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Anonymous Mom: I’m A Mom With A Secret Kink Of Being An Adult Baby

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Being A Mom As An Adult BabyWell, where to start? I’m a young mother living in upstate New York, weathering my way through community college for an Interior Design degree. I live with my fiance in a nice house, with our five-year-old daughter. On the outside, I’m exactly the kind of parent that people expect me to be, and that I always wanted to be growing up; I discipline when needed, make sure my girl knows what she should and shouldn’t do, and I feed her right. She gets playtime at her school, her friends come over to visit – we’re a comfortable family.

But we’re a family with a secret, and it’s one that very few people know about; my fiancΓ© and I are adult babies.

For those of you who don’t know, that means that we’re people who like to dress and act like small children, which includes things ranging from the simple act of playing with Legos and dolls, to the much more shocking sleeping in adult sized cribs, drinking from bottles and, yes, even wearing and sometimes using adult diapers. Now, please try to understand that this isn’t some sort of freaky pedophilic behavior that so many in the media try to make it out to be – it’s a kink. For a lot of people, it’s a completely non-sexual thing, a way for them to relive their childhoods and get love and care that they might not get from other places. For others, however, it is sexual. Some get off from the humiliation aspect of it, some just like to practice ageplay and pretend that they’re young, and some just like the feeling of a used diaper, which can be compared to the semi-common fetish of watersports.

It isn’t as if it’s a thing unheard of in society. There have been several documentaries made about this, from an episode of the TLC television show “My Strange Addiction“, to an episode of the National Geographic show “Taboo“. While they weren’t painting completely negative images, if you’ve seen them then you know that they weren’t really painting positive or even unbiased images. It’s treated like a freakshow instead of an increasingly common thing. There are entire forums devoted to people who are into this sort of thing, with only a small percentage of it being sexual in the slightest. There is an ever growing industry for people making adult-sized pacifiers, bottle nipples, diapers, cribs, onsies – you name it. It’s a profitable industry to be in, because so few people are actually in on it.

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71 Comments

  1. Bleu Cheese Bewbs

    August 1, 2014 at 11:03 am

    Thank you for this perspective. I did see the Strange Addictions episode and yeah, it wasn’t super flattering. I think that as long as you and your fiance are happily engaging in consensual behavior, you are doing nothing wrong.

  2. Ursi

    August 1, 2014 at 11:06 am

    I think for one it’s awesome and a huge blessing that you two found each other and can fulfill this for yourselves because so many people don’t get that support from their partner.

    And for another, I think it’s cool as hell that you’re secure in what you do and I’d be proud to have you as friends.

  3. Andrea

    August 1, 2014 at 11:06 am

    Well whatever rocks your boat. Sounds like you are pretty well adjusted and doing a good job giving your daughter a stable and loving environment.
    I would hope no parent shares intimate details of their sex life with their children (I know I don’t) and what they do during “adult time” (sorry, no pun intended) is their own business.

  4. JenH1986

    August 1, 2014 at 11:10 am

    Two consenting adults? Do you. I don’t want/need to know the details (even for totally vanilla sex). But kudos for being willing to write about it!

  5. wispy

    August 1, 2014 at 11:24 am

    How do you hide an adult sized crib?

    • Williwaw

      August 1, 2014 at 7:50 pm

      Also, where would you even buy one?

    • wispy

      August 2, 2014 at 5:20 pm

      On some show I saw about adult babies I think the guy made his own highchair, so maybe you’d just make your own? No clue! I can’t even hide chapstick from my kid, I’d have no clue how to hide any of this stuff.

  6. Innocentenough

    August 1, 2014 at 11:24 am

    I agree, whatever rocks your boat.
    Same for those of us who dabble in relationships that involve other forms of kink. No one even talked much about any of it before that darn 50 shades book came out.
    Not everyone who is involved in any form of kink has to have some messed up background for it to be explained. My husband and I had perfectly normal childhoods and yet we were both drawn to an alternative sort of marriage/lifestyle. Children need not to know of anything you do behind closed doors.

    Kudos to you, enjoy because you DO only live once. be who you are proudly!

  7. Spongeworthy

    August 1, 2014 at 11:45 am

    It’s not something I’d be into, but you’re both consenting adults, so do what works for you .

  8. Old Lady Phillips

    August 1, 2014 at 11:56 am

    My first thought upon reading this, “Gosh, I barely manage my time well enough to finish a book on my Kindle, let alone have a fetish.” My second was, “Man, my life is really dull.” And my third was, “My son would probably love it if I actually enjoyed playing with Legos.”
    There are a ridiculous number of people in this world who act like big babies all the time, while dressed like adults. You, on the other hand, are acting like an adult, even if you sometimes like to dress…you see where I’m going with this.
    Do you, is pretty much what I’m saying. And thank you for sharing your story!

    • Alanna Jorgensen

      August 1, 2014 at 2:37 pm

      LOL, I had the exact same thought about playing with toys. I really wish I still enjoyed playing with action figures, since I’m coerced by large blue pleading eyeballs into voicing one or two on a semi regular basis after work.

    • Williwaw

      August 1, 2014 at 7:52 pm

      I am more into my son’s wooden train track set than he is. I keep buying more sets so we can do even more rococo tracks. Legos are pretty awesome, too. I already have two sets that I bought because I liked so much, even though my son will be too young for them for another year or two.

    • koolchicken

      August 2, 2014 at 8:05 am

      I’ve done the same thing with the Legos. My husband thinks I’m nuts. But what if they don’t still make those particular sets in a few years? And more importantly, why did it take them this many decades to start making princess Lego sets? Clearly there is a market for them.

    • Williwaw

      August 2, 2014 at 1:23 pm

      My favorite is the alien abduction set. There is a flying saucer, bug-eyed aliens, even a farmer with a pitchfork and bib overalls. I am not sure if there is an anal probe though…

    • koolchicken

      August 4, 2014 at 12:46 am

      That’s freaking hilarious. And again, WHY didn’t this stuff exist when I was little?

    • sofia_top10

      August 2, 2014 at 3:19 pm

      If I want something I usually  find my choices in the famous company

    • koolchicken

      August 1, 2014 at 3:19 pm

      I’m not into adult baby stuff at all. Yet I’m counting the days until my son is old enough to play with Legos. I already have some of the princess sets for myself. Toys are awesome and in the immortal words of my aunt, “You never actually have to grow up, you just have to get mature enough to have kids of your own. Then you can play with their toys.” And yes, she and my uncle (not adult babies either) were caught one Christmas Eve when their playing woke up my cousin who wanted to know exactly when Santa dropped off that fire truck and could he have it now.

      So you know what. This adult baby thing is starting to sound pretty good. I’ll skip all the diapers, clothes, cribs and stuff but take the no responsibilities and toys. This could work. We’ll probably starve and live in a hovel, but it’ll be fun right up until that point.

    • Andrea

      August 1, 2014 at 6:30 pm

      Don’t get your hopes up though. My son only allowed my “help” for a couple of years. After that, he builds things “BY MYSELF MOM I DON’T NEED YOUR HELP GAHHH!”

    • koolchicken

      August 2, 2014 at 8:03 am

      That is tragic. I hope my kid continues to need my “assistance” for years to come. I’ve been waiting for this forever.

    • Old Lady Phillips

      August 1, 2014 at 6:52 pm

      Just admit you are ready to come out as an adult baby. We’re all friends here πŸ™‚

    • koolchicken

      August 2, 2014 at 8:00 am

      Just so long as I don’t have to do anything beyond play with toys. I was really bad at being a kid and I don’t relish the thought of going back to that.

  9. Mystik Spiral

    August 1, 2014 at 11:59 am

    I have to admit, the adult baby thing is something I don’t really get. But I enjoyed your article, it is very informative and level-headed.

  10. 0katykate0

    August 1, 2014 at 1:13 pm

    Honestly, whatever floats your boat. Obviously no one is getting hurt from any of this so go for it. One thing that I really don’t understand however, and I’m very ignorant on this subject because I know absolutely nothig about it, but for the people it IS sexual for, how is it not pedophilia like? I mean I get that it’s two consenting adults so there’s that, but playing the roll of the adult in the senario, how are they NOT taking advantage of the “baby?” Even if the adult baby is into it there is still some under lying darkness here that is disturbing to me. Sorry if that upsets anyone but that just my opinion.

    • Cruelty Cupcake

      August 1, 2014 at 1:55 pm

      Pedophiles get off on manipulating and overpowering actual children…this is just a kink that two adults are participating in and getting mutual sexual gratification from. It’s like comparing someone who is into bestiality to someone who jacks off on a teddy bear. This is harmless, pedophilia is not.

    • Cruelty Cupcake

      August 1, 2014 at 1:57 pm

    • effingplates

      August 1, 2014 at 2:02 pm

      I laughed really hard.

    • Cruelty Cupcake

      August 1, 2014 at 2:09 pm

      While I was looking for a gif, I found this…probably inappropriate for my 2-year-old, right?

      http://shop.fxnetworks.com/imgcache/product/resized/000/382/342/catl/00382342-952945_500.jpg?k=3957f04c&pid=382342&s=catl&sn=fx

    • Williwaw

      August 1, 2014 at 4:45 pm

      Laughing hysterically now.

    • Williwaw

      August 1, 2014 at 7:53 pm

      But think of the teddy bears!

    • Andrea

      August 1, 2014 at 1:56 pm

      I am only speculating. But…I don’t think it’s the same. It’s like the whole “school girl” outfit. Maybe?

    • 0katykate0

      August 1, 2014 at 9:04 pm

      I thought that too, and i think i place my feeling towards that under the same category. There is something a little off about it. but thats what makes in kinky right?

    • effingplates

      August 1, 2014 at 2:00 pm

      I don’t know if this answers your question, but roleplay isn’t confined to the same realities and implications as real life. Like, at all. I don’t think it’s fair or logical to even make comparisons. No matter what, the “baby” is an adult and is not going to have the same sort of mindset as a real child, therefore cannot be taken advantage of.

      I’d also like to say that while I am not an Little/adult baby/ageplayer, the ones I know (and I know several) have said that it’s the inherent nurturing vibe of the dynamic that turns them on, not so much the “Oh, this person is pretending to be a little kid and that’s so fucking hot” aspect. There is not really any darkness from their point of view.

    • Kitsune

      August 1, 2014 at 2:33 pm

      You actually said pretty much what I was going to say on the topic. Usually role-play is a way to act out a particular aspect of the Dom sub dynamic a person is really into and has so much more to do with that than the what the real life implication would be.

    • 0katykate0

      August 1, 2014 at 9:06 pm

      Thanks for the insight. πŸ™‚

    • Allen

      August 1, 2014 at 5:58 pm

      I think there’s a big difference between being attracted to actual children and being attracted to an adult who’s playing a role or is dressed up a certain way. Pedophiles are actually attracted to prepubescent children, often at the exclusion of feeling attraction toward other adults.

      Also, like the article writer points out, different people have different motivations. For some people, it can be more of a humiliation thing as part of a BDSM relationship, in which case the emphasis is usually more on an adult being “forced” to act like a baby, not actually “being” a baby. Age play can also be a part of various types of role play scenarios.

      When it comes to people who enjoy age play more for the comforting aspects, I guess I don’t see it as strange that a couple in an adult, sexual relationship would still find each other as sexual and want to be intimate while engaging in age play. Sexual intimacy can be a part of closeness for a lot of couples, and if age play is also about intimacy and comfort, I can see why some people would want to mix the two. Someone doesn’t stop being your husband or wife just because they’re dressed up like a kid.

    • WriterLady

      August 1, 2014 at 6:03 pm

      It’s not pedophilia because there is no child involved…no pictures, no molestation, no intent to violate a child. Most pedophiles aren’t interested in adult sex anyway. They are usually loners, or are involved in sex-less marriages. And as someone else mentioned, it’s not too far of a cry from women dressing up in cheerleading costumes or Catholic school girl uniforms as part of role-playing, which is considered pretty normal.

    • 0katykate0

      August 1, 2014 at 9:05 pm

      Same thing I said to Andrea.. I thought that too, and i think i place my feeling towards that under
      the same category. There is something a little off about it. but thats
      what makes in kinky right?

    • Courtney Lynn

      August 2, 2014 at 9:33 am

      If this is pedophilia-like, then so is the Catholic school girl scenario.

    • Garavriel

      August 2, 2014 at 10:06 am

      It’s not pedophilia like because it is two consenting adults. It’s like people that are into “rape play” or “consensual non-consent”. It’s the illusion of the lack of consent that is appealing in those cases. I’m a little and cal my boyfriend Daddy and he calls me little one, little girls, etc. By no means are either of us turned on by actual children, pedophilia, or incest. We’re normal people who find the idea horrifying. It’s the nurturing, caring, protective aspect that is appealing.

  11. Jezebeelzebub

    August 1, 2014 at 1:17 pm

    to each her own… but I have to say I don’t get the diaper thing. At all.

  12. Rachel Sea

    August 1, 2014 at 1:18 pm

    Best put a lock on your toys if you don’t want your kid to find them. Kids are sneaky.

  13. Fondue

    August 1, 2014 at 1:40 pm

    For once, I’m not being sarcastic, but I’m just trying to figure out what this looks like. I keep picturing the Bugs Bunny cartoon where an adult is dressed in a diaper and a large white bonnet (I guess I’m reverting back to my childhood with that memory). Are you both babies at the same time? Is one of you the baby while the other one acts as the parent/nurturer, and then return the favor when the other partner needs nurturing? Do most people involved in this do so because they feel there was something missing from their childhood, or because they’re looking for a “do over”? Or even just because they enjoyed it so much the first time that they never want it to completely end?
    I had never heard of this before. Thank you for sharing this part of your life with us. πŸ™‚

  14. Williwaw

    August 1, 2014 at 4:48 pm

    There was a CSI episode about this a few years ago. Definitely not my thing, but I am 100% behind whatever consenting adults want to do privately. Also, it’s kind of interesting. I think the world would be very dull if no one had fetishes.

    • WriterLady

      August 1, 2014 at 5:59 pm

      Agreed. I think it’s taboo to talk about sex that doesn’t fit into a certain ‘acceptable’ category, but I’m guessing that many people have done kinkier things than they would ever admit to even close friends. This took courage to write about.

  15. WriterLady

    August 1, 2014 at 5:55 pm

    This isn’t harmful to anyone, so I don’t think it’s any big deal. That’s not to say I understand this particular fetish (though it’s intriguing to read about the experience), but it’s just a personal preference. Some people like role-playing, others are into BDSM….as long as it’s between two consenting adults and nobody is harmed against his or her will, it’s none of my business.

    Speaking of the “Strange Addiction” show, there were some fetishes/practices that were alarming. I recall that one woman ate–plucked and swallowed–her cat’s hair every day for years, and when a friend finally persuaded her to see a doctor, it was determined that she had a huge blockage in her intestines that could have caused her to drop dead any day. In that case, an intervention was probably necessary.

    • Ursi

      August 1, 2014 at 6:20 pm

      the one where the woman was drinking gasoline was NUTS

    • Jallun-Keatres

      August 1, 2014 at 7:29 pm

      The one of the lady that drank her piss made me nauseous. The gasoline one freaked me out.

    • Williwaw

      August 1, 2014 at 7:46 pm

      I didn’t see that show, but wouldn’t drinking gasoline kill you? Or at least make you very ill?

    • Ursi

      August 1, 2014 at 7:53 pm

      Yes. In fact she had done internal damage to her body already and would have died if she’d kept it up.

    • WriterLady

      August 2, 2014 at 11:49 am

      I didn’t see that one, but wow. That seems like an imminent death sentence. There was two others I remember: In one, this girl kept going to a black market plastic surgeon (with no medical training at all) in order to get butt injections that were filled with horrible toxins. You could visually tell that she’d already incurred a lot of damage to her body. In another, a husband and wife were addicted to self-administered colon cleanses using coffee. I guess the boosts gave them a rush, but they were doing it like 4 or 5 times a day. It was so freaking gross to watch. After that, I decided I was done with that show. πŸ™‚

    • Ursi

      August 2, 2014 at 4:10 pm

      yeah I don’t have the stomach for it much either to be honest!

  16. Jallun-Keatres

    August 1, 2014 at 7:26 pm

    I saw the episode on My Strange Addiction and I can comfortably say that I have zero problem with this at all. I’m totally cool with it.

  17. Sara610

    August 1, 2014 at 7:58 pm

    Eh…… this is totally not something that I’d be into, but as long as everyone involved is a consenting adult and no one is getting hurt, I don’t see any problem.

    Honestly, very few of us are 100% “normal”. Most of us do at least one thing that we would never want our co-workers or friends to know about. Once you realize that, it’s a lot easier not to feel ashamed of the things that you do that might seem weird or freaky. As long as no one’s getting hurt, you do whatever floats your boat.

    • NotTakenNotAvailable

      August 1, 2014 at 10:01 pm

      Or as long as the hurt is part of the fun. :p

  18. wmdkitty

    August 1, 2014 at 9:13 pm

    YKIOK

  19. NotTakenNotAvailable

    August 1, 2014 at 10:00 pm

    I can’t even stand real babies, and I have a near-obsessive need to be in control at all times, so neither the “parenting” nor “babying” roles would appeal to me–if I did have a partner who told me that he had this particular fetish, I’d give him free rein to explore it on his own! But I do think it’s fascinating to learn about this aspect of human sexuality, and I’m glad you found a partner who shares your kink, AM!

  20. meteor_Whoricorn_echo

    August 2, 2014 at 5:28 am

    Kinks are quite a funny thing, aren’t they? I’m a childfree woman who has a breeding kink (and I also have a thing for blood play, size difference and am a switch). If some people found out about those, they’d probably burst a vessel or two. But as long as all your kinks are safe, sane and consensual, ‘s all cool. Rock on, author, and may the Legos be ever in your favor.

    • Sara610

      August 2, 2014 at 7:01 am

      What is a breeding kink? I have a feeling “blood play” is pretty self explanatory, but switch–what does that mean?

    • meteor_Whoricorn_echo

      August 2, 2014 at 7:35 am

      A breeding kink is when you get turned on by the abstract idea of being impregnated (though, if it happened to me IRL, I’d be on the phone, scheduling an abortion so fast, the speaker would burst in flames). As for “switch”, it’s a term for someone who can be both dominant and submissive (a sadomasochist, if you want) :>

    • Garavriel

      August 2, 2014 at 10:09 am

      Just a note that sadism and masochism can be completely separate from domination and submission. You can be a dominant sadist, a submissive sadist, a dominant masochist, a submissive masochist, or sadist or a masochist without D/s being involved at all.

    • meteor_Whoricorn_echo

      August 2, 2014 at 11:00 am

      I know. I like all four things at once.

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