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Anonymous Mom: I Haven’t Changed My Baby’s Diaper In Over 6 Weeks

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I have not changed my 11-month-old’s diaper in more than six weeks.

I consider this one of my all time greatest achievements in life. What mother of a non-toilet trained baby do you know has gotten away without changing a diaper for a day? Let alone weeks weeks? I’m not bragging that I haven’t changed a diaper. It’s just I’m in total shock that no one in my family has noticed. I’ve started to count the days until someone in my house finally says, “Hey, when is the last time YOU changed a diaper mom?”

I don’t even mind changing diapers. I prefer not to since my baby is now eating adult food, which means what comes out of him is adult-like (if you know what I mean.) You’re probably thinking, or hoping, I’m going to tell you how I’ve gotten away with this. I’m not quite sure myself, but I’ll share my story.

I work from home. My husband goes to an office. This baby is our fourth boy. We have three older boys, ages seven, nine, and 11. I have a part-time sitter who comes Mondays to Fridays for five hours a day to help out while I run my home business. So my day usually starts with my baby waking up when he hears the older kids get up.

I’ll say to one of the older children (who love their baby brother and are surprising skilled diaper changers) to go, “change your brother’s diaper, while I make you breakfast.” Either one of the boys, sometimes two, or sometimes all of them, will change his diaper. They love the baby in the mornings because that’s the time he gives the biggest smiles and is at his goofiest. They’ll bring him down, passing him off to me, and eat their breakfast. I’ll get the older kids off to school.

Then I’ll feed the baby. And by the time I’m done wiping him down and changing his outfit, the part-time sitter arrives. So I have a good few hours off diaper-duty during the day and then I pick up the older boys from school. When they get home, I’ll say something like, “I really have to run to the bathroom. Just change him and I’ll get you a snack.” (Boys will do anything, it seems, for food.)

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331 Comments

  1. Ali

    March 7, 2013 at 12:57 pm

    You’re my hero 🙂

  2. Iwill Findu

    March 7, 2013 at 1:14 pm

    bow down in wonder at this woman. It takes skill and cunning to pull this off.

  3. Too old fashioned.

    March 7, 2013 at 1:28 pm

    I think this is actually kinda sad. I guess I’m too old fashioned, but I believe the mom should be the one who changes her babies diapers. I mean sure, let the other people in the house help out. But guilting them into doing it?!

    • alice

      March 7, 2013 at 2:05 pm

      I’m surprised at the amount of flack the author is getting.

      anyone who ever grew up in a home with many siblings (of varied ages) knows that “baby duty” (especially diaper changes) were a family responsibility. not a mommy responsibility. So her older sons like helping out a couple times a day? That’s great! And she has a professional sitter for working hours? Good for her. And daddy comes home and does a diaper change? Sounds great.

      Actually, it sounds a lot better than living in a house with four other men who view the baby as “mom’s problem.”

    • whiteroses

      March 7, 2013 at 3:06 pm

      I agree with this. She’s obviously not neglecting the baby or his older siblings. I love the fact that this woman has raised three boys who see absolutely no issue with helping out with their little brother. That means she’s clearly doing something right. She’s not pawning off parenting responsibilities when she still takes care of the little guy.
      It’s not “pushing off responsibility” as Kelly said below, but actually helping drum into her son’s heads that they, too, can help take care of their baby brother. My husband is the oldest of four. He was six when his youngest sister was born. Apparently, my mother in law made it very clear that they were all going to band together and help take care of the new addition to the family. The end result? Twenty-odd years later, my husband can change diapers and put our son to bed with the best of them. What this woman is doing is raising future good dads.

    • Just Saying

      July 21, 2013 at 11:23 pm

      I think you give the author far too much credit and assume that the “future father’s of the world” are coming from such homes. And i vehemently disagree that she’s clearly doing something right. Timing her actions and manipulating others and KEEPING TRACK of it is cold, disgusting and maniacal. What your mother in law did was just good parenting – she made it clear that her household was one where everyone pitched in – i doubt highly that she lurked behind corners counting the moments between a sitter leaving and a husband walking in the door to ensure the baby would be changed. My biggest surprise of all? That she’s really even aware (is she really, truly aware of how long between these changes are taking place.) Manipulating behind the scenes throughout your children’s childhoods does not make more sufficient and helpful future husbands and helpers.

    • Just Saying

      July 21, 2013 at 8:20 pm

      I’m shocked the author is not getting ROASTED more than she is. I think people are really finding comedic value in what is in my opinion, slacking parenting.

    • Kate

      March 7, 2013 at 2:26 pm

      It’s extremely sad, especially the part where she pulls guilt trips on her other young children to make them do it. “I gave you life.” Cold. She sounds like a narcissist. I feel bad for her children.

    • Eve Vawter

      March 7, 2013 at 5:00 pm

      You do realize you are replying to yourself, right?

    • alice

      March 7, 2013 at 5:03 pm

      hahahahahahahahahahahhahahahahahhaha

      i love you so much right now. and IP checks.

    • Eve Vawter

      March 7, 2013 at 5:04 pm

      Oooo OKay, I will go see what I can see, good point

    • Kate

      March 7, 2013 at 5:15 pm

      A mod acting like a fucking cunt. What an awesome website this is. Enjoy abusing your children. One day they’ll stick you in a rotten fucking home and forget they knew you and your stupid narcissistic bitch ass will sit and wonder why. Have fun with that.

    • Eve Vawter

      March 7, 2013 at 5:16 pm

      HAHAHAH WHAT?

    • alice

      March 7, 2013 at 5:19 pm

      u mad, bro?

    • Confess Your Sins

      March 7, 2013 at 5:27 pm

      I honestly visualize you spitting all over your computer while you rant. I’m still laughing. Thanks for that. 🙂

    • Allison

      March 7, 2013 at 5:34 pm

      You are a fantastic troll! Keep it up! I almost believed you were that seriously ignorant for a minute, but since this comment is sooooo off the rails I realized your true troll-y identity!

    • Blueathena623

      March 7, 2013 at 5:44 pm

      Well, that escalated quickly.

    • Rachelle

      March 7, 2013 at 5:49 pm

      Hey Kate/Too old fashioned. Go smoke a joint, enjoy some vino or something. You seem a little stressed out about being called out for being two people talking to each other. Which is okay, there are meds for that. Now, about the cunt word? Cunts can’t abuse children: vaginas don’t have hands or mouths. So maybe you should take a breather and go play with yours.

    • Eve Vawter

      March 7, 2013 at 5:58 pm

      I just tweeted your y u no change your brothers diapers?! i give u liiiiiife!I am STILL laughing

    • Rachelle

      March 7, 2013 at 6:02 pm

      For you 🙂

    • Eve Vawter

      March 7, 2013 at 6:03 pm

      That will be used in my post tomorrow. HOLY HELL you are the best

    • Shelly Lloyd

      March 8, 2013 at 2:50 pm

      That graphic has so made my afternoon. 🙂

    • CMJ

      March 7, 2013 at 6:07 pm

      wait, and you’re calling a woman who hasn’t changed a couple of diapers a bad person? I hope you don’t kiss your kids with that mouth.

    • whiteroses

      March 7, 2013 at 7:06 pm

      If this is feminism, I’ll decline. If you get this angry over a bunch of anonymous comments over the Internet, I shudder to think how you react when things happen in real life.

    • lea

      March 7, 2013 at 9:08 pm

      Classy, Kate, really classy. You’re parents must be so proud.

    • Tinyfaeri

      March 8, 2013 at 9:37 am

      You might want to consider taking a walk or a valium or something.

    • Nerdy Lucy

      March 9, 2013 at 11:12 am

      You’re not a fan of facts, are you?

    • Kate

      March 7, 2013 at 5:13 pm

      I’m not the same person as too old fashioned. Enjoy your IP check dumbass.

    • Kate

      March 7, 2013 at 5:12 pm

      No, I’m not. Are you really so stupid and arrogant that you can’t believe two people in the entire world disagree with you?

    • Eve Vawter

      March 7, 2013 at 5:17 pm

      No, the disquis did not change, and you had the same name for a bit.

    • Nerdy Lucy

      March 9, 2013 at 11:13 am

      You don’t know that Disquis shows us this, do you? Your name didn’t even change at first.

    • Justme

      March 7, 2013 at 2:43 pm

      Do you wear an apron and heels while serving your husband his scotch on the rocks after a long day of work too?

      There is nothing about the way a woman’s body is built that makes her more capable and adept at changing diapers than a man or other children in the home.

    • Kelly

      March 7, 2013 at 2:55 pm

      An adult woman who chooses to have a baby is absolutely more capable and responsible for caring for that baby than children under the age of 10 who did not make the decision to become parents.
      Do forward thinking modern women now push their parenting responsibilities off on innocent children? I used to consider myself a feminist but if that’s the new feminism, count me out.

    • Blueathena623

      March 7, 2013 at 2:59 pm

      If your belief in feminism is so fragile that asking children to help out with a sibling by changing diapers crushes it, you were never a feminist.

    • Justme

      March 7, 2013 at 3:00 pm

      And it’s Blueathena for the win.

    • Kelly

      March 7, 2013 at 3:03 pm

      And if guilting young children into caring for YOUR infant with the “I gave you life card” is reasonable, you are a child abuser.

    • Blueathena623

      March 7, 2013 at 3:31 pm

      To echo someone else, I find it incredibly reprehensible to use the term child abuse for having siblings help out. She lightheartedly talks about guilting them sometimes, and also talks about how much they love their sibling and enjoy helping out. By calling that child abuse you flat out insult the millions of children who are actually abused. You should be ashamed of yourself.

    • Eve Vawter

      March 7, 2013 at 4:59 pm

      OH WORD

    • Kelly

      March 7, 2013 at 5:01 pm

      Emotionally abusing children out of pure laziness is what’s really reprehensible. I was emotionally abused. I’m not even slightly ashamed of pointing it out. You should be ashamed of justifying it.

    • Blueathena623

      March 7, 2013 at 5:42 pm

      And why do you think you have the monopoly on TRUE emotional abuse? I also was emotionally abused by a caregiver. However, even as a child I understood there was a world of difference between what my grandmother did and my mom half-heatedly trying to guilt me into cleaning my room. I do know that a sign of emotional abuse is forcing a child to take care of siblings, but unless the author is lying through her teeth, that is NOT what is being described here. Did you miss the part about the kids wanting to help? If every parent who used guilt was actually being emotionally abusive, EVERY parent would be abusive. This is NOT that, and the fact that you continue to argue so is silly. I will give you the benefit of the doubt that you are normally a rational person who is overly hypersensitive on this one issue because of your past, but you’re wrong, plain and simple.

    • Brooke

      March 12, 2013 at 3:23 pm

      I don’t believe you for one god damned second. I work with kids who have emotionally, physically, verbally and sexually abused.I am the social worker that is usually on scene when a child has been so badly abused that they’ve died, I’m the social worker that is usually called to the hospital when one of the kids that has been so badly emotionally abused has committed suicide.. and guess what? Not one of them would call this abuse. Somebody who has suffered from abused would gladly have traded places with these children. Stop with your b.s. Now I’m pissed- you are a liar. You have no idea what true abuse is… so shut your damn mouth. Whiny, over dramatic people like you are the reason why abuse is so damn hard to prove until usually it’s too late. So thanks for that. Thanks for making my job that much harder and putting kids at risk because your parents expected you to mow the damn lawn, or told you that you were a brat… get over it. Everybody had an f***ed up childhood, but not everybody was abused.

    • Just Saying

      July 21, 2013 at 11:14 pm

      I read your post hours ago and I had to go back and find it – it resonated with me that long. Your message is loud and clear. I like to say “a world full of wanted children would make a would of difference”. My mother, like you, sees the worst of the worst, and just an ounce of intervention would change so many lives. The abuse you use as a reference is so potent. I ask the people who are chuckling at the article itself and the subsequent opinions to realize that abuse comes in many “flavors” much like an ice cream parlor. It’s horrible that Brooke has to deal with the terrible choices us adults inflict upon our supposedly “most prized assets” in our lives. You don’t need to smack a child to make them hurt, you don’t have to physically impart blows that leave lasting scars. And sadly, these become cycles. I wish that people like Brooke did not have to go around tending the broken children us narcissist parents create. Balance. But there’s nothing funny about dodging basic care & the “lightweight banter” about it just shows our ignorance. Hard work and family chores? That’s healthy parenting. Manipulating others while under the guise of sweetly singing “I’m cooking your breakfast” is sickening. This is just the first step on the rung of the ladder into the cesspool of the kids who’s abuse needs a visit to the ER – or worse.

    • CMJ

      March 7, 2013 at 3:32 pm

      No. Just NO.

    • Gangle

      March 8, 2013 at 7:02 pm

      Um, having siblings help out isn’t child abuse. They SHOULD be made to contribute to the smooth running of a household because they were given life. I think it is GOOD for kids to understand the importance of contributing to family and society. I am very old-fashioned in my beliefs, and I think children today are missing out. The fact is, children SHOULD be expected to help out with the family. They should NOT feel like they don’t have to contribute. My Grandmother was the oldest of 12 kids, and she and her brother helped change/bath/feed the younger ones. Same with my mum. My butt was changed by my older siblings when I was a baby, and when I was old enough I was required to be on the family roster for cooking family meals, cleaning house etc. The responsibilities taught us important life skills, it taught us to do things for others not for reward but out of love and duty, it also gave us a sense of belonging and being important. Sure, sometimes we didn’t feel like doing it, and had to do it just because our parents made us – just like homework. But doing things we don’t always want to do is part of life. Iike ironing. That isn’t abusing your child. That is just bringing them up right.

    • Brooke

      March 12, 2013 at 3:18 pm

      lmao- I am social worker… trust me sweetheart, that is not child abuse… and if you think it is, you need to take off your rose tinted glasses, open your eyes, and take a good look around. What that woman is doing is called parenting. Teaching her children not to be spoiled little brats (which is where I’m assuming your children are headed), and to help mom and dad since they work so hard for them, to learn some responsibility… and to give mom a break… because every mother deserves one… simple as that. There is no neglect, or abuse or anything else in this case… it’s a simple case of a woman being a genius and getting away with not changing a diaper… as a parent, i’d like to cut that part out as well… as well as bathtime… and my husband hasn’t put our kids to bed for about 4 wks now as he hates it. Does that make him a “child abuser”? bahahahaha wow, the idiocy of some people just floor me.

    • Justme

      March 7, 2013 at 3:00 pm

      My brothers were 8 and 11 when I was born. They changed my diapers when my mother asked and they are not scarred for life, quite the opposite in fact. They love having such vivid memories of me as an infant and as a result, they were always super protective and caring when we were growing up because they had been entrusted with my care when I was small.

      I just don’t think we can adequately judge a mother’s devotion to her children by the amount of diapers that she changes.

    • Kelly

      March 7, 2013 at 3:06 pm

      It’s interesting how you just flip flop around to different subjects and bring up random things out of nowhere and then act like it’s a win. You aren’t intelligent enough to bother conversing with.

    • Justme

      March 7, 2013 at 3:08 pm

      Right. Because me talking about my own experiences of having my older siblings changing my diapers (similar to what is happening in the article) has nothing to do with the article. Okay.

    • Courtney Lynn

      March 7, 2013 at 3:29 pm

      My husband is 9 and 16 years older than his brothers. He half-jokes that he changed more diapers than both his parents. I’m glad, too. He has no problem changing our son’s diapers, including the blow-outs!

    • whiteroses

      March 7, 2013 at 7:04 pm

      This sounds like my husband and my sister in law. They’re still close after all these years and despite the age difference. As she was growing up, she went to him with things she felt like she couldn’t talk to their parents about. I would go so far as to say he’s her best male friend. Part of that is because their parents trusted him to take care of her. They gave him responsibility. Nothing more, nothing less.

    • Justme

      March 7, 2013 at 7:08 pm

      Laura? Meredith? Is that you?!?! Because that’s JUST like my relationship with both my brothers – hopefully my sisters-in-law feel the same way you do.

    • whiteroses

      March 7, 2013 at 8:58 pm

      Nope- neither 🙂 But I’m glad that his family isn’t the only one. And I’m so glad that my husband has that kind of relationship with his sister (both his sisters, really- 4 and 6 years younger)- because it really has helped him be a better husband, better father, and better person all around. I get annoyed by it occasionally because I don’t want to share him- but I’m greatful for it 99.9 percent of the time. I love my SILs dearly 🙂 And I truly believe that if he hadn’t taken care of them when he was little, the three of them wouldn’t be as close. He’s not as close with his brother, the sibling closest to him in age, and I’m firmly convinced it’s because he was 2 when his brother was born and looked at my BIL as an interloper. He’d well and truly gotten over that when his sisters were born.

    • whiteroses

      March 7, 2013 at 3:18 pm

      Honestly, if you’ve got ten fingers, you can easily change a diaper. Hell, you can easily change a diaper with less than ten fingers. And how is this different than asking an eight-year-old to learn how to do their own laundry? That’s what families do. They look out for each other. They do for each other. And they look out for their younger siblings.
      My five-year old niece has fed my son his bottle more than once. Not because I’m running some sort of feeding sweatshop but because she wanted to help. And I don’t mind saying that I was glad to have the extra hands.

    • AmazingE

      July 18, 2013 at 9:21 am

      I read the phrase “feeding sweatshop” and laughed so hard coffee came out my nose. So thanks for that.

    • once upon a time

      March 7, 2013 at 6:16 pm

      Kelly, I’m with you.

      For the record, I don’t think this is the case in Anonymous Mom’s story. But so often I see people with large families whose plan for having another child is, “The older ones will help out.” No. The older ones didn’t choose to have this child. The older ones have school and jobs and friends and responsibilities that they shouldn’t have to give up because their parents so desperately wanted that fifth, sixth, seventh child.

      Or perhaps it’s just my personal observations clouding my vision. Maybe the majority of large families have working systems that the older children enjoy being a part of. But from what I’ve seen, older children tend to be viewed as indentured childcare providers by their parents.

    • Jen

      March 8, 2013 at 11:29 am

      I agree with you to an extent, people like the Duggars who clearly just foist care for younger children off so that they can handle life activities yes-that’s a problem, if you can’t spend qt with your kids each day you are doing it wrong. Didn’t get that vibe from this mother though. Just that hey they help out…and maybe I make sure i’m busy so I don’t have to do this one chore.

    • Once upon a time

      March 8, 2013 at 6:09 pm

      Which is why I started with, I don’t think that’s the case with Anonymous Mom. My comment was more in response to the idea that looking after a sibling is just part of being a family. It’s one thing to ask your child to help out, or to accept help if it’s offered. It’s an entirely different thing to… Duggar your kids and that’s what I’m bitching about. Someone said it upthread but it bears repeating – the only people responsible for looking after a child are its parents.

    • Leigha7

      August 1, 2013 at 2:41 am

      The older children shouldn’t be expected to practically raise the younger ones, no. But there’s absolutely NOTHING wrong with having them help out some. Asking them to keep an eye on the baby while you run to the bathroom, or to change their diaper while you finish cooking dinner, is perfectly fine. If they aren’t willing to do that once in awhile, you may have a spoiled brat on your hands. Something like that isn’t really imposing on them at all, it’s simply asking them to help make your life a little bit easier, which they should WANT to do (even if they don’t necessarily want to do that chore at that particular time).

      Again, though, they shouldn’t be expected to do ALL the work. If you’re making your teenagers babysit every day without paying them for it, that’s unfair to them. Where the line is drawn between reasonable expectations and shirking your parental responsibility is a tough call, but I don’t think this crosses that line by any means, at least not with what was actually in the post.

      But in my experience, older children often WANT to help out. When I started babysitting in high school, the older siblings would beg me to let them change their baby brother’s diapers. It made them feel grown-up and responsible. Plus, they loved their brother and enjoyed helping take care of him.

    • Brooke

      March 12, 2013 at 3:12 pm

      Wow Kelly. I’m going to assume that you also were an only child, or a spoiled rotten brat growing up. I was the oldest of 4 kids. My parents worked their asses off to give us what we needed and wanted, so when they asked me to change a diaper… guess what I did? I changed the damn diaper… do I have some sort of “Vietnam flashbacks” now because of this? Nope… was I ruined for life, now living in a gutter with nothing going for me now because of this horrible neglect? nope. I am an educated woman with a career. I’m also a mother of 2 and I’m married. I lead a very successful life… and you want to know what this successful mother is going to do if I ever have another child? You got that right… I’m going to make my older children assist. I’m going to have them help out when I need it, when I’m busy making dinner, or finishing up some work, or just when I’m on Facebook and don’t want to get up. Does that mean that I’m a bad mother? Nope. I’m a damn good mom. I have great kids… and I will be a damn good mom then as well. I’ll just have even better kids then, because they’ll know what responsibility is.

    • JewelEyedGamerGirl

      March 13, 2013 at 8:28 pm

      You assume that about everyone you don’t agree with apparently, Brooke.

    • Brooke

      April 14, 2013 at 11:38 am

      No I assume that about people who are overly dramatic and running around yelling child abuse when a mom has her older children change their baby brother’s diaper.

    • Blueathena623

      March 7, 2013 at 3:00 pm

      Ok, fine, you are too old fashioned.

  4. Tiffany Futrell Heath

    March 7, 2013 at 1:30 pm

    great job

  5. Guest

    March 7, 2013 at 1:41 pm

    Mom is missing out on some really bonding time with her son. I can see this occasionally happening, but this is really sad.

    • Makabit

      March 7, 2013 at 1:46 pm

      I don’t really think of changing my daughter’s diapers as ‘bonding time’.

    • alice

      March 7, 2013 at 2:19 pm

      i’m starting to think all the negative comments are from gimmick/troll accounts.

    • alice

      March 7, 2013 at 2:29 pm

      aaaand this. ^^ im embarrassed that i’ve been punk’d by mommyish gimmicks. sigh. back to work.

    • Koa Beck

      March 7, 2013 at 2:38 pm

      The negative comments definitely aren’t planted by us. FYI

    • alice

      March 7, 2013 at 3:37 pm

      haha, i didn’t mean you guys! i mean “gimmicks on mommyish” (not BY mommyish.) but that would certainly be an epic PR stunt if you ever want to try it.

      1. post insane shit
      2. have sane posters go crazy
      3. repeat.

    • Eve Vawter

      March 7, 2013 at 5:15 pm

      This is insane, but some of these comments are PRICELESS.

    • aliceblue

      March 8, 2013 at 10:50 pm

      WHAT!! Does this mean that you don’t have a special diaper changing relationship with your daughter? I’m calling CPS.

    • Blueathena623

      March 7, 2013 at 3:06 pm

      Please come bond with my son then. By the way he smells, I think he needs a lot of bonding time now.

    • Blueathena623

      March 7, 2013 at 3:44 pm

      Ok, just changed my son. He screamed, I got poop on my hand, but afterwards I opened a bottle of wine and we sat down and discussed how much closer we feel. Yes, it was an excellent bonding experience.

    • Confess Your Sins

      March 7, 2013 at 5:44 pm

      Blueathena has won all the internetz on mommyish today. Sorry everyone. Better luck tomorrow!

    • Just Saying

      July 21, 2013 at 10:38 pm

      Wow. Props to you. I refrained commenting on you until now & that after walking away for a few hours. Congrats. You are a real WINNER of a mom. Proud of you! Sooo NOT.

    • Confess Your Sins

      March 7, 2013 at 5:43 pm

      There is nothing as bonding as wiping shit.

    • Just Saying

      July 21, 2013 at 11:39 pm

      What a trivial dilution of the principal topic here – manipulation of others to do as you wish from a sneaky and frankly, lazy way to go about routine care. It’s a diaper change – do it, deal with it and move on. it’s about investing in the life you chose to create /keep/cultivate. Counting how long you can get away without doing something you dislike doing isn’t clever when it comes to a human essential need.

  6. Lisa Lambkins

    March 7, 2013 at 1:42 pm

    thats wrong i am sorry older kids should not have to change diapers it is her job not theirs to do that is is so wrong this is nothing to be proud of or brag about

    • alice

      March 7, 2013 at 2:22 pm

      as wrong as stringing six sentences together without a single punctuation mark? (haha, sorry, i had to.)

    • Justme

      March 7, 2013 at 2:46 pm

      I’m of the mind that running a home is like being on a sports team. In order to be successful, everyone must pitch in – whether that is preparing lunches, cleaning toilets or even changing your baby brother/sister’s diapers. My brothers think it’s pretty cool that they can remember changing my diapers as a baby….and my dad was the one that rocked me to sleep every night. Does this mean my mother was lazy and cold? Not in the slightest – she just had three children to take care of, dinner to cook, laundry to switch and homework to monitor. It’s all about distributing the work.

    • Blueathena623

      March 7, 2013 at 3:01 pm

      She raised sons who realize the importance of helping out the family, love their siblings, and are comfortable doing domestic baby related chores. She has TONS to brag about!

    • Justme

      March 7, 2013 at 3:02 pm

      And someday when they are able to easily pitch in and help take care of their own children, their wives will be immensely grateful!

    • Katie

      March 7, 2013 at 3:17 pm

      She guilts them into doing it. Guilt trips on a five year old child, a seven year old child and an eleven year old child. That’s nothing to brag about.

    • alice

      March 7, 2013 at 3:44 pm

      u mad, bro?

    • Rachelle

      March 7, 2013 at 4:40 pm

      y u no change your brothers diapers?! i give u liiiiiife!

    • Eve Vawter

      March 7, 2013 at 5:14 pm

      You guys are seriously making me lolcry4ever

    • Just Saying

      July 21, 2013 at 11:24 pm

      Pluh-leeze…..

    • Sarah

      March 7, 2013 at 5:32 pm

      Startling abuse of the English language and punctuation rules aside, do you also believe that kids shouldn’t have to help out with chores, or learn how to cook and make dinners sometimes, or anything else because it’s not their “job”? Please.

  7. busy mom

    March 7, 2013 at 1:45 pm

    Ok she’s smart and all but really? Your children shouldn’t be changing your baby’s diapers! Number one, they are children, not parents!! Diaper changes are important for a parent or another adult who works with children or has children because it tells how healthy their digestion is, if they have a rash that needs tending to, if they have a stomach illness…etc… Unfortunately, part of being a parent or a caregiver, is examining pee and poop. Don’t have babies (let alone 4!!) if you can’t do that. Point blank, simple. My daughter is 4 years old and disabled and I have been changing her diapers her entire life with little help here and there. It’s tedious but important for a parent to do it. As for her talent in getting others to do it…bravo but as for her parenting skills…. FAIL!

    • alice

      March 7, 2013 at 1:57 pm

      “Don’t have babies (let alone 4!!) if you can’t do that.”

      meow.

    • Tinyfaeri

      March 7, 2013 at 2:41 pm

      Yeah, the claws are out all over the place on this one.

    • Just Saying

      July 21, 2013 at 10:20 pm

      Deservedly so.

    • Justme

      March 7, 2013 at 2:50 pm

      Just so I’m sure I’ve got everything…

      According to many commenters on these interwebs, if a woman…

      – gives birth by c-section
      – uses any sort of epidural or any other medical device/intervention during labor
      – does not breastfeed from birth to infinity
      – uses disposable diapers
      – chooses to “BabyWise” her child
      – has baby sleep in a crib and not the family bed
      – passes off the diaper changing business to another person
      – doesn’t examine every bit of pee and poop out of a child’s nether regions.

      she should not have a child. Am I correct?

      Because if so….anyone want a two-year-old, because I apparently do not need to have had a child. But on the plus side, she is imaginative, well-mannered, caring, beautiful and funny….but regardless, I didn’t stick to the list of “things people who deserve to have children do” so I’ve got to get rid of her.

    • Kate

      March 7, 2013 at 3:02 pm

      I don’t care about any of those things. Guilting your children into taking on parental responsibilities is emotional abuse though. Spin it any way you want, if you pull out the “I gave you life!” card because your kids don’t want to care for your infant, you’re abusing them. Good luck with that.

    • whiteroses

      March 7, 2013 at 3:12 pm

      I’m betting her kids roll their eyes, say “okay, mom” and then go on about their business.

    • Justme

      March 7, 2013 at 3:14 pm

      Perhaps things get lost in translation over the internet. But I didn’t read it as a threat, but instead as a playful joke.

    • Rachelle

      March 7, 2013 at 4:05 pm

      Oh boy you must go to TOWN on the Duggars or any family with many children.

    • Lawcat

      March 7, 2013 at 5:45 pm

      You’re right. I should not gently chide my child into doing anything because he didn’t ask to be born. No chores. No homework. None. Because that would taking on responsibilities he didn’t sign up for when he made his way out of my vagina.

      It’s a wonder mankind made it this far without emotionally abusing their children! i was under the assumption children had been taking on “parental responsibilities” like housework, child rearing, gathering food, etc for eons. I thought this trend of “kids be kids” was a recent trend. I mean, clearly, my great grandmother was emotionally abusing my great aunts and uncles by asking them to help farm and with housework. Why should they be working the fields – a parental responsibility – when they didn’t sign up for that? I must find out how they dealt with such horrible abuse!

      Abuse is an incredibly powerful word not to be thrown around lightly. Anyone who has seen actual abuse knows this. Anyone who actually works with the abused knows this. You sound like someone who took a PSY 101 class at some point and decided you’re a therapist. Someone who actually deals with such issues would be able to tell the difference between actual, pressuring guilt and a joke.

    • Blueathena623

      March 7, 2013 at 3:05 pm

      Do you think her husband and babysitter are stupid? Why couldn’t they be the ones to use poop to tell if a baby is digesting things properly? What 11 year old can’t identify a diaper rash? Yes, part of being a parent is examining pee and poop, which her husband does. So there you go, baby is being loved and taken care of.

    • Sara

      March 7, 2013 at 3:32 pm

      AMEN!!! I have an eight year old and a two year old, I have NEVER made my eight year old change his sisters diaper! It is not his responsibility, it was MY choice to have another child not his! The point is, this woman CHOOSE to have children, and I think that making a game out of it, (while entertaining for a short period of time) has now gone far beyond being ‘just a game!’ I absolutely DETEST it when people do this sort of thing! Once in a while ok fine, but bragging about it and writing an article…. come on! I pray that her other children do not end up resenting her or their younger brother because of this! Also the fact that she has to bribe them, shows that they are not always as willing as she stated at the beginning of the article! And the whole ‘I gave you life thing’ your children are NOT indebted to you for the rest of their lives! That is a sad, not in the least bit funny, pitiful thing to tell your children! Helping mom out is one thing… but it sounds to me like she does very little with this child! Everyone else changes his diapers, she feeds him, and dad puts him to bed!! Entertaining at first maybe, now just ridiculous!

    • Shelly Lloyd

      March 7, 2013 at 4:15 pm

      I absolutely Detest when people make judgmental comments on some random stranger on the internet. Ok, maybe detest is too strong of a word. But really I’m a bit amused and a little frighten by all the time and effort people are using in order to judge someone on the internet. Really, is everyone’s life so perfect that they can pass judgement on some random stranger whose first name they don’t even know? Is their lives so boring they get themselves worked up over something like this?

    • Just Saying

      July 21, 2013 at 11:35 pm

      I’m not judging you – I’m having an opinion on what you said about your belief and I really thought it though before I was drawn back to find your comments, which I hope where lighthearted initial responses to what I understand you to have taken away from the author’s writing. Insulting people by commenting on their lives (and no where did I see anyone proclaim their’s to be “perfect” nor do I think people sit and use their free time to delve into subject unless it solicits a thought provoking subject to mull on, which in my case, I absolutely did). I just don’t share your view and hope that we can respectfully disagree and consider what the future holds for those who’s childhoods had this type of calculated approach. I don’t think it bodes well for the future, but that’s just my opinion.

    • Blueathena623

      March 7, 2013 at 4:28 pm

      What do your kids do that makes you think that if you aren’t changing diapers or putting a kid to bed, you aren’t spending time with them? In a typical day I probably spend maybe 30 minutes changing diapers, and putting down for two naps and bed is 45 minutes or so. So if I had someone do those for me, I would be missing out on less than an hour and a half of his day. So all the other hours and hours I spend playing and reading with him wouldn’t count if I missed than hour and a half?

    • Sara

      March 7, 2013 at 5:52 pm

      The fact that she also has a nanny… There is nothing wrong with having a nanny, I also work part time, but that is time that she has to work and not spend with her child. I completely understand this and I am not bashing parents that work! Also take into consideration preparing supper, laundry, getting her other children off to school, homework, extra curricular activities like sports for example! Just plain having four children!!!! Diaper changes may be the only time besides feeding that she can spend with her child during the day! Diaper changes, as all parents know are pretty random as to when they happen, and if she hasn’t had to change one in six weeks, I highly doubt that she gets out of the house much either! I would like to hope that if she does get out, she wouldn’t make one of her other children change it then too! Come to think of it, I highly doubt that this is true, and if it is, it is pretty sad!

    • Blueathena623

      March 7, 2013 at 6:52 pm

      Thank you for your rational response. A few points:
      1. I haven’t changed a diaper in public for a long time now, and I get out, almost every day. There is only so long my son is awake between naps, so we don’t go out for hours and hours and hours, thus no need to change diapers until we get home.
      2. What is she really missing out on by not changing diapers? I’m not trying to be rude, but I don’t get why people are saying its this huge bonding experience. It’s wiping urine and feces off of your kids genitals. Maybe some people find that fun, but enough people are saying that no, they don’t bond with their kid that way to know that the author isn’t crazy.
      3. You’re looking at the mother-baby relationship, but not considering the family relationship as a whole. Yes, in the morning the author could change the kids diaper, getting an extra 5 minutes of baby time, but instead she is making breakfast and teaching her sons how to take care of a baby. Yes, she could put the baby to bed, at the expense of the father-baby relationship. The father-baby and sibling-baby bonds are just as important as the mother-baby bond.

    • Just Saying

      July 21, 2013 at 10:32 pm

      I think you have deliberately misstated the author’s “message”, which was she was manipulating everyone around her into a chore she finds herself unwilling to do and goes to great length to time arrivals/departures/other chores (ie; makes them up) and goes to great length to brag about her methods. I would not be bragging about this (I believe you stated earlier she was making other of her children’s food for the morning meal – wow – isn’t that in the norm of what our role as parents is?) I galled by even the lighthearted support she’s getting, Truly grossed out. Hope that if she ever needs her diaper changed? I hop her children have a vastly different attitude towards this vital necessity for a minimal standard of care. It came across to me in the article that the author did not want a fifth child. Perhaps that child should not have been created. “Who’s going to change the diaper” is not a game and should not be written about as such.

    • Leigha7

      August 1, 2013 at 2:58 am

      It sounded to me like she just happened to notice at some point that she hadn’t changed a diaper in awhile, and decided to see how long she could keep that going, out of curiosity. She even said she doesn’t mind changing diapers all that much, she’s just amused that no one’s noticed that it’s been awhile. I can easily see how just about anyone would make a game of that.

      What bothers me about the people complaining about this is that she flat out said her husband hasn’t fed the baby in at least as long as she’s gone without changing a diaper, yet NO ONE is saying, “What a terrible father for not feeding his baby!” If she’s a bad mother for not changing diapers, then he is a bad father for not feeding the baby. Period. There were two people involved in making the baby, there should be two people involved in parenting it. If they are happy with the arrangement where she feeds him and he changes him, why should anyone else care? But if you DO care, at least care about BOTH.

    • Leigha7

      August 1, 2013 at 2:53 am

      Actually, she said she feeds him AND puts him to bed (dad does the pre-bedtime diaper change). She said she’s very good at putting babies to bed and enjoys doing it. She also said she plays with him. Honestly, it seemed to me like changing diapers is pretty much the only thing she DOESN’T do. That doesn’t sound too bad to me. It seems like she spends plenty of time with him doing everything else.

    • Shelly Lloyd

      March 7, 2013 at 4:10 pm

      She has a sitter and a husband who also changes diapers, so there is an adult who is changing diapers. It seems as if the boys changer the diaper maybe twice a day. Oh the HORROR!!!Eleventy!!

    • Leigha7

      August 1, 2013 at 2:49 am

      So when I was babysitting in high school, should I have called the parents and asked them to come home and change the baby every time he needed changed? They should’ve left work, driven home, and changed him so they could examine the contents of his diaper, just in case there was anything of note there, right? Man, they must’ve been terrible parents, working so they could make sure their kids had food when they should’ve been at home, inspecting poop.

      (You did include caregivers, but you also said “parent or another adult,” and I was only 16, so that disqualifies me from your description and therefore from changing diapers. I really wish I’d known that at the time. I changed SO many diapers. I even let the older kids change them sometimes, because they wanted to. I was the worst babysitter ever.)

  8. Children are a gift

    March 7, 2013 at 1:54 pm

    I think this is sad too! We should not pass off our responsibility as parents to our children. Sure, they can help…and they should learn to help… But all of the time? It seems very selfish! How can we teach them responsibility if we avoid it ourselves? No one likes to change poopy diapers, but after they are changed can be some of the sweetest times. Not to mention that my husband is my helpmate or partner. By serving one another our own needs will always be met. Trying to manipulate him to change diapers hardly seems like an act of love. Just seems sad! Especially for the little guy who misses out on time with his mommy. The part that makes me the most sad is about how she hated to play trucks with her son. This article definitely does not impress all mommies!

    • alice

      March 7, 2013 at 2:16 pm

      wow, i think you are really reading into this too much.

    • Blueathena623

      March 7, 2013 at 3:03 pm

      Wow, you didn’t read this at all. Hello spam robot. What’s life like in binary? Or should I say 0010100101010

    • alice

      March 7, 2013 at 3:39 pm

      huge funnies

    • Shelly Lloyd

      March 7, 2013 at 4:12 pm

      I’m going to say it, I HATED playing cars/trucks with my children. I’d much rather get out the leggos and build something. Oh noes, I’m such a horrible mom because I don’t like playing trucks, and I didn’t crap myself with happiness every time I changed a diaper.

    • Blueathena623

      March 7, 2013 at 4:23 pm

      You don’t crap happiness when changing a diaper? Why? Doesn’t your kid poop rainbows and puppies like mine does?

    • lea

      March 7, 2013 at 9:14 pm

      Your kid poops puppies? Colour me jealous as hell!

    • Blueathena623

      March 7, 2013 at 9:38 pm

      And pisses vodka and pukes glitter. He’s an awesome kid.

    • lea

      March 8, 2013 at 12:22 am

      Tell me your secret, I need to get me one of those!

    • LiteBrite

      March 8, 2013 at 1:04 pm

      I wish mine would’ve pooped out designer handbags. Talk about a bonding experience then….

    • Just Saying

      July 21, 2013 at 8:30 pm

      Hey Shelly – please think through the above when you’re in your 80’s and your children (and potentially grandchildren) are HOPEFULLY sitting down with you at some activity (like visiting with you) and are not “hating” it and checking their watches for the first reasonable/appropriate moment to leave. You reap what you sew. Parenting involves a LOT of things we don’t care to do – but it comes with the job. Hope your kids felt your nurturing in other ways and want to be around you further down the road. Sorry. “Just Saying”…..

    • Leigha7

      August 1, 2013 at 3:04 am

      Different people like different things. Sometimes we do things we don’t really like to make the people we care about happy. Shelly never said, “I hated playing trucks with my children, so I absolutely refused to ever do it and made sure they knew how stupid I thought it was.” She just said she disliked it and preferred playing with Legos. That is her prerogative as a human being.

      When she’s old and sitting around in a nursing home, and her kids come to visit, maybe she WILL want to do something they don’t like. Maybe she’ll want to play a rousing game of checkers, and they’ll think checkers is the most boring game ever invented. Hopefully they’ll humor her and play checkers sometimes because that’s what she wants, and hopefully she’ll humor them and play something else sometimes so they can all enjoy it. Both are pretty simple, obvious ways to be a considerate person.

      Let me just be blunt: YOU ARE ALLOWED TO NOT LIKE THINGS. It doesn’t matter how much your child/spouse/sibling/parent/friend/neighbor/coworker/puppy loves it, you are allowed to dislike it, because you are not them, you are you. And if you’re nice, you’ll do it sometimes anyway, to make them happy. And if they’re nice (young children and puppies notwithstanding), they’ll let you get away with not doing it sometimes, to make you happy. But NOTHING says you ever have to like it.

  9. Shakendra Burney

    March 7, 2013 at 2:06 pm

    ur not getting away with a thing, they change his diaper because they Love Him. what mother really has second thoughts about anything nasty pertaining To their Child. My Child could poop, drool, have a manifest Of boogers, and they still Will be loved so much that i couldnt bare they go around unkept

    • Blueathena623

      March 7, 2013 at 3:08 pm

      Hello Random capitalization Of some Words.

    • CrazyFor Kate

      March 7, 2013 at 4:26 pm

      Yes. Clearly she doesn’t love her child because she doesn’t adore every second with his bodily waste. Bite me, sanctimommy.

    • whiteroses

      March 7, 2013 at 9:13 pm

      I love my son with my whole heart. He is the light of my life. I would get in front of a bullet for him.

      I still think poop, boogers and drool are gross.

  10. Kelly

    March 7, 2013 at 2:22 pm

    So you hand off your parenting responsibilities to your other children. Good luck with that.

  11. kristen

    March 7, 2013 at 2:23 pm

    I think this is pretty selfish. The other kids shouldn’t have to change every diaper and be threatened with “I gave you life” to do it either. If you didn’t want to change another kids diaper, maybe you shouldn’t have had another.

    • Jen

      March 8, 2013 at 11:44 am

      It’s been six weeks. It’s not like she chained them to the baby. Overreact much?

  12. Daisy

    March 7, 2013 at 2:25 pm

    There are a couple parts of this that are a little questionable (pretty much just the guilting), but otherwise… you’re kind of a genius. So what if you don’t change diapers? In almost every instance you mentioned, you’re doing something else useful like getting his bottle ready, so it’s more of a chore exchange than getting out of it altogether. And it’s always good to teach older kids to help out around the house. So even though I think I probably SHOULD be appalled by this, I have to admit I am kind of guiltily impressed 🙂

  13. lena

    March 7, 2013 at 2:26 pm

    What a terrible mother. “we all have things we hate doing”. Of course but we do them anyway because we have to. If you didn’t want to change your kids diapers then you shouldn’t have had another kid. Point blank period.

    • Véronique Houde

      March 7, 2013 at 2:52 pm

      Wow lena, if this is how you define being a terrible mom, how do you qualify women who actually abuse their children? You must have a pretty strong vocabulary there for all of those truly horrendous moms out there (see, there’s one right there! although… is horrendous a stronger word than horrible?) If she’s not “bonding” with baby during diaper changing times, does that mean that she’s NEVER bonding? If she doesn’t change at least one diaper a day for her son, does that mean that he’ll be scarred for life? Does it mean that the other children change diapers that they will be missing out on their own childhood? Oh. Wait. Maybe they’ll just be awesome husbands later on who have absolutely no quelms changing poopy diapers. My bad.

    • Blueathena623

      March 7, 2013 at 3:07 pm

      Bravo! Perfectly said! I do wonder what people would say if the author said she had 3 older daughters who help changing. Probably something like “how cute! They are practicing how to be mommies” god forbid boys get to practice being dads.

    • Kelly

      March 7, 2013 at 3:08 pm

      Guilting children into taking on parental responsibilities is emotional abuse. It is abuse.

    • Véronique Houde

      March 7, 2013 at 3:48 pm

      It’s a joke. Didn’t you get it? As in, COME ON!! PLEASE! I’LL GIVE YOU CHOCOLATE? NO? YOU DON’T WANT CHOCOLATE?! DUDE, I GAVE YOU LIFE, CAN’T YOU HELP ME OUT??” some people are just too sensitive. Don’t work for a help line or for any mental health organization that deals with teens – you’ll be screaming CHILD ABUSE every time a teenager doesn’t like what their parents tell them.

      And let’s play devil’s advocate. You find out that the woman is your neighbor. Do you call Children’s Aid to report this? “Ring! Hello, my neighbor is emotionally abusive towards her kids because she bribes them into changing their little brother’s diaper. Yeah, I’ve heard her use the fact that she gave them life as a way to force them into cleaning the poop”. The social worker is probably gonna laugh at you and invite you to go to her next home visit.

    • CrazyFor Kate

      March 7, 2013 at 4:25 pm

      Kelly, you don’t know what abuse is.

    • Kelly

      March 7, 2013 at 5:03 pm

      I suffered horrific abuse as a child. People like you who think it’s so cute and funny and totally ok are one of the reasons it continues.

    • Véronique Houde

      March 7, 2013 at 7:48 pm

      Honestly Kelly I seriously think that your abuse is making you oversensitive to this. I work in mental health with teenagers. I consistently have to counsel kids who go through the worse kinds of abuse. Calling THIS abuse is completely ridiculous and insulting to yourself and what you went through. I’m sorry you went through what you did, and I hope that you can get help dealing with it. But please, restrain from calling people out and saying that they are abusive for no reason. Anonymous probably can read all of this, and is probably laughing at it all, but still, she deserves a break.

    • Shelly Lloyd

      March 8, 2013 at 3:11 pm

      Amen!

    • Just Saying

      July 22, 2013 at 12:16 am

      She DOES deserve a break – from her kids and all of her other responsibilities as she clearly finds it humorous to manipulate others into doing her essential “job”. HELP from siblings is part of being a family. Manipulation and counting the days she skates by? Sociopathic comes to mind. Zero accountability. Makes me ill.

    • Véronique Houde

      July 22, 2013 at 10:01 am

      wow a little late to be freaking out on this article ;). I had no idea what in the world you were yelling about and had to scroll back up to check. Good luck with your anger issues!

    • Shelly Lloyd

      March 8, 2013 at 3:07 pm

      Dude, I had my father hold a gun to my head and make me say my prayers for hours on end, so yes, I know what horrific abuse is. That being said what this anonymous mom is doing is no where near abuse.

    • Auryn Grigori

      May 19, 2013 at 6:09 am

      So did I. Smacked with the belt if I stepped out of line. Was told that I deserved to have my youngest sister bite me, disrespect me, and attempt to kill me, and that if I raised my pinkie to her, I can leave the house I lived in. Was told that I was the product of birth control failure, and was told by my grandparents constantly that if it wasn’t for them, I would be out on the street. A parent joke guilting/whinging “I gave you life?” I wish that happened to me.

    • Just Saying

      July 22, 2013 at 12:12 am

      The point to me was not about evading the diapers – it was evading the responsibility and the seemingly gleeful way she delighted in manipulating her tasks, which I’d be willing to bet is just the tip of iceberg on her “Manipulative Mountain”. I pity these kids, but not because of their chores – but because their mom is a sneaky piece of work.

    • whiteroses

      March 7, 2013 at 9:11 pm

      I hate doing laundry. Doesn’t mean I’m moving to a nudist colony. That’s the same logic.

  14. Fabel

    March 7, 2013 at 2:41 pm

    Why is everyone freaking out about this?

    • Tinyfaeri

      March 7, 2013 at 2:45 pm

      Maybe it’s one troll who’s posting a bunch of times, and seeing what crimes of capitalization and punctuation he or she can commit in the meantime. Some of them are, um, Interesting to say the Least.

    • alice

      March 7, 2013 at 3:35 pm

      haha oh it’s definitely gimmicking trolls. i saw one comment’s author’s name “change” upon refresh. then i breathed a sigh of relief, because prior to that, I felt like i was surrounded by crazy people.

    • Just Saying

      July 21, 2013 at 10:12 pm

      Why more people are NOT freaking out is a far more outrageous question to me.

  15. speechlessmomm

    March 7, 2013 at 3:21 pm

    I’m sorry but I would never do this. I check my son’s diaper even when my husband changes it to make sure all is fine and he is healthy. Having your children change your child’s diaper for 6 weeks is sad.

    • Justme

      March 7, 2013 at 3:22 pm

      Do you not trust that your husband is intelligent and capable enough to recognize something is amiss on his own?

    • Blueathena623

      March 7, 2013 at 3:39 pm

      I’m sure that doesn’t breed resentment at all, knowing that your wife doesn’t even trust you with poop.

    • Paul White

      March 7, 2013 at 4:11 pm

      He can literally say his wife doesn’t trust him for shit.

    • Blueathena623

      March 7, 2013 at 4:14 pm

      *rimshot*

    • Eve Vawter

      March 7, 2013 at 4:57 pm

      HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH. Best..comment..ever

    • Just Saying

      July 22, 2013 at 12:06 am

      Well, the author herself was pretty clear on how manipulating others was in her bag of tricks…..She’s the one who blithely takes on room mother duties and then delegates them and makes the rest of us feel inadequate – no one sees what happens behind closed doors. I’ll bet she never went down to the bus stop or car pool line with mismatched shoes (if she goes at all – unless the other mommies are there to see and be seen).

    • Justme

      July 22, 2013 at 12:23 am

      What does her shoes have to do with anything in this entire conversation? Since when is being disheveled with mismatching shoes make you a “real” mother? I match my shoes every single day because I’m an adult…not because I’m trying to make you feel bad.

    • Just Saying

      August 14, 2013 at 9:10 pm

      It was a satirical inclusion of what another comment held (the shoes). Love your cute dog!

    • Courtney Lynn

      March 7, 2013 at 3:38 pm

      Seriously? Why do you need to follow up on your husband? It’s not rocket science and I doubt your husband is too stupid to change a diaper.

    • CrazyFor Kate

      March 7, 2013 at 4:26 pm

      You must really not trust your husband.

    • speechlessmomm

      March 7, 2013 at 5:21 pm

      I trust him he is concerned with changing I am concerned with other things. I am a good concerned mom. That is all. I also stay at home with my kids and raise them. I had kids they are my responsibility. I don’t know how anyone can find fault with that. 🙂 I couldn’t imagine how any mother could not be that involved with their baby and putting it on older sibling to care for the baby is wrong. They are not the parents…

    • Justme

      March 7, 2013 at 6:49 pm

      And your husband had no part in creating YOUR children?

    • whiteroses

      March 7, 2013 at 9:10 pm

      My husband’s philosophy is that he got the easy part. He didn’t have to carry the baby for nine months. He didn’t have to give birth. He’s quite happy to change diapers and whatnot. I wouldn’t have had our son without my husband- so he gets 50 percent of the responsibility. More to the point, he wants it.
      My son weighed over ten pounds at birth, and I had him naturally. I don’t say that because I’m all “ooh, look, all you people you had an epidural suck”, because trust me, I WISH I could have had one. My point is that my husband was there the entire time, looked at me afterward, and said, “This is unfair.” I asked him why, and he said, “Because you had to do all this. If it wasn’t for you, he wouldn’t be here. And yet I get just as much credit. It doesn’t make sense.”

    • Tinyfaeri

      March 8, 2013 at 9:46 am

      Aw, sweet hubby. 🙂

    • whiteroses

      March 8, 2013 at 3:53 pm

      I love that dude. We didn’t think I’d be able to have kids- and this is the same guy who told me that, as long as he didn’t have to live without me, he’d be happy without children. He loves kids. He’s an elementary school teacher, for cripes sake.

      And I guess I like to brag about him anonymously because 1) our friends are really sarcastic and 2) it would embarrass him if I bragged about him doing something that he thinks should be par for the course 🙂

  16. Rachelle

    March 7, 2013 at 3:24 pm

    So would everyone here react the same way if the mother said “I haven’t taken the trash out in 6 weeks!” or “I haven’t done the laundry…!”. Come on ladies. I think we’re all grown up enough to realize that there’s a tone of humour here, and she’s had her fair share of diaper changing; I don’t think she’s emotionally damaging anyone of her children, or her husband. I mean, come on. You guys are freaking out because she’s “manipulating” her kids to change their brother’s diapers? I think we have much bigger fish to fry here. Don’t y’all have a diaper to go change? Speaking of which…

    • Brooke

      March 12, 2013 at 2:47 pm

      Lol- this cracked me up.

  17. Amanda Low

    March 7, 2013 at 4:00 pm

    My husband hasn’t bathed our baby in over 400 days. Is he a bad father? No, he just doesn’t like giving baths. If he were completely uninvolved, he would deserve criticism. But like the author of this piece, he makes up for his lack of one activity by engaging in many others. Chill the eff out, people!

    • JewelEyedGamerGirl

      March 13, 2013 at 8:23 pm

      At least he’s honest about it with you. He doesn’t manipulate you to get out of it.

    • Auryn Grigori

      May 19, 2013 at 6:13 am

      How do you know?

    • JewelEyedGamerGirl

      May 20, 2013 at 3:43 pm

      If she already knows he doesn’t like giving baths, the jig is up. Any excuse he could potentially make will be seen as such. So the answer is…common sense?

    • Bec

      October 21, 2013 at 4:42 am

      But who likes changing nappies? You could probably safely guess ‘everyone’. Guess the jig is up for OP as well, by your logic…

    • Melissa D Norman

      October 14, 2013 at 5:49 pm

      Honey, you can’t go through life filtering other people’s lives through your negative experience! From what you said above I does sound like you had it tough and it can certainly help you become a more involved and loving mother. No necessarily so though. I’m sorry that happened to you, but there’s a few key differences here you’re not getting, and I don’t expect you will until you’ve had a few of your OWN children. Even though your case is an extreme example, the woman your modeling everyone else after was your step mother. Even with the best of step parents, it’s just not the same bond as your own. You will do yourself no favors by playing the martyr! Everyone needs help sometimes, and believe me a work from home mom even with help has more than her share of responsibilities! How do you know she didn’t change ALL of the diapers with the other kids? How do you know if the father’s never read a story to the kids, the division of labor in a family is not wrong, not with the babysitter she pays, the husband, or children! Does a contract have to be drawn up in order to make it ok? You think she’s manipulating her kids or guilting them? Again, you don’t know that, she stated more than once her family is glad to help except for a few minor protests! She must be doing something right, there’s times I can’t even beg, guilt or bribe my kids to help, and trust me, after 4, you’ll do all three, at least once or twice……a day! They can’t mind that much, or believe me, she’d already be found out! My best advice to you is to move on and let go of your past hurt and resentment towards your stepmother! Forgive her, not so much for her, but for yourself and future kids! If not it will continue to negatively affect how you view things and poison your relationships!

  18. Rachelle

    March 7, 2013 at 4:08 pm

    You make me laugh. That’s all.

  19. Katia

    March 7, 2013 at 4:27 pm

    Love it! You inspire me

  20. Katia

    March 7, 2013 at 4:30 pm

    As someone who did very few chores I think it’s great she’s enlisting the help of her kids. I wonder if my five year old could do his 1 year old bro”s diaper…

    • Blueathena623

      March 7, 2013 at 4:32 pm

      I only have the one kid, but I’m wondering if I could train my dogs. Too bad someone would call PETA on me.

    • Eve Vawter

      March 7, 2013 at 5:00 pm

      I would so help you do this. I think we need to start a training school for this. My dog needs a job!

    • BigBlue

      March 8, 2013 at 2:50 pm

      I have been saying this to my husband from the beginning. I read an article somewhere about a dog that can drive a car. If that’s possible, surely a little diaper change should be no big deal. My dogs need to start pulling their weight around the house!

    • Lisa C. Baker

      March 8, 2013 at 8:10 am

      Exactly my thought when I read this! I’ve tried though. She can’t quite do the snaps on my cloth diapers.

    • MrsShuck

      March 11, 2013 at 7:24 pm

      It’s that lack of opposable thumbs thing!

  21. sandy

    March 7, 2013 at 5:11 pm

    Doesn’t really matter whether she is changing it or not as long as its getting done and I am sure as a mother when she gives him a bath she checks for rashes I give her kudos for getting away with it and FYI this will be a good life lesson for her other children when they get older at least they will know how to change their child’s diaper!

  22. katie

    March 7, 2013 at 5:17 pm

    wow, that’s just ridiculous, she’s the one who spread her legs and brought the baby into the world , not her kids. she shouldn’t be making her kids do it, make them pick up toys and clean messes they helped make , but make them take care of a delicate baby, I feel guilty for asking my older son to grab a diaper or wipes for me …

    • katie

      March 7, 2013 at 5:19 pm

      and I add that she shouldn’t be making them feel like because she gave them life they owe her anything but love, and even in some cases I think that’s too much to ask… its like telling the kid that she didn’t want them

    • Véronique Houde

      March 7, 2013 at 7:49 pm

      “honey, can you go and grab a loaf of bread in the freezer?” “but I thought you LOOOOOOVED MEEEEEE”

    • whiteroses

      March 7, 2013 at 9:15 pm

      So your kids do no chores or help out around the house. Got it.
      Our children “owe” us nothing. That’s true. But by teaching them responsibility, we’re preparing them for the world. Which is our whole job as parents, yes?

    • Auryn Grigori

      May 19, 2013 at 6:25 am

      Katie, grip. Get you one.

      The only GOOD thing that was done for me in my house hold when I was a kid was learning how to change my siblings’ diapers. It helped me as a mother to do it myself. That being said, I don’t always like to do it, and sometimes press my daughter’s father into doing it, particularly when we go out somewhere (for some weird reason, I am better at doing it at home). I am going to teach my children how to do adult things like (horror of horrors) cooking! Maybe even (gasp) babysitting! And they may not owe it to me, but they do owe it to themselves later on in life.

    • Blueathena623

      March 7, 2013 at 5:49 pm

      You feel guilty asking your son to get you wipes? Stop being such a damn martyr.

    • Just Saying

      July 21, 2013 at 11:52 pm

      Get off the ridiculous train and stop making this into something it’s not. Stop supporting someone who’s clearly getting off on manipulating others into the most basic of care giving duties. Changing a diaper is NOT a big deal. Teaching your kids the sneaky manipulative undertones IS.

    • lea

      March 7, 2013 at 9:26 pm

      You know what is ridiculous, katie? Somebody using the phrase “she’s the one who spread her legs”.

      Shame on you.

    • Blueathena623

      March 7, 2013 at 9:42 pm

      Thank you! I meant to comment on that. I hate that phrase. It’s like men have no control over the situation. Damn Rick, I didn’t mean to have kids, but she opened her legs and I just fell in.

    • Allison

      March 8, 2013 at 4:55 pm

      How are you so awesome?

    • Girlie

      June 14, 2013 at 1:59 am

      Yeah, and isn’t that a sentence using slutshaming rape victims or teenage moms? I mean, not that anyone should ever use it, but if you’re gonna use it, at least be logical in your own twisted way.

      A married woman of four, who most likely talked with her husband and they mutually decided to have another baby? The father had nothing to do with it? He should have no responsibilities for the baby? REALLY?!??? So much misogynism here, it’s sad.

    • Lawcat

      March 7, 2013 at 10:41 pm

      Wow, that’s, ridiculous, that, you, can’t, use, a period. You know what this is? GRAMMATICAL ABUSE. You’re just spreading your fingers all over those keys, bringing that sentence into the world, without regard for anyone else.

      But seriously, if asking an older child to do a simple task makes you feel guilty, you should probably talk to someone about that. It doesn’t make you #1 Worlds Best Mommy of the Year 2013, it makes you batshit crazy.

    • Auryn Grigori

      May 19, 2013 at 6:27 am

      Yep, her poor unwitting hubby just sort of accidently ran into her spread legs. Damn those evil leg-spreading women!

  23. ScottA

    March 7, 2013 at 5:19 pm

    I’ve read funnier……..Oh, YOU’RE SERIOUS? I didn’t know parenting was a competition.

    Life IS a competition though and you, my cunning little tart, are losing at being a person.

    And it is not even close. I’ll call ya when I need someone to lie to my doctor.

  24. Allison

    March 7, 2013 at 5:32 pm

    This is awesome! I have a six month old and if I can get away for a half a day without a diaper change I feel like I just pulled of the perfect bank heist!

  25. Confess Your Sins

    March 7, 2013 at 5:49 pm

    True hellfire is throwing a bunch of anonymous moms into a room to discuss parenting! lulz!

  26. ss.mm

    March 7, 2013 at 10:54 pm

    i think this mother is a lazy twit using her children to raise her last! i have 3 kids and my youngest is 5 months ive never had my other 2 who are older to go change his diaper or bathe him or feed him that isnt their responsibility! i gave birth to him not my kids i dont know why people think its their other kids responsibility to take care of their siblings it isnt!!!!!!!! u had the damn kid now take care of it u lazy bum!

    • Blueathena623

      March 8, 2013 at 12:52 pm

      Changing a few diapers a day = raising a kid. Good to know. Glad I no longer have to worry about all that other stuff,as long as I change diapers, I’m good to go.

  27. Mom1

    March 7, 2013 at 11:29 pm

    Good job making your other kids slaves just so you don’t have to deal with unpleasantness. Why have kids if you are going to push your responsibility on someone else? Taking turns is fine, but seriously, I feel bad for the other kids, hes not their baby he is their sibling.

  28. Patrícia Camelo

    March 8, 2013 at 7:35 am

    hahaha, excellent!

  29. skyblonde

    March 8, 2013 at 7:52 am

    I have an 11 year old who begs to do baby chores like feeding and yes, diapers. Does this make me an evil stepmother when I let her? And what makes it worse is sometimes, I am not even doing anything else productive when she gives the baby a bath or whatever No wonder my stepdaughter hates me and resents the baby…ooh, wait, just kidding, she doesn’t.

    • JewelEyedGamerGirl

      March 13, 2013 at 8:24 pm

      She asked. You didn’t make her.

    • Girlie

      June 14, 2013 at 2:07 am

      You probably knew an answer to this already, but you sound like an awesome stepmom, and your relationship (with her) sounds close. I also like how you said “I have an 11 year old” (instead of “the daughter of my husband” or sth like that) 🙂 Cudos to you!

  30. Lisa C. Baker

    March 8, 2013 at 8:29 am

    40% of the world’s children are mostly cared for by siblings. Not because they’re abused or abandoned. But because in most cultures, everyone recognizes that YES, it IS a sibling’s job to help care for the baby! It’s called being in a family. Kids are way more capable than we give them credit for. This mindset that kids can’t — and shouldn’t — do anything for the family is the reason why so many adults are moving back home. They don’t know how to do their own laundry, let alone change their own baby’s diaper once they have one. If we let kids take on adult responsibilities sooner (which they WANT and LOVE to do!) then maybe we wouldn’t have so many grownups who act like children because they’ve never learned the basic skills of household management.

    • JewelEyedGamerGirl

      March 8, 2013 at 2:54 pm

      Sorry, but caring for a child shouldn’t be the responsibility of anyone who didn’t have a hand in its creation. If you ask nicely and someone helps you, you should say thank you and be grateful, but it is not their job to help you unless you’re paying them.

    • kj

      March 9, 2013 at 1:01 am

      Um, says who? Is that in the mighty rules of child-rearing somewhere?

      Look, I am the oldest of 5, and trust me – by the time number 5 came along my mom was pretty damn tired. I helped raise them all, especially the littlest ones, and it was a generally enriching experience for all of us. I don’t think there’s any harm in insisting on an appropriate contribution to the running of the family; not to mention that it teaches children responsibility and reciprocity.

    • JewelEyedGamerGirl

      March 9, 2013 at 7:43 am

      Oldest of 4, and my stepmother sat on her ass and did nothing all day while expecting me to be her own personal Cinderella because she wasn’t interested in caring for the children she made or taking care of the house. My dad worked all day and wasn’t going to do a whole day’s worth of housework when he got home. My school work suffered and I barely slept because I was getting up at 2 AM after changing, feeding, cleaning up, or calming children down so they could go back to sleep. There was no point in me even going to bed until at least 3, and then I had to be on the school bus at 7:30. And reciprocity my butt, I also made my own food, bought my own food half the time, and didn’t have any help with my own stuff. The problem is that a lot of people don’t know what an appropriate contribution is, so yeah, I’ll err on the side of saying it’s not a sibling’s responsibility to do a parent’s job. Chores, sure, but taking care of someone else’s baby is an inappropriate chore based on a choice someone else made. If mom and dad ask for help and the kids agree, fine, but it’s not someone else’s job.

    • Blueathena623

      March 9, 2013 at 11:05 am

      That sounds like an awful situation, and I’m sorry you had to deal with that, but surely you can see a difference between the horribleness your stepmother out you through and a mom having her sounds change a few diapers? Especially the morning one where it appears that she needs the help because she is cooking breakfast.

    • JewelEyedGamerGirl

      March 13, 2013 at 8:17 pm

      I might if she didn’t seem so gleeful about not doing it and the fact that she’s not being honest about it to the people she’s manipulating.

    • kj

      March 9, 2013 at 11:28 am

      That really sucks. I’m sorry you had to go through that. I did say “appropriate” contribution, though, and your situation goes way beyond an appropriate amount of responsibility.

    • Lindsay Michele Sadler

      March 10, 2013 at 11:50 pm

      im on the fence here.. feeding diaper changes should be left to the parents/caregiver BUT i have 4 children all under 6 and my 5 year old helps alot with her 2 sisters while u cook or clean or deal with the baby. but only when im busy.. say im changing the baby or cooking she will stand at the bathroom door and watch or help her 2 and 3 year old sisters if they have to potty until i can get there to help them. but thats it really she might help dressing them every now and then but nothing major..

    • Brooke

      March 12, 2013 at 2:52 pm

      That is awful- and I’m sorry for you, but you have to be aware that you did not live the norm, right? Most parents aren’t like that… I had awesome parents who did as much for us as they could. They also expected me to babysit once a month for my siblings and help out with them at home even when they were there. I didn’t raise them, but there were times I resented it… did my parents care? Nope… I’m sure they figured, we support you, give you everything you could ever need and more, you are going to help us out, and if you don’t like it, deal with it… that’s the mentality of most parents… most parents also don’t expect their children to get up with babies in the middle of the night and be their main caregiver.

    • JewelEyedGamerGirl

      March 13, 2013 at 8:21 pm

      I didn’t mind helping my mother out with my brother, but she always asked me. Even if the request had been pretty big, all I wanted was to be asked nicely and to hear “thank you”. I can probably count the thank yous from my stepmother for raising her kids on one hand.

    • Private_Eyescream

      March 9, 2013 at 6:20 am

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    • Tonia Randolph Spencer

      March 13, 2013 at 3:17 pm

      My kids would have horrible rashes… Not even a credible product! Epic Fail!

    • Kat

      April 13, 2013 at 11:48 pm

      Wait, you are being facetious? You realize this is a joke, right?

    • Brooke

      March 12, 2013 at 2:49 pm

      Lol wow… Were you an only child? My parents gave me life and supported me- paid for my clothes, food, put a roof over my head, toys, college, etc… so actually they did pay me for changing diapers and babysitting my younger siblings… God forbid parents require their children to shoulder some responsibility and help out with their younger siblings.

    • Melissa D Norman

      October 14, 2013 at 5:53 pm

      I guess you must really despise the Duggar mom, you know the one with 20 kids, and still trying for another!

    • JewelEyedGamerGirl

      October 18, 2013 at 12:05 pm

      For carelessly reproducing and making her children the responsibility of her other children? Oh yeah, she can take a flying leap, but I’m sure she could use her uterus for a parachute by now.

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  32. Marisa Miller

    March 8, 2013 at 11:17 am

    Is this supposed to make me feel anything other than a need to punch you in the head and scream LOSER at you?

    • Sharon Bell

      March 8, 2013 at 12:23 pm

      Wow. Troll much?

    • Véronique Houde

      March 8, 2013 at 12:36 pm

      well, someone’s in need for their morning nap. tantrums are meant for 2 year-olds, hun

    • Rachelle

      March 8, 2013 at 1:04 pm

      Rawr.

    • whiteroses

      March 8, 2013 at 4:02 pm

      Claw-sharpener for sale! Anyone? Anyone at all?

  33. Marisa Miller

    March 8, 2013 at 11:25 am

    Honestly, I could give a shit if the kids change the diapers, it was her shitty entitled white girl tone that makes me so pissed. Why the fuck do you have 4 kids if changing diapers is such a motherfucking hardship? I hope the ladies in the home can find someone to change YOUR diaper someday

    • Eve Vawter

      March 8, 2013 at 12:00 pm

      Just so you know, we have no idea what race the author is, so this whole “white girl tone” comment is a bunch of bull. Women who aren’t white also have husbands who aren’t white who also change diapers. SHOCKING HUH?

    • Tinyfaeri

      March 8, 2013 at 3:52 pm

      Yep. Poop doesn’t see color.

    • Eve Vawter

      March 8, 2013 at 4:06 pm

      HAHAHAHAHAHA HIGH FIVE!

    • Blueathena623

      March 8, 2013 at 12:54 pm

      So you don’t care if she has the kids change diapers, BUT you also think she shouldn’t have 4 kids if she doesn’t want to change diapers? Color me confused, but one statements don’t mesh.

    • Just Saying

      July 22, 2013 at 12:01 am

      Only time will tell when these boys grow up and see their mother for the manipulative headtrip she is – and let’s see if from within their own core they are willing to stick around a give to her what she was less than happy to give to them. I hope they will, out of their own sense of self, but it was certainly not a lesson from which was imparted from their mom. She’s going to be quite fortunate if they want anything to do with her. They are going to go find truly communicative and loving women to help them raise their children. And hopefully their hearts will extend out to their mother who so callously shared this vile social experiment of holding out on basic care.

  34. Mary

    March 8, 2013 at 12:02 pm

    I love the fact that the author has her older kids help out. It’s part of life, kids can’t sit around and play all day, not in my house anyway. They need to be contributing members of the family: cleaning, helping out, etc.

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  36. Exposure.

    March 8, 2013 at 1:00 pm

    It sounds like this woman doesn’t really like being a mom, she may not even like children very much – and her own sound like no exception. She doesn’t take joy in all the morning smiles of her baby, but fortunately her other sons do. When they are done changing his diaper she says they “pass him off” to her – that’s very telling as well.

    I’d say “read between the lines, people!” but this confession is so overt in all its disturbing implications, the evidence of loveless parenting is readily apparent as every unconscientious word is dripping with it. I take comfort that this baby is at least loved by his older brothers, and his father, and hopefully that will make up for the damage that is done by having a totally self-centered, manipulative, prideful boasting mother who doesn’t seem to have one maternal bone in her body. Hopefully these beautiful boys will see the light one day (if they aren’t already) and take much comfort and positivity in the silver lining here: that they can come together as a loving, nurturing, empathic family at the exclusion of this cold-hearted bitch. They don’t need her.

    • Véronique Houde

      March 8, 2013 at 1:27 pm

      wait… let me guess… you were raised by a loveless mother too? Just like Red above who thinks the mom is narcissistic because her mom was! I just realized that Anonymous’ blog post is actually a secret psychological test for mommy-issues! Do you suspect you have an underlying issue with your mom, but not sure what it is? Just read this! IS a little voice inside of your head telling you that this mom is abusive? Ding ding! You were abused! Narcissism? There we go!

      People, stop playing psychologist for a day with this woman that you’ve never met. There’s a reason that psychologists go to school for 10 years minimum and you didn’t. Stop trying to “read between the lines” and looking for issues where non exist. You’re just humiliating yourselves

    • Blueathena623

      March 8, 2013 at 5:01 pm

      MY GOD, why are so many people equating “having a little game to see how long I can go without changing diapers” with not loving her children? WHAT ARE YOUR CHILDREN DOING IN THEIR DIAPERS THAT MAKE YOU LOVE IT SO?!?! Due to an unrelenting ear infection, my kid has been on antibiotics for about a month, which means despite massive amounts of probiotics, he has killer diarrhea. If I could convince a RANDOM SERIAL KILLER to change his diapers (or clean my floor after I let him freeball to help with the diaper rash) I would do it, not because I don’t love my son, but because its PISS and SHIT, and since I’m not a start of 2 girls 1 cup, I’m not into that. Not wanting to deal with human waste doesn’t make someone heartless.

    • Eve Vawter

      March 8, 2013 at 5:48 pm

      Blue, I have zero words for how much I like you.

    • whiteroses

      March 8, 2013 at 7:58 pm

      Maybe they’re searching for gold? I dunno, Blueathena, but tbh I’m with you on this. I find nothing sweet or precious about my son’s bodily fluids, or anything that comes out of any of his orifices.
      Five bucks says some of these people have their kid’s first wet diaper under Plexiglass and proudly display it at dinner parties.

    • Just Saying

      July 21, 2013 at 11:56 pm

      Get real.

    • aliceblue

      March 8, 2013 at 5:55 pm

      1. I don’t see pictures so how do you know the boys are “beautiful?” Being great brothers doesn’t mean that they are not as ugly as homemade sin. (Not saying that they are of course, just find the lack of logic annoying).
      2. Mom has FOUR sons. She has seen lots of smiles at every GD hour of the day so not only will she (and sprog 4) do OK without a few a.m. grins but she is sharing the babies good time with others.
      3. Those 3 loving brothers didn’t raise themselves and it appears that mom has provided a boatload of love, nurture and empathy – she’s just hit her limit in the diaper department and is having fun with seeing how long she can keep the no-diaper game going.

      You do know that FUN is not just a band’s name, right? No? Ah, explains a lot.

  37. LiteBrite

    March 8, 2013 at 1:01 pm

    REAL moms change diapers!

    (Sorry, I couldn’t resist…)

    • Véronique Houde

      March 8, 2013 at 1:29 pm

      as opposed to “pretend moms”

    • Tinyfaeri

      March 8, 2013 at 3:54 pm

      from other comments, pretty sure LiteBrite is joking.

    • Véronique Houde

      March 8, 2013 at 4:57 pm

      lol my bad, guess that glass of wine gave me a hangover… oh the joys of breastfeeding…

    • LiteBrite

      March 8, 2013 at 5:53 pm

      Yes, I was definitely joking. 🙂

      No worries Veronique. I’ve had my own hangover issues in the past (ha ha).

    • aliceblue

      March 8, 2013 at 5:45 pm

      (snicker) How about, “well I just love my child too much not to be the one to change his diaper.”

  38. Red

    March 8, 2013 at 1:20 pm

    Everyone is freaking out because it’s incredibly selfish narcissistic behavior and it’s disgusting. There is a vast difference between those with large families who pitch in to get it all done and a superiorly manipulative woman passing herself off as a mother. She should be ashamed. And so should those of you who praise her. I was raised by a narcissistic mother. It’s not something to be proud of or joke about. The point is not that her boys know how to change a diaper and are willing to but in HOW she goes about accomplishing that and WHY. And her pride in how long she’s “gotten away with it” as well as her goal of seeing how long she can. Truly disgusting.

    • Véronique Houde

      March 8, 2013 at 1:30 pm

      FYI the equivalent of 3 people are freaking out. just saying.

    • Just Saying

      July 21, 2013 at 10:59 pm

      Three…. Really. Think on the broader scale and have some backbone. This encompasses far more than a nappy. Disgusting. Why more out there did not have this hit a chord is beyond my comprehension. What if we’re next having it be your mother or father – or God forbid, your spouse? Or for you drum beating supporters? Yourself. Good luck with that. Let me know how that works out for you. If you’re selfish with a diaper, I highly doubt your reluctance to be a fully involved parent is just a nappy.

    • Shelly Lloyd

      March 8, 2013 at 2:59 pm

      I love how you can do a complete psychological write up on a person based on an approximately 800 word article. Talk about narcissism.

    • Just Saying

      July 21, 2013 at 10:48 pm

      Narcissism? Her entire post was dripping in it. She was practically drooling from her mouth with unabashed glee with her exclamations of manipulating others and her sneaky ways of accomplishing it. No respect for this mother or her “envious” troll backers. Truly sickening. Hope no one ever pawns off your need to be changed. When that time comes? Think back to your own attitudes from this once lighthearted place to share parenting journeys. I think you’ll find you have much to reflect on – and perhaps entirely too much time to wonder if your thoughts then were in retrospect a bit too frivolous. Only time will tell. The “Circle of Life” is funny. Wonder if you supporters of this nutter will regret your only too easy pawning off of the basics of a child’s needs when you cannot change your own Depends and God forbid, no longer have the capacity to verbalize your simple but dire need. I hope this never happens and wish no one ill will but this topic has lit something deep inside of me that’s just unable to be ignored. Think about it people – the diapers we change and the time we invest in these little ones now are our futures – personally as well as a civilization. Let’s see how attractive it is to play “who’s going to change Gran THIS time?” Might not ring so funny then.

    • aliceblue

      March 8, 2013 at 5:42 pm

      Let me guess, you have a toddler and a baby in diapers right now and you are SO jealous.

    • Just Saying

      July 21, 2013 at 10:55 pm

      I happily change a nappy for anyone in need, and I’d like to think I would have the humanity and grace to do it for even the author, for if her example is followed? She could have easily have trained what is it? 6 others (4 children, hubby and the helper) excellent evasive and manipulative tactics to avoid doing so themselves. Trained at the hand of a master. No one deserves to lay there in their soiled pants while the effort to quickly remedy the situation would have taken less effort than to find the next patsy to do the work. Nasty business all around. Sad statement.

  39. AP

    March 8, 2013 at 1:27 pm

    This woman is my hero. I tried to pull this on my husband with the dishes, and he caught on after a day.

    I don’t get the uproar about the boys changing diapers- how is changing a diaper or two a day any different than, say, walking the dog, cleaning the catbox, or changing the hamster’s bedding?

  40. Christy

    March 8, 2013 at 1:41 pm

    You, my good lady, are a genius.

  41. Heather

    March 8, 2013 at 1:58 pm

    I read this post yesterday after it first went up (slow day at work). My initial thought was “Anonymous Mom is boring this week – how is getting out of diaper changes even a story”? I do it all the time – I just wish my 3 year old was old enough to change her brother’s diaper. Guess I’m a bad mom. On the plus side, reading all these seriously batshit comments on here has made my work day fly by! Meanwhile, as I work, other people are changing my kid’s dirty bum (his father, who stayed home with him today because he’s sick – we share that kind of thing, both being parents and all). And I’m not feeling the least bit guilty because he’s in good hands with his dad. We’ll switch off when I get home and if there’s a dirty diaper to change, I’ll take my turn, because it’s been days since he pooped on my shift. And I’m not even the slightest bit worried that I’ve ruined his life by sharing parental care with his other parent.

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  43. Sara

    March 8, 2013 at 3:50 pm

    It’s not like this person is pulling her children out of school and preventing them from having friends so she can sit around and play FarmVille and eat Ding-Dongs all day. Frankly, I have a hard time making the leap from “older children being expected to help with their baby brother” to “older children not being allowed to have a childhood of their own”.

    Maybe this is just a sign that I’m getting old. When I was a kid in the 80s and early 90s, I was expected to help with my baby sister. I was also expected to do chores. At no point did anyone ever suggest that having responsibilities around the house was a sign that my childhood was being ripped away and I was a horribly exploited victim; it was more a culture of “Everyone helps out because everyone lives here”. I’m personally glad that I was raised with that sense of communal responsibility and work ethic; my parents would have done me a grave disservice if I’d been allowed to spend my entire childhood and adolescence taking, without contributing anything in return.

    • whiteroses

      March 8, 2013 at 4:10 pm

      That means we’re both ancient, Sara. I was expected to load and unload the dishwasher, help with laundry, mow the lawn, etc.

      I honestly believe that the people who don’t experience some form of responsibility while they’re growing up will be woefully ill-equipped to deal with, well, life. If you’ve got four other people living in your house, and those people can walk and pick up, then they should be helping out. Asking a child to do chores is not abuse. Asking them to change a few diapers is not abuse. If you’re unsure of what actually constitutes abuse, Google the following terms: “Brian and Shannon Gore” and “Brittany Arnett”. Heck, turn on “Law and Order” and wait. There’s a pretty clear line between what those people did and what this mom is doing.

    • whiteroses

      March 8, 2013 at 7:46 pm

      I should probably have noted here, though, that both stories- especially the Gore case- aren’t for those who have weak stomachs, have just given birth, or have just eaten.

    • Blueathena623

      March 8, 2013 at 8:12 pm

      God damn dude. Just . . . what the hell?

    • whiteroses

      March 8, 2013 at 8:58 pm

      Yeah. There aren’t words. I wish there were. But there aren’t.
      That’s why the idea of a 9 year old changing a diaper being child abuse makes me kind of pissed off. Because asking a healthy kid to change his brother’s diaper in no way compares to what those animals did to that poor child.

    • Isobel_A

      June 12, 2013 at 4:54 am

      Yep.

      There seems to be a new culture, whereby the child is emperor. The child must have everything, and must not have to do anything to get this everything. All children get prizes in games.

      I don’t know how parents think this is preparing their children for life. The child is going to grow up with such a sense of entitlement, how are they going to cope when they don’t get a job they apply for? How are they going to be able to manage money? If they grow up getting everything for nothing, surely they’re ripe for getting into vast amounts of debt? How are they even going to be able to feed themselves healthily?

      I really don’t understand why children having chores is a bad thing. I helped out with my sister, and I had to do housework and watering the garden in order to earn my pocket money. I think it was a good thing, and certainly don’t consider myself abused, but it sounds like these comments would if they came across a kid in the same situation. It’s completely and utterly bizarre.

    • Jerrica

      October 13, 2013 at 5:16 pm

      We already have a sense of entitlement. “Oh, I didn’t study for that test. I don’t have to take it.” “You can’t give me an F for homework. I had stuff to do.” “You’re seriously counting that grade? But I didn’t do well! You can’t count it.” “I had a game last night. I couldn’t finish my project.” (This one was after the student was given 2 weeks to do a simple 2 page research paper that was mostly completed in class and a poster.) Those statements from the students are bad enough, but then add the parents coming for a conference echoing the same sentiments! Little Johnny can’t be held responsible for his actions. He has to be handed everything on a silver platter and if Little Johnny cusses out a teacher, well, the teacher deserved it. I see it every year.

      I was expected to help with my two younger brothers. I grew up with a good work ethic, have a college degree, house/land of my own, happily married, a new baby, and a career in teaching. I was not “abused” because I was expected to help with my younger brothers. I am a well-adjusted adult who understands the value of good work. I had chores, and I was spanked when I did wrong too. Today’s children (in general) are not being taught to be responsible, functioning community memebers because they are being taught that any responsibility, chore, or punishment for wrongdoing is “abuse.”

    • Sara

      March 9, 2013 at 5:34 am

      Okay, so I casually Googled “Brian and Shannon Gore” before you posted your warning, and………seriously. I wish to God that I could un-read that. WTF is wrong with people?!

    • whiteroses

      March 9, 2013 at 7:53 am

      God knows- because I sure don’t. I’m not a big proponent of the death penalty but in this case it’s well-deserved. The grandmother suspected something was going on but did nothing, apparently. It’s one of those few times where everyone can agree on what should be done.

      Which is why I say- diaper changing? Not abuse. Expecting your other children to raise your own is probably abuSIVE, but changing a diaper now and then is not abuse.

      There’s a bit of a bright spot to the Gore case though. Apparently the little girl and the little boy have both been placed with families who take excellent care of them. Still- she’ll never be normal.

    • Isobel_A

      June 12, 2013 at 4:47 am

      Ah. Some sense, finally 🙂

  44. Roromom

    March 8, 2013 at 4:57 pm

    Hahaha, LOVE this!!! I am so jealous! 😀

  45. Junebug

    March 8, 2013 at 7:01 pm

    I suppose this is…sort of… amusing, but it left me with the thought that the author needs to grow up. Congratulations, you evaded changing diapers for weeks…..do you want a cookie?

  46. Anna Log

    March 8, 2013 at 9:53 pm

    I love how everyone is minimizing the interaction this woman has with her own children. “I gave you life – can’t you change a diaper?” is manipulative, period. This is obvious and cannot be argued. If you want to defend this guilt-tripping tactic, then think about your own behavior that you’re trying to defend. Guilt trips are designed to control behavior, and are never, ever in a child’s best interest – they serve the guilt-tripper’s agenda, which is wholly selfish. The children grow up being constantly invalidated in this manner, and can’t seem to put a finger on why they feel resentful – apparently every time they’re just being kids and playing – that’s what kids do, by the way [there seems to be a lot of lack of comprehension here that children are children, not small adults] – they’re being guilted for not being grateful for having been given birth to enough to put down the toys in that moment and serve mom’s needs. Which, by the way, wasn’t their choice – they didn’t exactly summon this woman to conceiving and birthing them, nor did they choose a lifetime of being subjected to martyrdom.

  47. anon

    March 8, 2013 at 11:36 pm

    I initially thought she meant her baby hadn’t had a clean diaper for six weeks. Glad that’s not the case.

    • Makabit

      March 9, 2013 at 5:15 pm

      That was my first read as well. I was deeply relieved to learn the child has, in fact, had a new diaper in that time.

  48. duckieg

    March 9, 2013 at 1:14 am

    I find nothing wrong with this. There are certain things I hated to do when I had my 4 children, and my step-daughter, being years older, helped out often. I am more appalled at the grammar and lack of editing in this piece than I am about the fact that she hasn’t changed her child’s diaper. I want to give her a pat on the back; and it’s not like she wasn’t doing anything while everyone else changed the baby’s diaper, she was pulling her weight in other areas.

  49. Ciara

    March 9, 2013 at 11:24 am

    Speaking from personal experience, as the oldest child.. I was asked to take care of my younger sister. She and I were 4 1/2 years apart… I changed and fed her as a baby. As she grew older, I was in charge of making sure she got ready and getting her to school. Making sure she did her homework, and got in bed. As a result, I don’t have a childhood that I can remember. Having a baby is your choice, not that of your children. If you have a new child, take care of it… let your children be children while they can. The world takes away that care-free time too quickly.

    • JewelEyedGamerGirl

      March 13, 2013 at 8:31 pm

      Been there too. And that’s one of many reasons I’m never having children. My father had the gall to ask me when I was going to give him grandchildren. I said “Well, your children would be in foster care or the ground if it weren’t for me. What more do you think you deserve from me?”

    • Just Saying

      July 21, 2013 at 8:10 pm

      Little JewelEyed….I felt much the same and was completely ok when I thought I was not going to ever have kids – then miraculously, I did have my own – and it’s all so different. Let yourself breathe a little and perhaps you’ll feel very differently one day. It’s now 22+ years later and both my kids are off in college – it was like I blinked and they are now up and on their own. I was very careful to not to simulate the upbringing you described (and that i too experienced) and while my kids had chores and responsibilities? It was for their pets & “family items” as well as their own toys, dirty clothes to the hampers, etc. Children are precious people we are allowed to nurture to hopefully turn into wonderful young adults, as you clearly are. Bravo to how well tempered you have been in responding to critics here. Frankly? I’m astonished so many here, even seemingly “tongue in cheek” want to emulate or admire the cretin who brags about her dereliction of duties.

    • JewelEyedGamerGirl

      July 28, 2013 at 10:29 am

      No, I won’t, I’m getting sterilized. I’m sure it’s different when they’re yours because there’s no escape if they actually belong to you. I will be an awesome aunt someday, but I have no interest in raising kids ever again.

  50. Kim

    March 9, 2013 at 4:33 pm

    Sounds like a dream…. *wistful sigh*

  51. Yolimarkschick

    March 9, 2013 at 8:34 pm

    wow basically she just confessed to being a manipulative lazy cow.

  52. Liane

    March 10, 2013 at 12:57 pm

    Not changing diapers? Fine. Guilt tripping your kids? No. Cut that shit out, its bad in the long run.

    • Kat

      April 14, 2013 at 12:40 am

      Why, because it looks that way on Everybody Loves Raymond? My mom broke out the guilt my whole life, and like most other kids I know whose moms did the same, I’d just laugh because I recognized the tactic. Way too sensitive!

  53. Brooke

    March 12, 2013 at 2:45 pm

    pssshhh, you people need to get off your high horse and join the rest of us commoners down here… I think this woman is a genius. If there is a woman out there who actually enjoys changing a diaper, I’d like to meet her. I try to get out of changing my kids’ diapers as much as I can… of course there’s not a few hours that go by without it being my turn.. (we play the, “whoever touched the babies last changes their diapers” game)… but if I could get away with six weeks of no diaper changing I would be in heaven. Who cares? Diaper changing isn’t a major bonding time. She isn’t requiring her other children to raise the baby… they are helping out, as they should… It’s not like they’re getting up with the baby in the middle of the night to take care of their baby brother… they’re changing a damn diaper. I changed plenty of them as the oldest of 4 kids. I was happy to do it. I felt like I was helping out my hard working parents who worked their asses off to make sure I had everything I needed and more… I babysat and changed many diapers… Don’t slam this mother for expecting her children to shoulder a little responsibility and help out. The father is gone from his kids all day long at work, so I’m sure that when he comes home, he doesn’t mind changing diapers. Get over it. She isn’t being negligent at all (and as a social worker, I could tell you all about the negligence of some parents)… I’m sure she’s an awesome mom, who just doesn’t like to change diapers. I hate bathtime. Hate it. It’s not fun. My bathroom gets soaked, I get soaked, it’s stressful to me… so that’s my husband’s job most of the time. My husband doesn’t like bedtime- doesn’t like to read, doesn’t like the teeth brushing, doesn’t like putting p.j.s on, etc… so that’s my job… and he probably hasn’t done that stuff in about a month. You going to jump all over him as well and call him a negligent father? Idiots…

    • Kat

      April 14, 2013 at 12:27 am

      No, because I think that’s the issue in the first place. If this were an article by Anonymous Dad, they’d all think it was cute.

    • Just Saying

      July 21, 2013 at 11:47 pm

      I supported one of your previous posts and that remains so. However, this author was gleeful in dodging her responsibilities and bragging about her manipulation of others to do her job. It’s a far stretch but – negative manipulation and her attitude is the very platform where the neglect slides to abuse and you yourself see the end result of that, sadly. Don’t confuse her message as a cheeky way of dealing with a parenting style that on the surface, can read as funny but it’s really just a slippery slope.

  54. Why

    March 12, 2013 at 8:56 pm

    Why is it parents think the oldest child has to help out so much ….if you can’t care for you children then maybe you should stop having them…..never in my wild dream would I let my 5 year old change my one yr old diaper it’s not her job it’s mine. We wanted to have two kids so its our job to bath,change,care for them…there’s thing I hate to do like change diaper but I still do because I wanted kids it come with having kids….if you can’t stand bathing changing dirty diaper deal with the crying,then don’t have kids period…it’s not the older child job or the sibling to picking up your slack , cause you are too lazy…. Yes they can help out but there’s a diifferent between helping out and being your slave.

  55. Tonia Randolph Spencer

    March 13, 2013 at 3:12 pm

    Honestly.. As long as the baby’s butt isn’t burning with his own emesis… WHO CARES! My 9 year old has thrown away every diaper his 2 year old has ever had.. BIG DEAL?! Frankly I wish her luck!

    • JewelEyedGamerGirl

      March 13, 2013 at 8:39 pm

      Since when does vomit makes a baby’s butt burn?

    • Kimberly Carlisle

      March 17, 2013 at 1:18 am

      Hahaha I was confused by that, too.

  56. jane skye

    March 14, 2013 at 12:16 pm

    Sounds like child abuse and neglect. She should be arrested.

    • Isobel_A

      June 12, 2013 at 4:44 am

      Are you actually insane? Seriously?

  57. MysticIceWater

    March 14, 2013 at 9:29 pm

    Pure ingenuis! I love this woman!!! I never did think of this. (I have thought about how to get out of getting up with the kids but never this!)

  58. Michelle Gauthier

    March 15, 2013 at 9:39 am

    She has 4 kids. Did she changed diapers on the other boys? If you don’t like diapers, then stop having kids. Will she get tired of feeding them too? Or bathing them? or how about loving them? This is the dumbest and laziest mom ever.

    • Isobel_A

      June 12, 2013 at 4:44 am

      Did you even read the article? Sounds like she’s talking about a great partnership. She and her husband share looking after the kids, with each doing the bits they like. Sounds like a great way for kids to have happy parents. Babies are fed and put to bed by Mum, who loves doing it. Happy kids. Kids are changed and bathed by Dad, who loves doing it. Happy kids. Baby is also looked after by his brothers – fantastic. Those little boys are going to be responsible adults, and might actually be Dads who enjoy looking after their own children, too, instead of fobbing it off as ‘woman’s work’.

      I really don’t understand all the frothing at the mouth that people are doing about this. I suspect it’s stay at home Mums, who do nothing else, and can’t cope with any challenge to that.

    • Michelle Gauthier

      June 13, 2013 at 4:53 am

      Becoming a parent means you share ALL of the work with the kids. ALL of it.

    • Just Saying

      July 21, 2013 at 10:36 pm

      Did YOU read the article? She’s bragging about manipulating situations to where she has not issued the bare bottom (sorry for the pun) of care to this little one and is impressed how easily she shoved it off onto others. Disgusting. She should never have been given that 5th child.

  59. tiffany

    March 15, 2013 at 3:06 pm

    this was retarded. i thought the title implied that baby aint actually been changed in 6 weeks.

  60. Bettye Jackson

    March 15, 2013 at 4:29 pm

    No, this is not funny bitch. You shouldn’t have had those kids if you wasn’t going to change diapers for all of them. Your part time help and your family are being used by your sorry behind, and if you don’t like changing diaper bitch, potty train your child if you can get off of that sorry lazy behind of your’s.

    • Leigha7

      August 1, 2013 at 3:25 am

      Yes, how dare her husband (who helped make the baby) and the babysitter she PAYS to take care of her baby while she works be expected to change diapers. It’s just downright awful for a father and paid baby-sitter to have to do such a thing.

      You can argue against the older kids having to do it if you like. That’s pretty much just a matter of opinion. But if you’re honestly saying the baby’s father shouldn’t be changing diapers, or that it’s inappropriate to expect a paid baby-sitter to do it, then…well…that’s just idiotic.

  61. Bettye Jackson

    March 15, 2013 at 4:29 pm

    I hate sorry asses bitches that try to be funny.

    • Kat

      April 14, 2013 at 12:21 am

      I’m sorry to have to tell you this, but in that case, this isn’t the site for you. Half of the material on this site is exactly that, “bitches that try to be funny.” It’s kind of the point. Half your comments refer to “this bitch” and “that bitch” though, so I’d be willing to bet you’re not one of “those bitches” who laughs a whole lot…

  62. Bettye Jackson

    March 15, 2013 at 4:31 pm

    By the way bitch, those kids didn’t ask to be born and are not your slaves.

    • Isobel_A

      June 12, 2013 at 4:40 am

      Wow, venom girl! Sounds like a great family, to me, where the kids get looked after, played with, cooked for and made snacks, and help out in return. Great way of teaching kids responsibility. Or are you one of these people whose sons will grow up without knowing how to even make their own bed?

  63. MsLady

    March 17, 2013 at 2:01 am

    ROTFL this is TOO cute! I totally feel you about the adult food=rancid diaper thing. I’d try this, but my only other child is my son, who’s soon to be 14. She’s a girl, he’s a boy. He doesn’t do diapers. The hubby does them when he can. He does MOST of the diapering now at this age. I have a little bit of help around the house, but my daughter is old enough to CHOOSE who she wants to change her diaper, and it’s usually me. I wiggle out of it sometimes, usually by taking my own bathroom break, but now she just follows me in, sits on the potty with her pants up, and waits till I finish. Yep, I’m trapped in diaper hell. Recently she ‘quit’ diapers and will only wear Easy-Ups, since she doesn’t like to lay down to be changed anymore. But soon, I will be able to say I haven’t changed a diaper in 2 months: we’re going to master potty training, or all my hair will just fall out.

  64. MsLady

    March 17, 2013 at 2:10 am

    PSA: a public forum isn’t the place to vent your bitterness. So your childhood was horrible. Take that to the child abuse message board. React to the story or go away.

  65. GeneralGwok

    March 17, 2013 at 3:11 am

    The most stupid and useless article ever, regardless of tongue in cheekness or not. What a waste of my 1 minute. Just senselessly stupid, and hardly funny at all.

  66. 'Toni Narron

    March 18, 2013 at 12:44 am

    to the folks getting all bent out of shape about this….i suspect this mom may have embellished her story for the sake of a laugh. even if she didn’t exaggerate her story, i see no issue, she’s just trading chore for chore. she makes a snack for one kid while that kid does a chore for her. you scratch my back and i’ll scratch yours. she does dinner while hubby changes the diaper. no biggie. get over yourselves, people. seriously.

  67. Ggv

    March 23, 2013 at 11:45 pm

    I love how you have your older kids change diapers

  68. Maitri

    April 3, 2013 at 11:05 am

    This doesn’t bother me at all. What’s the big deal? http://maitribathbody.com

  69. Kat

    April 13, 2013 at 11:58 pm

    If there is one mom here who doesn’t wish she could snap her fingers and never have to change a diaper again, say so so I can LMAO at your lies. I can’t believe there are moms who are so haughty… Just lighten up!

  70. BOO

    May 25, 2013 at 7:54 pm

    this Is great!

  71. linda

    June 24, 2013 at 9:38 am

    I am the mom of a bedwetting 14 year old daughter and feel guilty because i use cloth diapers and rubber pants on her at bed time and like putting them on her and having her in them at night.i dont know why i like her wearing them and have wondered if i am doing the right thing.she is a very girly girl and i feel the diapers and rubber pants make her feel like a baby again which i love.she doesnt mind the diapers and rubberpants or me putting them on her.but i just cant get over the feeling that she is like a baby all over again.She just received her sacrement of confirmation on may 19th and had to wear the white poofy dress.veil,tights and shoes.i went so far as to put one of her cloth diapers and rubber pants on her when i dressed her to wear under her tights so she would feel babyish in her white outfit.again,i felt guilty knowing she had them on walking down the aisle with her clasmates.how can i get over this?

    • Just Saying

      July 22, 2013 at 12:24 am

      None of us want to see our kids get grown up and leave – but this could be a medical issue and it’s important for her to have a physical exam. A 14 year old having the inability to control her bladder could have terrible consequences on her psyche. Sleepovers certainly have begun – life is hard enough without being excluded and for sure she does not want the knowledge of why she’s not attending to become public. Please let her pediatrician know what’s happening for some support. Good luck,

  72. Roxy

    July 15, 2013 at 10:33 pm

    I understand the humor she finds in not changing a diaper.. but its not really an appropriate job to have your kids changing your babys diaper all the time.. I mean my 10 year old used to think it was fun to “help” when his little brothers were newborn… but I have never manipulated him to change them.. I understand the sitter and husband changing and making sure they are clean before the sitter leaves (as that’s her job).. imagine people not washing good or cleaning the poop off the baby very well.. next thing you know the baby has a rash, and all your kids have hand foot and mouth disease or any number of things people can get from ingesting feces. just food for thought…

  73. Ang

    July 16, 2013 at 3:33 pm

    Taking care of children is not a child’s job. Don’t want to change diapers? Don’t want to feed? Don’t have another child. I don’t find this cute at all. I’m not freaking out, could be worse, but I would be embarrassed to admit something like this. And what is part time about a sitter 5 hours a day 5 days a week?

    • Leigha7

      August 1, 2013 at 3:29 am

      “And what is part time about a sitter 5 hours a day 5 days a week?”

      She works from home. The sitter is there so that she can actually get work done, instead of trying to squeeze it in while the baby is napping. There is no legitimate reason why anyone should have a problem with this fact.

      Five hours a day is “part time” because “full time” work is 8 hours a day. If the mother had a full time job away from home, the sitter would be there for 8 hours (plus travel time), give or take a couple hours if the father has a different schedule.

  74. Alicia McCullough

    July 17, 2013 at 2:08 am

    I have a confession to make… I know this is an old post but I too have not changed a diaper in over 6 weeks. No one has even noticed. I have 4 kids and my husband and daughter have been taking turns changing the youngest. She wants to be a wife and mother when she grows up so she keeps trying to “steal” her baby sister. lol I told her college first husband and kids second.

  75. Guest

    July 18, 2013 at 2:10 am

    ok so we are sayin gill have the older kids and the nanny raise my kid…. nice job!

  76. terry larkin

    July 18, 2013 at 2:11 am

    ok so we are sayin I will just have my older kids and nanny raise the baby!!! nice job! gold star too you

  77. AmazingE

    July 18, 2013 at 10:10 am

    I read the article and chuckled a bit. Then I read the comments and laughed so hard I wet myself. Anon mom is a genius if you ask me, and if I thought I could pull this off in my house, I totally would. Just for fun. Does that make me a horrible person? Probably not, but looking at some of the other comments, you’d think I just said I kick puppies in my spare time.

    That being said, I experienced real abuse in my childhood, and what this woman admits to doing doesn’t even come close to what I experienced growing up. All the commenters calling her abusive and manipulative really need to take a step back and maybe do some Googling (or read through comments on other Anon Mom entries), and get some fucking perspective. “I gave you life” doesn’t sound much different to me than “because i’m your mother, that’s why”. It’s not like she’s threatening the kids with some kind of horrible punishment if they don’t help out a little, and for the most part it seems like the husband and kids are more than happy to help out. To me it seems like a fair trade, you change a diaper, i’ll make you a snack for example.

    In short, cut Anon mom some slack negative commenters. Oh, and BlueAthena I think I love you.

  78. Just Saying

    July 21, 2013 at 7:48 pm

    This is possibly one of the best candidates for infertility I have ever heard of.

  79. Just Saying

    July 21, 2013 at 10:11 pm

    Some people were never meant to have children. Author’s tone not funny nor written in jest if you really listen to her. Frankly, I’m made ill by her comments.

  80. Lindy Gregory

    July 22, 2013 at 6:30 pm

    i dont care what anyone says. this mother is pathetic.

  81. Erin Tarpley

    July 23, 2013 at 8:56 am

    My mother did this to us when we were kids, only she never had an excuse (I’m doing x, y or z will you change the baby) it was just go change your brother or sister. And I resented it so saying it’s the siblings job is BS. It is not their job to care for a baby that isn’t theirs.

  82. Jen

    September 17, 2013 at 1:39 am

    Ok, I am a mother of five and I have to say that I love this story. It is so funny. The ladies that are on here saying how awful it is that the siblings are helping take care of a baby, clearly haven’t had more than one or two children. Thank goodness my younger boys are finally potty trained, but I can say that I have found that there are things that I like to do when it comes to the kids that my husband doesnt like, and things that he does enjoy doing. If you ask me its no different than doing a chore around ( I know that may sound bad, but let me explain before you get all bent out of shape) I hate folding clothes, my husband doesnt, so I will wash and dry the clothes and he will fold them, I will do the dishes, and he will eat the food off of them lol.

  83. REL

    September 17, 2013 at 10:05 am

    When I first read the title of this I thought no one had changed the baby’s diaper in 6 weeks so we should at least all be happy that’s not the case hahaha

  84. Senaida Gonzales Zamora

    September 17, 2013 at 9:30 pm

    Its ok for the siblings to help,to a certain extent,some mothers will take advantage and have the sibling do absolutely everything which is not right,I have 4 children and two out of four help me with the 4th one,THEY HELP ME,its not solely their responsibility its mine and my husbands as well…yes im tired my husbands tired my kids are tired but we all gotta be there for eachother equally,but thats how I do in my home

  85. liz4

    October 8, 2013 at 6:21 am

    If you are looking for ways to get out of parts of caring for your child it’s time to be done having kids.

  86. Joe

    January 8, 2014 at 10:52 pm

    Having older kids changing diapers is fine especially the stinky ones it helps them practice babysitting like at my house I haven’t 14 year old 11 year old 8 year old 4 year old 2 year old twins and a 7 month old all boys and the younger 4 are in diapers and I have the older 3 change quite a bit of diapers each for practicing babysitting and they don’t mind it so they like it it’s good for them to know

  87. BW2

    April 29, 2014 at 3:37 pm

    This was written by Rebecca Eckler! Even under Anonymous Mom it still received tons of comments.

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