Movies can be a great escape. They can also give you an idea of the kind of person you want to be, and the kind of person you DEFINITELY don’t want to be. Growing up watching movies, there were plenty of movie moms I swore I would never turn out like; some were uncool, some were overbearing, others were absolutely bonkers. But now that I’m a mom, I’m realizing that I might have turned out a bit like all those moms I swore I would never be like. One day you wake up and it hits you like a ton of bricks: maybe I don’t care about wire hangers, but I will lose my everloving shit over crumbs in my bed. These 18 movie moms have plenty of issues, but in hindsight, they make some good points. Raising kids isn’t easy!

Movie moms can be sweet and loving. Or, they can be Faye Dunaway in Mommie Dearest. I think we’ve all got a little Joan Crawford in us.

Obviously, Joan goes a bit … overboard when she discovers a wire hanger in Christina’s closet. But honestly, how many times do we have to say, “NO <insert whatever it is that drives you up a wall>!” My kids would sneak into my bed during the day and eat crackers. CRACKERS. IN. MY. BED. I stopped buying crackers for a good long while.