Mommyish Poll: Should A Surrogate Be Present At A Baby Shower?
Giuliana Rancic got a surprise baby shower from her co-workers over at E!, which resulted in sweet thank yous and what looks like obligatory pastel cupcakes. Her surrogate baby news has overjoyed those who have tuned into her infertility struggles, brush with breast cancer, and career. But in our times of perhaps waning surrogacy stigma and increased tolerance for any woman’s path to motherhood, what exactly is the etiquette for baby showers when a surrogate is involved?
From the clip, it appears that the shower was just for Giuliana, but should it be? Who knows if the surrogate perhaps joined later when the cameras were off or if the couple plans to host their own separate celebration with the surrogate. But wouldn’t that keep with some of those lingering sentiments that surrogacy should remain hush hush?
Giuliana has already described the woman carrying her child as a “dream come true,” adding that being told of the pregnancy was “the best moment in my life.” And given how the TV host has been absolutely gushing about her surrogate experience everywhere from TODAY to her reality TV series, it would seem that some recognition for the woman bringing this child into the world is in order.
Nevertheless, baby showers traditionally are focused on the mother — as in the lady doing the parenting from here on out. So what’s the evolving etiquette on a surrogate being invited to sit around the dreaded and perpetual opening of tissue paper?