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Jezebel Shames Generous Woman For Being A Free Surrogate

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A 37-year-old woman who in the past three years has carried and delivered three children for two couples was shamed as some sort of pregnancy-addicted-freakshow on Jezebel today, with the headline Woman Addicted To Pregnancy Won’t Stop Till Her Pussy Falls Out. I thought I was going to be met with some Michelle-Duggar-esque story about someone who was overpopulating the world with her own genes. Instead, I was met with a story about a woman who loves being pregnant so much she is a free surrogate for couples who can’t conceive on their own. So basically – she’s an angel.

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Here’s a little background; the woman, Tara Sawyer, gave birth to her own twins at 29 weeks via c-section because of some medical issues the twins were having. She says it made her feel “deprived” of her pregnancy, and she began “craving” pregnancy soon after: ‘Surrogacy seemed like the perfect solution,’ said Tara. ‘I would get my pregnancy and a couple would get their baby.’ Within a few weeks she met a gay couple who desperately wanted a child. She donated her own egg, was inseminated, and carried and birthed a baby for them. Sawyer says she feels healthiest when she’s pregnant.

I get not understanding how a woman could be that into pregnancy. But she’s doing something really wonderful for couples who can’t have children. She joked that she’d do it till her womb falls out. Maybe I’ve missed something, but I’m pretty certain a womb and a pussy aren’t synonymous, Jezebel.

I can’t imagine loving pregnancy that much – I just can’t. But I’m glad there’s women like Sawyer around who do. Pregnancy isn’t gross. Handing a child over to couples who can’t have children isn’t either. Jezebel‘s lede was, “Tara Sawyer is a 37-year-old British woman who says she’s so addicted to the ‘buzz of pregnancy’ that she will keep giving birth until her ‘womb falls out.’ Ew.”

The only thing “Ew” about this story is the way it was covered.

(photo: Andresr/ Shutterstock)

33 Comments

  1. Kelly

    May 19, 2014 at 4:05 pm

    “Until her pussy falls out”? Are you kidding me? That’s a disgusting thing to say.

  2. Kendra

    May 19, 2014 at 4:26 pm

    Jezebel, screwing up female anatomy for young readers everywhere…

    • Kendra

      May 19, 2014 at 4:29 pm

      I can just imagine one misguided teenage girl, yelling at a pregnant teenage girl:
      “Oh yeah, well at least I don’t have a baby growing in my pussy, bitch!”

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  3. Kendra

    May 19, 2014 at 4:28 pm

    FWIW, I absolutely loved being pregnant. I’ve thought about potentially doing surrogacy someday for my sister if she were to need it. I think that is such an awesome sacrifice that a person can make. Nobody should be shamed for being generous. And nobody should be shamed for loving pregnancy either. If it’s not hard on your body, it’s really not that hard to love.

    • SunnyD847

      May 19, 2014 at 4:32 pm

      I loved being pregnant, too! I think my pregnancies were the only times of my life when I really appreciated my body and wasn’t trying to change it. I think it takes a really strong person to carry a child and give it up, whether through surrogacy or adoption. Giving others that gift should not be denigrated.

    • Youthier

      May 19, 2014 at 7:46 pm

      I hate being pregnant (in fact, I am this very moment enduring the hell of vomiting several times a day AND constipation). If there are women willing to do it for someone else, God bless them. They are amazing.

    • Airbones

      May 20, 2014 at 1:29 pm

      ME TOO!!

  4. EmmaFromÉire

    May 19, 2014 at 4:31 pm

    Honestly Jezebel just disgusts me these days. They are a HORRIBLE example, writing shaming, nasty, bullying posts when a woman does something they disagree with. Apparently you’re womaning wrong.

  5. Mystik Spiral

    May 19, 2014 at 4:37 pm

    I’ve never read Jezebel, but I was always under the impression that they were feminist and pro-choice. And if offering your body up for those less fortunate than you in the conception arena isn’t a choice, I don’t know what is. And a very selfless, loving choice at that.

    Guess I was sorely wrong about that site. They sound like a STFU, Parents-esque POB.

    • falcongirl

      May 19, 2014 at 5:44 pm

      They used to be a good place to go for feminist writing on pop culture and current events, but now they’re just a lot of snark and mean girling. It’s a bummer but I had to stop reading that nonsense.

    • G.S.

      May 20, 2014 at 12:31 am

      I don’t know, I think if Blair heard about this story, she’d probably just be, “Yeah, whatever floats your boat, lady,” and generally let it be (I think the most she’d say is that it’s bs that women feel that they’ve “failed” somehow if they had complications and needed a C-section, or something). If surrogate lady came out saying, “Being preggers is the best EVER! They aren’t even my babies, so if I can do it, people who can get pregnant should DEFINITELY be cranking out as many miracle-babby-bundles as they can for themselves! NO EXCEPTIONS!” and posting a million sonogram photos to facebook, then she’d probably be more likely to step in.

  6. Paul White

    May 19, 2014 at 4:40 pm

    At this point I’m not sure if Jezebel is just a giant example of Poe’s law, or what the hell is going on.

    • Stifler Plays Tennis

      May 19, 2014 at 4:55 pm

      They’re The Onion… for chicks!

  7. Sarah

    May 19, 2014 at 4:53 pm

  8. Stifler Plays Tennis

    May 19, 2014 at 5:03 pm

    Wait, I just read the Dailymail article… the way they reported this chick, I’m not sure Jezebel was being unfair.

    I think this woman’s got some serious mental health problems. No really, go read the Dailymail article that Maria linked. Some of those quotes are kinda odd. It’s not just “Oh I want to help the unfortunate people.” I think this woman really has an addiction. I’m not saying being addicted to helping others is bad of course, but it’s still a mental health issue. And like all addictions, it can be consuming and disruptive/detrimental to one’s life.

    • Rachel Sea

      May 19, 2014 at 5:10 pm

      Daily Mail is hardly a source for reasonable reporting.

    • BexleyS

      May 20, 2014 at 1:59 am

      I hate the Daily Mail so much. Although this lady should clearly have been sensible enough to know that every word out of her mouth would be twisted. This bullshit, incredulous attitude about her doing it for free is crazy. They say she’s entitled to £15,000 in expenses!!! What the hell for!?! Maybe £15,000 over the three surrogates but not each. I can’t even imagine what would cost £5000 extra by being pregnant. I hate that “newspaper” with a passion and their so called reporting is horrendous and nothing they say can be trusted. Being a surrogate is a pretty selfless act and should be held in high regard, and not used by some some “rag” to shame women who want to give people a family.

    • JenH1986

      May 20, 2014 at 9:01 am

      Actually that’s probably pretty accurate. A woman can sell her eggs for $2-$3k. Depending on the area some surrogate fees are $10k PLUS the parents pay for all the medical expenses.

    • Lilly

      May 20, 2014 at 2:33 pm

      But in the UK her medical costs are covered by the NHS

    • JenH1986

      May 20, 2014 at 2:37 pm

      The parents insurance would likely cover the surrogates med. expenses, but the surrogate is still likely to be compensated for her time/energy/time away from work etc.

    • BexleyS

      May 20, 2014 at 3:55 pm

      In the UK it is illegal to make any profit at all from surrogacy. It’s possible that her medical expenses would be covered by the NHS depending on the situation but even if they were to go private, the costs would be paid by the couple and not the surrogate so it’s not like she needs that money back. The surrogate can only claim money back from things she actually has to buy relating to her pregnancy so time and energy can’t be claimed for and a surrogate will get paid time from work to go to any medical appointments necessary. I understand exactly what you’re saying but the situation here is so different which I think is simply so that the poor can’t be convinced to sell their eggs and rent out their uteruses for huge amounts of money. The only reason for being a surrogate in the UK is pure altruism which really makes the Jezebel/Daily Mail articles even more hateful. This woman is doing a wonderful thing which many won’t. She should be applauded, not humiliated by reporters who clearly have too much time on their hands

  9. Victor Shawn

    May 19, 2014 at 5:04 pm

    Jezebel, screwing up female anatomy for young readers everywhere http://bit.ly/1o7jmys

  10. RayneofCastamere

    May 19, 2014 at 7:08 pm

    Alas, poor Jezebel. I knew it, Mommyish. A site of feminism and mirth, where one could once read affirming, pro-woman articles. Where has it now gone? Wherefore did it descend into that dank, sulfurous pit where now it resides? Wherefore did it begin to shame and derisevely mock what it once condoned and merely poked at in jest?

    Woe, that its glory days are gone and shall never be seen again.

  11. Kay_Sue

    May 19, 2014 at 9:04 pm

    I can’t handle Jezebel right now. We’re on a break.

  12. gothicgaelicgirl

    May 19, 2014 at 9:24 pm

    Horrible bastards.
    Trust Jezebel to take a story about a truly amazing woman and sell it as this crap.
    They ought to be ASHAMED of themselves and I hope to god they’re not this close-minded if any of them had to go the surrogacy route.

  13. jendra_berri

    May 19, 2014 at 11:10 pm

    I don’t personally understand her decision. I mean, using her own eggs too is essentially giving her own children away three times. But… if she can do it and these deserving couples get a wanted child, that’s all that matters and I am impressed.

  14. Kate

    May 19, 2014 at 11:11 pm

    I used to be a regular Jez reader, but lately it’s been too hateful for me. I removed the site from my feed a few weeks ago, and I can definitely say I am a happier person for it!

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