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Narcissist Mom Sells Daughter’s Concert Tickets, Then Brags About It On The Internet

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I know that teenagers can be difficult, but I am really over this trend of ‘tough love’ parents bragging about punishing their kids on the internet.

Cindy Bjerke, from Fargo,North Dakota bought her 18-year-old daughter tickets to Katy Perry’s Prismatic World Tour, which, if you are a teenager into pop music, is a HUGE deal. And then Bjerke’s daughter did what teenagers do, acted like a brat, so her mom sold the tickets on a closed Online Garage Sale Facebook group.

But instead of just posting the tickets for sale, Bjerke took the opportunity to make sure everyone who saw the listing knew she was doing it because she was such an awesome disciplinarian.

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Since the olden days when we put people in the stocks, Americans have loved a public shaming; so of course the tickets sold in less five minutes and Bjerke’s comments about her daughter received over 200 likes in just an hour. The post got so much attention that the group administrators had to delete her post entirely.

Teenagers can be brats. I get it. My own kids have a while to go before they hit the teen years, but my own mother has no problems telling me what a overly dramatic, entitled, sulky snot I was in high school, and I really was. I spent a lot of time being grounded and even more time doing chores around the house to reduce my sentence. I probably said ‘You’re ruining my life!’ and ‘Can I go to the movies?’ way more often than ‘I love you’ or even ‘Hi, Mom”. But still, taking away concert tickets seems like an over the top punishment. Music is such a big form of self expression, especially for teens who are defining their personalities. My parents gave me tickets to my first concert as a middle school graduation gift, and it remains one of my best childhood memories. I don’t know what Bjerke’s daughter did to deserve her tickets being taken away, but I think being 18 and having to explain to your friends why you aren’t going to go to the concert would be punishment enough in my book. There was no need to tell the whole internet as well.

Facebook has a ton of privacy settings, and Bjerke did post her ad in a closed Facebook group, but it was a closed group with over 17,000 members, none of which needed to know this family’s private business. Besides, closed group or not, putting something on the internet in any forum means you are opening yourself up to the risk that someone else shares it without your permission and with her cutesy font and ‘spoiled brat’ message, I think Bjerke was looking for internet confirmation of her superior parenting skills.

At the end of the day, its not my kid, so it’s not my call. Parents can punish their children as they see fit, but I would respect strict punishments like this one much more if mom and dad weren’t simultaneously looking for a parenting gold star from the internet.

(Photo:Twitter)

167 Comments

  1. Aimee

    August 1, 2014 at 12:15 pm

    UGHH. I would absolutely take privileges like concert tickets away from my kids if they didn’t deserve them. I don’t understand shaming your kid in front of the general public. Does she think her daughter is going to behave better for learning that her mother not only considers her a brat but is willing to tell the whole world so? I can understand making a FB post along the lines of “X has lost the privilege of doing Y, so please do not supply him/her with Y” But just “My daughter sucks”? How are you going to be a role model for how you want her to be, let alone encourage her to trust you, while pulling that shit? Hopefully this mom also has concert tickets someone can take away from her.

  2. Boozy Shark Lee

    August 1, 2014 at 12:22 pm

    I recently saw a woman posting a “deadbeat dad sale” in my local group and thought that was way over the top. Why do people need to post stuff for sale with a story? Just post and be done with it.

    • AP

      August 1, 2014 at 12:56 pm

      Because pity. She’s hoping people will feel bad for her and pay full price, or give her extra money, because poor, brave her is raising kids ALL alone with no help from useless dad.

      A lot of people will bite, and turn her sale into a springboard for a charity event. She’ll make out like a bandit.

    • Old Lady Phillips

      August 1, 2014 at 1:08 pm

      I tried to sell Face on the Facebook one particularly trying day, but that’s different, because he’s actually cute and I’m actually HILARIOUS.

    • Megan

      August 1, 2014 at 1:19 pm

      I tried to lease one of mine as an alarm clock. Kid wakes up waaaaay early.

    • LiteBrite(UterineDudebro)

      August 1, 2014 at 2:06 pm

      I tried to sell the boy too. I said something like “Free to a good home. Almost housebroken. Comes with own bag of Goldfish Crackers.”

      Surprisingly I had a few (joking) takers. One friend said “Throw in some free juice boxes and we have a deal.”

    • Old Lady Phillips

      August 1, 2014 at 2:18 pm

      Also, regarding the “deadbeat dad” post: I’m a pretty easy-going person about most social media stuff (selfies don’t bother me, pictures of your dinner don’t bother me, etc.) but I absolutely HATE when people trash their exes/spouses/family members on Facebook. I’ve had a lot of issues with my ex, but it’s not something I want to share with 700+ people. It accomplishes nothing in terms of negative consequences for the person it’s about, it makes the person who’s writing it look like an immature ass, and it makes everyone else really uncomfortable.

    • joanne

      August 1, 2014 at 2:28 pm

      And in the event their kid ever looks at their parent’s facebook profile either as a youngster or when they’re old enough to have their own account the parent is totally doing that thing by putting the kid in an awful situation.

    • Old Lady Phillips

      August 1, 2014 at 2:39 pm

      So true, and if she’s willing to trash her ex so publicly, there’s a good chance she’s saying the same stuff to and in front of her children. My mother talked trash to me about my father all the time, and from a young age–ironic, since he was actually the more responsible, consistent parent. And again, her doing this accomplished nothing, except to make me confused and upset.

    • Amber Starr

      August 1, 2014 at 5:05 pm

      One of my family members is CONSTANTLY posting statuses like “So over being nice to certain people. I’m done!!!!”. The absolute best is when this person posts “You should really stop posting passive-aggressive status updates. If you have something to say, be an adult and say it to their face!”

      I replied to the status “Please tell me that I’m not the only one who finds this completely ironic. PLEASE.”

      This person is a grown-ass adult and constantly posts passive-aggressive and/or attention-whorey crap on facebook that makes people totally uncomfortable.

  3. K.

    August 1, 2014 at 12:24 pm

    I’ve seen one instance of FB discipline that I thought was kind of appropriate, from a mother:

    “Hey, does anyone need any odd chores around the house done? Lawn maintenance, painting, washing cars, that sort of thing. X was suspended from school, taking effect this Thursday, and he is NOT going to sit around the house doing nothing. I can put him to work, but I’d rather he did the work for someone else so he knows why it matters to not always think of yourself. It’s free, by the way–no wages, no tips, nothing.”

    I thought that was okay. Maybe not?

    • K.

      August 1, 2014 at 12:25 pm

      I should clarify–Mom has robust privacy settings so the people on her feed are friends and family. She’s not pimping out her son to random strangers.

    • jo

      August 1, 2014 at 12:31 pm

      This is an excellent idea. Reminds me (weirdly) of the movie Gran Torino where Clint Eastwood’s character put the kid to work fixing up all the houses in the neighborhood, not just his.

    • Justme

      August 1, 2014 at 12:38 pm

      I think that’s perfectly fine.

    • Lilly

      August 1, 2014 at 12:45 pm

      I think that is OK as she is not just name calling the kid but explaining the rational for the decision as well given what she is asking of her friends — jobs around the house with no pay (explaining why helps the other people understand that giving the kid money of the sly will be detrimental to the issue at hand).

      In the example in the article it was to sell concert tickets there wasn’t really a need to call the child out — it could have been done in private with the child.

      my 2 cents

    • joanne

      August 1, 2014 at 2:26 pm

      I agree because without the background I would probably have insisted the kid take money. The kid who mows my lawn charges me such a small amount I feel the need to tip him and pay him more. (He set the price)

    • wispy

      August 1, 2014 at 2:24 pm

      I think it’s ok. She’s not shaming him, just stating a fact.

    • Heather

      August 1, 2014 at 2:24 pm

      I think this is perfectly fine because of how it was addressed. She didn’t call her son a “deadbeat” or “jerk” or anything negative.

    • midshine

      August 1, 2014 at 3:25 pm

      I don’t know about this. I don’t know why the kid got suspended, but if it was me, i’d feel humiliated that my parents were telling all sorts of people about it. Sure make them work but no need to tell everyone about the suspension. but maybe to me a suspension is a bigger deal than to others.

  4. Jem

    August 1, 2014 at 12:29 pm

    I think taking away concert tickets because someone is not following rules or acting respectfully is fair. I think to publicly shame your daughter and encourage others to laugh at her is not only emotional abuse, but it will be completely ineffective as a punishment and will just teach your daughter that you are mean spirited and frankly a little childish yourself.

    • Maria Guido

      August 1, 2014 at 12:33 pm

      I agree. This is just a trend that needs to die.

    • K.

      August 1, 2014 at 12:37 pm

      And lord, does this mother sound immature. If you’re going to sell the tickets and need the online platform to do it, sell the tickets. If you you really need to explain why a simple, “My daughter has lost a privilege” is fine.

      I don’t understand the glee in punishing one’s child. Maybe it’s just me, but having to punish my child is like a chink in my armor–I certainly wouldn’t celebrate it.

    • Jem

      August 1, 2014 at 12:44 pm

      That’s what bothers me the most. The trend of self congratulating and frankly celebrating in disciplining your child. Which technically would make it not discipline anyway, since in the strictest sense, discipline is supposed to correct a behavior. Period. Not serve any other purpose.

  5. Spongeworthy

    August 1, 2014 at 12:36 pm

    Whenever I see postings like this, I just think that it’s much more about the parent needing that outside validation from others. It’s not about the punishment, it’s the need for others to say “way to go! You’re such a great parent!”
    Yuck.

    • Melissa

      August 1, 2014 at 2:16 pm

      And I bet now that it’s so public she probably regrets calling her daughter a brat online, but is trying to defend herself to save face. It would all go away much more quickly without granting TV interviews…

    • Spongeworthy

      August 1, 2014 at 2:22 pm

      Right? I saw below that she’s doing interviews and linking stories to her twitter. It makes it hard to believe that this was just supposed to be seen by friends and family.

    • guest

      August 2, 2014 at 8:09 pm

      I think she does sort of regret it…..in the interview she kind of hesitates when telling the reporter that she called her daughter a brat. But now that everyone is calling her out she has to stick to her guns and pretend she thinks she was right. But that hesitation in the TV interview really gave it away to me. I could be wrong and interpreting the whole thing in my own way of course, but that’s how it came off to me.

    • GPMeg

      August 1, 2014 at 2:18 pm

      My thoughts exactly! She wanted the likes and way-to-gos way more than she wanted everyone to know what her daughter had done.

    • Spongeworthy

      August 1, 2014 at 2:23 pm

      I don’t get the thought process. I don’t think the punishment itself was inappropriate, really. But posting it online is a crappy thing to do.

    • GPMeg

      August 1, 2014 at 2:26 pm

      Agreed — it just doesn’t make sense! There are all sorts of stubhub re-sale type things, you can even do it on Ticketmaster now, why not just do that?!

    • Frances Frumpy Mumps Locke

      August 2, 2014 at 10:35 am

      She could do it entirely anonymously on Craigslist also.

    • ChickenKira

      August 2, 2014 at 11:57 pm

      Agreed. If she wanted the punishment to be that her daughter doesn’t go to the concert, and she wanted to get some money back from the tickets (fair enough) she would have just sold them on ebay and been done with it.
      But instead it became a “Look at me, look at my punishment, look at my awesome parenting” show. It’s about her, not her daughter. It’s about getting praise.

  6. Cindy Bjerke

    August 1, 2014 at 12:45 pm

    The fact that you call me a narcissist is truly spectacular, coming from someone who doesn’t even have teenagers. The fact that the ad was a closed group and I never shared her name or what she did has been completely lost on you. I believe if I wanted to publicly shame my daughter, I would have shared those details. The only people who know who she is our my friends and family. My two adult sons, who are very respectful, by the way, and my husband are proud of me, so the fact that some half-ass wanna be writer wants to tear me apart online doesn’t bother me in the least. It is Parenting 101; don’t try and be your childs friend, be a parent, and don’t be a doormat. I would bet a $100 that YOUR children are the snots I see throwing tantrums in public. Grow up and try and report on a real story.

    • Bleu Cheese Bewbs

      August 1, 2014 at 12:50 pm

      So you are mad that you are being embarrassed online? Ironic.

    • Cindy Bjerke

      August 1, 2014 at 12:52 pm

      Not embarrassed at all, just amused that other people seem to know so well what you should do with your own children. And obviously the details of the story were lost on you as well. I have tremendous support, so these little snide remarks you all are making are just a raindrop of negativity in an ocean full of support.

    • Bleu Cheese Bewbs

      August 1, 2014 at 12:53 pm

      If you put something online, people are going to comment about it. Some comments will be supportive, some will not.

      ETA: The fact that you originally posted in a “closed group” obviously doesn’t mean much if your post made it to this site.

    • Cindy Bjerke

      August 1, 2014 at 12:54 pm

      I agree, I don’t agree on personally attacking someone and calling them a narcissist. This “writer” doesn’t even know me and has never spoken with me.

    • Aimee

      August 1, 2014 at 12:56 pm

      “Narcissist” = personal attack
      “Brat” = ??

    • Cindy Bjerke

      August 1, 2014 at 12:57 pm

      What’s my daughter’s name, Aimee? Yeah, that’s what I thought…

    • Aimee

      August 1, 2014 at 12:58 pm

      I have no idea. I do however assume that both you and all the people on your Facebook that you called her a brat in front of are aware of her name, and that all of you know exactly who you are talking about. Would that be a correct assumption?

    • Cindy Bjerke

      August 1, 2014 at 1:00 pm

      Yes, like I said, only my friends and family know her name, not the whole world. And as her mother, I can definitely say she was acting like a spoiled brat. You don’t know me at all, and I feel parents can agree or disagree, but judging is just opening up the chance for you to be judged yourself.

    • Aimee

      August 1, 2014 at 1:01 pm

      You mean like publicly judging your daughter to be a spoiled brat on Facebook would similarly open a person up to judgment?

      (And as a parent, I profoundly disagree. Thanks!)

    • Cindy Bjerke

      August 1, 2014 at 1:03 pm

      Again, what’s her name, Aimee? I just heard about this site from a friend, and will now delete. This is obviously people looking to judge other people, because I am sure you are all the best parents ever and your teenagers absolutely adore you and they never do anything wrong.

    • Aimee

      August 1, 2014 at 1:06 pm

      Who said I do nothing wrong? I never said that. What I did say is that what you did is wrong, and I also submit that you can’t cry foul when people post their judgments about you on the Internet after you posted your judgment of your daughter on the Internet.

    • Justme

      August 1, 2014 at 1:10 pm

      What are you going to delete? Your comments? This website? I don’t understand…

    • Bleu Cheese Bewbs

      August 1, 2014 at 1:18 pm

      If she deletes her comments, the world may collapse due to the empty space left where the hypocrisy of them used to be.

    • Justme

      August 1, 2014 at 1:34 pm

      We’ll just be left looking like we are fighting with ourselves…

    • CMJ

      August 1, 2014 at 1:23 pm

      You’re comments are still here when you delete them…and your name is plastered all over the internet.

    • Justme

      August 1, 2014 at 1:32 pm

      Teenagers do not have a monopoly on acting like jerks. I have a husband, a three-year-old, parents, siblings, students, co-workers, and friends – all of whom are capable of acting obnoxiously (myself included!). But as obnoxious as they might act at times, I truly love all these people. I love them so much that I show them courtesy and respect by not broadcasting their “bratty” moments across the internet. THAT’S the problem I have with the “tough love” parenting that has become increasingly popular.

    • noodlestein's danger tits

      August 1, 2014 at 3:45 pm

      Yeah, okay.

    • CMJ

      August 1, 2014 at 1:22 pm

      you do realize that you posted your REAL NAME in this “closed group” right? Do you know how the internet works?

    • Bleu Cheese Bewbs

      August 1, 2014 at 1:37 pm

      She is protecting her daughter’s identity after the fact by being interviewed for the news and appearing IN PERSON on the news story.
      http://www.wdaz.com/video/3703789689001

    • CMJ

      August 1, 2014 at 1:38 pm

      Her daughter is also not a minor so….uh, nice try?

    • Bleu Cheese Bewbs

      August 1, 2014 at 1:38 pm

      CMJ, I should have used my sarcasm font.

    • CMJ

      August 1, 2014 at 1:47 pm

      I should have said *lady* after nice try. I knew you were being sarcastic….clearly MY sarcasm font didn’t work.

    • Bleu Cheese Bewbs

      August 1, 2014 at 1:48 pm

      Ahh. Gotcha. I am so busy being outraged that my reading comprehension may be a bit off.

    • Bleu Cheese Bewbs

      August 1, 2014 at 1:10 pm

      You may want to go to whitepages.com and verify that you aren’t in there at all.

    • Guinevere

      August 1, 2014 at 1:12 pm

      you guys, she already rage quit didn’t she? She said she was gonna….

    • Old Lady Phillips

      August 1, 2014 at 2:41 pm

      No fun.

    • JenH1986

      August 1, 2014 at 1:13 pm

      Well now that the internet sees this all of her friends parents are going to see this…sooo yea, you still called your kid a brat online and now she, her friends, their parents, their friends are all going to see that.

    • Jem

      August 1, 2014 at 12:59 pm

      Exactly what I was going to say. You taught your daughter that if you are mad at someone, you can publicly call them mean names so I am not sure why you are upset.

    • Bleu Cheese Bewbs

      August 1, 2014 at 1:07 pm

      It’s OK to attack children, Aimee. You just can’t call a grown woman out on her BS, though.

    • rockmonster

      August 1, 2014 at 4:06 pm

      Aw, come on Aimee, children and teens aren’t people! They’re just tools for us to manipulate and deserve their fee-fees hurt whenever they misbehave. Even if it’s calling mommy out on something bad that she did.

    • waffre

      August 1, 2014 at 12:58 pm

      If you’ve got so much support why do you even care what a bunch of strangers on the internet think? Why are you here?

    • Miriam

      August 1, 2014 at 2:29 pm

      Then, why are you still commenting on here?

    • Spongeworthy

      August 1, 2014 at 1:47 pm

    • Old Lady Phillips

      August 1, 2014 at 12:56 pm

      “Doesn’t bother you the least.” Oh, is that right? Thanks for making that clear, because otherwise I would have read your post, like, TOTALLY wrong.

      Hey, your husband wouldn’t be named Warren, by any chance? Owns a tire shop?

    • Cindy Bjerke

      August 1, 2014 at 1:01 pm

      *in the least*

      😉

    • Old Lady Phillips

      August 1, 2014 at 1:03 pm

      Oooh, burn! Ok, I’ll play:

      “The only people who know who she is our friends and family.”
      “…ARE our friends and family.”

    • Fondue

      August 1, 2014 at 1:24 pm

      The IT department here at work is going to be pissed at you when they see the orange juice you just made me spit all over my keyboard.

    • Old Lady Phillips

      August 1, 2014 at 2:50 pm

      Tell them to feel free to publicly shame me on Facebook about it!

    • WriterLady

      August 1, 2014 at 3:44 pm

      Pure awesomeness. This just made my day!!

    • Maria Guido

      August 1, 2014 at 1:01 pm

      Wow. Okay, you’re upset. As you said, plenty of people support you. The writer is entitled to her opinion. Your story is public – that’s what happens when you put stuff on the internet and it gets picked up. Not everyone is going to agree with you. That’s how the internet works. Coming in here and hurling insults and then complaining about being personally attacked is pretty ridiculous, though.

    • JenH1986

      August 1, 2014 at 1:18 pm

      Duh Maria, don’t you know when complaining about personal attacks one should then personally attack others? Geez

    • K.

      August 1, 2014 at 1:30 pm

      $10 says she’s going to sic her friends onto the comments stream.

    • JenH1986

      August 1, 2014 at 1:31 pm

      Sucker bet.

    • Bleu Cheese Bewbs

      August 1, 2014 at 1:47 pm

      Well, there is one guest like on her post, so you are probably right.

    • Disgruntled Box

      August 1, 2014 at 1:07 pm

      “Grow up and try and report on a real story” says the woman who linked to a more favorable article about this on her twitter account 40 minutes ago. It’s only a real news story when people don’t call out your abuse, right? Whether you have NPD or not, you definitely bullied your daughter, and if she never speaks to you again, I say good on her!

    • CMJ

      August 1, 2014 at 1:27 pm

      I mean….it looks like Breitbart is defending her….but, you know….Breitbart.

    • Justme

      August 1, 2014 at 1:13 pm

      Well this is a parenting website and it’s an issue that pertains to the parenting of a teenager, so I assume your story can be reported upon and debated. We’re not debating the fact that you disciplined your daughter – actually, I think you made the right decision by not allowing her to go to the concert. But the language and manner in which you spoke about your daughter on a forum that might be “closed” but is in no way safe from onlookers, does concern me. I think issues like discipline need to be kept between the parents and the child.

    • CMJ

      August 1, 2014 at 1:18 pm

      Well, someone sent it to the Daily Mail. So maybe you should think about who you trust within your friends and family….

    • Bleu Cheese Bewbs

      August 1, 2014 at 1:19 pm

      Or the 17,000 people that are members of the group she posted to.

    • CMJ

      August 1, 2014 at 1:21 pm

      I just realized that the woman posted it in a “closed group” of 17,000 people. Seriously. Can’t.

    • Bleu Cheese Bewbs

      August 1, 2014 at 1:21 pm

      USING HER REAL NAME. Fucking crazy.

    • Spongeworthy

      August 1, 2014 at 1:49 pm

      17,000 of her close friends and family, obviously!

    • JenH1986

      August 1, 2014 at 1:26 pm

      Dammit CMJ you gotta stop with this logic stuff. It’s hard…and confusing.

    • Justme

      August 1, 2014 at 1:35 pm

      That’s the size of a small town. Surely that MUST be bigger than her friends and family…

    • Lindsey

      August 1, 2014 at 1:51 pm

      If your kid was acting like a spoiled brat, it doesn’t really seem like you have a leg to stand on when attacking other people’s parenting styles…

    • Ursi

      August 1, 2014 at 1:56 pm

      Yes. We are all brand new moms with little bratty children who ruin everyone’s day. No one has ever faced the challenges that you have faced with a teenager. You are the first person in the world to deal with this. I’m just so glad you came to enlighten us who are clearly struggling with parenthood. On account of we’re all new parents. And we have brats. And stuff.

      (my cat is a brat, does she count?)

    • JessBakesCakes

      August 1, 2014 at 2:53 pm

      Can I cat-jack this post and ask you for pictures of your cat? I love kitties 🙂

    • pixie Ninja Tits

      August 1, 2014 at 3:11 pm

      Talking about cats, late last week and early this week I was cat/house sitting for one of my favourite aunt and uncles. They have three cats that are pretty awesome, even if they did wake me up in the morning with their meowing (the cats live in their own room because even though my aunt loves them, she’s allergic; but they’re very well taken care of, of course, and have a big window that looks out by their front porch) and are elderly and miss their litterboxes sometimes. One of them decided she liked my foot and started licking it at one point. Yay kitties!

    • Ursi

      August 1, 2014 at 5:40 pm

      hmmm is there a way we could be twitter friends? I’d prefer not to post on a forum. If you check the followers on the Mommyish twitter you’ll find me right away!

    • Ursi

      August 1, 2014 at 6:07 pm

      ok im your twitter follower now so log on there and I will send you cat photos! 🙂

    • Heather

      August 1, 2014 at 2:16 pm

      The problem is that it was shaming, not that people know WHY. YOU know, and SHE knows, and now, the whole world knows. I don’t have to know your daughter to know she is a “spoiled brat” in your eyes, now. You could have listed the tickets without any explanation, but you chose to throw your daughter under the bus. That shows your priorities were completely out of line. It wasn’t about teaching her a lesson, especially if it was a closed group on facebook that she’s never see! It was about receiving pats on the back about your parenting excellence.

      Ironically, if we were close friends and we were having a discussion about disciplining our children and you told me you sold your daughters tickets because of her behavior, I would applaud you. It wasn’t the selling of the tickets that people are having an issue with, it’s the way you trivialized and dehumanized your own daughter.

    • Courtney Lynn

      August 1, 2014 at 2:55 pm

      You’re missing the point entirely. Classic narcissistic behavior, BTW, and I know from personal experience having grown up with a narcissist in my immediate family. Yes, it was a closed group, I’ll give you that. That doesn’t explain you doing a TV interview on it. If it was truly nobody’s business, why mention that your daughter is a “brat” at all? Even in a closed group where anyone can make a screen cap and post it? Nah, it was all about you looking like a badass to your peers. You know it. You can be a parent and not a “friend” without calling your child a brat, publicly. Yes, it was and is public. You posted it, it got spread around AND you took to the TV airwaves about it. There you have it. Public info! For someone who isn’t bothered in the least, you sure are trying hard to justify yourself to a “half ass” writer and people who share her opinion.

    • rockmonster

      August 1, 2014 at 4:01 pm

      Somebody better call the wambulance.

    • guest

      August 1, 2014 at 7:38 pm

      Haha the husband and sons are “proud’. That just sounds so ridiculous. “My hubby and my SONS are so proud that I publicly shamed my daughter! She gets to sit in the other room while we eat dinner because we don’t even want to see her face anymore! What, what’s that you say? Of COURSE she still feels like part of our warm loving family! She totally doesn’t mind that it’s like us four against her!”.

    • ChickenKira

      August 3, 2014 at 12:09 am

      Well duh that the sons are happy, or was I the only teenager in the world who was happy when my brother got into trouble?

  7. Bleu Cheese Bewbs

    August 1, 2014 at 12:48 pm

    Narcissistic mom doesn’t approve of self-absorbed daughter’s behavior? Perhaps she should have modeled better behavior for her, then.

  8. Andrea

    August 1, 2014 at 12:48 pm

    This has been done before. Not even original.

  9. waffre

    August 1, 2014 at 12:56 pm

    I don’t know, I’m not sure I’d even go so far as taking the tickets away. Maybe I’m going to turn out to be one of those “permissive parents,” but… I guess it would depend on two things: if the teen in question had done anything to earn the tickets (in which case I would be pretty reluctant to take them away for anything less than suspension from school or criminal charges), and if there had been a warning that the tickets would be finding a new home if bad behavior continued. We don’t have a lot of information here, just that the girl was being “a spoiled brat,” which could be anything from mouthing off at mom once to shoplifting.

    • Ddaisy

      August 1, 2014 at 2:06 pm

      I agree. A concert like that is such a once-in-a-lifetime experience that if I had a kid, they would have to do something REALLY bad to get Prismatic tickets taken away. If you take away a cell phone, a sleepover, a movie night, the kid can earn that back in the future. But once the concert is gone, it’s gone.

  10. Joye77

    August 1, 2014 at 12:57 pm

    I think that teenagers are frequently bratty, that’s kind of a teenage thing. I heard a commercial on the radio the other day with a kid yelling ” I hate you” and slamming a door. It was for a behavioral therapist. I was thinking that was normal teenage behavior. I didn’t think yelling at a parent and slamming a door = behavioral therapist. I would have been in therapy everyday as a teen.

    • hunter

      August 1, 2014 at 3:16 pm

      It may be normal, but is it acceptable? If I heard my teen say, “I hate you!” I’d say, “Okay if you hate me, you don’t have to live here. Get out there and start paying your own damn bills.”

    • WriterLady

      August 1, 2014 at 3:37 pm

      I’m assuming this is hyperbolic, right? At some point, your child will “hate you.” They almost always don’t mean it, and yes it’s infuriating to hear, but teenagers are inclined to speak before thinking. Confiscate a phone or something for a day or two if it’s a recurring issue or really rubs you the wrong way, but I think the local authorities might have something to say about booting your teenaged child out of your house for saying something that 99% of all kids—and especially preteens/teens–have said at some point.

    • hunter

      August 1, 2014 at 4:20 pm

      But saying that you hate your parents is extremely disrespectful. No kids should say that to people who are providing for them. Teens need to learn their place until they grow up and get out on their own.

      I learned not to say disrespectful thing to my parents. Even now as an adult, I still respect them.

    • Laura Gatannah

      August 2, 2014 at 5:24 am

      As a parent, I can tell when my daughter is being genuinely disrespectful and when she’s just expressing her frustration in a way that shows she’s not mature enough to manage her emotions properly. Helping her deal with emotional control is my job; you don’t knee-jerk to kicking them out because they are upset. I’m the adult. She might be lashing out at me, but usually I’m not the source of her anger, and I need to be willing and able to see around her words to what’s actually happening. If my daughter told me she hated me, I’d say, “I’m sorry to hear that because I love you and nothing’s going to change that.” Because I’m her mom, and she’s a minor, and my responsibility to care for her isn’t dependent on her being “good” or even particularly respectful. We can get there through discipline, but not through dismissal.

    • WriterLady

      August 2, 2014 at 1:19 pm

      I do not disagree with that sentiment at all. It IS disrespectful when children do this, and most of us concur that it’s not unreasonable to punish a kid/teen for saying it. I’m a pretty well-adjusted and respectful adult, but I was also once a teen–as we all were. So, yeah, the “I hate you” comment slipped out every once in a while. But I was an otherwise good kid. We can’t put this on an equal playing field with a teen missing curfew on a regular basis, skipping out on school, getting into fights, constantly disparaging the parents, refusing to conform to rules, and so forth. My point was that kids will say things they don’t mean in the heat of the moment. That is not at all abnormal; in fact, it is an extremely common phenomenon that has been happening for generations. As previously stated, I don’t think parents should just brush it off and ignore the comment. Instead, dole out whatever punishment you feel is fit (within reason…see below).

      The primary concern here was not with the mom being angry with her daughter and confiscating the tickets. That makes perfect sense. What’s not right is that she announced it on a forum that included 17,000 strangers, which led to this viral sensation—her name and information suddenly known to lots and lots of people. Now, she’s monopolizing on her newfound 15 minutes of fame by going on radio stations or TV programs. That is wrong; her daughter did not deserve that in any way shape or form. Nobody does, with the exception of hardcore criminals. One small mistake does not constitute this level of public shaming. Also, these public shaming antics always backfire. Her teen is only going to resent her mother, which will cause a huge rift in their relationship. There are much better ways to deal with the problem, and the mother’s attention-seeking initial behavior and refusal to accept culpability for her actions is reprehensible. The pot calling the kettle black, you know?

  11. Airbones

    August 1, 2014 at 1:05 pm

    I would totally do this, minus the back story.

    • rockmonster

      August 1, 2014 at 4:12 pm

      Yes, please, just sell the damn tickets; there isn’t any need to include the backstory. (IMHO Katy Perry isn’t all that great anyways.)

  12. Rachel Sea

    August 1, 2014 at 1:20 pm

    Shaming your kids on the internet is a great way to get your kids to trust and respect you.

    • Lindsey

      August 1, 2014 at 1:46 pm

      And also a great way to teach them about internet safety and having a small digital footprint.

    • Rachel Sea

      August 1, 2014 at 1:53 pm

      And developing a strong sense of self that is not dependent upon the validation of strangers.

  13. Fondue

    August 1, 2014 at 1:25 pm

    Can’t wait until my daughter’s old enough to piss me off so I can publicly shame her on the internet! Oh boy, oh boy!

  14. Guinevere

    August 1, 2014 at 1:30 pm

    How did you get your facebook to look all squiggly and cool like that? How does the internet work? If I post my name all over it will it show up? The last two are rhetorical.

    • JenH1986

      August 1, 2014 at 1:32 pm

      That is a font change and looks to be a phone setting. Someone used a phone/tablet to screen shot. FYI.

    • Alexandra

      August 1, 2014 at 3:32 pm

      LMAO ur funny! (And I had the same question thanks!!)

  15. Bleu Cheese Bewbs

    August 1, 2014 at 1:42 pm

    I’m not sure why anyone would call her a narcissist. I mean, she practically broke her arm patting herself on the back in her original posting. You know, the one she used to shame her daughter in a group of 17,000 people. But hey, no worries, she’s still not a narcissist which is totally why she agreed to do an on-camera interview for the local news.
    http://www.wdaz.com/video/3703789689001

    • rockmonster

      August 1, 2014 at 3:59 pm

      So now we’re even further down the entitled jerkface rabbit hole.
      I hope her daughters steals her ticket money and tries to sell her car.

    • guest

      August 1, 2014 at 5:59 pm

      Right?! I would totally buy this kid 2 new tickets if I knew how to. Just to spite the mother. #sorrynotsorry
      Not endangering the relationship I have with my teen daughter is too important to me to publicly embarrass her for my own benefit.

    • rockmonster

      August 1, 2014 at 6:11 pm

      I wouldn’t be getting her Katy Perry tix, i’d just wait to get some to the Minus the Bear show near me in October.

  16. Elisabeth TheQueen Smith

    August 1, 2014 at 2:04 pm

    These are the same people that will scream out ‘you don’t know us’ the minute you criticize anything about them but then go on and invite everyone into their problems by a simple facebook status. I would be embarrassed that my child behaved like a brat and I wouldn’t publish anything about it on facebook since it’s no one’s business but my own

    • K.

      August 1, 2014 at 2:34 pm

      It’s like reality stars who act like idiots on TV and then give interviews in which they’re like, “You don’ KNOW me, y’all jus jellus!!”

    • ChickenKira

      August 3, 2014 at 12:00 am

      “The producers made me look bad”

  17. Fatpants

    August 1, 2014 at 2:13 pm

    I’m over the shaming, as well. I feel like it’s also a weird thing to do to an 18 year old, who is technically an adult.

  18. JessBakesCakes

    August 1, 2014 at 2:17 pm

    I know when I was that age, I would have felt shitty enough getting the tickets taken away from me. The public shaming and name calling would only make me angrier and more embarrassed. I feel like the punishment itself serves a purpose, but the public embarrassment doesn’t do much to teach a lesson. If my mom did that, I would be so angry at her. The lesson being taught would be completely overshadowed by the guilt/embarrassment.

  19. Krissy Aldrich

    August 1, 2014 at 2:24 pm

    I agree that the shaming tone is a bit over the top but we don’t know what happened and taking away concert tickets in the face of poor behavior is fair game as far as I’m concerned. I wouldn’t take away something like that without a pretty good reason but this whole bit about how music is a source of self expression and it seems over the top seems to be over-reaching too. I can understand not liking the tone, but I can also understand selling the tickets and partially recouping loss on said tickets.

    I’m of the view that if you don’t do the stuff you’re supposed to do, you don’t get extra stuff like concert tickets on my dime.

    • CMJ

      August 1, 2014 at 2:31 pm

      I don’t think it’s taking away the tickets anyone has a problem with….it’s the public shame.

    • Krissy Aldrich

      August 2, 2014 at 2:14 pm

      I’m aware of that, but the author’s insistence that taking away concert tickets itself is an over the top punishment is what I’m responding to. Yes music is a source of expression but so is reading books, so is the way you dress so is everything you choose to tell people about yourself. Its not as if she took her daughter’s right to self expression away, she took some tickets away, that is not some horrifying injustice by itself.

      As I’ve said in both of my previous comments and this comment the tone was way over the top, a good parent might be able to turn this into a teachable moment about why you shouldn’t post to social media when you’re in a bad mood or when you’re really mad about something. I don’t know that this individual has that ability but I’m not one to judge someone based on one mistake, we all make mistakes as parents

    • Courtney Lynn

      August 1, 2014 at 2:58 pm

      It’s not the punishment, per se. It’s her method and need to publicly shame her kid in the process.

    • WriterLady

      August 1, 2014 at 3:08 pm

      The mother was in the right to take the tickets away, assuming the kid actually misbehaved and mom wasn’t just being huffy. She certainly exercised poor judgment by announcing the reason behind selling the tickets on an open public forum…singling out her daughter and harshly proclaiming that she is a “spoiled brat” for all to see and analyze in the comments section. The woman’s name and profile is in plain view, and since it received so much attention, the girl is essentially being shamed in front of an audience of hundreds or perhaps thousands of people. That’s not exactly a classy or effective parenting strategy, and it will likely only cause the child to resent her mother (probably leading to even more problems).

    • Krissy Aldrich

      August 1, 2014 at 4:51 pm

      And again, I said the tone of the post was out of line. But I was calling the article as I saw it which I thought the over-emotional waxing on about how music is a source of expression was a bit much. We don’t know what happened in their home, I wouldn’t go the route of shaming my children publicly. But I sure as hell would take concert tickets I paid for away in heartbeat if they misbehaved in a severe enough manner. Normally I don’t have to do stuff like that, but when its needed its needed. The only thing that needed to be shamed was the language of the mother.

      Trying to shame the method of punishment beyond that is over-reaching imo. Revoking of privileges is a perfectly acceptable and normal punishment.

      If it were me, I would have just posted that I had some tickets for sale and wouldn’t explain why because its none of anyone’s business. I probably wouldn’t even go through facebook unless I knew I had friends who wanted to go who didn’t have tickets. In that case I would just message them directly.

    • Guest

      August 1, 2014 at 6:37 pm

      I agree with you-the shaming is real bad but the punishment itself may be perfectly reasonable, we don’t know. The post would have been great with just the facts and not having the odd addition of the “music is self expression” thing in there. It really has nothing to do with the story and is so subjective it kind of lessens the message.

    • Krissy Aldrich

      August 2, 2014 at 2:07 pm

      Yeah and not all people have the same level of technical literacy and she might have in posted in the heat of the moment and said some stupid stuff. We’ve all posted regrettable stuff on social media, she posted something incredibly regrettable stuff about her child, hopefully she’s smart enough to be able to fix this error.

      But we still don’t know what the reason is that she took the tickets in the first place and we can’t pretend that teenagers never do things that are worthy of some level of consequence. Its not as if she burned all of the girls albums and danced around the fire cackling, she took tickets away, yeah it sucks but that’s life. The girl is 18 she’ll have many opportunities to attend concerts.

  20. Alison Cross

    August 1, 2014 at 2:28 pm

    What a b-JERK-e thing to do.

    • Bethany Ramos

      August 1, 2014 at 2:29 pm

      Hahahhaha I really thought this same thing.

  21. wispy

    August 1, 2014 at 2:29 pm

    She could have just listed them for sale with no explanation. Everyone on the yard sale page does not need to know her family’s business. I hate this shaming stuff all over the freaking place. When the crazy dad shot his kid’s laptop and posted it online (I think? It’s been a while) I said something on FB about “Way to make your kid resent you the rest of your life!” and people tore into me like I was insane. Sorry but I still think that is absolutely inappropriate and a horrible thing to do! If you want to get rid of the laptop fine, but don’t make a spectacle of your kid. It might be a bratty kid but at the end of the day it’s still a kid!

    • Katherine Handcock

      August 1, 2014 at 9:57 pm

      Yeah, I agree with your take on it. Taking the tickets/laptop/whatever other privilege away can absolutely be a viable punishment (so could making them earn them back if you don’t want to dispose of/resell them.) It’s trumpeting it to the rooftops that bothers me. I mean, no adult wants, say, their credit card company posting a note on their Facebook wall that reads, “Customer X’s credit limit increase has been declined because she forgot to pay her bill on time!”

  22. Zettai

    August 1, 2014 at 3:03 pm

    While I agree with Spongeworthy that mom’s bragging about the punishment is all about looking for validation, I also agree with the punishment. I don’t think taking away concert tickets was too harsh (especially since as an 18 year old why isn’t this girl buying her own tickets?).

  23. Courtney Lynn

    August 1, 2014 at 3:12 pm

    Seriously, why the fuck would anyone feel the need to publicly, YES publicly, announce that their daughter is a brat while selling their concert tickets unless they were looking for some kind of validation?

  24. Guest

    August 1, 2014 at 3:13 pm

    I don’t think the mother needed to publicly shame her child, but to be honest, I don’t think teens get enough tough love. It’s not a trend either. American children are spoiled and it’s time to stop being your kid’s “friend.” If a teen shows that she is underserving of certain privileges, the parent has every right to take those privileges away from her. It seems to me most of the people on here are more in the favor of the brat than the mother, which is annoying.

    Hell, some kids NEED to be shamed about some things, because they need to learn that if they act a certain way in the real world, the real world isn’t going to put up with it. What they didn’t learn as a young child needs to be taught to them as teens, and sometimes that takes something tougher.

    • Courtney Lynn

      August 1, 2014 at 3:17 pm

      I’m not in favor of bratty behavior at all. I don’t believe public shaming is necessary in order to not be your kid’s friend, either. You can be a good parent and disciplinarian without calling your child names in public.

    • Guest

      August 1, 2014 at 3:29 pm

      What’s wrong with shaming?

    • Courtney Lynn

      August 1, 2014 at 3:51 pm

      It’s not a good way to build trust or a good rapport with your kid. Believe me, I know personally. Sure, it may get you the behavior you desire out of a want to NOT be shamed and embarrassed again. It can also damage the relationship. Not a good way to earn respect, IMO.

    • guest

      August 1, 2014 at 7:01 pm

      Seriously? What’s wrong with shaming? I just can’t even believe this question. What purpose did it serve for that woman to do what she did to her daughter? She’s really taking a risk in damaging her relationship with her kid, which would be good enough for me to not even consider doing something like this. Do you really believe that publicly embarrassing a child, or even an adult, is ok? To me, it’s a form of bullying, only this is worse because it’s her own mother doing it. I couldn’t even imagine being that age and having everyone around me laughing at my expense. And then to have my mom go on tv to top it off! It’s like everyone she knows and half the internet at this point pointing their fingers at her and giggling because she was a bad girl and her mommy showed some good tough love. The mother makes me sick and I hope the daughter is able to shake this off or roll her eyes at her mom.

    • CatPlacenta

      August 1, 2014 at 7:59 pm

      Srsly. I hope that person never has children.

  25. Ccrum

    August 1, 2014 at 3:35 pm

    Why is this such a big deal? It doesn’t seem to me like she was trying to gain validation. Don’t people tweet/post statuses of things that really aren’t worthy of being shared publicly all the time? Should we call them out too and tell them that they’re trying to gain validation?

  26. Williwaw

    August 1, 2014 at 4:43 pm

    If my mom had ever done something like that, I would have been so humiliated. Sure, she took away privileges from me all the time, and rightly so, when I was being a little shit, but she never humiliated me publicly, and probably would not have done so even if social media were available at that time. Discipline is great. Public shaming of your child is just cruel.

  27. KaeTay

    August 1, 2014 at 5:29 pm

    I don’t see saying they are acting like a spoiled brat as embarrassing your teen in public humiliation. Making your kid stand outside with a sign.. yes.. this one really is no big deal and losing concert tickets is the perfect way to establish that under my house.. it’s my rules and if I paid for it, I can take it away. My parents would have done the exact same thing. As a result I was hardly ever grounded (except for forgetting to leave a note saying I was at the football game, and for not cleaning my room). I didn’t really ever talk back (older sister did.. her mouth got her in trouble a lot). Point is.. I find it fair. My parents never bought me concert tickets..we weren’t made of money. 110 bucks is a lot of money.

    If I had wanted to go.. i would of had to raise the money myself or most of it then door chores to earn the rest.. nothing was ever just given to me.. It taught me money management and whether or not I really wanted something.

  28. Allen

    August 1, 2014 at 6:07 pm

    I’m curious if the tickets were actually given to the girl before they were taken away. If so, I’m not sure the mom legally had the right to sell them. The girl is 18, and if you give a gift to another adult, it’s usually considered their property. If the mom had purchased them for her daughter but hadn’t given them to her yet, then she did have the right to change her mind. But putting a bitter, TMI message on Facebook just makes her–not her daughter–look bad.

  29. tk88

    August 1, 2014 at 6:45 pm

    If you still have to “discipline” your child when she is legally an adult, I think it’s pretty clear your parenting tactics did not work. This is stupid and I don’t think people truly admire the “parenting”, I think they just enjoy watching the public humiliation of another person. And it’s only socially acceptable to laugh at the public humiliation of criminals or children.

  30. Bunny

    August 2, 2014 at 1:12 am

    This woman also belongs to a facebook group called “9/11 Truth Movement” so yeah…really impressed by her overall right now.

  31. Gina

    August 2, 2014 at 2:11 am

    While I agree that this wasn’t necessarily the best judgement call going about this as she did, I’d be lying if I didn’t admit to having made some less than perfect parenting choices in my dealings with my difficult child. I don’t really feel the need to shame the mom. I’m going to give her the benefit of the doubt and assume that this was done in the heat of the moment, soon after the offense was committed by her daughter. I would guess she was probably pretty damn steamed at that particular moment. I’m certainly not the world’s greatest mom, so I really can’t get all judgy with another mom who’s struggling to deal with a challenging kid. I can only assume that she’s trying her best and occasionally striking out…just like I do sometimes.

  32. Frances Frumpy Mumps Locke

    August 2, 2014 at 10:32 am

    I think taking away concert tickets is a totally appropriate punishment…but public shaming is not. How immature is this mom?

  33. Quinn Skye

    August 2, 2014 at 11:00 am

    I don’t know. My best friend’s parents were two of the best I’ve ever known, and they sold her concert tickets. Seems reasonable now, but they also didn’t tell half of Facebook.

  34. Guest

    August 2, 2014 at 2:22 pm

    I’m sorry, but what exactly DID this girl do to warrant her losing her concert tickets.!? I want the full story of this or no story at all! You people all make me sick for passing so quick of judgement on young people in the news that you don’t even bother to get the other side of the story. I hope you all sit on thumbtack!

  35. Adam Muth

    August 2, 2014 at 2:22 pm

    I’m sorry, but what exactly DID this girl do to warrant her losing her concert tickets!? I want the full story of this or no story at all! You people all make me sick for passing so quick of judgement on young people in the news that you don’t even bother to get the other side of the story. I hope you all sit on thumbtack!

    • brebay

      August 3, 2014 at 4:38 pm

      Good lord, dude, READ!

    • Adam Muth

      August 4, 2014 at 1:02 pm

      I have read the article, and it still doesn’t explain what this girl’s behavior actually was. I still want answers.

    • brebay

      August 4, 2014 at 3:16 pm

      You don’t have a right to answers, you have a right to move on.

    • Adam Muth

      August 5, 2014 at 6:21 pm

      The mom seemed to make it the whole world’s business with that online post she made selling the tickets. She might as well tell us all herself.

  36. Penney Wedbetter

    August 5, 2014 at 9:30 am

    gee lets see her kid is a little shit. good for mom……you are not entitled to shit!!

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  39. Kerriouch

    November 1, 2014 at 8:59 pm

    It seems that now no parent can discipline or do something good for their children, or even have a daily random thought without putting it on Facebook to show their amazing-ness. It’s as though everyone is acting in their own command perfomance, but no one is listening because they’re all busy running their own personal ‘Me Show’, not everything in life needs public acceptance or accolades, and if you do something shitty and stupid and post it on Facebook for all the pats on the back and people call you out on your poor judgement you’ve effectively signed off on your right to privacy on that.

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