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Listen, We Wouldn’t Be Objectifying Kordale And Kaleb If There Weren’t So Damn Good Looking

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I’d like to note that I’m not meaning to objectify any terribly attractive parents, but some days you wake up and look in the mirror and notice in the mirror that your sweatshirt has some sort of creepy stain on it and you should really do something with your hair. And then we have Kordale and Kaleb, who recently caused an uproar for posting a photograph of themselves on their Instagram account getting two of their three kids really for school.

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Some news outlets say the reason this has been sensationalized is because these guys are gay parents. Others say it has been sensationalized because they are black.

But for some of us, the reason why this is so attention-worthy is because those are two incredibly attractive men doing something that pretty much makes any woman swoon, taking care of their kids.

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Screen Shot 2014-01-24 at 6.28.36 AM COME ON. It’s all freaking adorable, and do you know why it’s freaking adorable, because it is freaking adorable. It’s that simple. For many people this has nothing to do with the fact these guys are gay or black, it has to do with the fact that they are some amazingly attractive parents showing themselves caring for their adorable kids and because we live in this voyeuristic world of social media and people posting their personal lives all over the Internet we all LIKE seeing adorable things.

And these guys are extremely attractive.

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I read a lot of mom blogs, and spend way too much time on Pinterest, and these guys elicit them same sort of feeling I have when I see a beautiful family being all beautiful and doing beautiful things and it’s a combination of aesthetical envy and being utterly charmed. I can’t be the only mom who sees pictures of amazingly attractive people caring for their kids (who also happen to be attractive) and finds myself liking it.

This would probably be less aww-worthy if it were a typical hetero couple, because I do think that is a lot more common to see, and to be honest, from a totally aesthetic viewpoint, one of the reasons it is so aww-worthy is because these guys look like models.

I think a lot of women can agree that a photograph of an attractive man is attractive, but when you add an attractive man with a picture of a baby, or caring for his child, it becomes a whole lot more attractive. I’m not sure men have the same sort of aww feeling when they see an attractive woman holding a baby or doing her kid’s hair – but I can’t speak for men here. I just know that for me the reason why I find this whole Kordale and Kaleb instagram account so charming and swoon worthy is because I like seeing good looking dudes with their kids.

I’m madly in love with my husband and I think he’s a stone cold fox, but do you know what? The pictures that I treasure the most are the ones of him napping with my daughter of hanging out with my sons. Of course I think he’s attractive when he’s not doing these things, but there is a whole other level of swoon when he is.

So for all of those people who objectified these two guys because they are black and gay and they found it surprising that duh, there are many gay men and black men who are fantastic parents and that isn’t exactly newsworthy, there were those of us who just felt HOT DUDES TAKING CARE OF THEIR KIDS.

Some of us women find that very attractive.

(Images: Kordalenkaleb on Instagram)


  1. EmmaFromÉire

    January 24, 2014 at 8:21 am

    Let’s just all be thankful that gay men can’t reproduce with each other, because their biological children would be too beautiful to cope with.

    • MerlePerle

      January 24, 2014 at 3:58 pm

      But then their children could marry mine and give me the prettiest grandchildren!

  2. SmrtGrl86

    January 24, 2014 at 8:33 am

    Look at the pretty, all the pretty…

  3. candyvines

    January 24, 2014 at 8:51 am

    Insert Homer Simpson donut noise.

  4. Aja Jackson

    January 24, 2014 at 8:57 am

    Where’s their shower curtain? Is it weird that every time I see this picture I wonder about this?

    • Eve Vawter

      January 24, 2014 at 8:59 am

      You know what? I bet they took it down because after they took this pic they were going to go buy one at Anthropologie for like $90 and then have a long leisurely lunch with their kids who behaved perfectly while they drank mimosas #kordaleandkalebfanfiction

    • Maria Guido

      January 24, 2014 at 10:29 am

      haha #kordaleandkalebfanfiction – now I want to write some.

    • missiemeghan

      January 24, 2014 at 12:34 pm

      I would totally read that fanfiction.

    • Mystik Spiral

      January 24, 2014 at 12:48 pm

      So this is the gay agenda the conservative family values types are so afraid of… #gayagenda #shoveitdownourthroats #noadamandsteve

    • Bethany Ramos

      January 24, 2014 at 9:16 am

      You should tweet them and be outraged about the shower curtain ONLY. 😉

    • Eve Vawter

      January 24, 2014 at 9:21 am

      hahahhah #showercurtainoutrage

    • Bethany Ramos

      January 24, 2014 at 9:25 am


    • Eve Vawter

      January 24, 2014 at 9:27 am

      I need to start using this more

    • Aja Jackson

      January 24, 2014 at 10:22 am

      Shower curtains are an integral patch in the moral fabric of society. How else do you protect your floor from water? How else???!!! #showercurtainoutrage

    • Alicia Kiner

      January 24, 2014 at 9:59 am

      behind the door?? Or maybe they don’t use one in that bathroom if only the kids use it? We didn’t hang a shower curtain up in my kids’ bathroom until they actually started using the shower.

    • jane

      January 24, 2014 at 11:51 am

      It’s behind the open bathroom door. On the left side of the picture. Behind the hot one. No, the other hot one.

    • pineapplegrasss

      January 24, 2014 at 6:57 pm

      I didn’t even notice a background 😉

  5. Emily

    January 24, 2014 at 9:04 am

    That is awesome the same way this poster was awesome in 1987. Which is to say, totally awesome.

    • Eve Vawter

      January 24, 2014 at 9:23 am

      I don’t think this guy is cute but hand him a baby and the BABY MAKES EVERYTHING BETTER

    • Emily

      January 24, 2014 at 11:45 am

      Right?! Those are some awesome baby cheeks, too.

    • missiemeghan

      January 24, 2014 at 12:33 pm

      Oh! Look at him cuddling that peanut!!

    • Guest

      January 24, 2014 at 12:55 pm

      Also, this.

    • jsing014

      January 24, 2014 at 4:04 pm

      my ovaries just jumped to attention

  6. Alicia Kiner

    January 24, 2014 at 9:59 am

    Can I just say… teeniest bit disappointed that they’re gay. Not that I’m not happily married or anything… but damn. They are beautiful. And so are their kids. Sigh.

  7. TwentiSomething Mom

    January 24, 2014 at 10:41 am

    When I first saw their pictures all I could think to myself was daaaaaayuuuuuuum they’re fine as hell!

  8. Tea

    January 24, 2014 at 12:25 pm

    First Thought: Yay gay men showing that we can be parents!

    All thoughts there after were very, very gay.

    (There is actually a stigma for gay dads to show their kids off
    on social media, I kid you not, there has been many a pub conversation
    about it. These guys actually hit all of the buttons that a lot of guys are afraid to be public about.)

    • Eve Vawter

      January 24, 2014 at 12:39 pm

      well, can you please tell all the gay men that a lot of us women would happily see all their gay dad pictures and be very happy about it? Because um, science.

  9. Terry Teague SF

    January 24, 2014 at 12:44 pm

    So, for balance, I wanted to post pictures of hot beautiful lesbian moms…
    um… I should have kept my google filters to strong

  10. Kay_Sue

    January 24, 2014 at 1:25 pm

    I think my ovaries exploded from the “D’awww” and “cute kids” and “wow, dads” factors all combined. It’s *biology*.

    • Gangle

      January 25, 2014 at 1:35 am

      Yep. Add in a great big heap of ‘I want some of those wandering around shirtless in my house doing chores and nannying’ and I am there.

    • Pappy

      January 25, 2014 at 2:41 am

      I started spontaneously ovulating just looking at them. It’s biology!

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