I had a birth plan with my second daughter. With my first, I was just confused by a lot of stuff, and sort of flew by the seat of my pants. But I planned better with the next one, and had it all laid out! While it went pretty much how I wanted it to go, my birth plan and actual birth story didn't exactly match. It's hard to plan for an event that is, by nature, unpredictable. Even if you have the best intentions and everything written down in great detail, things so wrong. Stuff happens! The blog "How We Came to Be" used a brutally honest comic to show just how much a birth story can differ from a plan. The story in the comic is a common one. But it might help others to know that they're not alone.
The blogger shared her birth story in a unique and sweet way. The birth of her son didn't go according to plan.
Image: How We Came to Be via Imgur / bowlhaircut
Water births and rainbows and good hair, who doesn't want that?
Sometimes, our bodies have different plans for how the baby is going to get here. Placentas and blood pressure can be real bitches.
Honestly, with my first I had an epidural, and I didn't feel the pee thing go in. Really, really happy about that.
So many thoughts and fears must've been swirling through her mind. It's hard to let go of your plan, while still hoping everything turns out ok.
But then the baby arrives! And he is fine! And you think, ok, it's over. But, it's not.
Even in the best of scenarios, the aftermath is brutal. Bleeding, chapping, soreness, exhaustion. I remember feeling like I'd been hit by a truck. And I had to take care of this baby!
"Ok, you're all doped up. still bleeding, your nipples are aflame, and you have this pretty serious health condition to consider. Best of luck to you, off you go!"
You've been pregnant forever, your birth plan was shot to shit, you have no idea what your body just went through, and now you've got this baby. But, you're ok. And the baby is doing great. Nothing makes sense, but it will start to at some point.
Reading this comic brought up a lot of feels for me. There were things I wanted to happen that didn't, and things that did happen that I was not prepared for. Giving birth means, in a lot of ways, giving up control over this very scary thing that's about to happen. A good birth plan is important, for sure. But it doesn't mean as much as a good birth story, and a good birth story ends with a happy, healthy family.
(Image: How We Came to Be via Imgur / bowlhaircut)