Reddit Dads Answer A Question About Moms After Motherhood And Get Ready To Swoon

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166053571Parenthood totally robs your identity. Well, it did mine for many years, and now that my kids are a bit older I’m stating to finally remember who I was. But becoming a mom is scary, isn’t it? Not only are you in charge of a whole new human, but it can mess with your self-esteem and your identity and if we are being totally honest here, how your partner perceives you and how you view your partner. This is why I am so in love with this question posted to Reddit, and some of the replies that follow.

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It’s sort of a scary question, but the replies are nothing short of heart melting:

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Do you have something in your eye? I MAY HAVE SOMETHING IN MY EYE.

Of course, the conversation moves towards the whole EW VULVA MY PARTNER’S LADY JUNK WILL NEVER LOOK THE SAME. But until then we can all just swoon over some of these replies and realize that yeah, sometimes becoming a mom make those who got us into this mess love us a whole lot more.

I hope all these wives and partners see these responses, because it’s just the sweetest. And it’s not even Valentine’s Day yet!

I think we’d all like to think that our others would respond the same, but I have never asked my man this question personally. Maybe it’s just dads are this sweet when they think no one is looking.

Now who wants to answer how you view your own partner after having a baby?

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  1. Guest

    January 31, 2014 at 2:28 pm

    **Do you have something in your eye? I MAY HAVE SOMETHING IN MY EYE.**
    This. Love it.

  2. Kay_Sue

    January 31, 2014 at 2:40 pm

    D’awwww. They should bookmark these and then refer their partners to them when they want to get lucky, lol.

    My husband has actually said things like this to me before, but it would be pretty sweet to know that he put his “I want to be a BAMF” image away in front of his “boys” and told them how awesome I totally know I am…I mean, told them how awesome he totally thinks I am.

  3. Alex Lee

    January 31, 2014 at 2:43 pm

    Hyperemetic for BOTH births. That’s an entire YEAR AND A HALF of total nausea. Plus, the way she keeps on top of them with their schoolwork (they continue to be A students, btw).

    I knew she was strong and brilliant when I first met her. This is just validation.

  4. Maria Guido

    January 31, 2014 at 2:53 pm

    Aww. It almost makes the hell we go through worth it. ALMOST. hahah

    • R Zhao

      February 1, 2014 at 7:31 am

      “Parenthood totally robs your identity.” “It almost makes the hell we go through worth it.” Wow, guys, is it really that bad? I feel like reading this website is often depressing, even posts that should be positive, such as this. You guys make motherhood sound pretty terrible half the time and now that I’m 7 months pregnant, there’s really no going back.

    • Maria Guido

      February 1, 2014 at 9:26 am

      Well, childbirth was hell for me – sorry. Do you want me to pretend I liked it in a comment section to make the general public feel better?

    • Kay_Sue

      February 1, 2014 at 1:14 pm

      Naw, you’re pretty much fucked. Good luck though! 😛

  5. Natasha B

    January 31, 2014 at 3:28 pm

    I…crap…I think there’s dust…or my eye….
    I think having kids can def cement a relationship. Hubs has said to me a few times ‘I love you more every time I watch you rock our babies’ and he’s never sweeter than when I’m knocked up. But it’s reciprocal…my heart goes all mushy when he cuddles the kids, or rough houses, or I catch him watching them with that sappy grin.

    • Rachelxoxo

      February 1, 2014 at 10:46 pm

      Come back in 3 months when you’re as jaded and sarcastic as the rest of us, lol! I’m just kidding…I think we all love being moms and obviously love our kids to death, but it’s hard work! Being a mom has been THE hardest thing I’ve ever done, some days I really don’t know if I can do it, while others are filled with so much love and happiness. But to be honest I think this whole motherhood thing needs some more negativity! I think we’re in this place where everyone has told us how amazing and natural and perfect motherhood is and when our lives aren’t all roses we feel like failures. I wish more people told me how much being a mom sucks, then when I find myself enjoying being a mom or when I do something right I can feel even better about myself. 🙂

    • Natasha B

      February 2, 2014 at 9:37 am

      I wasn’t saying motherhood isn’t hard, it is. Especially now. But….I do enjoy it.

  6. SA

    January 31, 2014 at 3:42 pm

    Crying at my desk on a Friday afternoon. I tend to have a low opinion of myself and especially lower after becoming a mom because I always just feel so frazzled. These warmed my heart. My husband does tell me that I am a good mom and it feels so good when he does. I hope more men become outspoken about their wives like this.

  7. LiteBrite

    January 31, 2014 at 6:04 pm

    I’m going to ask my husband this question when I get home. I crave validation.

    But did my view of him change after we had a kid? I always knew he’d be an amazing dad, and he hasn’t let me down. He’s so patient, kind, and thoughtful with that kid and yet still manages to hold the line and be strong in his values and beliefs. I’ll be perfectly honest, I think my husband is a better parent than I am. Seeing the way he is with our son most days has reinforced my feelings of security in our family, if that makes any sense.

  8. Mrsspring

    January 31, 2014 at 7:26 pm

    My husband just walked in the door with some coffee and after reading the beautiful things these men have said about their wives, I can not believe how lucky I am that I got to create little lives with him. I’m feeling all mushy and loved up now that I’m grinning insanely at my husband and he’s like ‘what?’.

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