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Someone Finally Admits That The ‘Mommy Wars’ Are All About Money

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Someone Finally Admits That The  Mommy Wars  Are All About Money shutterstock 92423857 263x200 jpgI hate the term, “Mommy Wars.” My biggest problem with it is that being able to be judged about a decision you make as a mother – to stay home with your kids or to work – implies choice. You can’t judge someone’s decision if it isn’t a decision at all.

Finally – a magazine cuts through the b.s. and conducts a poll about the Mommy Wars that actually makes sense. MORE magazine conducted a survey about the infamous wars – and they only polled women with money. Lesley Jane Seymour, MORE’s editor-in-chief, told the Huff Post:

You have to start from the premise that “this is a war of privilege,” Seymour says, because only women who have the means to forgo a salary and stay home are able to engage in the fighting. For that reason, The Polling Company, which conducted this survey, only included households with incomes of more than $75K, so as to compare the choices of women who could be considered to actually have a choice.

Exactly. I have adamantly insisted that the Mommy Wars don’t exist. Now I realize, they just don’t exist in my world. In my household, both of us have to work to support our family. I don’t have the luxury of contemplating whether I would like to solely focus on my family. I guess I could still have an opinion about which is better – but frankly, I have no idea. I’ve never been able to not worry about bills and constantly hustling up jobs – freelance and otherwise – to make a living. I really have no idea if I would enjoy solely focusing on my kids or continuing to work.

I don’t know if it makes me feel better or worse that this is an argument that I can’t even participate in. When you struggle financially – there are so many parts of parenthood where you feel “less than.” I don’t want to speak for anyone else – I’ll just say that many times I feel like I’m failing this whole “mom” thing because of my financial situation. Now I know that my opinion about the “Mommy Wars” doesn’t even matter because of my shaky financial ground.

Great.

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