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10 Reasons I Love Mommy Bloggers

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I Love Mommy Bloggers

I’m a mommyblogger. Have been for going on five years since my daughter was a speck in my womb that gave me the itch to write about this whole life-creating thing we’ve got going on. And while I totally accept that people (who do not happen to be mommy or daddy bloggers) think I sit around in my yoga pants, drinking coffee and ranting to the internet all day, this is totally not the case…JK. It is exactly the case actually. But as a full time stay at home mom, part-time writer, ranting to the internet or doing anything aside from rearing children (one of whom is a newborn, or will be at the time this piece is published) feels pretty damn ambitious.

 

If you are a stay at home parent, maybe you agree. Or maybe you have nine kids whose clothes you hand knit while you also run your own jam business and don’t have time to read blogs and you think I’m a complete and total schmuck. In that case, I feel ya.

 

But the truth is, I have to write about my experiences as a parent. It has never really felt like a choice. I simply have to do it. And not only has it been a source of income and motivation for me as a mother, at times it has helped shape my parenting journey. It gives me reason to examine the choices I make, helps me relate to others and to truly know myself as a mother and I’m thankful every day that I get the opportunity to do it.

 

I believe our work as mothers and writers is deeply valuable. I believe it can motivate or raise questions, help a struggling mama when she needs a lift or laugh and give us all a lot of shit to talk about. Even if it’s just talking shit. Maybe it’s all a little self-indulgent. Maybe it’s not worth your time. But at the heart of it, I believe in this work.

 

Here are 10 reasons why I love mommy bloggers:

 

1. They write from the heart. No one can stop a mama blogger from saying what she means. That’s probably why I’ve cried more times than I can count and been more moved reading work by mothers, about mothers than anything else ever. Often times, it means saying things that aren’t easily said or admitting truths they can barely open our mouths to talk about. But they remain willing to open themselves up to a world of criticism in an effort to say something real.

 

2. They work evenings, weekends and early mornings (or whenever a kid isn’t asking for a popsicle).. Mama bloggers are ambitious. Seriously! I know it doesn’t look that way, but sometimes getting an article or a blog post in on time means staying up late, waking up early or pulling weekend duty to get it done. Sure, most of the time we’re comfy in our sweats, cruising twitter for our next topic. But other times we are wide-eyed at two am because it’s the only ever-loving time we could find to do our work.

 

3. They are the only people who manage to make a career out of bitching and moaning about family.This is truly an art and a very fortunate accident. It often results in the true and the funny things that you didn’t realize you hated too (until someone pointed it out). The truth is, when you get paid to write about what you think, a lot of times that will be writing about what displeases you. Yes, sometimes that means talking smack about our little angels, but this whole internet thing will probably be kaput before they can type, yes? Our husbands/partners on the other hand, well sometimes they just have to bite the bullet and accept who they married. Or stay off of facebook because their wife wrote about their penis for the third time this week. I’m speaking metaphorically, of course. (Nope).

 

4. They all seem to have a shared love of drinking. Writers are notoriously drinkers. And given how stressful this whole mom-life thing can be, we sometimes pour our wines a bit deep. Put the two together and you’ve got a boozey bunch of drunken mamas running around the internet with a license to entertain. The results are often amazeballs. At least with wine-goggles on.

 

5. They support one another. You may think the internet is full of judgment (it is) but it is also full of a lot of love, kindness and support for the fellow mama. I truly don’t know what I would’ve done without some of the beautiful words other mothers have written that I felt could’ve been written for me and only me. I have been saved by their vulnerability, awakened by their ideas and brought back from the edge by their own truths when I realized they were in fact, mine, too.

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18 Comments

  1. Wicked Prophet Kay Sue

    June 23, 2014 at 11:10 am

    I have some mommy bloggers that I absolutely adore, but I have quite a few that I can’t stand, honestly. It’s nice to paint a fuzzy picture of it, but bloggers are individuals. When I read a blog, for instance, that says that Scary Mommy encourages us to see our kids as burdens because we are all influenced by abortion culture to see them that way, I reserve the right to dry heave or maybe for-real heave. Not all mommy bloggers are created equal…

    • pixie the Boozy Twerker

      June 23, 2014 at 11:21 am

      Definitely not all mommy bloggers are equal, or, just simply, not all bloggers are equal.

      I don’t really read any parenting blogs outside of M’ish, which, while it does have the odd article that comes off as judgemental or sanctimonious (often by occasional writers, sometimes by regulars), tends to lean towards being open and inclusive. I have seen far more things on the rest of the internet that make me rage-quit than things that don’t.
      Also, did this blogger just admit to writing about her husband’s penis on facebook multiple times in a week?

    • Wicked Prophet Kay Sue

      June 23, 2014 at 11:24 am

      I believe she did. That is one subject that I do try to keep off of Facebook.

    • sarahbregel

      June 23, 2014 at 11:24 am

      that she did,

    • pixie the Boozy Twerker

      June 23, 2014 at 11:25 am

      Alrighty, then!
      As long as there were no accompanying pictures!

    • CMJ

      June 23, 2014 at 11:26 am

      My husband got cranky enough about the circumcision/penis discussions.

    • Cruelty Cupcake

      June 23, 2014 at 12:50 pm

      Hahaha my bf gets cranky about internet circumcision lunatics too. He still can’t figure out why the only people who care about circumcision are women on the internet…tbh, I can’t either!

  2. CMJ

    June 23, 2014 at 11:14 am

    I’m not going to lie….95% of mommy bloggers make me cringe so hard. In fact, I wish I could find the ones you describe here…..

    (MOMMYISH COMPANY EXCLUDED OF COURSE)

    • Wicked Prophet Kay Sue

      June 23, 2014 at 11:16 am

      I am at about that ratio too. I have google alerts set to troll the internet for content for my blog, and I wind up running into the absolute worst ones, I think. It’s just…no. Not all are created equal.

    • Megan Zander

      June 23, 2014 at 11:32 am

      When I first had my kids and found mommy blogs I thought I was screwed bc a love of Jesus and an unhealthy obsession with a glue gun seemed to be prerequisites for parenting I had missed. Then I found Mommyish and choirs of angels sang.

    • NotTakenNotAvailable

      June 23, 2014 at 11:47 am

      I am really amused by your implication that choirs of angels sang when you found a site that wasn’t all about a love of Jesus. 😉

    • Spongeworthy

      June 23, 2014 at 11:59 am

      Yes, this place is pretty much the only mom blog I can stomach. Between the smugness, the preciousness, and the judging (all in the name of “think of the children!”), I am all set with those same 95% that you mention.
      I’m sure there are some other great ones out there. But I don’t have to stomach to sift through all the dreck to find the good ones.

  3. Megan Zander

    June 23, 2014 at 11:31 am

    Speaking of awesome mommy blogs, why is there no link to Sarah’s? Do want!

  4. Rachel Sea

    June 23, 2014 at 2:31 pm

    Mommy bloggers are about as great as the general population, which means about 5% of them don’t make me want to rage-quit the internet.

  5. Mad Overlord

    June 23, 2014 at 2:43 pm

    I follow some mormon mommy blogs. They just make everything look so easy and pretty. And then I come to Mommyish to get me back into real life…

  6. Jenny

    June 23, 2014 at 6:58 pm

    I always tell my mom-to-be and new mom friends to read books, not blogs, for parenting advice. That’s because any hick can spew awful, hysterical, judgmental nonsense on a blog (Alpha Parent, Kelly Mom and Evolutionary Parenting come to mind– really not the kind of sites you want to end up in whilst in the middle of newborn hell and you’re feeling like a failure already.) It takes a bit more effort and credentials to get a book published.

    Personally, I love the Cohens, M.D. (Scott for “Eat Sleep Poop” and Michel for “The New Basics.”) The Searses, their ilk, and their “Vaccines aren’t THAT important” crap can suck it. (Seriously, I hate those guys and the wave of idiocy they’ve unleashed on American parenting.)

  7. C.J.

    June 24, 2014 at 12:34 am

    I have to say, Mommyish is really the only blog I read regularly. I read a few others here and there but rarely comment. I like the fact that for the most part everyone here is respectful. I generally like the writers because they tend to write with an open mind. I like reading different opinions. I find most other blogs are kinda judgmental if you don’t agree with everything they say so there is really just the same opinion given over and over by different people.

  8. Sherisa D

    July 24, 2014 at 9:24 am

    hell yeah! I’ve been reading mommy blogs years and years before becoming one myself. it is some of the most moving and often raw work online. and i am here for all of it.

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