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Hysterical Mom Plans ‘Sex Contracts’ So Her Precious Sons Can Avoid Rape Accusations

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Hysterical Mom Plans  Sex Contracts  So Her Precious Sons Can Avoid Rape Accusations shutterstock 121961872 1418657172 142 196 156 251 231x200 jpgSexual assault crimes on college campuses have reached such staggering numbers that it’s no longer possible to turn the other way. That’s a good thing, regardless of one ill-researched piece about this plague in a popular and well-respected magazine.

Since rumors of the validity of the accusations in the Rolling Stone piece about the alleged gang rape that happened at a UVA fraternity house surfaced, those who think fallacious accusations are just as big a problem as rape itself are crawling out of the woodwork. Most of them are Men’s Rights Advocates, of course — but some are just plain, old, hysterical mothers of sons. Like Peg Rosen, author of the opinion piece “Is the date-rape crusade hurting innocent young men?

Rosen is very concerned that she’s the mother of two sons that may someday fall into bed drunk with a woman and accidentally rape her. Or not. She’s echoing the same pathetic, victim-blaming myth the likes of Dear Prudence’s Emily Yoffe and Princeton Mom aka Susan Patton like to perpetuate: date-rape doesn’t really exist. It’s just sex with a drunk girl who regrets the choices she’s made and then launches false accusations. Here are some of her concerns:

“In this hyper-sensitized environment, it’s not an unreasonable stretch for me to imagine my own son or one of his friends drinking too much, falling into bed with a young woman who has also drunk too much, and waking up in the morning to discover he’s a ‘rapist.'”

Does this “hyper-sensitized” environment speak to one that expects enthusiastic consent from women? Does it speak to one that doesn’t recognize drunk-to-the-point-of-unconciousness members of either sex as able to consent? Then yes, I guess we are living in a hyper-sensitized environment. And it’s about time.

After the first predictable point about a drunken party, she launches quickly and inevitably into a victim-blaming diatribe:

“So what are young men to make of all this? Avoiding problems isn’t merely a matter of making sure a woman says ‘yes.’ As many of us who pawed and partied our way through young adulthood know, sex can be confusing, messy and full of second thoughts. My friends and I woke up on plenty of mornings, hungover and mortified about the stupid choices we’d made and the sketchy encounters we’d had. But do I think back for a minute on these incidents as anything approaching rape? Absolutely not.”

Am I to understand this woman really doesn’t get the difference between a drunken make-out session and rape? Let me make it clear for her: If a girl is so wasted she doesn’t know where she is, your kid should not be having sex with her. Is that a very confusing lesson to teach your sons? Teach your children the meaning of enthusiastic consent, lady. What is so hard about that?

A lot, apparently. She ends her piece hypothesizing about how she will protect her sons from all the women just waiting to hurl false rape accusations at them:

I will tell them not to let their passions dictate their actions. I’ll warn them to abstain from alcohol and drugs when mingling with girls. I’ll draw up contracts they can ask potential partners to sign before they engage in sex. Maybe I’ll even ask them to have a witness present.

Get a grip, moms of sons. Be better than this. To use layman’s terms — get your head out of your ass.

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