Nurse-In Staged After Anthropologie Shames Breastfeeding Mom Off Store Floor And Onto A Toilet

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A floor manager at Anthropologie allegedly forced a customer off the store floor after she began nursing in what was probably one of their lovely, totally overpriced shabby-chic chairs. Ingrid Wiese-Hesson’s 6-week-old started to fuss, so she did what any mother who just spent $700 in a store would do – relax for a minute in the glow of their AC and feed her child.That’s when the manager arrived to save the day and tell her where she would be most comfortable.

On the toilet.

From CBS Los Angeles:

“The exact words to me were ‘I’m here to escort you to the ladies room so that you can finish breastfeeding’,” Wiese-Hesson said. “She opened up the bathroom, and she said ‘sorry, there’s no chair’, and of course the only thing in the bathroom was the toilet seat.”

Wiese-Hesson left the store, but called the manager a few hours later to ask him what the hell had just happened. His response was, “well, there are other customers in the store, and I thought that you would be more comfortable, and they would be more comfortable, if you were to leave the sales floor.”

Aw, how sweet. It was all about the breastfeeding mom’s comfort. Clearly a toilet seat is more comfortable than a $3,000 chair. To make matters even more ridiculous, Wiese Hesson was breastfeeding under a cover. She took to Facebook – everyone’s favorite revenge move – to complain about the incident:

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Public breastfeeding is legal in California, so the fact that she spent $700 is neither here nor there, but it does make the story a little more annoying; Thanks for the money! Now off to the toilet with your indecent self!  Within a day, dozens of breastfeeding moms organized and showed up at the entrance of Anthropologie and poured into the store to proudly nurse their babies:


Just stop making a big deal about this, world, and women won’t be forced to show up en masse and disturb a quiet day of shopping in Beverly Hills.

These stories always shock me because there are just so many of them. I feel like I’m writing a story about a breastfeeding mother being shamed almost every day. I guess the general public doesn’t read mom sites or understand that breastfeeding mothers are going to get pissed if you treat them like they are not fit for public consumption. I’m always happy when I see protests like this go down, because – whatever it takes. I’m behind anything that spreads awareness so breastfeeding women can stop being constantly harassed.

(photos: Facebook)


  1. Wicked Prophet Kay Sue

    August 21, 2014 at 9:09 am

    I’m really, really surprised that they would do something like that. It’s pretty clear that breastfeeding in public is legal…why risk the bad publicity?

    • JenH1986

      August 21, 2014 at 9:33 am

      Because they are dumb. Seriously no matter your feelings, it’s clear that women go to FB or social media with these stories. Managers should know better. They represent the brand. If someone actually complained a simple “The law states she can breastfeed anywhere” would have sufficed. A manager has to make everyone happy, but it’s a freaking law.

    • allisonjayne

      August 21, 2014 at 10:36 am

      That’s what shocks me about all these stories. Like, seriously, do you not read the news?

    • Wicked Prophet Kay Sue

      August 21, 2014 at 10:36 am

      I think they really must live in a bubble…maybe?

    • allisonjayne

      August 21, 2014 at 10:41 am

      I’m shocked that the head offices of all these huge retail corporations haven’t issued memos to all their staff about it, y’know? Like it seems like a pretty obvious thing to do after the first few times you read about ‘nurse-ins’ and ‘boycotts’.

    • Wicked Prophet Kay Sue

      August 21, 2014 at 10:49 am

      When I worked for Babies R Us/Toys R Us, they reinforced it over and over and over again. Twice a year, they circulated a training on our nursing policy–which was, “Don’t ever fucking disturb them, no matter where they are.” (I may have paraphrased that a bit)

      The next retailer I worked for wasn’t as adamant, but they had the policy and everyone had to sign off on it in the new hire paperwork.

      So I don’t get it either. It wasn’t a big deal to do the training. It’s not like this is new. We have stories going back over ten years now.

    • keelhaulrose

      August 21, 2014 at 11:43 am

      When I worked for K-Mart a decade and a half ago we were told to offer to fetch a chair for mommy if she was standing. Not bring her to the back, just drop a chair in the middle of the store. My manager also encouraged us to offer water, though she was a breastfeeding mom herself, so I think that was just our store.

    • Wicked Prophet Kay Sue

      August 21, 2014 at 11:44 am

      That policy is pretty much the same. They are the second retailer I worked for, and I signed off on something similar in my new hire paperwork. 😉

    • brebayVadgeBadge

      August 21, 2014 at 2:50 pm

      I like your paraphrase. I was told the very same thing when I asked about how to safely move a bird’s nest that was driving my indoor cat insane. (short version: federal crime) Perhaps we should be as clear about breastfeeding!

    • Wicked Prophet Kay Sue

      August 21, 2014 at 2:58 pm

      I agree. Clarity is best! 😉

    • brebayVadgeBadge

      August 21, 2014 at 11:15 am

      Unfortunately, more than enough morons agree with them to keep them open. Chik-fil-A stock has risen since their public ass-hattery. Granted, that was more free speech and less law-breaking, but still…

    • CC

      August 21, 2014 at 2:06 pm

      They’re probably just banking on the mother being so embarrassed that she shuts up and complies.

  2. Katherine Handcock

    August 21, 2014 at 9:11 am

    Yet another reason that I love that breastfeeding is part of the Charter of Rights and Freedoms in Canada! I tell that to every new breastfeeding mom who asks me about nursing in public. Because that way, when/if (here it seems more to be “if”, thank heavens) someone pulls something like this, they know to look them in the eye and say, “Nope, not moving.”

    Although if I’d just spent $700 in a store and then had this happen, I’d end with, “Oh, and I would like to make a return…”

    • Spiderpigmom

      August 21, 2014 at 9:56 am

      Sometimes it’s just not worth raising a stink. I knew that when I was sent to the washroom some three years ago at the at the Railway Cafe at Heritage Park, Calgary, AB (my child was a newborn, not a toddler, and no I didn’t feed him on the toilet seat I just got back to my car). The preteen who was visiting with us got hungry so we went back to the place a few hours later, and a mother was bottle-feeding her kid on the exact same seat I was thrown out from. I was so pissed.

    • Katherine Handcock

      August 21, 2014 at 10:14 am

      I can sympathize with not raising a stink. On the other hand, knowing specifically that it’s in the Charter of Rights and Freedoms often prevents a stink – it never happened to me personally, but a few friends who were challenged about whether they were allowed to nurse in public just said, politely, “Actually, legally my right to nurse in public is protected unless there’s a safety hazard.” Many people don’t know that, and most people will back down if you can tell them. However, I also respect the right to say, “Eh, I don’t have the energy for this today!”

      On the other hand, I don’t blame you for being pretty angry when you saw the other mother later!

    • Jessy

      August 22, 2014 at 9:12 am

      Fellow Calgarian here. I have spent too many hours at Heritage Park and I’m really disappointed that you were treated like that. Sorry. :/

    • Rachel

      August 21, 2014 at 10:03 am

      Seriously… even if I REALLY NEEDED those items, I’d just re-buy them online or at a different location. But, I’m spiteful like that.

    • brebayVadgeBadge

      August 21, 2014 at 3:15 pm

      Aw, did they delete my Seinfeld returning for spite clip?

    • Kelly

      August 21, 2014 at 10:34 am

      I have this cool little card in my wallet that has the breastfeeding symbol on one side and the Wisconsin statute that gives me the right to breastfeed publicly on the other. No one every really hassled me too much about breastfeeding, which is a damn shame because I’ve been waiting for YEARS to whip that thing out indignantly.

    • Katherine Handcock

      August 21, 2014 at 10:45 am

      Ha! Well, we all know how much people complain about breastfeeding mothers “whipping them out.” That would put a new spin on that particular complaint 🙂

    • ted3553

      August 21, 2014 at 11:10 am

      I do not know what this “whipping your boobs around” looks like as I didn’t BF but I do know that if I’m seated in the mall food court next to you and you whip a boob out and hit me in the face with these whip like boobs I hear you all have, I will be offended. Yes siree! If all of you didn’t have 6 ft long boobs that you were constantly whipping out and around, I’m sure we’d have this problem solved.

    • Katherine Handcock

      August 21, 2014 at 11:14 am

      What about those of us with teleporting boobs? 😉

    • ted3553

      August 21, 2014 at 11:30 am

      do they come with a teleporting booth like on star trek? If so, problem solved as you can BF in the booth. Ha! If we were face to face, i’d be running away from you right now with a big smile plastered on my face

    • brebayVadgeBadge

      August 21, 2014 at 2:56 pm


    • LiteBrite(UterineDudebro)

      August 21, 2014 at 11:27 am

      I was thinking that too. Hopefully she returned every stinking item to the store. Knowing how expensive Anthropologie is though it is probably only four items.

    • Dirty Old Lady Phillips

      August 21, 2014 at 11:54 am


    • Katherine Handcock

      August 21, 2014 at 12:02 pm

      Oh, I’m all about the Canadabragging…very un-Canadian of me, I know 🙂

    • brebayVadgeBadge

      August 21, 2014 at 2:30 pm

      Pretty pathetic that we have a protected right to carry guns in public, but not to feed babies in public (or that at least a lot of dumb-shits think the former is more important and don’t know the latter exists.) I guess they’re afraid of some crazy person going ape-shit and squirting into a crowd of people…

    • the_ether

      August 21, 2014 at 7:00 pm

      Talk about an Open Carry protest! We’re double barrelled and constantly reloading 😉

  3. jen

    August 21, 2014 at 9:31 am

    So they sell clothes and the manager couldn’t even suggest a changing room? Not excusing him by any means, but it seems more logical than shoving her in a filthy toilet stall.

  4. JenH1986

    August 21, 2014 at 9:31 am

    I’m outraged that 1-we are still having this discussion 2-who the hell spends $700 in Anthropologie? I will take her shopping and spend that $700 on more than 2 outfits. I’ve never given much thought to BF, but I’m determined to become a tit whipper after seeing all this. I’m totally gonna be the woman just shaking her boobies. I’m just telling you now. Maria you can plan to write “Crazy woman shakes boobs at people while BF” just pencil that in.

    • Kat

      August 21, 2014 at 9:35 am

      You know, I *want* to like Athro. Some of their dresses are really cute. But they’re always so obscenely expensive it’s laughable. $350 is unreasonable for a cotton wrap dress (or whatever) unless it comes with diamond studs.

    • 2Well

      August 21, 2014 at 10:54 am

      I bought a coffee mug there once.

    • Kitsune

      August 21, 2014 at 11:38 am

      I just shop online at Modcloth and Ruche, the poor man’s Anthro.

    • brebayVadgeBadge

      August 21, 2014 at 2:28 pm

      Love Modcloth. If the CEO’s a douche, don’t tell me!

    • Kitsune

      August 21, 2014 at 6:36 pm

      They just announced that they won’t be photoshopping their models. so I feel pretty confident labeling them non douchey.

    • CC

      August 21, 2014 at 2:01 pm

      Anthro shit is ALWAYS on eBay for much less money

    • Spongeworthy

      August 21, 2014 at 9:39 am

      I’m sort of disappointed I didn’t take advantage of the time I was BFing to be a serial tit-whipper and boob-shaker. Talk about a wasted opportunity!

    • Maria Guido

      August 21, 2014 at 11:43 am

      I can’t wait to write that. Make sure you give me an exclusive.

    • JenH1986

      August 21, 2014 at 11:51 am


    • Dirty Old Lady Phillips

      August 21, 2014 at 11:50 am

      Regarding what I could do with $700 on a shopping trip: My entire outfit today (red Banana Republic top, white linen Cynthia Rowley pants and uber-cute flip flops from Target) cost me $35.

    • Fondue

      August 21, 2014 at 12:29 pm

      Could you please change your Disqus name to Jen the Tit Whipper? Thx!

    • JenTheTitWhipper

      August 21, 2014 at 12:32 pm


    • Alexandra

      August 26, 2014 at 12:50 pm

      Ugh but for real I saw a $500 sweater there that I loved but it’s um – rent money? So nope.

  5. Kat

    August 21, 2014 at 9:36 am

    Every time I see stories like this, I hold my breath and scroll through them thinking “oh god, please not Texas, please not us again.”

    • WhoremonalCrazyLotusSlugalo

      August 21, 2014 at 9:53 am

      That’s hilarious.

  6. Zorbs

    August 21, 2014 at 9:54 am

    Every time I see one of these stories, I wonder if I am a freak because I myself was ashamed to BF in public (I would rather go in a toilet than show boobs in public) and I strongly dislike seeing women do it.

    • Guinevere

      August 21, 2014 at 9:56 am

      I think the idea is that women should have the freedom to (and are well within their legal rights to) nurse where is most comfortable to them. Plus, she was using a cover. So, if the toilet is more your thing, then go for it, ya know?

    • jane

      August 21, 2014 at 10:00 am

      I didn’t like breastfeeding in general and breastfeeding in public in particular. And, if I was being honest, I don’t love it when other women do it either (there’s a squick factor for me).

      But I 1000000% realize that my dislike has as much bearing on another woman’s right to do it as my dislike of mango has to do with it being sold in the grocery store.

    • Rachel

      August 21, 2014 at 10:00 am

      I’m kind of the same way and assume it’s societal conditioning. Like I have gone into bathrooms before and just leaned against the wall in a stall. The most public I’ve done is a separate room with my back facing the door with a cover on (there was a “media room” by the customer lounge while I was waiting for my car to be inspected that no one was in). Otherwise, I just go to my car that has tinted windows.

      But, I recognize that some babies don’t like covers and that what I do isn’t the most comfortable/convenient, so I don’t begrudge anyone who just does it in plain view.

    • brebayVadgeBadge

      August 21, 2014 at 2:26 pm

      I agree, I never did it public, I didn’t feel comfortable. But I deal with my (minimal) discomfort at others doing it because they have every right. I’m more uncomfortable at people chewing gum in public, honestly. It’s a lot easier to avert your eyes than to stick your fingers in your ears. Point is: Who the hell told these people they have a right to feel comfortable at all times, and that, if they don’t, other people have to sacrifice their rights and their comfort?

    • NotTakenNotAvailableWTFDisqus

      August 21, 2014 at 8:24 pm

      Agreed. At any rate, as little as I like sucking noises in general, they’re quiet enough that I can move far enough away to not hear them pretty easily. The shrieking of a hungry baby? Definite and possibly unavoidable major discomfort on my part.

    • Katherine Handcock

      August 21, 2014 at 10:12 am

      I don’t think there’s anything wrong with not wanting to do it yourself – I knew folks who would prefer to go into a changing room etc. I did too, when my kids were newborns and it was so hard to get them in the right position. I don’t even mind people who say, “I don’t like seeing it” – as long as your recognize that they’re still allowed to. I kind of feel the same way about public displays of affection between couples – it just makes me feel like I’m intruding – but I know it’s then my responsibility to minimize what I see, because they don’t have to stop (up to a certain point, of course 😉

    • Zorbs

      August 21, 2014 at 1:33 pm

      Hi there. I know you from UWO.

    • Katherine Handcock

      August 21, 2014 at 5:07 pm

      Really? I can’t see the picture well enough. Small world on Mommyish!

    • Zorbs

      August 21, 2014 at 6:17 pm

      we sat together in 20th century opera class.

    • Katherine Handcock

      August 21, 2014 at 6:25 pm

      Wow! It really is a small world 🙂

    • Spongeworthy

      August 21, 2014 at 10:15 am

      I mean, there’s really nothing wrong with you not wanting to BF in public if you aren’t comfortable with it. And you can dislike seeing other women do it all you want. The issue is when people like the manager in this story take their own discomfort and make it the nursing woman’s problem. I had no problem nursing in public when I needed to (and for the record I wasn’t “showing my boobs” when doing so), and I had a legal right to do so, so anyone else’s discomfort with it was their problem, not mine. If you don’t like seeing it, it’s on you to move, not the woman nursing.

    • Jayamama

      August 21, 2014 at 10:40 am

      Perfectly said. I understand not wanting to nurse in public, because I am a fairly modest and introverted person. If there’s a chair in the corner, or a dressing room, I prefer that over something out in the open every time (though I’ve learned to just suck it up and feed my baby wherever I have to). However, that’s because I feel self-conscious and it’s hard for me to get a let-down when I’m nervous. So then I have a frustrated baby, and I get even more attention. I’ve also never been able to nurse without a cover except around my husband, and now my toddler. I wish I could just not care, but again, I can’t get a let-down when I’m not comfortable. I admire those who can do what they have to without caring, and I get so upset when I hear these stories. Maybe with number three I can finally ditch the cover.

    • Spongeworthy

      August 21, 2014 at 11:23 am

      You have to do what’s best for you and the baby. If being self-conscious about it on public interferes with let-down, then having some privacy is what works best for you to get the kiddo fed.
      I think that everyone should do what is within their comfort. I think sometimes stories like this make it seem like everyone should just go and nurse out in the open. But that’s not a good fit for everyone, and that’s ok.

    • Amanda G

      August 21, 2014 at 10:33 am

      This only works with your first kid. A toddler isn’t going to stand quietly in a bathroom stall for 20 minutes while you nurse the baby, nor should they have to.

    • Zorbs

      August 21, 2014 at 1:33 pm

      well, there will be no 2nd kid around here..

    • JAN

      August 21, 2014 at 5:50 pm

      Exactly, I have a five year old, a two year old, and a seven month old. I’m not too keen on cramming us all in a toilet stall together when the potty training two year old has to use the potty NOW, and that doesn’t usually take too long. I do try to feed the baby before I go into stores and plan my trips carefully (with three kids I feel like every trip to the grocery store requires as much planning and equipment as the landing at Normandy! However, there are just times when he needs to eat and we’re at the playground or splash pad and I still need to watch the other two. I don’t use a cover but after three kids I’m pretty adept and avoiding any exposure b/c I feel more comfortable that way personally.

    • Linzon

      August 21, 2014 at 6:22 pm

      Oh man, the best place I ever nursed my second kid was in the mom room at Science World. It was right in the middle of the kid zone so my older guy could go play and I kept an eye on him through the mirrored glass windows. Bonus: big comfy chairs.

    • Grr! Arrgh!

      August 21, 2014 at 10:35 am

      I think stories like this might go a long way in explaining *why* you feel ashamed to BF in public and strongly dislike seeing others do it despite all of the logical, countervailing arguments for it: good for babies, good for people who don’t want to listen to screaming babies, natural way to feed kids, etc.

    • Shannon

      August 21, 2014 at 10:36 am

      Hell, I sat for my IBCLC exam last month and I strongly preferred feeding my son in the nice, quiet nursing lounge at Nordstrom or finding an empty fitting room. But when he had to eat, and there was no place to go, I did it in public, and I was modest because I didn’t want everyone seeing my nipples. I agree that it’s societal conditioning, that we are taught from a very early age that we’re supposed to never, ever let anyone see them except a doctor or our partner. I hope that stigma goes away over the next few generations of breastfeeding moms, because it really is no big deal. We are mammals and it’s the biological norm to feed our babies our milk. Nobody should feel bad or weird about what their bodies are supposed to do, but unfortunately that’s where we we are right now.

  7. Guinevere

    August 21, 2014 at 9:54 am

    UGH! Anthropologie is one of my online go-to stores (clearance, obvs), because I know and like how their stuff fits me & now I feel I need to boycott until they apologize. It doesn’t have the impact to nurse-in when I’m buying online, afterall.

    • Shannon

      August 21, 2014 at 10:27 am

      Just go to their website and give your computer the side-eye while you breastfeed.

    • Guinevere

      August 21, 2014 at 10:29 am

      haha! Also: ARGH! Just realized I’m wearing TWO Anthropologie items in this discus pic.

    • Maria Guido

      August 21, 2014 at 11:26 am

      I hate to be the one to tell you this, but the store is actually owned by kind of a monster human. He’s apparently anti-gay, anti-choice and actually donated money to Rick Santorum. ack.

    • Guinevere

      August 21, 2014 at 11:28 am

      Well then I quit. No more clothes until I do my research. Naked time.

    • NotTakenNotAvailableWTFDisqus

      August 21, 2014 at 8:21 pm

      Did you really need an excuse for Naked Time? It’s 90 degrees where I am!

    • CC

      August 21, 2014 at 1:54 pm

      Yup 🙁
      Also: Free People, BHLDN, Urban and Terrain

  8. Véronique the Attachment Shark

    August 21, 2014 at 10:09 am

    He probably didn’t want her to spill breastmilk on his expensive upholstery 😉

    • guest

      August 21, 2014 at 7:52 pm

      That is exactly what I was wondering. That and maybe he was worried other customers would see it and automatically dismiss EVER buying that chair because it would possibly be “contaminated” with breast milk.

    • NotTakenNotAvailableWTFDisqus

      August 21, 2014 at 8:20 pm

      In which case, there are a few fetish websites I’ve heard of who would have been happy to take the chair off his hands for double the price. :X

      I need to start hanging out with more fellow asexuals.

  9. Personal

    August 21, 2014 at 10:35 am

    OK, I hate to admit this, but this may just be their best advertisement yet. I (in Europe) have never heard of this store. In fact, I saw a headline about this but just thought, ‘Oh, look, some moron can’t spell anthropology correctly.’ And now I hear on here that they have cute dresses….
    I’m a breastfeeding mom. I breastfeed on demand. When I’m visiting family in the US, I tend to go to a guestroom to nurse, or to the car if I’m in public (because I’ve heard that some people go all ape-shit over there when they think a breast in in use), but generally I just sit in a corner or turn my back and FEED MY KID. I’m on my 2nd kid now and have pretty much nursed everywhere. The only comments have been positive. Most people over here couldn’t care less what a stranger’s child is doing as long as the kid isn’t screaming or breaking things.
    Y’all come to Germany. I was once with a group of moms in a café and one of them commented on the fact that we might LOOK like a nurse-in because 4 of the 6 of us were nursing. No one batted an eye. (Or we are the most oblivious group of ex-pats ever.) And that’s the way it should be.
    Grown-ups can handle a fraction of a second of discomfort before they look away. It’s not that bad.

    • allisonjayne

      August 21, 2014 at 10:39 am

      For whatever it’s worth, I do think these stories are the exception and not the norm. I breastfed my kid for over two years, never used a cover, and never, ever had anyone say anything to me.

      Granted, I live in Canada, but I did go to the states a couple of times while I was still nursing, and didn’t run into any problems there either.

    • Kitsune

      August 21, 2014 at 11:45 am

      I think it depends on where in the US you are sometimes. I live in Massachusetts and I feel like I’d be way more likely to get harassed for using a bottle.

    • brebayVadgeBadge

      August 21, 2014 at 2:21 pm

      Ditto. Big difference between Colorado and Nebraska with my two.

    • Harriet Meadow

      August 21, 2014 at 5:32 pm

      I’ve never heard anything negative here in Colorado. And I don’t use a cover.

    • brebayVadgeBadge

      August 21, 2014 at 8:21 pm

      Yeah, that wasn’t really clear I guess, but definitely Colorado was more cool about it than Nebraska. If you’d spent any time in Nebraska, especially outside Omaha/Lincoln, you’d have known which I meant 😉

  10. CT Guest

    August 21, 2014 at 10:46 am

    This is always shocking to me since I bf’d two kids and was not hassled once, ever. I’ve bf’d everywhere from a bench in the entryway of Kohl’s to the middle of an amusement park. To be honest, I don’t think any one either noticed or cared what I was doing… When I do notice a bf mama (which is rare since I’m usually going about my business myself), I just give her a little cheer inside my head and say “way to go!” LOL!

  11. K.

    August 21, 2014 at 10:48 am

    Anyone else want Richard Gere to offer an escort so that the mom can “Pretty Woman” their asses? Return the $700, get some bags from Prada, waltz back in with the baby strapped to tit:

    “You work on commission right? Big mistake. BIG. HUGE.”

    Mom, baby, and Richard Gere exit. End scene.

    • itpainsme2say

      August 21, 2014 at 11:03 am

      best part of the movie for me, i wonder what that says about me

    • K.

      August 21, 2014 at 12:35 pm

      That you’re awesome?!

    • Kelly James

      August 22, 2014 at 3:09 am


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  12. keelhaulrose

    August 21, 2014 at 11:37 am

    Cue Warren ‘s “my business, my rules, cover it up” rant in three… two…. one….

    • brebayVadgeBadge

      August 21, 2014 at 9:13 pm

      I’m so over Warren. He can go stick it right in his Pacholzuk. Twice.

  13. Tina

    August 21, 2014 at 1:05 pm

    I’m sad to see these sorts of situations still happening to breastfeeding moms, but personally I feel nurse-ins are not as effective to the cause as the women staging them think they are and it just makes people (especially men or the childfree) see “crazy breastfeeding moms who have nothing better to do with their lives”. I’m betting the manager is now regretting his course of actions not because he realized he was in the wrong and that she had every right to nurse there, but because he had to deal with the consequences of a nurse-in fiasco. He probably just ended up with a negative attitude and completely annoyed with these “breastfeeding crazies”.

    All this mom needed to do is not follow the manager to the washroom in the first place and firmly say, right then and there in front of other customers, “No thank you, I’m most comfortable right here and legally I’m allowed to breastfeed anywhere my baby needs to. Please keep that in mind next time you see a woman breastfeeding, I’d hate it if this had to be brought to the attention of your head office. Oh, and someone also might need the washroom for it’s ACTUAL intended purpose so it should stay available.” She could have even maybe thrown in a little confident “haha I win” smile at the end to seem self-assured and not come off as hostile. My guess is that he would have been extremely embarrassed, apologized profusely and never, ever said something like that to anyone again, even while not working and not having to represent the brand. Probably would have even offered her a discount to keep her happy. Mom wins, manager gets schooled and eventually nobody will even dream of bothering a breastfeeding mom. Let’s change the tactics and not fight fire with fire to normalize breastfeeding.

    • Véronique the Attachment Shark

      August 21, 2014 at 2:46 pm

      so smart.

    • the_ether

      August 21, 2014 at 7:03 pm

      It only works if the mum is assertive enough. I am now, but if I’d had kids even 5 years ago I would have been too timid.

  14. Warren Pacholzuk

    August 21, 2014 at 1:12 pm

    Go ahead start the lynching.
    But I doubt this had anything to do with the actual act. It most likely had to do with her using a chair that was for sale.
    The store then should supply chairs not part of inventory for the customers to use, to sit, relax, or breast feed.

    • waffre

      August 21, 2014 at 1:52 pm

      If that was the case, the manager should have said so. I’m sure she would have understood that.

    • CC

      August 21, 2014 at 2:16 pm

      I don’t think so. Assuming you’re in a hetero relationship, do you think it would be weird at all if you sat down in a chair while your wife shopped? Do you REALLY think a manager would come up to you and say, “Sir, I think you’d be more comfortable in the bathroom”?

    • Warren Pacholzuk

      August 21, 2014 at 10:59 pm

      CC, I have been shopping and sat down while she clothes shopped. And have had store employees inform me trying is fine, but we prefer you don’t lounge. And I am totally fine with that.

    • CC

      August 21, 2014 at 2:20 pm

      P.S. It probably makes people of color uncomfortable when you, a white dude, use the word “lynching” in such a flippant manner.

    • whiteroses

      August 21, 2014 at 11:05 pm

      But that was in the past and has nothing to do with now because it’s not relevant to him! #warrenknowsbest

    • Holly

      August 21, 2014 at 7:33 pm

      Also, if that were the case, it was really weird for the manager to say that he felt that she and the other shoppers would be more comfortable if she were on the toilet. Unless, of course, she was pooping on that chair…

    • Warren Pacholzuk

      August 21, 2014 at 10:49 pm

      So in other words, you don’t give a shit about anything. A breastfeeding mother should be able to do it anywhere, anytime, and even use furniture and items that do not belong to them.
      Try going into a dealership, plunk yourself down in a new BMW and start feeding. I doubt they will allow that either.
      yes breast feeding is great, but have respect for other people.
      And if you can’t, then stay the fuck home.

    • whiteroses

      August 21, 2014 at 11:08 pm

      That’s…one hell of an extrapolation. It’s a chair. And if someone has such an urgent need to buy a chair (in a store that doesn’t solely sell furniture) that they have to kick out someone who’s already sitting in said chair, that’s pretty entitled, no?

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  16. shoey

    August 21, 2014 at 1:34 pm

    I was stuck in an Anthropologie with my 5 month old during a rainstorm last week. I was worried that I’d have to feed him if the rain continued, not because of it being in public, but more so that he’d spit up on their furniture and I’d have to pay for it.

  17. CC

    August 21, 2014 at 1:57 pm

    This is so alien to me–where I live, it’s shameful to bottle-feed. I’ve had someone check to “make sure” I was feeding my baby expressed milk and not formula, but no one has ever given me even a little side-eye for nursing in public, including in nice restaurants without a cover. My second baby is only 9 weeks old, but I am seriously just NOT into it this time and I’m ready to quit, but I’m honestly nervous about bottle-feeding in public. I just don’t want to hear it!

    • Personal

      August 21, 2014 at 2:53 pm

      I’m sorry it’s not easier for you. I hope you find a solution you feel comfortable with. I remember those first few weeks when my daughter would demand attention and I was wiped out taking care of my infant son. Hang in there. It does get easier.
      I AM a mom who breastfeeds my (now) toddler son pretty openly. I am glad I haven’t had any negative remarks. I think it is just as wrong to make comments to a mother who is bottle-feeding her baby.

    • CC

      August 21, 2014 at 3:26 pm

      Oh, it’s okay. Thank you for the kind words! I’m mostly just feeling really touched-out, if that makes sense…it feels like someone is touching me every waking moment (and even most sleeping moments). My toddler is sitting on my lap, or the baby is nursing, or my bf is groping me. I just want to sit in a dark room for an hour every day, lol.

    • JAN

      August 21, 2014 at 6:01 pm

      I know what you mean about feeling “touched out.” If my seven month old isn’t on my lap, my two year old is, and my five year old still likes to cuddle with mama. Sometimes I just want to shove everyone away and scream “no touching!”

    • Katherine Handcock

      August 21, 2014 at 6:20 pm

      Oh, boy, do I know that feeling.

    • NotTakenNotAvailableWTFDisqus

      August 21, 2014 at 8:16 pm

      That’s how I am as a general rule, which is why I don’t date or live with anybody! Even my cat can only sit on my lap for so long before I start getting claustrophobic, and he, at least, is quiet and adorable.

    • Gangle

      August 21, 2014 at 5:48 pm

      People are nosey gits. Just lie and say its expressed milk and your baby cannot latch.

    • Katherine Handcock

      August 21, 2014 at 6:24 pm

      I still can’t believe that people will comment on things like that publicly. I mean, you don’t know the circumstances. Do like the rest of us and judge silently – tht way you don’t make others uncomfortable and you save yourself the embarrassment when false assumptions inevitably bite you 😉

      I’ll give you the same advice a lactation consultant gave a friend of mine: try to push to three months if you can. If you’re still feeling the same way, then you know you’re past the “adjusting to a new baby” dynamic (for all that having one is a shock, I found two a bigger shock!). You might decide to keep going, you might not, but in either case, at least you won’t look back and wonder if you stopped just because you were so damn tired.

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  20. Holly

    August 21, 2014 at 7:23 pm

    Seven..hundred…dollars. I haven’t spent that much on clothing in the last several years combined. Anyhow, I’m always so surprised by these stories. I’m not surprised that women are trying to feed their children in public (gasp!) or that some people just really can’t handle seeing a boob used for something other than their entertainment. I’m surprised that in this day and age, when there are so many articles like this out there and so much attention drawn to these instances, that people will still escort someone off of the sales floor. How can they not know what will happen? Also, can someone explain the legality of this to me? If it’s legal in California to publicly breastfeed does that just mean outside in a park or a parking lot or something and not inside specific establishments?

    • NotTakenNotAvailableWTFDisqus

      August 21, 2014 at 8:13 pm

      That actually is a good question. I don’t know how the rule applies to privately owned businesses, or if anybody thought of that before or after the law went into effect.

      Still doesn’t make it morally or ethically sound either way.

  21. LiLi

    August 21, 2014 at 8:10 pm

    Seriously? Do these people never watch the news or have the internet? Even before I became a mom I noticed these stories all over the place…

  22. val97

    August 22, 2014 at 10:00 am

    When I hear stories like these, and after the rage subsides, I have one nagging question: What would one do about automatic flushers?

  23. Alexandra

    August 26, 2014 at 12:53 pm

    Confused as to how, if she was under a cover, anyone even knew/cared/saw that she was breastfeeding? NOT that she should have to or that it’s wrong or anything – but just curious….My mom was once at a store (a baby goods store) and the SALESLADY had her baby in a newborn carrier that was like a wrap and was nursing the whole time she helped my mom and my mom had no idea until the end when she took the baby off one side and put her on the other. And they were standing in front of each other talking! So who was paying this much attention to this mom?

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