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The Fact That You Spend More On Mother’s Day Than Father’s Day Proves Moms Work Way Harder

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mothers-day-giftsMoms work harder at this whole parenting thing than dads; everyone knows it. Just kidding – everyone doesn’t know it! Just all moms. All moms know they work harder than their male counterparts. Okay – I’m trolling you, dads.

I know what you’re thinking, male friends – What an asshole she is for saying that! Agreed. I am a total asshole for saying that moms work harder at this whole parenting thing, but I promise you your partner is probably thinking the same thing. Now we sort of have proof that we do more; the reward. Moms get a way bigger return on Mother’s Day than dads do on Father’s Day. That’s saying something – isn’t it?

More people buy Mother’s Day gifts than Father’s Day gifts (86%, compared to 77%). According to the 2014 Father’s Day Shopper Trend report from RetailMeNot, survey respondents say they spend $61 on Father’s Day gifts and $68 on Mother’s Day gifts.

That’s just one survey. Another said the difference in expenditure is even greater:

According to a study by the National Retail Federation, consumers are slated to spend a total $12.5billion on Father’s Day, which falls on June 15 this year, compared to the estimated $19.9billion they were projected to spend on Mother’s Day, which was celebrated on May 11.

Breaking it down by individual, the average shopper will spend $113.80 on their dads – a sizable $50 less than the $162.94 they expected to spend on their mothers.

Why do we spend so much more on our moms? Guilt. We know we make their existences harder and pretty much spend our lives parasitically funneling energy and money out of their beings into our own. We do it to both our parents – but mom? We do it to her a little harder.

Look, these aren’t facts I’m spewing, it’s just a hypothesis. It’s based on the very scientific study of every mom I know who has at one time or another complained about her parental/household role. Hmm. Maybe we just complain louder? This is throwing my whole hypothesis off. But seven billion dollars is a lot less money! So I’m sticking with it – moms work harder.

We win! Wait…

(photo: Dasha Petrenko/ Shutterstock)


  1. Andrea

    June 4, 2014 at 6:06 pm

    I have a different hypothesis: I think there are a lot more children on single mothers than single fathers. And by single, I don’t mean just unmarried, I mean totally and completely on their own.
    So I think there might be a lot more people that don’t have a close enough relationship with their dads to buy them presents than it they are to their mothers.
    Sad, but I bet it is true.

    Hypothesis number two is even sadder: when the kids are little, it is your partner that buys gifts for you and maybe moms feel a little guilty if they don’t have “their” own income to spend on a present. Only reason I thought of this is because I used to feel that way when I was a SAHM: like I was spending HIS money to buy HIS present.

    • Meg

      June 4, 2014 at 7:12 pm

      I know that feeling of guilt over spending “his” money all too well. It is double when money is tight. Usually I end up cooking a special meal or something instead.

    • jendra_berri

      June 5, 2014 at 10:34 am

      That was my thought, too. Single-person households are overwhelmingly more mom-only than dad-only, and unfortunately in plenty of those cases dad just isn’t involved.

  2. Kelly

    June 4, 2014 at 6:11 pm


    • The Actual Devil

      June 5, 2014 at 1:40 am

      I know you are.

  3. Rachel Sea

    June 4, 2014 at 7:40 pm

    Stuff for women costs more than stuff for men, even when it’s basically the same thing, from the same manufacturer. I would argue that it’s likely that fathers are getting more stuff for a smaller expenditure.

    • FormerlyKnownAsWendy

      June 4, 2014 at 8:52 pm

      OMG, come back on and look at the bot who echoed your comment with a bad translator or something! Funny. I’d reply to them but I’m starting to think if I do I’ll get some kind of Disqus virus.

    • Andrea

      June 4, 2014 at 9:10 pm

      The bots are getting out of control here in Mommyish. I wish they would deal with them.

    • Kay_Sue

      June 4, 2014 at 9:14 pm

      It’s mostly Disqus, I think. The bots are finding ways to get around their automated spam filters. I’d wager that’s why they are using the synonyms for comments they steal now–I bet Disqus started filtering the ones that were the exact same as other comments.

    • FormerlyKnownAsWendy

      June 4, 2014 at 9:25 pm

      Until they are fixed though, their synonyms provide me with great amusement.

    • The Actual Devil

      June 5, 2014 at 1:38 am

      I like them, they are starting to have character!

    • Cruelty Cupcake

      June 5, 2014 at 9:29 am

      Maybe they’re Cylons…

    • The Actual Devil

      June 5, 2014 at 1:37 am

      There was that one article about children having sleepovers, and one commentator said something about a girl wetting the bed, and then the bot was like ” …female bed drenchers…” and I almost died.

    • FormerlyKnownAsWendy

      June 5, 2014 at 9:36 am

      I just snorted! Such a witty Devil.

    • Rachel Sea

      June 5, 2014 at 2:41 pm

      Aww, I missed it, it’s been taken down already. Some of them are spit-take worthy.

    • FormerlyKnownAsWendy

      June 5, 2014 at 3:07 pm

      Nope, it just got pushed all the way to the bottom with downvotes. “Suzane Carter”

    • Rachel Sea

      June 5, 2014 at 3:29 pm

      Omg, that’s hilarious. It’s like the refrigerator manuals that are translated from Chinese, to French, to Japanese, to English.

  4. suzane carter

    June 4, 2014 at 8:42 pm

    Stuff for girls charges more than things for guys, regardless if it’s essentially the same, in the very same producer. I would dispute that it’s probably of which fathers are receiving more things to get a smaller sized costs.

    Father’s Day Proves Moms Work Way Harder


      June 5, 2014 at 1:32 am

      Good little bot…good little bot…

  5. CanLeigh

    June 4, 2014 at 9:29 pm

    I agree with the price difference theory. Jewelry, purses etc are all generally more expensive than man gifts. Or it could be some men are harder to shop for so women just give up and cook a nice dinner. The single mom theory sounded plausible until I realized I actually haven’t gotten a single mother’s day gift since I became a single mom, so that would actually decrease spending on mother’s gifts.

    • Bree

      June 5, 2014 at 7:02 am

      I think it’s more that dad’s/kids spend money on things like lunches and forced activities on mothers day. Mother’s Day is a day where if you wanted to get away from your kids you can’t. Father’s Day is just as expensive. You just spend it putting on a BBQ for your parent friends. Instead of buying a purse it’s meat, charcoal, and beer while the moms do everything in their power to make the Dad not parent that day. Moms get the raw end of the deal when it comes to parent appreciation day

  6. Tardis

    June 4, 2014 at 10:10 pm

    Men also tend to appreciate kinky sex as a gift more than women. This gift doesn’t cost money.

  7. Kay_Sue

    June 4, 2014 at 10:52 pm

    My husband’s explanation: “Because dads like blowjobs.”

    He’s a simple guy. 🙂

    • Gangle

      June 5, 2014 at 9:12 am

      It is the gift you don’t need to save for!

    • Kay_Sue

      June 5, 2014 at 9:14 am

      So true. 😉

  8. AP

    June 4, 2014 at 11:14 pm

    I think Mother’s Day gifts are easier to buy, too. I can send my mom a card, a nice bouquet of flowers, and some chocolates, and call it a day, $50 in the hole.

    For my dad, I can barely find a card that doesn’t include jokes about fishing, lawnmowing, golfing, barbecuing, or taking too long in the bathroom. A present that doesn’t hit on one of those themes? Almost impossible.

  9. Liz

    June 5, 2014 at 1:29 am

    This was definitely true for me. I spent $45 on my mum (well, technically the gift was $15, but I spent $30 to have it shipped to her), whereas I spent $2 on my dad. It’s partially because I know we’ve never had much and haven’t been able to afford nice things, so she appreciates these types of gifts a lot. I like getting her stuff that is absolutely lovely and lasting and that she will appreciate, and I am really close with my mum and completely willing to spend money to get her something she will adore. With my dad, we aren’t very close and don’t really get along very well so I usually just get him something little to let him know I still give a shit about him, usually something he will enjoy (the $2 gift is a two pack of early nineties Spiderman comics, which he will enjoy a lot).

  10. CrazyFor Kate

    June 5, 2014 at 7:34 am

    In Russia and many other countries, on March 8, there’s Women’s Day, which honours any woman who’s special to you – moms, wives, friends, teachers, grandma, anyone you can think of. Sometimes a boy will bring candy for each girl in his class, for example. A few weeks before that, there’s Men’s Day, which is more or less the same thing – it’s supposedly about soldiers, but has taken on more a “special men in your life” meaning. And just like Mother’s Day/Father’s Day, the emphasis is much more on the women. My guess is it’s not so much moms working hard as assumed gender roles – the men are expected to make the big gestures while the starry-eyed women receive them. So yeah, kind of sexist if you think about it.

  11. Guest

    June 5, 2014 at 10:12 am

    No it just proves that no one knows what to get their dad…

  12. Layla

    June 5, 2014 at 10:20 am

    Another theory, probably more moms out there laying on the guilt about being given the “perfect present” whereas men don’t seem to care about that as much. At least this is my experience with my in laws. My parents tell me to not get them anything so I just have my kids draw them a picture.

  13. Warren Pacholzuk

    June 5, 2014 at 12:11 pm

    Or it is all ego, martyrdom and guilt. Women expect more, they expect to be pampered, they expect to be spoiled, they expect a huge fuss to be made of them.
    Men do not have these over the top expectations. Men do not need others to tell them how great they are. Men are more satisfied with the hug, “Happy Father`s Day“ and the `Love ya“, and a god awful tie they will where with pride. Mom` expect so much more.
    Moms expect Dad to do all sort of things on Mother`s Day, for them. Dad`s don`t expect the same from the Mom, they only want what their kids do.
    These observations do not apply to all Moms and Dads, but for the vast majority of them

    • ted3553

      June 5, 2014 at 4:12 pm

      my opinion is that in most families, women spend much more time with the kids and actively parenting than the men do. Like it or not, it’s the truth. Women usually spend more time with the kids and are generally more involved than the dads are so this may be why women ask/expect more on Mother’s Day

    • Warren Pacholzuk

      June 6, 2014 at 10:39 am

      It has nothing to do with time spent raising the kids. It is a fundamental difference between the sexes.
      When it comes to special days, Mother’s Day, Valentine’s Day and others, women have higher expectations. It is that simple.
      Most women EXPECT great things from their husbands on Mother’s Day. Often quoting “I am the Mother of your children”. Men don’t do that, we don’t have the big expectations.
      And if your wife is spending that much more time with the kids than you, then you should get off your ass more.

  14. ted3553

    June 5, 2014 at 2:09 pm

    I can’t wait for this father’s day because my husband has a deep belief that on mother’s day you should want to spend the whole day with your kids not something like have dad take them for a couple hours while you get a pedicure etc. He will be home this Father’s day so I will be sure to remind him how nice it will be for him to spend the whole day with the kids. I’m cackling evily as I write this in anticipation because that means I get the day off and therefore Father’s day may be my new favorite holiday

    • Andrea

      June 5, 2014 at 3:20 pm

      You will have to come back and let us know how that worked out.

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