I Have No Sympathy For This Old Married Guy Who Met A Teen On Facebook And Was Robbed

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Man Met Teen On facebook For Sex Some teens took it upon themselves to disperse some Hard Candy-style justice when one of their friends, a 16-year-old girl met some old married guy on Facebook and he offered to meet her for sex. Yuck. The story goes like this, teen girl meets 41-year-old married guy on Facebook. Married guy chats her up and she says “Hey, let’s go to this party!” and then….

From The Daily Mail:

A married 41-year-old man has told police he arranged to meet with a 16-year-old girl through Facebook so they could have sex – but that when he got there, her friends robbed him instead.

The man, who has not been identified, picked up the girl on Thursday afternoon from an apartment in Noblesville, Indiana after she told him she wanted to have sex with him, police said.

The teen told him they should go to a party with her friends and they drove to an abandoned house in Downtown Indianapolis.

It should be noted that the guy was driving a 2013 Lexus. To take a teen girl to a part in an abandoned building. Now, not to be all midlife-crisis judgy here, but dude, you are driving a car that costs around 35K, and trolling Facebook for teen girls to have sex with, and when you meet one, you actually go to an abandoned building with her in a shady part of Indianapolis? Yeah, this is all going to end with you having sex with an underage girl, pal.

She told him to wait outside for her and a friend, but after she went inside, he was punched, kicked and robbed of his wallet, keys and cell phone by two males.

The girl and her friend then joined the two men and stole the victim’s car and went on a shopping spree with his credit card, the man told police.Three other male teens held the man against his will for several hours, and one brandished a gun, he told police.


When the robbers returned with the man’s car a few hours later, they told him to leave. The old guy left, went home to his wife, and told her that he was robbed. OK pal, yeah, you may have been robbed, but did you happen to mention to your wife that this all happened because you were trying to meet a teenager for sex? It isn’t clear if any of the robbery suspects have been arrested yet, but it’s reported that they are between the ages of 14-20.

We can all agree that teens with guns are not cool and robbing people is not cool, and taking their car on a shopping spree with their credit cards is not cool (Or is it?!) but come on, this creepy married guy wanted to have sex with a kid young enough to be his daughter and it’s his own fault for being such a creep and trolling the internets for underage girls. And I’m totally hoping Lifetime makes this one into a movie.

(Image: Hard Candy)


  1. Alex

    March 30, 2013 at 1:44 pm

    Another interesting part of this is that of the parties, it’s not the man who committed (or was even about to commit) any crime here, with the possible exception of the method he used to contact her. As “creepy” as you might find it, the age of consent in Indiana is 16; had the two actually had sex, it would have been perfectly legal. He may have intended to cheat on his wife, offending your sense of morality, but in the eyes of the law he is absolutely the innocent victim of assault and robbery. This is now referred to as “justice”?

  2. Byron

    March 30, 2013 at 2:04 pm

    Armed robbery, kidnappng, grand theft auto, false credit card use, are you SURE you wanna present these things as less or even comparably bad to being a creepy dude aranging to have legal, consentual sex over facebook? Are you sure you wanna demonize “creepiness” to this exorbitant degree?

    All straight men who do not lie would agree that they’d love having sex with a physically mature woman, be it she is 16 or 18 or 21, as some people mature quicker than others. This is no sin any more than being gay is, it is just how heterosexual male brains function naturally.

    Now, cruising facebook to hook up is weird as hell, regardless of the age of the participants (as long as they’re “legal”) and 16 is legal in his location so…yeah…the guy is guilty of intended infidelity, that’s about it.

    • Kayla Valdine Meyers

      March 30, 2013 at 3:54 pm

      But here’s the thing: It’s NOT legal sex. Having sex with a minor is a crime in this country, and yes, because he’s an adult and knows better, it is rape. Period. It doesn’t matter if she tells him she wants to have sex, she is a minor with and underdeveloped brain for decision-making and it is his job as an adult to say no, much less be trolling around Facebook luring young girls into sex.

      And I find this whole, “Mens brains are just programmed that way!” argument to be really disgusting and rather silly, to be honest. You’re seriously telling me any grown adult man would be happy to have sex with a minor? That is not akin to being gay as it’s not a sexual preference, so I really don’t see how you’re making that connection. It is pedophilia.

    • chickadee

      March 30, 2013 at 3:59 pm

      While his plan to have sex with this girl was certainly ethically stupid and gross, the age of content in Indiana is 16. The age of consent varies by state, but I believe 16 is the youngest age of legal consent when the other partner is over 18.

    • Byron

      March 30, 2013 at 4:38 pm

      If the minor has developed secondary sexual characteristics, a sexually mature man of the heterosexual persuasion would indeed want to have sex with her. It is how women used to be mothers at ages we now deem too young, the men of 150 years ago and before did not just bite the bullet and have sex with them despite not wanting to.

      You’re living in a dream world if you think men don’t feel sexually attracted to 16-year-old girls that look grown up.

      Yes, actually aranging to have sex with one is creepy as hell, I agree. The mere want though, that, that is 100% normal.

      Lastly, pedophillia is being attracted to prebubescent kids, ones without breasts and such. Not 16 year olds. 16 is legal in the majority of the planet in fact.

    • chickadee

      March 30, 2013 at 4:48 pm

      Look, every time you use the argument that any straight man wants to have sex with a physically mature teenager, it comes off as seriously creepy. Maybe it’s true for you, but it is not really helping your argument and it makes you sound like an overgrown frat boy.

    • Byron

      March 30, 2013 at 4:54 pm

      I am actually of that age group, though I do not belong to fraternities and such, nor am I sex-crazed or anything. Only ever had 3 partners in my life thus far.

      How is desire creepy? It’s natural. Creepy is to act on it since in this society it is deemed bad. You don’t blame homosexuals for their desires, why blame heterosexuals? I really feel alienated by this disconnect. Why can’t men desire what they desire and be left to desire it as long as they don’t hurt anyone? Why must we demonise or be forced to hide natural urges like how gay people once had to?

      Lastly, I am not american, in my country of origin age of consent everywhere is exactly 15. This is the “norm” I grew up with. I refuse to see every single person I came to know living there for 17 years who cosidered this a normal and natural thing as some sick creepy pedophile or whatever you folks here seem to think.

    • chickadee

      March 30, 2013 at 5:31 pm

      Creepy is because the way you lead with that fact seems to paint all men as thinking entirely with their libidos. It is not emotionally normal for a 41-year–old to pursue a teenager for sex.

    • Byron

      March 30, 2013 at 6:41 pm

      But I mentioned multiple times that actually acting out that desire is indeed creepy.

      What I’m saying is that having it is not, that it is normal and that those who do act upon it while creepy are also normal. That people who may happen to be attracted to a developed teen are not sick or pedos or anything.

    • chickadee

      March 31, 2013 at 1:54 pm

      You keep avoiding the issue of the tremendous age gap, and that is not normal. And it is creepy.

    • Byron

      April 1, 2013 at 6:34 pm

      There’s a bunch of people who are married with 25+ years of difference, especially some famous actors come to mind, who are in their 60s or so and yet married to younger women, possibly even in their 20s. I do not see this similar reaction of “ewwww, creepy!” by the public mind so I figure, why selectively apply it here?

      Is it because the girl is 16 that it’s creepy? What if she was 30 and going out with an active, young-looking 55-year-old, would you still consider it creepy?

      Please, this is an excuse you make, bringing up the “age difference” as though it’s a mantra of correct creepiness-measuring.

      You don’t like that it’s legal for this girl to be able to consent to sex, despite being physically (and possibly mentially) ready for it so you grasp at straws and try to dissuade men from having sex with her or others like her by shaming them for being normal heterosexual males.

  3. Jennifer Ives O'Meara

    March 30, 2013 at 2:27 pm

    BLAH ignore those 2 posts, of course they are by men. The legal age of sex is 16! Its infidelity at best! So say the men, who obviously can’t think further than what is really going on. This married dude cruised FB for an underage girl to have sex with, not the first time, maybe it will be his last! Wonder how many times he has done this in the past? what if this girl was 15, would these guys somehow be disguisted with the man? HEY MEN, what if it was your 16 year old daughter, how would you feel? This man is a predator, anyway you shape it, hope his wife leaves him. I second the lifetime movie notion.

    • Byron

      March 30, 2013 at 2:41 pm

      Still wouldn’t be as bad as ARMED ROBERY and KIDNAPPING. Jesus. Sex, it’s sex, it may be statutory rape at best. Statutory rape is NOT as bad as threatening to KILL someone if they don’t give you their stuff, then beating them and stealing their car.

      How is this mental disconnect so huge? What if it was son that had a gun pointed at him, was beaten, then had his belonging stolen from him and was held against his will, terrified for his life, for hours? What about that?

      Oh and I love the “ignore the men, this is OUR clubhouse, it’s the men! they like to fuck little girls, all of em!” start of your reply. Can you be any more bigotted? Please be more respectful of respectfully made points in the future. If anything, men bothering to read a mothering and female-issues-website are the ones you should NOT complain about, even if you disagree.

    • Jennifer Ives O'Meara

      March 30, 2013 at 3:09 pm

      Let me get this straight, in your eyes it is better to be raped, (your gd right I am calling it rape, hes old enough to know better & using fb to lure underage girls into sex) than it is to be robbed & kidnapped? My comment was just as bigoted as yours. Proclaiming the men just can’t help it biology defense, the she was of legal age, that is crap and anybody with common sense is not buying that line. He is a creep, a stalker, quite possibly a pedophile, and i don’t care that he was kidnapped & robbed. If he was doing the right thing & this happened I would be angry, just like everybody else. To answer your question, your asking me what if the 41 year old man was my son? i would be concerned for his immediate safety, then I would be beat his ass for luring a teenage girl, because you’re never too old to be spanked, and I would insist upon counseling. But that is all fantasy, because I’m not raising a pedophile, I am raising a MAN who values all human life, shows respect, works hard and loves his family.
      All men, like woman are sexual beings, we all have the same urges, it is what we do with them, how we handle them that define the kind of person we will become, justifying a 41 year old man who lured a 16 year old to a houseparty just so he could have sex with her, when he should have been at home with his wife having sex with her, is FOUL.

    • Jennifer Ives O'Meara

      March 30, 2013 at 3:32 pm

      And for the record, nobody deserves to be a victim of any crime, regardless of the type. But when you look at all the details of this specific kidnapping & robbery, I consider it to be karma at it’s finest, and refuse to care at all about the victim. Mostly because I have bigger & better issues that deserve both my attention & compassion.

    • Alex

      March 31, 2013 at 1:57 pm

      “If he was doing the right thing
      & this happened I would be angry, just like everybody else.”

      I thought we weren’t supposed to blame the victim for the crime no matter his/her background or past actions? At least that’s what we’ve been hearing about Stuebenville for the last few months.

    • Amber

      April 7, 2013 at 10:54 pm

      Getting drunk and passing out is not a crime. Being an adult and attempting to have sex with kids is a crime. How can you not see the difference?

    • Alex

      April 10, 2013 at 1:05 am

      An adult attempting to have sex with a 16 year old is not a crime in Indiana. Assault and robbery, however, IS a crime.

  4. chickadee

    March 30, 2013 at 2:50 pm

    Let’s be fair, here…Eve didn’t cheer on the criminals or say that they were entitled to do what they did. She is snickering at a creepy guy who planned to have (legal) sex with a girl who was young enough to be his daughter, and this would be an act of infidelity because the guy was married. No one says he deserved to be beaten and robbed, but it’s not like this happened while he was on his way to work or to dinner. Or home to his family….

    • Byron

      March 30, 2013 at 2:57 pm

      “but it’s not like this happened while he was on his way to work or to dinner. Or home to his family….”
      I can see this same language used for victim-blaming rape victims. I’m sure it has been in the past.

      Oh, the irony.

      Nobody, no matter how creepy, deserves to be robbed at gunpoint. Being creepy does not make the robery his fault nor does it make it funny or snicker-inducing or anything of the sort. Not any more so than being in revealing clothes and hanging out with guys makes raping someone ok.

    • chickadee

      March 30, 2013 at 3:06 pm

      My point is that Eve didn’t say he deserved it. Maybe it wasn’t kind of her to write this, but I don’t quite see the rape parallel that you are trumpeting. Victim-blaming, perhaps, though Eve points out that no one deserves to be a crime victim. Maybe you want her to shout it a little louder?

      The reason why this is a story is the issue of power imbalance. Power was on this aide of the guy, who then got robbed by the woman he waa going to take advantage of. And yes, 16 is legal. But let’s not overlook the 25 year age difference, which is creepy.

    • Eve Vawter

      March 31, 2013 at 9:25 am

      He totally deserved it. What a creep.

    • chickadee

      March 31, 2013 at 10:44 am

      Yeah. He thought he was going to go have Fun Young Exploiting Sex and he got jumped instead. Stupid creepy man.

    • Alex

      March 31, 2013 at 1:15 pm

      Yes, Eve actually does say that he deserved it in additional comments. So yes, this is absolutely victim-blaming, which we’re told is always inappropriate and that a crime is never the victim’s fault. I see the rape parallel quite clearly; (if he hadn’t been wanting to meet a girl for perhaps immoral but perfectly legal sex, he wouldn’t have been beaten and robbed; if she hadn’t been drinking with boys she didn’t know, she wouldn’t have been raped).

      So really, what’s the difference here?

    • chickadee

      March 31, 2013 at 1:52 pm

      As I mentioned, the power imbalance. He was poised to take advantage of a girl, and the tables were turned on him. In no cases of rape is the power balance weighted on the side of the victim.

    • Alex

      March 31, 2013 at 2:16 pm

      Oh, I agree that there was a power imbalance in what he was trying to do (not to mention that power imbalances also exist in all sorts of legal relationships). But I think the imbalance swung too far to her/their advantage by, you know, robbing and beating him so I’m not applauding them. Perhaps taking a photo/screenshot and exposing his attempts to his wife would be more along the lines of “justice”.

    • Brikkz

      April 3, 2013 at 8:37 pm

      if i were his wife i’d think the beating and robbery were the least of his worries. he’d be lucky to walk out of my house with clothes on if i didnt burn them on the lawn.

    • Makabit

      April 11, 2013 at 7:11 am

      ‘Which we’re told is always inappropriate’.

      In other words, you don’t think it’s inappropriate to blame the victim, you’re just pissed you were ‘told’ not to about the Steubenville case. Suddenly you take it to heart.

    • Alex

      April 11, 2013 at 4:10 pm

      No, I DO think it’s inappropriate to blame the victim. I’m just wondering why it’s apparently acceptable to do so here, while noting contrasting comments regarding the Steubenville case (referenced by “which we’re told…”).

      Articles written by Eve Vawter that condemn victim-blaming, and supported by the majority of the comments in said articles:

    • Eve Vawter

      March 31, 2013 at 9:24 am

      I was totally cheering them on in my mind though.

    • chickadee

      March 31, 2013 at 10:43 am

      I totally understand. 🙂

  5. Tea

    March 30, 2013 at 3:14 pm

    I mostly find myself shaming him just from the fact that you should probably know better than to go meet someone from the internet at an abandoned building. Oh gee, that sounds legit. It’s technically legal, but sketchy as hell. I don’t think he deserves it, no one deserves to be robbed at gunpoint, I’m just sitting here going, ” Dude, really?”

    Hell, I’m 24 and fancy ladies (I do, really, I just didn’t marry one!), and even I think that sounds like it was a really sketchy situation to get into.

    • Blueathena623

      March 30, 2013 at 4:33 pm

      Tea, seriously, everything I read one of your comments, I just love you that much more.

    • Tea

      March 30, 2013 at 6:35 pm

      Aw, thank you kindly. I literally just went “squee!”

  6. Nicki

    March 31, 2013 at 12:04 pm

    Bad things happen to bad people!!

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