New Mom Wants to Ban Visitors for a Month and Apparently That’s Not OK
Listen, a new mom needs to be given WHATEVER she asks for. Bringing a newborn home can be one of the most stressful and difficult moments in a new parent’s life. And it doesn’t necessarily get easier with subsequent babies. If you already have kids at home, adding a newborn in the mix can be incredibly hard. So when a new mom or dad asks that visitors kindly stay away for the first few weeks after baby comes home, then goddamnit, just stay away!
And whatever you do, don’t judge or criticize them for their decision, ffs.
One new mom posted a very simple question about asking visitors to stay away on “Mumsnet”, and lord. You’d think she’d said no one would be allowed to visit the new baby EVER.
This seems like a PERFECTLY logical request. A lot of parents don’t allow visitors in the hospital, and asking them to hold off until they family has settled in is totally fine! When I brought my babies home, I didn’t want anyone around either. I was recovering, I was tired, I was stressed out. I also didn’t want to expose the baby to germs or dirty hands. It’s a brand-new baby, not a freaking puppy.
Other moms on the board chimed in, agreeing with the OP. Some even offered suggestions on how to ask visitors to hold off.
I full agree with the poster suggesting that they not even tell anyone the baby is home.
Again, wanting quiet bonding time as a new family shouldn’t be a bad thing. People mean well, but lots of times, their offers to “help” end up being really unhelpful. The last thing you want to do is burden an already overburdened new parent.
Of course, since this is the internet, some people were in disagreement with the no visitors request.
Yes, obviously. Because every new mom is concerned with reaffirming OTHER PEOPLE’S LIVES.
Delivery services also bring gifts. They’ll leave it right on the porch and not even ring the bell, imagine that.
Oh, ok. I didn’t realize we have these things and commit to raising them forever for other people. Good to know.
Listen, folks. When a new mom tells you to stay away, just stay away. In fact, don’t even make her tell you! Don’t ask when you can come see the baby. Ask what she needs, and how you can help. Wait to be invited! And when you do come over, don’t you dare let her get up from the couch.
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