Miranda Kerr Makes Sure Not To Bring Her ‘Alpha Female’ Persona Into Her Marriage
While I may not be for traditional gender roles classes for kids, I’m generally for whatever non-abusive partnership works between consenting grownups. One of the awesome things about having a family in 2013 is constructing the enterprise however you — and your wallet — see fit. If couples of all orientations want to to construct their marriages like “Leave It To Beaver” episodes or have stay-at-home dads or be a power couple with eight nannies, I will echo the loudest “whatever” in the blogosphere. Unless, someone starts trafficking in some serious gender stereotypes about OTHER PEOPLE’s choices. We need to exchange words, Miranda Kerr.
The supermodel and mother of one fielded some predictable marriage and family inquiries as a celeb lady in Net-A-Porter. She maintains that a “mistake” she has made in previous relationships is “feel [ing] that I can do it all on my own: I don’t need a man.” “It” can very well be anything from lifting your furniture across the room to cooking, so who cares? Partners are partners.
But it’s when Miranda starts talking about other people’s relationship dynamics that I get irked:
“I am quite dominant in my career, so what really works for me when I come home, is to relax more into the feminine side. If you’re really an alpha female, you don’t allow [your partner] to have the space to feel like the man in the relationship. Maybe I am too traditional, but men feel important when you ask for their help, instead of thinking you can do it all on your own.”
“Alpha females” don’t let their men “feel like the man” in their partnerships? What 1950’s etiquette book did she pull that crap from? What does that even mean? That in order to “feel like the man” they need a little wifey who loses at tennis, giggles over burned cookies, and screams at the sight of spiders? Whoever would be into that doesn’t even sound like an adult — let alone a Big, Strong man.
Here’s a thought. Maybe men who are partnered to an “alpha female” don’t need a partner who would play down their strengths in order to “feel like the man.”