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In Defense Of Being A Basic Mom

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I am a Basic Mom. I love pumpkin flavored treats, scented candles, Pinterest and snagging a good deal at Target. People use the term “Basic” scornfully and with a heavy dose of the eye-roll, but to me, being called a Basic mom is actually a really huge compliment.

Without telling stories that aren’t just mine to tell, I will say that my early childhood was less than ideal. While my parents divorced when I was seven, it was years before my biological dad was completely out of the picture and to say he was kind of emotionally abusive would be like saying Ryan Gosling is just “kind of” attractive.

I grew up envious of classmates who could go to school basketball games without fear that their father would show up high. I was jealous of the girls on Full House. They could come home from school and show off an A + assignment without getting backhanded to the ground because their handwriting wasn’t neat enough. In a time before the internet, I hid in books and movies filled with happy families and longed for a normal family of my own the way some girls dream of being a fairy princess.

After years of hard work and lots of therapy in an effort to understand that what happened to me was not my fault, I now have that boring, basic family I always dreamed of. There are still days when it shocks me to the point where I struggle to believe it’s real- that I have this life now where no one gets screamed at, nothing gets thrown or broken in a fit of rage, that no one gets hurt unless they fall down.

I get angry when people make fun of being Basic, as though drinking flavored coffee, wearing fashion scarfs, or singing Taylor Swift songs is something to be ashamed of. My typical suburban mom boots hide scars from third degree burns I did not give myself and my Alex and Ani bangle that reads “strength” might seem trite to you, but it means something to me. Being called “average”, “normal” or plain old “boring” is a privilege that I will never stop being grateful for.

I know not all Basic moms are overcompensating for a messed up childhood like I am. But they are just doing what makes them happy, and seeing as how wearing trendy sweaters and pinning whimsical tablescapes in anticipation of Thanksgiving isn’t hurting anyone, I don’t see why being basic is anything to be ashamed about.

In the end, I know that haters are gonna hate,hate,hate,hate,hate, and I can’t do anything about it, so fine. I’m thrilled to be a Basic Mom. I’ll just sit here in my Momcore, shaking it off and sipping my pumpkin spiced latte.

(Image: Olarty/Shutterstock)

143 Comments

  1. Natasha B

    September 19, 2014 at 3:06 pm

    You GO ON with your basic self, I’m right next to you. I LIKE my suburban dream life, thank you very much. Wanna go to Starbucks and bogo some lattes???

    • Megan

      September 19, 2014 at 3:08 pm

      bogo seasonal fall drinks 2-6 until Sunday! I’m there!

    • Natasha B

      September 19, 2014 at 3:22 pm

      We can hit up Target after and see what awesome deals cartwheel has….

    • Valerie

      September 19, 2014 at 4:33 pm

      That shit is so seasonal!

    • chickadee

      September 19, 2014 at 5:20 pm

      Gourds!

  2. Bethany Ramos

    September 19, 2014 at 3:07 pm

    I AM SO BASIC AND I LOVE IT. #yogapants

    • Spongeworthy

      September 19, 2014 at 4:05 pm

      Basic bitches forevah!

    • Bethany Ramos

      September 19, 2014 at 4:20 pm

      I really just decorated my whole house with basic pumpkins haha

    • Spongeworthy

      September 19, 2014 at 4:22 pm

      Ha! I just ordered a new pair of tall boots yesterday. And I’m looking for some new scarves this weekend!

    • Bleu Cheese Bewbs

      September 19, 2014 at 4:28 pm

      I picked up these organic squash at Publix on my way home. Note: placed on my distressed table next to a copy of Food Network magazine.

    • Bleu Cheese Bewbs

      September 19, 2014 at 4:33 pm

      Apparently disqus does not approve of my basic lifestyle. It stripped my photo out.

      Or not. Apparently it turned it into a clickable thumbnail. I hate disqus.

    • Bethany Ramos

      September 19, 2014 at 6:07 pm

      LOL this is perfect

    • guest

      September 19, 2014 at 4:41 pm

      Just picked up dollar spot pumpkins from tarjay for my desk at woooorkkk 🙂

  3. Moliss

    September 19, 2014 at 3:14 pm

    I didn’t even know this was a thing! I didn’t know it was “basic” to like all of those things, but gosh darn it, I like them all lol. Sorry hipsters.

    • SunnyD847

      September 19, 2014 at 4:05 pm

      I’ve never heard of this either.

    • Williwaw

      September 19, 2014 at 7:17 pm

      I never knew about the “basic” stigma either, but I just discovered Pinterest a couple weeks ago (yes, I have never been ahead on picking up on new trends) and I love it! So many awesome ideas for my stuff for my toddler to play with and then chuck down the stairs. (The landing at the bottom of my stairs is now a wasteland of broken dyed fusilli, foam shapes, flash cards, pompoms, and pipe cleaner spiders.) Also, pumpkin spice lattes rock. As does anyone who does what makes them happy rather than what makes them “cool”.

  4. whiteroses

    September 19, 2014 at 3:16 pm

    I could care less what some random thinks of the kind of mom I am- as long as my son thinks I’m a good one. Normal isn’t a bad thing.

  5. Jessifer

    September 19, 2014 at 3:19 pm

    Isn’t that the same as what is most commonly known as a “soccer mom”?

    • Bleu Cheese Bewbs

      September 19, 2014 at 4:19 pm

    • guest

      September 19, 2014 at 4:40 pm

      I feel like soccer mom is a whole other ball game. Most basic bitches I think about are young and have no children. Soccer mom to me is a older gal in mom jeans who only cares about her children. Basic bitch to me is a youngerish gal in yoga pants, boots, a large sweater, oversized sunglasses with a pumpkin spice latte in hand enjoying things that people don’t feel are “interesting” enough…things like shopping at target, decorating, liking popular things etc.

    • Bleu Cheese Bewbs

      September 19, 2014 at 4:40 pm

      Yes, you nailed it

    • Moliss

      September 19, 2014 at 4:59 pm

      Ok, you just absolutely described me, pretty much exactly. Except add a baby.

    • CW

      September 19, 2014 at 5:38 pm

      When I was in college, they were called “generic sorority chick”. Now 15-20 years later, we ARE soccer (or swim, lacrosse, tennis, etc.) moms.

    • Jessifer

      September 19, 2014 at 8:03 pm

      I honestly had no idea what the whole “basic” thing was until I read this article. Guess I’m not basic enough to know what basic actually is! However, this describes my sister exactly!

  6. FishQueen

    September 19, 2014 at 3:19 pm

    Everybody’s a little bit basic somewhere in their heart of hearts. I have an old coworker who dresses in true rockabilly fashion, jams to Insane Clown Posse, has a new tattoo seemingly every month, but she just went to a One Direction concert totally unironically. You do you, Basic Mom. Those who hate shall hate henceforth.

    • JennyWren

      September 19, 2014 at 4:56 pm

      I have to admit, I just started singing “Everyone’s a little bit basic, sometimes!” in the style of Avenue Q.

    • FishQueen

      September 19, 2014 at 4:58 pm

      I may have gotten it stuck in my own head. 🙂

    • Courtney Lynn

      September 19, 2014 at 7:15 pm

      I wish I could afford to dress rockabilly all the time.

    • FishQueen

      September 19, 2014 at 8:06 pm

      This particular lass happens to be a whiz with the sewing machine, so she alters stuff from thrift stores all the time. Otherwise, she acknowledges it wouldn’t be sustainable. The downside of being a little less on the basic side. 🙂

    • Courtney Lynn

      September 22, 2014 at 1:27 pm

      Yeah, I would qualify for less than basic, too. 😛 I need to get better at my sewing machine. I know this, I just need to do it.

  7. Rachel Sea

    September 19, 2014 at 3:20 pm

    If there weren’t Basic people to play off, there could be no hipsters. And you can pry my yoga pants off my cold dead legs. Shit’s comfy, yo, and that’s way more awesome than being slowly sterilized by a pair of skinny jeans.

    Now ‘scuse me, I’m off to pick up a slice of pumpkin bread and an orgeat steamer.

    • SunnyD847

      September 19, 2014 at 4:12 pm

      We went back to our old neighborhood in Oakland recently and it is OVERRUN with hipsters. Ugh, so much irony and facial hair!

    • Rachel Sea

      September 19, 2014 at 5:45 pm

      So many restaurants called something not even remotely reminiscent of food.

    • Joanne Robert

      September 19, 2014 at 6:06 pm

      Moliss

      My last pay check was $9500 working 12 hours a week online. My sisters friend has been averaging 15k for months now and she works about 20 hours a week. I can‘t believe how easy it was once I tried it out. This is what I do,…&nbsphttp://Profitbeatsonlinejob&#x32&#48&#x31&#52likeqH8Zey1o

    • Bleu Cheese Bewbs

      September 19, 2014 at 4:53 pm

      About skinny jeans – my husband’s coworker once told him that women shouldn’t wear them because they’ll get yeast infections. Dude is no health care practitioner, just some guy concern trolling women’s clothing choices.

    • Rachel Sea

      September 19, 2014 at 5:20 pm

      He should have looked to his own junk. A couple of years ago a medical survey found increased incidence of UTIs, bladder problems, twisted testicles, and lowered sperm counts.

    • Pappy

      September 21, 2014 at 1:55 pm

      I think as long as one counters the swamp-crotch of skinny jeans with some time relaxing pantsless, they should be fine. But he’s at least partly right. Everyone needs to let their crotches air out in hot, moist weather. It’s like large women needing to let their under-boob area dry out (I’d offer the male equivalent but I have no idea what that is). “Diaper” rash is uncomfortable wherever it appears.

  8. Cindy Ailey

    September 19, 2014 at 3:29 pm

    What’s with all the hate on pumpkin spice lattes? Those things are delicious!

    • CW

      September 19, 2014 at 5:35 pm

      I think they’re overrated, but I make no claim to coolness sipping my skinny sugar-free vanilla/cinnamon dolce/toffee nut/etc. latte…

    • Megan

      September 19, 2014 at 5:39 pm

      Cinnamon dolce is highly underrated IMO.

    • Cindy Ailey

      September 19, 2014 at 6:08 pm

      Agreed, definitely overrated, but still pretty darn good. The only Starbucks near us at the moment is inside a Safeway and it’s a PITA to get there. So, that means Starbucks doesn’t happen very often. I’m really ok with that though.

    • Megan

      September 19, 2014 at 8:50 pm

      No I mean UNDERrated. Sorry. I love it!

    • Cindy Ailey

      September 20, 2014 at 11:38 am

      Well, I thought I was replying to the comment about PS lattes being overrated. Ooops

  9. Azy

    September 19, 2014 at 3:29 pm

    It’s like when I feel ashamed around my husband’s family for wanting the Southern style life. They keep talking about all these options to save money, stock markets, etc. My mother-in-law gives me recipes for pressure cooked green beans and listings for downtown condos. If that’s what you want, I’m all for it but I have a hard time saying ‘we’re not struggling, we have enough for what we want and what we want is big Thanksgiving dinners with marshmallows out of the bag on top of sweet potatoes and lots of pets (yeah we could have saved the $350 it cost to adopt our bunny) and a house in the country’. I had a bad childhood, I was poor in a rich area, and until I moved from Detroit to a very accepting area in the South, I was ashamed of it. I just want to focus on my family, be a mom, and let people live their life however they want and feel okay for doing the same.

    • guest

      September 19, 2014 at 4:48 pm

      I feel ya on the animals and such. My mom has this dream that we won’t have kids until we have some McMansion. I have to keep telling her that yes..in my early 20’s I was dead set on having a gigantic house. Now though, I’d rather work less to have a reasonably sized place filled with children and animals.

  10. Samantha Escobar

    September 19, 2014 at 3:33 pm

    “I love pumpkin flavored treats, scented candles, Pinterest and snagging a good deal at Target.”

    I LOVE THIS. I’m not a mom, but all of these things apply to me, so can I be in your basic club? Because seriously, I see nothing wrong with wanting life to be relatively normal and not shitty. (People who hate normality are often people who have no idea how bad it can be to live an abnormal life.)

    • Megan

      September 19, 2014 at 4:17 pm

      Get in here Escobar! Here, have a pumpkin scone.

    • Samantha Escobar

      September 19, 2014 at 4:29 pm

    • Megan

      September 19, 2014 at 4:34 pm

      Hahaha I love him so much!

    • swimmercait

      September 19, 2014 at 9:13 pm

      Also not a mom, but I never understood why being happy with or aiming for a nice house, reliable car, and living in a good neighborhood are scorned (amongst other things like holiday drinks at Starbucks and adorable glove/scarf sets).

      Yeah, it could get tedious, but speaking from my experience, being occasionally bored is much better than wondering if it’s safe to go outside, where you’ll get your next meal, and not wanting to go home.

      Life is as interesting and challenging as you make it whether that’s downtown or in the suburbs.

    • Samantha Escobar

      September 21, 2014 at 12:58 pm

      Agreed x 10000.

  11. Beth

    September 19, 2014 at 4:00 pm

    This is so funny, if you are wondering what being “basic” means:
    http://www.collegehumor.com/video/6960693/how-to-tell-if-youre-a-basic-bitch

    • Assasymphony

      September 19, 2014 at 8:01 pm

      That’s Jeff from Rules of Engagement! I don’t often watch it but I love his character. 😀

  12. Ellen

    September 19, 2014 at 4:06 pm

    Thank you for sharing your experience! I also grew up around substance use and various forms of abuse. And I too have moments when I can’t believe I have this beautiful family. In fact I was sure families like mine were fictional. My childhood was such that I was sure ALL families were awful. Now I have a wonderfully supportive husband and perfect little girl. We don’t yell. There aren’t power struggles. We just LOVE.

  13. Bleu Cheese Bewbs

    September 19, 2014 at 4:08 pm

    I’m so baassiiic….you already know-oow. BrB going to go make some homemade hot apple cider and enjoy it by a bonfire.

    Also, Megan, I love this and thanks for sharing.

    • Spongeworthy

      September 19, 2014 at 4:15 pm

      I have some apple cider in my fridge at home that I will be indulging in as soon as I get off work.

    • Maria Guido

      September 19, 2014 at 4:35 pm

      Can I come over?

    • Bleu Cheese Bewbs

      September 19, 2014 at 4:36 pm

      Yeesssss! You are always invited.

    • Ana

      September 19, 2014 at 10:48 pm

      As long as there is spiced rum in it! My whole weekend plan is drinking hot toddies and seeking out the best fall foliage.

  14. Spongeworthy

    September 19, 2014 at 4:11 pm

    All you basic ladies can come hang with me. We’ll sit on the back deck of my house admiring the fall foliage, propping our riding boots on the railing, while we compare scarves and sip lattes. All basic bitches invited!
    http://medias.gifboom.com/medias/t_1c14f125880c4de4aa6c19be17283682.jpg

  15. Bleu Cheese Bewbs

    September 19, 2014 at 4:15 pm

    If you are unsure of basic, Google basic bitch quiz. There. Are a bunch of them out there. After you take it, come on back here and be with your people. We are waiting for you, with iced coffee and pumpkin everything

    • Moliss

      September 19, 2014 at 4:16 pm

      I am currently drinking a PUMPKIN SPICE ICED COFFEE. Ftw!

    • Bleu Cheese Bewbs

      September 19, 2014 at 4:20 pm

      Welcome, you basic bitch, you! Tell me you have some riding boots nearby?

    • Moliss

      September 19, 2014 at 4:40 pm

      I have two pairs…still in my closet though because it’s hot as hell in Sacramento still. I AM wearing camel colored leather sandals from Target though…and a mustard cardigan. Those have GOT to qualify as basic.

    • Bleu Cheese Bewbs

      September 19, 2014 at 4:43 pm

      Mustard is a VERY seasonal color. It definitely qualifies, along with the sandals from Target.

    • Megan

      September 19, 2014 at 4:45 pm

      Most definitely Basic.

    • elle.m.jay

      September 19, 2014 at 4:36 pm

      Just took the quiz and was surprised to learn that I do not qualify! :-/ Can I still put on my tall boots and enjoy fall with you guys?!

    • Megan

      September 19, 2014 at 4:38 pm

      Pumpkins and leaves are for EVERYONE.

    • Bleu Cheese Bewbs

      September 19, 2014 at 4:39 pm

      Mos def! We are very inclusive. (I just hope the smell of a thousand fall themed scentsy bars and candles won’t give you a migraine).

    • Moliss

      September 19, 2014 at 4:42 pm

      My husband came out of the bathroom after a shower the other day asking how in the hell he could turn the smell off. I told him “you can’t.” The end.

    • elle.m.jay

      September 19, 2014 at 5:59 pm

      Yay, inclusiveness! I’ll bring the booze! I need some pumpkin lovers to test out this fall sangria recipe I found that I’m hoping to serve at the autumn-themed surprise party I’m throwing for my mom. http://kirantarun.com/food/2013/10/25/apple-bourbon-pumpkin-sangria/?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=Feed:+YumO+(kiran%2Btarun+%5B+R+e+c+i+p+e+b+%E2%99%A5+x+%5D)

    • Stephanie

      September 19, 2014 at 5:32 pm

      YAY for pumpkin everything. I’ve gone through two boxes of K cups and had a pumpkin smoothie for breakfast every day for two weeks 🙂

  16. alexesq33

    September 19, 2014 at 4:18 pm

    sorry just had to use starbucks locator and find the closest pumpkin spice latte. 🙂
    #basicbitch all the way!!!
    good for you that you have a happy, loving home finally *hugs*

  17. Moliss

    September 19, 2014 at 4:18 pm

    You know what is also nice, in addition to scented candles? SCENTSY warmers! I just put a Pear Cider Mill melt in mine last night and my house smells amazing. Those have got to be classified as “basic”, right? Now that I know what it means, I seriously want to know who thinks it is bad to be “basic”? This is a damn good life I am living here, people.

    • alexesq33

      September 19, 2014 at 4:19 pm

      brb buying a scentsy warmer. I can just SMELL the pear cider!!!!!

    • Moliss

      September 19, 2014 at 4:19 pm

      You will not regret it!

    • Bleu Cheese Bewbs

      September 19, 2014 at 4:21 pm

      I have one Scentsy bar, and it is pumpkin spice. It was a gift from my sister, who is also basic.

    • ToninaMDC

      September 19, 2014 at 5:36 pm

      I have different Yankee Candle warmers for each season and about 30 different YC scented melts on hand (right now I’m using Apple Spice). I’m apparently ultra basic in this one way, but no others as far as I know. Now I don’t know if I fit in!

  18. Jill

    September 19, 2014 at 4:20 pm

    I honestly feel the same way about Christmas. People love to gripe about how Christmas is just a gift grab and they’re sick of seeing Christmas stuff out all over the place early. At least though, theirs are just general complaints and they don’t know that I’m in love with that holiday in particular. My dad is bipolar and the holiday stress always brought out the worst in him which included one year when I was in high school deciding that Christmas morning was a good time to threaten his family and then tell them to leave so he could commit suicide. The authorities were there before he had time to finish his note but by that point oh so much damage was already done. He would also demean and yell at me for doing things for charity like sending boxes to troops overseas. After all of this, I grew up and now feel as though I can give myself the holidays I always wanted and I can decorate my house like the toy store in the Elf movie if I so choose. I can send gifts and give to charities and do random acts of kindess to my little heart’s content. Nobody is going to ruin mother effing Christmas for me ever again.

    • Bleu Cheese Bewbs

      September 19, 2014 at 4:30 pm

      I believe we basic bitches love all things seasonal.

  19. AE Vorro

    September 19, 2014 at 4:27 pm

    Um. What’s a basic mom? What is the opposite of a basic mom? This is a thing?

    • AE Vorro

      September 19, 2014 at 4:32 pm

      Oh. Okay, I get it. People with mainstream tastes.

    • Blueathena623

      September 20, 2014 at 3:00 pm

      I was/am confused too. I’m not sure why everyone has to be labeled. It seems like the act of labeling kinda goes against the notion of basic/mainstream.

    • AE Vorro

      September 22, 2014 at 3:03 pm

      It kind of does. Do you need a label when you’re in the clear majority? Probably not. But hey, to each her own.

  20. Valerie

    September 19, 2014 at 4:32 pm

    You know I love this. #basic4lyfe

    • Bleu Cheese Bewbs

      September 19, 2014 at 4:35 pm

      I need someone to webcam some seasonal leaf change because down here, I can only see pines and it is breaking my basic heart.

    • Valerie

      September 19, 2014 at 4:37 pm

      Ok. Send me actual grass and pavement over the 7 months my state will be buried in snow. #itsadeal

  21. Valerie

    September 19, 2014 at 4:35 pm

    Oh and please come over next week and help me arrange some mutant fucking squash.

    • Megan

      September 19, 2014 at 4:37 pm

      Gotta climb into the attic and dust off the cornucopia, then I’ll be right over.

    • Valerie

      September 19, 2014 at 4:37 pm

      Dust off that wicker fucker!

    • Spongeworthy

      September 19, 2014 at 5:29 pm

      It’s fall motherfuckers!

  22. JulesInNC

    September 19, 2014 at 4:37 pm

    Dude, I just emailed myself a recipe for pumpkin bran muffins. If that makes me basic, then put me in some norm-core jeans and send me to Target with a smile on my face.

    • Bleu Cheese Bewbs

      September 19, 2014 at 4:38 pm

      Please share this recipe.

    • JulesInNC

      September 19, 2014 at 4:40 pm

      I’m going to give this one a shot, but with a real egg instead of the suggested faux egg: http://lemonsandanchovies.com/2013/11/pumpkin-bran-muffins/

      Similarly, I have been making these on the weekly, and everyone in my family loves them. I use whole wheat flour and add a mashed banana if I have one handy: http://allrecipes.com/recipe/oat-bran-muffins/

    • Bleu Cheese Bewbs

      September 19, 2014 at 4:42 pm

      Thanks!!

    • candyvines

      September 19, 2014 at 5:08 pm

      The bran muffin recipe was submitted by Bron.

  23. AP

    September 19, 2014 at 5:04 pm

    I feel like Basic is selling people short, like either you have to choose between being common and mainstream, or arcane and esoteric. I’m fairly certain it’s OK and healthy to do both at the same time. Like what you like and be done with it.

    • cycadia

      September 20, 2014 at 8:38 am

      Just wanna say however, not everyone finds themselves able to be “common and mainstream” tho. Does help in a Western country if you’re white, abled and het, I find. I fail at two of those and it’s kind of hard to be comfy and basic in with the other comfy basic mothers. But the general sentiment of “I’m just doing what the fuck works for me and that’s okay” is a fantastic one.

  24. Mandy

    September 19, 2014 at 5:28 pm

    I had no idea this was a Thing. if it is, I’m proud to join the ranks of Basic Moms. ::clinks Starbucks cup::

  25. CW

    September 19, 2014 at 5:33 pm

    Better “boring” or “basic” than train wreck. “Thou shalt not be ‘basic'” is not one of the 10 Commandments.

  26. Kate Spencer

    September 19, 2014 at 5:34 pm

    So lovely Megan. I’m right there with you in my Target workout pants.

    • Megan

      September 19, 2014 at 5:38 pm

      Um. You hate pumpkin spice lattes. #youcantsitwithus. Though Target workout pants ARE pretty Basic… Hang tight I’ll go try to rustle up some plain old coffee for you.

    • Aimee

      September 19, 2014 at 5:40 pm

      If we can’t agree on coffee surely we can at least do brunch with mimosas?

    • Megan

      September 19, 2014 at 5:47 pm

      DEAL

  27. Aimee

    September 19, 2014 at 5:39 pm

    The Target here has a Starbucks built into it so let’s cruise over there and get lattes in our yoga pants to see if there are DVDs of Love Actually on the discount rack. Also there’s an orchard here that makes pumpkin donuts so those are ON ME. #momcore

    • Bleu Cheese Bewbs

      September 19, 2014 at 5:54 pm

      Oh god. I seriously love Love Actually. My husband hates it and calls it boring, but my daughter loves it so #basicbitchesftw

    • Valerie

      September 19, 2014 at 9:52 pm

      Our Target has an Sbucks too. Like, shut up and take my money!

    • Cruise Mom

      September 20, 2014 at 5:29 pm

      I just watched Loved Actually again on Netflix last weekend! It is leaving Netflix streaming very soon which makes me sad.

    • DoNotDumbHere

      September 20, 2014 at 7:26 pm

      Me too! It’s a little guilty pleasure.

    • Moliss

      September 22, 2014 at 4:01 pm

      Shame on all of you for not having DVD copies of Love Actually! Psh. lol

    • kittymom

      September 21, 2014 at 12:31 am

      Not a mom…but can I come too?

    • libraryofbird

      September 22, 2014 at 2:46 pm

      The target starbucks always has the PSL longer than the stand alone stores.

  28. Guest

    September 19, 2014 at 5:41 pm

    I’m very happy that you have the basic life you’ve always longed for ☺️

  29. Ashley Austrew

    September 19, 2014 at 5:59 pm

    I relate to this SO much. So basic, so thankful to be.

  30. chill

    September 19, 2014 at 6:16 pm

    According to the basic quiz, I’m not at all basic. Sob… 🙁 But my heaven is shopping at Target and getting my Starbucks first. I think I just have weird taste so I’m technically not basic. Please, can I be basic???

    • Bleu Cheese Bewbs

      September 19, 2014 at 7:16 pm

      Well you are over here hanging out with ladies who are all kinds of basic, which is pretty basic. Welcome!

  31. Véronique the Attachment Shark

    September 19, 2014 at 7:18 pm

    This was a super powerful article… it really brought me to tears. i’m proud of you for fighting for the life you wanted and appreciate it!!!

    • Megan

      September 19, 2014 at 7:30 pm

      No crying on Fridays! But thank you 🙂

  32. Maria Guido

    September 19, 2014 at 10:42 pm

    I just read this for the third time and I love it so much.

  33. shorty_RN

    September 19, 2014 at 10:43 pm

    I am about to walk out the door to Target right now. Here’s to all the “basic” mommas! *toasts with starbucks mug*

  34. neighbor57

    September 19, 2014 at 10:44 pm

    Apparently I even suck at being basic. Scented candles give me headaches. The only time I’ve posted a photo of my food was when I cooked beef tongue. I don’t know the first thing about these shows. And coffee is meant to be bitter, with maybe a hint of flavor. P.s. all you Starbucks lovers, it’s only because you haven’t met Dutch Bros. yet.
    But I do have a pair of yoga pants. And I use Pinterest for school. Does that count for anything?

    • Megan

      September 20, 2014 at 6:50 am

      Yup, that counts 😉

  35. Zettai

    September 19, 2014 at 10:44 pm

    The pumpkin-hater in me says, “Can I urge everyone to try the much more awesome-tasting sweet potato offerings this fall season?”

    Seriously though, I really enjoyed this article. The craving and satisfaction of and in normalcy is something a lot of us can get behind.

  36. Simone

    September 20, 2014 at 3:47 am

    Yo. My wish for my sons is to have basic lives. I will teach them how to finish secondary education, how to get a job, how to apply for a home loan, how to wear matching socks and deodorant, and I will be happy. Average can be awesome.

    I also come from a horribly non-basic upbringing and having found normal, I like it a lot.

  37. Elizabeth Licata

    September 20, 2014 at 4:59 am

    I am judging all the basics with their pumpkin spice lattes. (I have never actually tried one,because I start mainlining grande skinny peppermint mochas on the first day of fall like a proper hipster girl. But I’ve heard they’re normal, so they’re clearly to be feared

  38. koolchicken

    September 20, 2014 at 9:27 am

    I’m a basic Mum and I’m very happy with that label. Yes I’m a little bit of a Type A basic Mum, but who cares? I love my Target (I live across the street from one!!!!) and I’ve already worn my Uggs several times this month. I just got a kicky new sweater and have plans to make a few new infinity scarves. I don’t need every drink pumpkin spiced but I won’t say no, and I do love a good cup of chai. I have way too many things pinned on Pintrest and I’m not ashamed to say I actually do the crafts I pin.

    I had an absolutely horrific childhood. The type that makes you ask “How are you still alive when someone so clearly wanted you dead?” I’ve swung between wealth and poverty too many times, and even though I’m back to where I was I’m terrified to do things like throw out food and my most prized possession is my bed. Something most basic people don’t understand.

    So I say if you’re basic you’re lucky. Because you’re not enduring the horrors some people can’t escape.

    • Pappy

      September 21, 2014 at 1:43 pm

      I remember a great quote from a novel I read* which said something like: “‘Bored’ is really just a synonym for ‘safe.'” Never forgot that. To this day (and especially after watching Hotel Rwanda) I always try to be thankful for the fact that no-one is actively trying to kill me right now (AFAIK).

      *Shadow by Anne Logston. Not a bad read!

    • koolchicken

      September 21, 2014 at 6:00 pm

      There’s a lot to be said for boring/basic/safe, whatever you want to call it. It’s nice waking up, in a bed, going into the kitchen and getting food, and sitting on the couch without wondering if today is the day someone kills me because their day was bad.

      I’ll admit, when people complain about their “hard lives” I get a little nuts. If you have a place to live, food, and no one is actively trying to kill you then your life is pretty awesome.

    • Pappy

      September 22, 2014 at 11:02 pm

      Years ago my mum told me that if you can afford to have a dish of change in your house, even if it’s just a dish of pennies, you’re in the top third percentile of the population for wealth. Meaning that 97% of the rest of the planet is poorer than you. Really put things in perspective!

  39. Cruise Mom

    September 20, 2014 at 5:26 pm

    I had no idea that I fit into a parenting style, but I’m definitely a basic mom. Didn’t know it was a thing! It beats helicopter mom, which I am a bit but fighting hard to overcome. Can’t do scented candles due to allergies though.

  40. DoNotDumbHere

    September 20, 2014 at 7:24 pm

    I just proudly said yesterday to another mom friend that I’m a Basic Mom! I love this post, your honesty is refreshing. Thank you.

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