to germs or dirty hands. It's a brand-new baby, not a freaking puppy.
Again, wanting quiet bonding time as a new family shouldn't be a bad thing. People mean well, but lots of times, their offers to "help" end up being really unhelpful. The last thing you want to do is burden an already overburdened new parent.
Listen, folks. When a new mom tells you to stay away, just stay away. In fact, don't even make her tell you! Don't ask when you can come see the baby. Ask what she needs, and how you can help. Wait to be invited! And when you do come over, don't you dare let her get up from the couch.
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