Pregnancy

Let’s Not Forget Labor Is A Terrifying Sh*t Show For Men, Too

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shutterstock_104167415__1394556912_142.196.167.223Pregnancy and labor can be all-consuming for women. So all-consuming that I think we sometimes forget how stressful it is for men, too. It’s only fair to acknowledge that they also go through a hell of a lot in the days leading up to childbirth – and that childbirth itself can be a terrifying shit show for fathers.

An article I saw in Buzzfeed today made me think about all of this – The 26 Stages Of Childbirth From A Man’s Perspective. Both of my births were stressful, I can honestly admit I was pretty much just focused on myself the whole time. In retrospect I see that my man didn’t have it very easy, either.

My first pregnancy ended in an unexpected emergency c-section. I was eight days after my due date and at my regular weekly checkup, when my midwife told me I needed to get to the hospital asap. My mom had just arrived and we decided she would come with me to this appointment instead of my husband. Of course.

My mother and I were both panicking, so I did what I always do in these scenarios – call my sister to fix things. My sister was in charge of getting the hospital address to my husband. She did. He went to 10th Avenue in Manhattan instead of 10th Avenue in Brooklyn – where the hospital actually was. Oh, and he left without his wallet.

He called me from the city, confused as to why he was at the address and couldn’t see the hospital. I very calmly explained to him that he was in the wrong borough:

WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU DOING IN MANHATTAN? WHY WOULD YOU GO TO MANHATTAN? ALL OF OUR APPOINTMENTS HAVE BEEN IN BROOKLYN. ARE YOU STUPID? SHIT!

I was so stressed out at the prospect of delivering this child with only my crying, praying Greek mother beside me, that I neglected to even think about how stressed out my poor husband was, essentially running to Brooklyn from Manhattan, hoping someone would be kind enough to swipe him into the subway.

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