Quit Pitying Cameron Diaz Because She Is Proudly Childfree By Choice
While I technically can’t identify with being childfree by choice since I have always wanted kids, I can identify with all of the annoying questions that people ask you again and again, thinly veiled as small talk. Before I was married, it was, “Are you seeing anyone? Is it serious?” Once my husband and I were officially married, the next set of questions began, “Are you thinking of having kids soon?”
I totally understand that many of these questions are part of polite conversation. But there is also the other side of the coin—where a person is asked multiple forms of the same question by well-meaning friends and family members, until it eventually makes them want to FREAK THE FUCK OUT at the thought of defending their lifestyle choices for the millionth time.
I can’t speak for Cameron Diaz, but since she is an amazingly beautiful starlet in the public eye, I can only imagine that she gets this a lot. In an interview for the August issue of Esquire magazine, Cameron proudly admits what is really no one’s business but is quite obvious if you have a brain in your head: She is “childless by choice.”
“I like being forty-one,” admitted the actress. “I love it. So much s–it just falls away. Fear, mostly. It’s the best age. That’s when a woman knows how to work things, or she doesn’t care about that anymore. You just stop being afraid. You don’t worry about what men think. You just don’t worry that time registers anything awful.”
Perhaps this acquired fearlessness is why Diaz decided to share the reasons behind her decision to opt out of motherhood. Of course it’s nobody’s business but Diaz’s, but her revelation just might quiet the endless commentary and speculation that come with celebrity status and…motherhood and potential motherhood.
I know there is really no reason to pity Cameron since she has an unnaturally beautiful face and a super fancy Hollywood life, but I can identify with the fact that it is annoying to feel scrutinized about whatever stage you are at in your life. Pre-kids, and before I even planned to have a baby, I felt itchy and judged whenever that question would come up, especially when posed by pregnant friends with a beatific smile on their face. Maybe I’m an insecure asshole, or maybe I’m just a normal person who experiences insecurity. It happens.
The point is that Cameron’s childfree status is truly no one’s business, but she was kind enough to proudly share her message and put rumors to rest. She added, “It’s so much more work to have children. To have lives besides your own that you are responsible for—I didn’t take that on. That did make things easier for me. A baby— that’s all day, every day for eighteen years.”
Only time will tell how the media reacts to this information, but I firmly believe that Cameron should be celebrated for her honesty. If you don’t want children, then you shouldn’t have them. There’s nothing worse than choosing to have a child for the wrong reasons because I can tell you from personal experience that the child will definitely suffer down the road.
Cameron is smart. Cameron is proudly childfree. Cameron’s uterus is nobody’s business.