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8 Disney Movie Scenes I Refuse To Show My Daughter

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I can’t lie, we’re a Disney family. From the very beginning, my daughter and I could cuddle up and watch The Jungle Book or The Sword and The Stone at absolutely any time. There’s just something so wholesome and sweet about Disney. I may not love the Disney merchandising machine, but I will always be a fan of the movies themselves. Our collection is pretty substantial.

That doesn’t mean that my daughter has seen every scene in every Disney movie. There are actually a few that she’s missed out on, and will probably continue to miss until she’s a bit older. Call me overprotective if you must, but there are some Disney scenes that I just don’t think we’re ready for.

I realize that Maleficent, as the fiery dragon, is a huge and important part of Sleeping Beauty. I’m not arguing that the movie should have been done differently. I just choose not to let me daughter see the more terrifying aspects of fire and brimstone. She’s four, after all. She’s just not ready for it. And she’s not the only villain that I censor.

I have a whole list of Disney most traumatizing scenes that my little girl never sees. Someday, these movies might take on a whole new meaning for her. But I can’t be the only one. I  know you guys skip through the tear-inducing parts, right? Are there any upsetting scenes that I missed?

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232 Comments

  1. Rachael

    February 4, 2012 at 2:47 pm

    As a film lover, Disney geek, and former toddler (ha ha), I really think that is being too overprotective! Your daughter is three, right? I had seen all of those movies by then, with absolutely no problems. My mother found Disney quite useful in explaining the death of my grandmother (although I did think she had been killed by wildebeests for a while). Your child has to grow up just like any other, and learn the whole picture of life. Everyone has to have sad moments sometimes!

    I really think you are doing her a disservice, in the end, as you are simply putting off things that will have to come up, and may not be handled by you. What if she sees one of those movies at a relative’s house?

    I honestly feel sorry for your little girl, missing out on great scenes like that, and I’m not saying that to be mean. I really, really do feel sorry for her.

    • Ness

      February 5, 2012 at 1:44 pm

      Thank you, you just articulated everything I wanted to say on this topic. The first thing I felt when reading this article was so much pity for the little girl who has not been allowed to experience the movies I loved so much when I was her age (Who am I kidding? The movies I still love so much!). Sure, I cried when Mufasa died, but that did not stop me from absolutely loving the Lion King and running around pretending to be a lion, while singing ‘I just can’t wait to be king’ on the top of my lungs, for a few months after.

    • Trip

      February 6, 2012 at 9:01 am

      Agreed. Also, you don’t have to show the child Disney movies at age 4. I remembered being terrified of them. I still won’t watch Bambi for a second time. But, that doesn’t mean that you should skip them altogether. Just save it for when she’s seven and can understand.

      The hiking in the woods thing? Really? I watched all of these films with those scenes and still go hiking, even at night!

  2. Holly

    February 4, 2012 at 3:24 pm

    You are being too overprotective. I watched these movies as a child and I came out fine, along with my 3 other siblings. If you are afraid of barely scary scenes in Disney movies then the real world is going to be tough for her to go into.

  3. True

    February 4, 2012 at 5:38 pm

    Helicopter-Mom-in-the-worst-way, you cannot protect your daughter from life.

    • Laura

      February 5, 2012 at 8:13 am

      Do you really need to wrap your child in bubble wrap AND cotton wool?

  4. Jen

    February 4, 2012 at 8:41 pm

    This reminds me of that episode of Friends where Pheobe had never seen any of the sad parts of movies like Bambie and Old Yeller. I wondered then and am curious now how these movies make sense to your daughter without the scenes in them? My four year old will not watch Disney movies because she finds them scary, but I let that be her decision and I don’t fast forward through the scary parts for her. When she’s old enough to watch the whole film she’ll watch the film, until then there are plenty of other great movies for her to watch.

    One other thing concerned me: have you guys really not talked about things like extinction? My daughter loves going to the Museum of Natural History and besides the blue whale (who doesn’t love the blue whale?) her absolute favorite is the dinosaurs. Not only does she know about animals that have been extinct for millions of years, she also spends enough time at the zoo to know that plenty of her favorite animals could disappear in her lifetime if we don’t take care of the Earth. She finds that news upsetting, but in a get up and do something kind of way, which I think is sort of great.

    I think you’re much better off discussing the sorts of hard topics you are now trying to avoid with your daughter. That way at least YOU get to control the conversation.

    • NotThumper

      February 5, 2012 at 1:33 pm

      “Yes, it was very sad when the guy stopped drawing the deer!”

      Or something to that effect… 🙂

    • Jen

      February 6, 2012 at 9:10 am

      I can not watch Old Yeller without dissolving into giggles (awful, I know!) picturing Lisa Kudrow’s reactions as Pheobe watches the ending of the movie for the first time.

    • NotThumper

      February 6, 2012 at 11:34 am

      @Jen- I can’t even remember the last time I saw Old Yeller but when I think of it I not only remember Phoebe’s reaction but Family Guy’s take on it as well…

      Have you seen it? 😉

  5. Krista

    February 4, 2012 at 9:15 pm

    i understand why these scenes are scary, but i think movies from Disney allow for a dialogue to open up between very young kids and their parents. its easier to talk about death with cartoon characters than with their own father, right? and death is a fact of life, just like people with bad priorities (cruella devil), kids that are never disciplined (pleasure island), and people that are the targets of others’ hatred (snow white). i think of them as a modern-day parables to illustrate principles.

  6. Really?

    February 4, 2012 at 9:57 pm

    Wow….and people thought I was crazy when I commented on her post about finding the perfect treat for her child to bring to pre-school.
    Seriously, special snowflake much?

    I’m sure you love your daughter very much but to be honest I think you might be doing more harm than good…

  7. Diana H

    February 4, 2012 at 10:10 pm

    So instead of using these scenes as starters for difficult conversations, you’re going to pretend they don’t exist at all? What kind of life are you setting your child up for?

    • Cate

      February 6, 2012 at 3:29 pm

      I agree, my parents used traumatic events in books and movies as ways to start difficult and interesting conversations with my sister and me for as long as I can remember, and I think it made us both more interesting and thoughtful people than we would otherwise have been. Sheltering a child from things that might disturb them is only setting them up for a very rude awakening later in life. Besides, what better way to explore the ugliness of the world than a movie that is ultimately harmless?

  8. Lynda

    February 4, 2012 at 11:17 pm

    I totally agree shielding your kids from these. My 5 year old isn’t ready for scenes like those. If he hears sad music it’s tear inducing, and not because I’m keeping him from living life. Some lessons of life aren’t neccesary for young kids. I don’t want my 2 and 5 year old crying because someone died or being scared from a scary scene. It isn’t shielding them from life when those situations aren’t reality or at least not in a normal family. Kudos.

    • "Normal"

      February 15, 2012 at 1:07 pm

      So people don’t die in “normal” families? My grandmother died unexpectedly when I was five and I VIVIDLY remember my mother explaining it to me using Mufasa’s death, which I had seen and understood. To say sad or scary things don’t happen in “normal” families is ridiculous. No one ever thinks those things will happen to them. But bad things do happen every day. It’s called LIFE.

  9. Hannah

    February 5, 2012 at 6:07 am

    This is weird to me. If the film is too scary, just don’t show it? Or talk about it first? Incidentally, little kids LOVE to be scared in a “fairytale” kind if way, why do you think these films and things like Grimms fairytales are so popular?

  10. Rachel

    February 5, 2012 at 11:27 am

    Not letting your four year old watch the “scary” parts of a Disney movie is a little extreme. By letting her view them it would open the lines of communication. Your just not letting her see that good is stronger than evil.

  11. Brian

    February 5, 2012 at 11:28 am

    I also think you’re being overprotective. Here’s a quote from Walt Disney himself that reflects my own thoughts on this subject:

    “Both my study of Scripture and my career in entertaining children have taught me to cherish them. But I don’t believe in playing down to children, either in life or in motion pictures. I didn’t treat my own youngsters like fragile flowers, and I think no parent should.

    Children are people, and they should have to reach to learn about things, to understand things, just as adults have to reach if they want to grow in mental stature. Life is composed of lights and shadows, and we would be untruthful, insincere, and saccharine if we tried to pretend there were no shadows. Most things are good, and they are the strongest things; but there are evil things too, and you are not doing a child a favor by trying to shield him from reality. The important thing is to teach a child that good can always triumph over evil, and that is what our pictures attempt to do.”

    • jean

      February 16, 2012 at 7:46 pm

      Now, THAT quote from walt disney makes the most sense out of any of the remarks written on this poor woman’s post! Come on—She really ought not be ridiculed or scorned for what she’s trying to do–which is what we’re all trying to do, right–? –Raise our kids the way we think best?
      Give her a break, people– we’ve all gone a bit overboard in the overprotection dept with our first kid, haven’t we??
      It’s not our place to judge, though she DID ask for it by posting in the first place! LOL
      Best wishes, dear…you’ll calm down soon enough…especially after you have one or two more kids. By then, you’ll just be happy they’re quiet and absorbed for a couple of hours…even if it is with those darn evil disney flicks! 🙂

  12. doubledutchduh

    February 5, 2012 at 12:06 pm

    Oh my giddy god’s pajamas. That is just wacky. When does she get to watch them? When she’s 18? They’re kids’ movies for poop’s sake. I was a dramatic thing and loved all the death and grief. I’d be draped across the jungle gym going, “No… save… yourselves… It’s… too late… for……. m—–” *DEAD*

    How, pray tell, do you deal with dinosaurs? Have you managed to avoid them entirely? Do you tell her they’re not real? I don’t understand how you could get away with this with dinos everywhere (granted I work in a Natural History Museum so perhaps I’m not the best judge of kiddie dino saturation–but Dinosaur Train seems pretty popular).

    Oh, I’ve just realized! This must mean no Land Before Time for her, too. Oh man, I still lose it when he sees that shadow and thinks it’s his mom.

  13. Ness

    February 5, 2012 at 1:48 pm

    This reminds me of the story of how Harry Potter was turned down by many publishers who claimed that a children’s book could not start with the death of the main character’s parents. Many adults underestimate what children can handle. Fortunately, there is always someone who stands up for them and that’s when magic happens.

  14. Melinda

    February 5, 2012 at 6:01 pm

    Uhm, no. I do not “skip through the tear inducing parts.” I grew up watching these movies– including all the sad/scary parts– and my child can watch them, too. I mean, they’re Disney movies for heaven’s sake. Not Saw.

  15. Patricia

    February 6, 2012 at 5:37 am

    this really made me laugh, remembering when I was a kid watching these. Oh my god, pinocchio and dumbo were so so so so traumatizing, much more than Bambi. I won’t even get into Mufasa’s death, which still makes me cry.

    You know, I used to love peter pan, but I remember an overall feeling of melancholy whenever the lost boys came in, because they didn’t have parents. I remember this so vividly, I didn’t want to be one of them, I felt so so so so sorry for them.

    As for skipping the sad bits, I’m guessing the writer said it as a joke, not literally. I can’t wait to watch these movies with my son when he’s old enough, so he can look at me disapprovingly while I bawl my eyes out. 😉

  16. Fabel

    February 6, 2012 at 9:09 am

    I would say to stop fast-forwarding & try letting her watch the entirety of these films– that way, you can get a sense (by her reactions) of what will really be “too much” for her to handle. I watched all of these as a kid, and honestly, I feel as if they’re actually more uncomfortable to watch from an adult perspective.

  17. BOO!

    February 6, 2012 at 10:45 am

    Honestly, your a little crazy.

    Its a movie….

  18. 1st-Time Mommy

    February 6, 2012 at 10:48 am

    When it comes to Disney, I don’t filter. Not only because I don’t want to overshelter my (2.5-year-old) son, but because it is IMPOSSIBLE to predict what things are going to upset kids.

    Like, my boy can watch all of “The Lion King”, “The Little Mermaid”, and “Beauty and the Beast” just fine. Doesn’t faze him. But the scene in “Finding Nemo” where the diver comes and takes Nemo off the reef? My kid will go into a shaking fit of terror at that scene.

    We also always skip the first 20 minutes of “Up!”, because it’s too depressing for my husband and I, though it doesn’t seem to bother my kid.

    Maybe, instead of never showing your daughter these scenes, you can let the movie play as normal the first time, and then, in the future, fast-forward through any of the parts that bother her. It’s the strategy we’ve employed, and all we ever have to do is skip through about 40 seconds of “Finding Nemo”. Much easier than trying to censor entire chunks of movies.

    • Lo

      February 6, 2012 at 12:02 pm

      Yeah, I agree with 1st-Time Mommy. When we were little my sister was fine with the scene in The Little Mermaid where Ursula gets all huge and crazy. But for whatever reason, the part in Under the Sea where the blowfish “blows” made her burst into tears. (We still tease her about it.)

      You can never tell what’s going to upset a kid and what they’ll be fine with.

    • NotThumper

      February 6, 2012 at 12:08 pm

      Agreed. When I was a kid there was a music video on Sesame Street that frightened me more than anything in the world. It was the “Wet Paint” video. I have absolutely no idea why it scared the bajeebus out of me, but it did. LOL

    • Nikky

      February 10, 2012 at 9:23 pm

      My scene was always the part in Alice in Wonderland where she’s crying in the woods with all the creepy little things. I haven’t watched that movie in YEARS, but I’d get up and leave the room (I was about 5 years old) when I knew that part was coming.

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  20. Kate

    February 6, 2012 at 3:31 pm

    I did show Lion King to my 3 and 5 year old, and it was actually that Simba ended up seperated from his family that upset my son (5 yr old) more than Mustafa’s death itself. You dont know what will bother them or not, so its hard to sensor before hand 🙂 but i agree there are some whole movies that get more appropriate with age.

  21. Trisha

    February 6, 2012 at 7:01 pm

    I used to be terrified of Ursula when I was a child. I was even scared enough that my older sister and brother would chase me around the house waving the Little Mermaid VHS at me.

    I survived anyway…somehow…

  22. Janet

    February 6, 2012 at 10:30 pm

    I watched them with my brother and sister, I let my kids watch them. Nobody has ever gotten scared or upset.

  23. Aha

    February 7, 2012 at 12:58 am

    As a kid, I LOVED it when things got a little scary or really emotional. I was never, ever terrified by a children’s movie, and I’ve been watching movies for as long as I can remember. My parents shielded us from the last segment of Fantasia (Night on Bald Mountain) but when I finally saw it (when they weren’t watching, heehee), I was more shocked by the exposed breasts on the harpies than I was by the scary visuals.

    Maybe you should test what your daughter is able to handle instead of just assuming that she’s as squeamish as you are about sad or spooky stuff.

  24. Abigail

    February 7, 2012 at 10:35 am

    My parents filtered the Disney movies like that for us, and it was very upsetting because of two reasons. One, we felt like they didn’t trust us, and two, it often made the rest of the movie confusing, because we had missed a vital scene.

    I don’t shield my kids from scenes like that because I want them to see that life is full of confusing things and uncertainty and death, but that fear doesn’t have to control us. I want to talk about that stuff with my kids, I want them to be comfortable talking to me. My older son, who is 3 1/2, loves superhero shows like Batman and Spiderman. Unfortunately, that means a lot of death and fist fights and bombs going off. We watch them together and we talk about how those are bad people who are hurting others, and that the superheroes are allowed to beat them up because they are good guys and work with the police. Granted, it’s kind of a basic explanation, but it’ll do for now. After seeing some of those shows, he decided he wanted to be a firefighter, because firefighters (his words) “get to fight fires and sometimes scary people and they save lives”. I asked him why he didn’t want to be a superhero and he looked at me and rolled his eyes. “Mom,” he said. “Superheroes aren’t real. Firefighters are real.” Even at 3 1/2, he knows what is real and what isn’t, and he’s comfortable talking about it.

    I’m far from perfect, but I would call that successful parenting.

  25. Nadia

    February 7, 2012 at 3:29 pm

    I absolutely agree with you on the Lion King scene, I was 6 when I first saw it and it tore me to pieces I couldn’t stop crying and they had to call my mother to pick me up because I wouldn’t stop. To this day when I watch that scene I still break down and cry even seeing the picture makes me want to cry, so I completely agree with that my kid won’t be watching that scene for a while.

  26. Amy

    February 8, 2012 at 12:53 pm

    Aren’t you almost guaranteeing that your child will be shocked and mortified by these scenes by delaying her exposure to them?

    It’s wonderful that your child has never had to personally experience grief, or death, or loss, but if she is at least been exposed to people who have (even in cartoon form) it will make it a lot easier for her to understand by the time it does happen to her.

    I lost a friend in kindergarten and when my mum explained to me he was killed in a car accident, I knew exactly what death meant. Probably because just about every Disney character had lost a parent or two. I think you are seriously underestimating your child’s intellect and coping abilities, or you’re underestimating your own ability to communicate openly and honestly with her.

    P.S. You’re also setting her up for some serious mocking by her peers. Even 5 year olds talk about movie plot lines.

    • selene

      February 10, 2012 at 2:30 pm

      you’re totally right. it should also be a law that every child must watch the ‘saw’ series and a bunch of hardcore pornography before they turn 5 so that they won’t be too surprised by sex and violence later in life.

      /end sarcasm.

      obviously, i’m exaggerating; these scenes aren’t nearly as intense as the ‘saw’ movies or porn, but they are still pretty creepy, especially for the MAJORITY of little kids.

      it’s great that you were able to handle the concept of death as a very young child (and i’m not disagreeing that it’s an important thing to understand, even when you’re young), but there’s dozens of different ways to teach kids about the bad things in life. who are you to tell this mother what the best way is for her kid? i’m pretty sure she knows her child better than you do.

      and honestly? even if you’re right and the daughter can handle it, it’s better to shield her from it now than show it to her when she isn’t ready. it’s usually a good idea to err on the side of caution when it comes to things that could be traumatic or, at the very least, quite upsetting.

      p.s. did you really just advise this mom to let her daughter do something just so she wouldn’t get teased by her FIVE YEAR OLD friends? i really hope you don’t use that argument when your own kid has grown up a bit and tells you all of her friends are drinking or smoking or having unprotected sex.

    • nevilleross

      May 14, 2013 at 7:44 am

      Talk about not getting it at all.

  27. Pfft

    February 8, 2012 at 3:50 pm

    If someone was going to complain about Fantasia, I’d think it’d be the racist Centaur scene, no? Yes, it was a different time, I love Disney and take a lot of the older movies with a grain of salt by keeping that in mind but come on. If anything in that movie needs to be censored, it’s that scene.

    With that said, I don’t agree at all with this kind of censorship. I think you end up raising sheltered, over-sensitive kids with too much censorship. For the most part, Disney movies have good messages in them, moral stories, life lessons and all that and fast-forwarding a more difficult scene is not going to do your kids any good in the long run. I don’t imagine them saying, “Gee, I’m so glad mom fast-forwarded that scary part in ‘Beauty and the Beast!'” when they’re 20.

    My 7.5 year old son has cried at a handful of movies, ‘Marley and Me’, ‘Armageddon’ and ‘The Lion King’ being the biggest tearjerkers for him so far. I’m pretty sure it’s not doing emotional damage and actually might be doing him some good to know that life is not always sunshine and lollipops but also to feel for others and experience empathy for something outside of himself, if only through a film.

    If there’s anything within a movie that strikes a chord, distrubs your kid or makes them sad, then you could always, I don’t know? Have a conversation with your kid to explain the where and what for about what they’ve seen. It could be another good chance to bond and learn with your kids and impart some of your own values and morals on them. When you fast-forward those movies, you’re skipping over the chance to do just that.

  28. Magige

    February 8, 2012 at 5:15 pm

    I thought this would be about all of the racism and xenophobia in Disney movies, but seriously!? This is ridiculous.

  29. Emm

    February 10, 2012 at 1:51 am

    There seems to be this concept by the comments that because a film is animated by Disney it is appropriate for their child.
    These films HAVE RATINGS. G is for general audiences. (CAn anyone remember the last time a G film came out?) PG is parental guidance suggested.
    I personally don’t think 3 year olds need to be wasting time watching movies. I remember when Wizard of Oz was on tv, it was edited and yet an event!
    I watched Sesame Street, Captain Kangaroo, Mister Rogers, Electric Company and Wonder Woman on the regular until I got older. Lots of adult tv shows were pretty dopey back then too. I watched reruns of BeWitched, I Dream Of Jeanie and Gilligans Island with little upset. (Other than wondering why the husbands were so controlling.)
    I watched the Black Cauldron when I was 11? or so in the theater and my girlfriend and I were SO horrified by the violent scene with the pig, we were in tears until the end of the film!
    My mom was MAD and Disney had a lot of parents angry after that film came out because that scene was too intense for kids.
    Kids watch way too much tv today. Let them learn from playing and using their own imaginations.

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  31. Lexigore

    February 10, 2012 at 2:44 pm

    To the author, good luck in raising your child to be as oversensitive and easily spooked as you obviously are.
    When I was a kid I watched all these movies, plus other “scary” movies like The Dark Crystal and even the tail end of Aliens without any fear of “trauma”.
    This is ridiculous. Facing fears that aren’t real is a fun part of childhood. Are you going to ban ghost stories at slumber parties too?

  32. Kes

    February 10, 2012 at 5:08 pm

    You’re raising your kid to be a pansy.

  33. Nikky

    February 10, 2012 at 9:34 pm

    I’m a little late to this party, but I agree it’s being a little extreme.

    I realize this is a very personal-specific reason, but my grandma raised me. Not that my mom was unfit or anything, I was just closer to grandma and had severe night terrors and fears as a kid (yet I still managed to watch and deal with all the scenes mentioned, and I was/am as sensitive as a kid can get. I cried because I thought Radcliffe must have been SO UNCOMFORTABLE when they chained him up in Pocahontas) and grandma handled it better.

    We were super close, it was just the two of us after my grandpa passed and she was everything to me. She liked Disney too, so we watched them all the time. I always thought that she looked just like the old lady in Fox and the Hound… and when she died when I was 10, that scene killed me. But the song was so fitting and beautiful, and I could remember how much she loved the movie and it’s just as comforting as it is painful. My fiance feels similar with the Lion King, having lost his dad to cancer as a child.

  34. Elizabethmomof8

    February 13, 2012 at 8:59 am

    It’s your child, do what you want. I’m surprised you didn’t put Finding Nemo in there. We went to watch with our 4 and 5 year olds, in the theater. After the opening scary scene where mom dies, one couple grabbed their preschoolers and ran out of the theater in horror! I wonder now if they ever saw the movie and thought they acted a bit foolishly. I will say that for the past 13 years they’ve been the butt of jokes in my family. There have been scary parts in movies for years, but I can’t recall a Disney movie that was only scary; most have the scary scene at one part of the movie, that helps explain the rest of the happy story. Try them out. These movies are a great way, as others have said, to open up conversations about death/sadness, and overcoming what could be overwhelming depression (Nemo lives a great life being raised by a single father, as does Bambi, Belle passes on her beautiful personality to the Beast, Simba regains his rightful place on the throne with a lovely wife and saves the pride). True, in most families, kids will never have to deal with loss of a close relative (divorce or death); mine haven’t. At 4 your child is young enough that it’s not shocking to me that you’d hide those movies. However, as she gets older, it would be nice to give her the chance to learn the happy parts too.

    • Sl Melodrama

      October 28, 2012 at 2:08 pm

      Those parents that you described (and others like them) are only creating unwanted fear in the kids. If they hadn’t overreacted like that, the kids would’ve just enjoyed the movie. But after behaving so hysterically, that memory would have been branded in their kids minds for a long time!

  35. Amy

    February 15, 2012 at 12:42 am

    Why do 4 year old need to be watching movies? Books are actually a much more developmentally appropriate way to introduce these ideas:It’s easier to gauge a child’s reaction in the real-time unfolding of a book being read by a family member.Films are,first of all,fast loud with quick edits,they are LONG (in terms of attention span).Ages 6,7 and beyond are great for feature-length films,but there’s seriously no rush to shove the Disney canon down your pre-schoolers brain.Relax,Disney isn’t going anywhere.

  36. Alex

    February 15, 2012 at 1:50 pm

    My father died when I was 9. The Lion King also came out when I was 9 and I saw it pretty soon after his death. Honestly, if I had been as sheltered and overprotected as it appears your child will be, I probably would have killed myself after seeing that scene. Kids need to understand grief, scary things, and things that make them uncomfortable. They need an explanation, and not to be shielded from every bump in the night. Pick your battles – even among Disney, I can think of scenes worse than these. Life is about learning, even for a 4 year old.

  37. Amy

    February 16, 2012 at 12:50 pm

    It’s so weird ,Alex,that you could say my child is “overprotected” and “sheltered” b/c I didn’t choose to expose her to Disney-brand entertainment before kinder.That’s like saying a child will go unsatisfied if they don’t eat Doritos-brand snacks..I choose to READ TO HER:BOOKS by Grimm and Hans Christian Anderson,all the classic scary fairytales minus the bombast and manipulation of the Disney machine.Guess what else has life and death ? Nature! And for excitement? Travel! and not living under a rock.But your right ,having a young toddler sit passively in front of a t.v for 2 hours is the way to go.

    • Greg

      May 31, 2012 at 7:34 am

      Tell me, does your toddler have the opportunity to travel much by themselves? And as for nature, do they enjoy talking hikes by themselves? Movies may not encourage activity but the child could at least learn to comprehend something by themselves without having total parental involvement. Let children breathe for goodness sake, don’t suffocate them with your parenting. I bet all the other children will love your child when they go to school and as they are talking about movies they have to admit they never saw them and instead say “My mother read to me the original fairy tales by Hans Christian Anderson instead of letting me watch them.” Reality is far harsher than this wonderful little world of shelter you are building around your child. Let them assert their independence and stop being THAT mother than insists that big business is such a poison on life. It isn’t, for if it was a bet you wouldn’t be typing on that wonderful mass-produced computer you have. Disney is brilliant for what its done, you should introduce you child to it when they can comprehend and say “This is what a successful business should accomplish: influencing and making the lives of children better for decades and having a lasting impact for decades more.”

  38. chloé

    February 16, 2012 at 8:37 pm

    This is ridiculous in my opinion. If you shelter your child from pain and upsetting situations while they are young will make it harder for them to deal with traumatic situations when they are older. This will make your child very sensitive and as a result more prone to bullying. Children need to learn when they are young that sometimes something bad will happen and that it’s natural to feel upset about it. Please realise that sheltering your children too much can have devastating effects in later life, trust me when I say that it’s not something your kids will thank you for in later life.

  39. Liz

    February 17, 2012 at 9:16 pm

    I think you’re being way too overprotective. When I was little (like 3-8) my favorite movie was Sleeping Beauty, and we never skipped any of it. The only movie scene I wasn’t allowed to see was Bambi’s mother getting shot (my mom would always fast forward), which sucked because it was a total surprise when my grandmother babysat and we watched that movie, since grandma didn’t know to skip it! On the other hand, my father didn’t seem to understand that some shows weren’t appropriate for little kids, so when he watched something my brother and I did, too. That’s how I wound up seeing X-Files, all the Alien movies, and It by six years old (admittedly, I still hate clowns and my brother’s still terrified of spiders, but I don’t know if I can blame It for that; clowns are just creepy).

  40. Brittany

    February 18, 2012 at 9:38 pm

    I watched all those scenes in those movies at 4 years old and don’t remember them upsetting me. You just need to teach kids the difference between real and fake. It’s all part of life. You can’t shield them from everything and a simple cartoon is not going to scar them.

  41. Marie

    February 21, 2012 at 10:04 pm

    Madame honestly there were more frightening parts in other movies than disney – only one that scared me most was the black cauldron (And Cruella’s crazy face and monstruo). but how can anyone find that donkey scene scary?!

    Strange you didn’t put Chernobog’s segment as scary for kids or the shadow demons from Princess and the frog? Especially Facilier’s death looked like something out of “Ghost” with Patrick Swayze and Demi Moore.

    My younger sister watched these flicks and the only thing she did was ask nonstop obvious questions during family movies.

    And my siblings grew up with dark elements like DWduck and SK – we were just too oblivious. Plus in the last uicorn we were too fascinated with the unicorn and her turning into a very pretty girl to be afraid fo the Red bull or th harpy.

  42. Rydia

    February 23, 2012 at 6:21 pm

    Ok, I respect that this is how you’ve chosen to deal with this. I wonder if maybe your child isn’t the one uncomfortable by these scenes, but its you. My parents never fast forwarded through scenes, I saw all of them…and I’m fine.

    Mufasa’s death made me cry…I STILL cry! But its an important scene in the movie. And the scene with the wolves in Beauty and the Beast? Really? That’s also like the turning point in the movie where Beast starts to care. Out of all the scenes in Fantasia, I’m surprised that is the one you censored. The extinction of the dinosaurs actually happened, why shelter your child from that? It’s not like you have to have a deep discussion on what happened to them. Do you also censor The Land Before Time in its entirety? That movie was sad too, I was really young when it came out, and I cried when Little Foot’s mother died. But to this day the first movie is still one of my favorites. And yes, I still cry when Little Foot’s mother dies lol.

    • John Dorian

      May 23, 2012 at 6:00 pm

      Agreed, was going to say i remember watching land before time in it’s entirety and i remember being sad(as would most adults watching it) but it didn’t traumatize me.

      I also agree that trying tho shelter kids will hurt them more than helping them. I’m not saying show your kids videos of whales being beaten and people being slaughtered. Most of the trama comes from over reacting by parents. Why do you think so many people are afraid of spiders and snakes they are taught from a young age to be scared and not to understand.

  43. Jordan

    April 29, 2012 at 12:53 pm

    Thats kinda ridiculous. I watch Disney movies like that with my little brother and sister (who are 6 and 4) and they are perfectly fine with all of the scenes….. I don’t see how your child could even understand the movie without any of these scenes ESPECIALLY with mufasa’s death and many others. The movie wouldn’t even make sense. How do you explain where Mufasa went, or why Simba is so upset later in the movie? I will agree with you on the whole Pinnochio thing with “pleasure island” I had watched that movie when I was little, but didn’t really get it until I was older. But that didn’t stop my mom from letting me watch these movies when I was little and it doesn’t stop me from letting my little siblings watch them now. My siblings know that stuff like that happens sometimes, but it’s JUST a movie. Shoot, I was watching Friday the 13th and Childs Play at her age. (though I do have a weird fear of dolls)
    I’ve come out just fine.

  44. Rilla Really

    May 9, 2012 at 11:36 pm

    Wow, I can’t believe all the negative comments. I can totally get the author not wanting her daughter to watch those scenes. What is WRONG with the commenters who don’t get that? You think she is raising her child to be sheltered and overprotected if she screens out the upsetting scenes? Really? She’s FOUR. Wish more people would think twice about exposing their kids to all kinds of things – it’s called PARENTING, people. To the author, I think you need to find a kinder blog site that parents of a higher caliber will be reading – you’re a good writer, now you just need a good audience 🙂

    • daughter

      May 29, 2012 at 6:08 pm

      EXACTLY.

  45. Hope

    May 12, 2012 at 12:40 am

    I totally understand not showing certain parts but as a young kid I would ask or react to certain parts which is where I fast forwarded it. And honestly mufasa dying was not as traumatic as Scar’s creepy song to me. Your daughter is probably sensitive enough to let you know when she doesn’t want to see something. Don’t overprotect her because my sister was and like someone said in the comments is unable to watch anything because she cannot determine between fact and fiction enough–she is 14! She understands its fake but she cannot handle any facts of life. I am not trying to be mean at all. I understand your desire. My mom carefully guarded me–I was not allowed to watch Ursula’s song or other parts where I just didn’t watch like Scar’s song and the ending sequence with Jafar in Alladin. My mom also did not let me watch malificent.

  46. js

    May 12, 2012 at 11:52 am

    I am actually surprised that you let her watch 101 Dalmatians. I mean the movie is about a crazy women wanted to kill a bunch of puppies to use them for fur coats. Honestly, I understand some of you choices, they are quite scary, but I think you shouldn’t be censoring the sad stuff too. I am in no means trying to tell you how to raise your child. It’s your child and it’s you decision. Just try not to shelter her too much. I’m going to be honest, I understand why you didn’t show her that scene in Dumbo, I remember as a kid I looked at my mom and wondered why that was happening. I still cry watching that movie. Just try and remember, don’t censor her too much.

  47. None

    May 15, 2012 at 8:13 pm

    Well my parents never hid anything from me, I watched the moulan rouge when I was like 8 I’ve loved it ever since, my parents never let me see bad things but they loved seeing me watch all disney movies except my mom hates aladan because she’s a little racist, but you don’t see me unlike other kids, cutting myself and complaining about a miserbal life, it’s understandable to block and censor certain things but children movies then were much less perverse than they are now, and if you hide the world from a yuong child they will not know how to deal with life. It’s your children’s life but you have a harder time explaining later on.

  48. Katja

    May 16, 2012 at 5:27 pm

    I think you’re not giving your child enough credit. Kids kind of like getting scared. And watching a sad scene, like Bambi’s mom or Mufasa dying are upsetting for a child but they can also build up her understanding of story telling and motivations. Disney always had something emotionally intense and traumatizing because without the juxtaposition of sorrow you couldn’t appreciate the joyfulness of the rest of the movie or the world that was created.

    But seriously, if you don’t think your daughter can’t handle this stuff at 4 then maybe you should just pick out something more age appropriate until you think she’s ready to handle the concept of mortality.

    /I think the most traumatizing experience I ever had at a Disney movie was the ending of Great Mouse Detective. Even after the nightmares subsided I asked my dad to take me again and reveled in the ending the second time around.

    • Snipe

      June 6, 2013 at 9:04 pm

      Amen to the Great Mouse Detective. The scene in the clock tower is visceral and frightening. I watched it as a very young child, and it remains my favorite Disney film to this day. And no, it did not traumatize me.

  49. Madeleine

    May 17, 2012 at 9:27 pm

    I think this is exactly what is wrong with modern parents.

    I am twenty. A child of the nineties. The Lion King was the first move I ever went to see (was I two or three?) and my dad had to take me out when Mufasa died. I still remember it vividly!

    And the scenes in these movies? Yes they frightened me and yes I remember them (I also had nightmares from Roald Dahl’s The Witches … Angelica Houstan as the grand high witch was truly scary) but these are all things I cherish from my childhood! Just because something is scary … so what? I still loved them. And it hasn’t screwed me up … these are GREAT movies and I feel sorry for your child.

  50. daughter

    May 18, 2012 at 2:31 am

    your daughter is four years old, that makes total sense to me. i wish all parents were as thoughtful. they’re not. they plop their kids in front of these movies as a babysitter and have been for years now.

    • Amy

      June 14, 2012 at 1:24 am

      Hey,I think you and I both keep coming back to this thread for a reason.People don’t like to feel guilty about their parenting choices.But a lot of people in this country also like to hand over their voice in parenting to major business concerns:Disney is not just entertainment to the masses,it’s love.If you reach the brass ring of parenting-a trip to a Disney theme park where your kid can meet the characters you’ve been feeding them since before they could write their own name.I think there is great resistance to the idea that these stories (epic,scary and centuries old beautiful) can be presented ANY OTHER WAY than in the slick package of feature-length film.This makes me sad,because I know that story telling in the form of reading is not only very powerful ,when read by a loving parent,but less frightening because it has none of the fast-edits,gross oversimplification of stereotype.Four years old being the operative 4 is very young,more like PBS kids,short simple and sweet stories.I think a lot of parents don’t understand how inappropriate it is to put a very young child in front of the t.v for hours at a time.

    • Vini

      June 14, 2012 at 9:30 am

      @daughter and Amy, I agree that using the TV as a babysitter is wrong. And yes, experts do say that it isn’t good for toddlers to watch TV for too long.
      But, just because we let our kids watch some of these movies as a treat sometimes doesn’t make us bad and lazy parents.
      I do read a lot to my son. Every night. I tell him stories based on the Disney movies and other fairy tales. I read him books based on the same and also based on several other themes/characters. But, I also let him watch an occasional movie and I don’t think I am a person who is handing over “their voice in parenting to major business concerns”.
      The issue being discussed here is, if you DO choose to let your kids watch movies, do you shield them from the scary scenes?

    • Lacy

      June 15, 2012 at 4:07 am

      I totally agree with you. I can’t believe the outrage in some of these comments.

    • Edith

      June 22, 2012 at 4:48 pm

      daughter, you’re just as guilty of jumping down people’s throats in these comments. CALM DOWN, IT’S JUST THE INTERNET.

  51. Hayley

    May 23, 2012 at 7:13 pm

    What is the world coming to when we have to start censoring ‘G’ rated movies?
    I saw all of these scenes as a child and never had a nightmare. I also turned out to be a happy, healthy child and a happy, healthy adult.
    Most of these scenes teach lessons anyway:
    1. Snow White: Don’t wander the woods alone at night. Great lesson to teach your child.
    2. 101 Dalmatians: Only crazy people would skin puppies for clothes. She should learn ASAP that animal cruelty is terrible.
    3. Bambi: Forest fires are bad; don’t set them. Never too early to start learning to love the environment.
    4. Fantasia: Dinosaurs were real and then they died. What kid doesn’t like dinosaurs?
    5. Beauty and the Beast: Monsters can still be good guys and save you. Do you want your daughter to think that only pretty people are good?
    6. Dumbo: A mother’s love overcomes anything and is beautiful. As a mother yourself you should know that.
    7. Pinocchio: There are consequences to misbehaving. The boys turned into donkeys because they smoked, drank, and gambled. Since she’s too young to fully understand the physical and mental consequences of these actions, for now tell her they turn you into a jackass.
    8. The Lion King. What, you want her first experience with death to be a family member or a beloved pet? Let her learn about it from TV, much less traumatic.

    • daughter

      May 23, 2012 at 8:56 pm

      i taught my kids a ton of lessons without any movies at all. WOW. O.O Amazing!

      want to know the coolest thing about this method? we TALK to each other! NO KIDDING! it’s really cool.

    • Lovely

      May 11, 2013 at 1:12 am

      Love it! Incredible that you still talk to your children and you don’t let the TV and DVD’s raise them for you. Thanks for raising free thinker individuals.

    • Vini

      May 29, 2012 at 10:08 am

      @daughter, I think what Hayley meant was IF you choose to watch movies with your kids, instead of censoring the movie and keeping them sheltered, you could use the movie to teach them lessons. I don’t think she preached that watching movies was the only way to teach your kid lessons.
      I hope you are teaching your kid that people make their own decisions in life and that you don’t need to throw around sarcastic remarks to prove you are better.

    • daughter

      May 29, 2012 at 12:46 pm

      @Vini, i am annoyed by the fact that Hayley and others here think that the writer is cheating her four year old daughter by not letting her watch some movie scenes, so yes, i was flippant. why Shouldn’t we shelter a FOUR year old child? she’s FOUR years old for crimenys sake! good parents shelter very young children. you add in the harsh lessons of life a little at a time based on what each individual child is ready for. you certainly don’t base it on media, and popular opinion. btw, all four of my children are adults now and doing well, thank you. i know that i did a good job of parenting, my children are consciously choosing to raise their children the same as i raised them.

    • Vini

      May 31, 2012 at 11:20 am

      @daughter..I do agree that some people have reacted a bit too harshly to the article, but the surprise and comments are expected when you do something out of the norm. These Disney movies are usually rated G and loads of young kids watch them in their entirety – even ones younger than 3. So it will come as a surprise when you hear that someone is sheltering their kids from scenes in these movies. But yes, each parent has their own style and can and will decide when to expose their children to the reality of life.
      As for ‘good parents shelter very young children’ – I am glad your kids are doing well, but I wish you wouldn’t judge parents just because they let their kids watch harmless G movies. Parents don’t automatically become ‘bad’ because they don’t shelter their kids as much as you think they should be.

    • Vini

      May 31, 2012 at 11:23 am

      Sorry, meant to say younger than 4 not 3.
      In any case kids 3 and up should be able to handle such scenes.

    • daughter

      May 31, 2012 at 10:36 pm

      Hello again Vini, the only judgement i am making here, are parents jumping down the throat of the writer for making decisions for her very own daughter. every child is different. what one child is comfortable with, another may not be. even within the same family. and no parent has the right to make these calls for another parent.

      you don’t get to call another parent stupid just because they don’t let their child watch a movie that you would let your child watch, which is what approximately 90% of the parents are doing in these comments.

      i do think that good parents shelter very young children. but every parent has a different concept of what young is, and what shelter means. still their choice to make.

      it’s only really muddy when some people, like say a friend of mine, let their kids watch Friday the 13th, Freddy, and Pinhead. i don’t need to tell you how fucked up those boys turned out.

    • Mo

      August 1, 2012 at 2:04 pm

      I don’t think you can tell people how all of society ‘turned out’ (with your lesson with the boys) with your example of them seeing horror movies either. Don’t judge and condemn others for judging, then do the same.
      There are a lot here who comment that they’ve seen horror movies as children, which was an aside to the main topic anyways, and are fine.
      Don’t tell me that every child that sees a horror movie will be scarred for life – because it is good parenting to decide if they should watch it AND good parenting to help your kid understand the difference between real and make believe.
      I am one of those who had parents who loved movies – and as such I saw equal horror movies and ‘cartoon’ movies. I was told about the make believe in both. I got that each had make beleive – perhaps those children you are eluding to weren’t well educated or well parented. The parents shouldn’t give their children movies they aren’t ready for, and that’s a parent’s fault if they give a child a horror movie to watch without the talk about real and fantasy and any questions before, during, and after…
      But don’t judge others when you so adamently are telling them not to judge.
      I turned out fine. I’m an educator of adults, have three degrees, a successful marriage, and am happy in my life – and have a strong relationship with my parents AND watched horror movies as a child. Ugh your statement “Don’t have to tell you how THEY turned out” is so arrogant and ignorant.
      Grow up. A few have told you to do so, and I was kind of like “well, she hasn’t said anything that I agree with saying THAT to her…” until now. Grow. Up.
      Also, on topic – I think a parent has the ultimate right to choose what a kid watches and it goes both ways. Whether they want to follow the G rating or R rating and allow their five year old to watch either – their decision. However, there is a pretty thick black line of what is being overprotective – and I have to say in my opinion a Disney movie? If you don’t have a close enough relationship with your child to explain those parts that are meant to be life lessons, even to a child, then you shouldn’t be the one making parenting decisions.
      I agree with the majority of the statements here. She asked – we answered. A bit overkill. Dont’ shelter your kids, ESPECIALLY in today’s world. They need all the help they can get!

    • Horrified by This

      November 5, 2012 at 4:09 am

      considering that the writer ASKED what other parents censor, i think it is fair for parents to say they don’t do that at all. and what a lot of people are saying is that it might be best not to show these movies at all if the child is too young to deal with its full content. there are plenty movies that don’t have these kinds of scenes in them. why not watch those until the appropriate age for the rest. THAT is wholly and completely different than allowing kids to watch slasher films. and perhaps it was not the films that were the problem, but having the kind of parents who don’t know better. bad judgment is a sign of people who are going to end up with FUp kids.

      what i also find hypocritical is that you are passing judgment on people for passing judgment. just like you are entitled to voice your opinion, others are as well. and the fact that your opinion is different doesn’t make it RIGHT. people who write but don’t want opinions, (1) don’t leave room for comments, and (2) don’t ask for them.

  52. Michelle

    May 24, 2012 at 12:27 am

    What about all the Disney princess movies that teach our daughters that the only way to reach fulfillment is by landing a handsome prince? Shouldn’t we be censoring the end of The Little Mermaid to teach girls that they don’t have to alter their bodies to be happy? Shouldn’t we end Mulan before the Army Captain comes to her house to be invited to dinner? If you’re going to censor the violence and harsh realities out of what your kid is watching, you might as well think about editing out the more subtle and potentially more harmful messages that Disney teaches our children about assumed gender roles.

    • daughter

      May 24, 2012 at 3:07 am

      Thank You!

    • Jennifer

      June 13, 2012 at 5:56 pm

      YES!!!

    • wtf

      July 26, 2012 at 6:20 pm

      Two words: grow up. It’s just a damn Disney movie, not a life lesson.

    • Ibad Rao

      December 5, 2012 at 9:30 am

      Well said!

    • Raquel

      January 3, 2013 at 2:53 am

      But then it’s not a beautiful, traditional fairy tale anymore. . . I love disney princess movies, but I don’t have the mindset that I’m supposed to act a certain way just because I am female. . . I love disney princess movies because they are beautifully animated, wonderfully orchestrated, and have very romantic and magical story lines. They are great pieces of entertainment, surely Walt knew what he was doing.

    • Ashley

      August 3, 2013 at 11:27 pm

      What about the fact that the Disney Princess movies can also teach you to be kind, tolerant, to believe in yourself, and to believe in your dreams? Also, it is just a movie. Instead of cutting out disney princess movies, as you are suggesting, why not talk to a child about the differences between a certain aspect of a MOVIE plot and realistic life expectations, Fantasy vs Reality. I’m 18 and STILL love disney princess movies. They can teach you some things but anyone who sees them as realistic version of life was clearly never taught the difference between fantasy and reality. Bad lessons about gender roles is everywhere in the media, what are you going to do, lock your kid in a closet? I personallu think the best thing is to talk to them about these issues so when they are exposed to them they will have a different view to consider.

    • Ashley

      August 3, 2013 at 11:29 pm

      *gender roles are
      Sorry about that

  53. Umiyuri

    May 26, 2012 at 6:59 am

    All of these are things I saw before I was five.

    When I was little I cried over Mufasa’s death because The Lion King was my favourite movie. But it didn’t take me long to get over it and it really didn’t take me long to understand why it was there. I’ve been shielded from death in other ways (my parents wouldn’t let me attend my great uncles funeral despite that we were good friends) but not through skipping scenes in movies.

    As for the other things, there are two scenes that trump them in terms of childhood trauma — the Pink Elephants on Parade sequence from Dumbo (I’m fine now) and the shot where Buzz is introduced in Toy Story. Which is probably a weird thing to be running behind the sofa for, but the way the shot is set up was really creepy to me when I was little, and despite liking Buzz for the rest of the movie, that single pan shot just freaked me out a lot.

    As a commenter mentioned before me, there are worse things in Disney movies (though I don’t understand why Shang coming over for dinner with the Fa family is on her list). Things like Aurora being saved by being kissed without her consent, and the entirety of ‘What Makes the Red Man Red?’. Products of their time, but very questionable today, and rightfully so.

  54. rayvn

    May 29, 2012 at 2:50 pm

    Every parent has their own style and own beliefs on what is okay for their child to watch and what age. at 4 and 5 I was watching scary movies on tv, and hardly batted an eye at Maleficient. I never had nightmares, but I was a weird kid. I think it needs to be a case by case basis. If your kid can handle the stronger stuff, fine, and if not, that’s fine, too.

    I’m 46 now, and other than an appreciation for exrtreme horror both written and filmed, I think I’m fine 😀

    • daughter

      May 29, 2012 at 6:07 pm

      that’s it. it’s up to the individual parent to decide for their children. not for other parents to judge and ridicule based on their own, “i watched this, my child watch this, and we are just fine, so you are stupid and controlling” thing.

  55. son

    May 30, 2012 at 12:27 am

    Thus is why kids start having sex and drink alcohol at the age of 14

  56. Emily

    May 30, 2012 at 5:29 pm

    This is terrible. Censorship is NEVER okay at any age. Stop sheltering your kids and let them experience the real world. And the scenes this awful mom wants to censor are the most poignant, beautiful, and memorable of the movie. They were my favourite scenes as a kid. How dare she strip that away from her child?

    • daughter

      May 30, 2012 at 5:42 pm

      Seriously? can i please show your children all of the Friday the 13th movies, the Freddy movies? i’m sure they would LOVE Hanibal Lector! and the beach would be such a hoot for them if i could show them Jaws! Oooo, the Texas Chain Saw Massacre, and Saw! and let’s move out from movies, there are some wonderful websites i think they would Adore! you’re so right, censorship is horrible, let’s prove it now! we’ll experiment with your children first.

    • NotThumper

      June 2, 2012 at 9:49 am

      Seriously daughter? You are comparing Friday the 13th to a fucking Disney film.

      Grow up.

    • daughter

      June 3, 2012 at 5:55 pm

      no movie comparison is being made. the comment is on censorship. keep up.

    • Nat

      June 6, 2012 at 11:16 pm

      @ daughter – big difference between Disney films and adult horror films.. we have a rating system for a reason and I’m sure Emily’s comment was in the current context of censoring films made for kids.

      Having said that, my dad brought my sister and I up on Friday the 13th and the Halloween movies. The Exorcist was one of the first movies I watched as a small child. Yeah, it freaked me the hell out but he was sure to make us understand it was all make-believe. My sister and I are big horror buffs now. On the flipside, my (very religious) aunt and uncle sheltered my cousin from many movies and one day, when he was 12, he stayed with us while we watched The Stand. The poor kid thought the devil in the movie was the actual devil. He had no concept of make-believe. We had to explain movies weren’t real life and these were just actors, but even then he doubted us.

      Kids need to understand death and loss, good and bad, at some point and I think Disney movies are probably the better way to go in getting that across!

    • Jennifer

      June 13, 2012 at 5:53 pm

      I did watch Carrie, The Shining, Nightmare, Psycho, etc as a kid. My family liked movies and they EXPLAINED IT TO ME WHAT A MOVIE WAS. They even showed me what “film” is so I understood.

      And my brother was fine with me watching “The Omen” while watching his son. And he grew up to be an honor student. So no harm done.

    • Lacy

      June 15, 2012 at 4:04 am

      Emily that is a ridiculous thing to say. She isn’t stripping anything away from her child, and she can censor whatever the hell she wants because it’s HER KID. The girl is 4 years old. She never said that she wasn’t EVER going to be allowed to watch these scenes, just that she didn’t think she was ready for them yet.

  57. Meg

    May 30, 2012 at 6:07 pm

    Like my parents before me, I would use these times to discuss things with my child. Life is hard, and there will be some scary times to come….why cut out all the other fun and good that comes with those movies? Maybe not all of them in a marathon, but I know plenty of kids who have seen these movies without being traumatized for life.
    Kids aren’t stupid…they understand a lot more than you think, and hiding them from the world is going to be a hindrance at some point.
    But, this is your child, and your decision. Just be prepared when they come home from school because someone teased them because they haven’t seen Beauty and the Beast.

  58. THINNA

    May 31, 2012 at 1:55 am

    I agree with you in a sense becasue your girl is very little and perhaps cannot understand those parts of the movies. But as many people have commented, that is part of life and we cannot pretend it does not happen (like death or sad stuff). If you decide to censor scences of movies, when is it going to be the day when you will show her the true? that is the day when she will be affected. I think it is better to watch the whole thing and just be there with them, especially when they are little to be ready to explain any part of the movie they might not understand, or they might find confusing to undestand. And also be ready to forward the movie in case there is a scene that upsets the child!!!

  59. Jori

    May 31, 2012 at 6:03 pm

    I grew up knowing real life grief and hardship. My family struggled as I grew up and I have always known about death, anger, dangers, abuse, etc. However, Cruella Deville scared the heck out of me as did the scene in Snow White, the Maleficent scenes never scared me though I found that movie rather boring. I remember being so afraid of Dumbo my mother had to stop it (same with Cruella ). I found Fantasia all creepy but I enjoyed the film as a child. Lion King was beautifully made, and I enjoyed all of it, even the creepy bits and sad parts. I see these films as watch at own risk if your child is afraid of it turn it off, and tell them it’s OK and find something else. Pretending like it doesn’t exist though?

  60. Kamira

    June 1, 2012 at 9:37 am

    When I was 7 I had no idea Mufasa died..a four year old probably wouldn’t get that either..and if they do..it’s a fictional feline

  61. Carin

    June 4, 2012 at 3:28 am

    I guess I am a bit on the sensitive side, but the whole bambi-thing nearly killed me as a four year old, and I still cannot think about Dumbo without crying about her mother. I am much better with movies I saw when I was older (e.g. 101 Dalmations and Lion King). I think I was emotionally better equiped to deal with death and scary stuff then. So, good for you if you know your child well enough to guide her through the difficult side of life, and, even if I turned out completely fine (according to myself…) I actually wished my parents sensored a few scenes when I was really small.

    • daughter

      June 4, 2012 at 4:03 am

      Thank you.

  62. tracey

    June 8, 2012 at 2:19 pm

    i just wanna say that kids shouldnt be censored from g rated movies.. they are kids.. they need every part of their childhood and i think your four year old would understand the meaning of the movie if you yourself explained what the scene means.. yes meany kids view things different and take it in differently but.. its a part of life that we all cant escape from.. one way or another we all have to experience bad things and by you explaining to your daughter the bad things she will be more prepared to handle them.. kids who get sheltered turn out to be the most rebels.. disney movies are for kids movies are movies disney movies are fiction.. the princesses and the villian all those movies were written and made into a movie for KIDS.. kids who get sheltered by crazy overprotective mothers grow up to be pretty timid anti social.. or they turn into rebels and sneak out live the crazy life.. dont do that to your child you are insane and pretty stupid for doing this

  63. jesse

    June 10, 2012 at 2:51 am

    You are all a bunch of idiots. Grow up and let your children watch Disney movies. If you don’t think that your kid can handle watching a cartoon lion die, or seeing something “sad” in a movie that WILL have a happy ending, then you must have already screwed them up enough for a lifetime. Do yourselves a favor and get off your high horse about being mother or father of the year and let your kids live their lives. I would have hated my parents for sheltering me the way some of you people shelter your children.

  64. Shep

    June 10, 2012 at 1:30 pm

    I feel that a better way is to choose which movies your child is ready for, and then letting them watch the whole thing. Taking out scenes, especially those that are sad, are really stunting a child’s ability to deal with things emotionally. Does your child ever stay with the babysitter, or other family members? What if you haven’t told them she can’t watch certain scenes. Are they supposed to know you don’t want your child to be that grief stricken over a movie? So, let’s say they watch the Lion King. Suddenly, they’ve been surprised by this movie they thought they knew and it’s much worse than if YOU walked them through it and explained why he died, or what you think is appropriate. Teach your child it’s okay to be sad, but things will always get better. Then you’ve had some foundation when your dog gets hit by a car or grandpa dies.

  65. Kat

    June 10, 2012 at 6:25 pm

    I do not understand the parents that try to hide these things from their children. I grew up watching all of the bad things in Disney movies, and if I was upset they were explained to me. Bad things happen in real life, and Disney, not to mention almost all cartoon movie companies, include such things because they are focusing on real life events. I knew someone who did not let their child watch that scene in Lion King, and when she saw it she was not traumatized or anything else, but she accepted it. Your preschooler should be fine to watch Disney. Grown adults are the ones who analyze the movies with fine combing, but children will not care. This is almost as stupid as most of the hype about “sexual innuendos” in kid’s movies. It will happen eventually, so why not just let them see what was MADE for children instead of being a mom with something shoved up her bum.

    • Amy

      June 12, 2012 at 12:11 am

      Here’s the thing: kids under a certain age can’t actually discern the difference between the flickering images on a screen and reality.That has to do with the development of the brain and science and shit.So,as a parent,you want to let your child enjoy the art of film,right? Absolutely.But as a responsible intelligent parent you want to wait until your child is ready (not just for the content of the film but for the running time of an hour plus of focused viewing) to expose your child to this medium.I think a lot of folks on this thread have drank the Disney Kool-Aid and it takes on the power of America,mother’s milk and beyond.Look,they are just movies.Not necessarily intended for pre-schoolers.Probably more intended for kids ages 6 and up.But if people are desperate to put their kids in front of the t.v ,you can’t stop them.Just don’t get name calling on those who are more willing to wait to expose very young children to darker themes.It’s not coming from a place of over protective-ness.It’s coming from a place of being in tune with the developmental needs of very young children.

    • daughter

      June 12, 2012 at 7:38 am

      Thank You Amy! I love when people see the truth!!!!

    • Charles

      June 13, 2012 at 12:22 pm

      Daughter: YOUR truth, not necessarily THE truth.

    • daughter

      June 14, 2012 at 4:50 am

      as far as brain development goes. yeah. it is.

    • Colleen

      July 6, 2012 at 8:45 pm

      Amy and daughter…I’m sorry you feel that way.

      And yes, these movies are very much intended for children of any age – fairy tales were created to instill the society’s rules into kids, and when the child is still developing is when their mind is ripe to really retain these things.

      This has nothing to do with “Disney Kool-Aid” and everything to do with whether you want to shield your kids from themes in movies that deal with real issues they will be confronted with in life, or whether you want them to be able to deal with these things as they come up, by letting them be exposed to things in a controlled setting, with you available to answer questions, explain, and put things into context when your child doesn’t understand something.

      You talk about child development, but based on what your comments are, I’m not sure you really understand what that entails exactly. I don’t know what your credentials are, but I can tell you from both an academic and a professional standpoint that I disagree with you.

      I’m not saying it’s 100% wrong to shield your preschooler from a scene in a movie that makes you uncomfortable. This is not a black-and-white issue. It’s your own parenting decision to make. What I AM saying is that a lot of people heartily disagree with that practice, and their reasons are also completely valid.

  66. lolwut

    June 12, 2012 at 2:02 am

    This is why we’re now a nation of pussies.

  67. Charles

    June 13, 2012 at 12:19 pm

    This is ridiculous. If your kid can’t handle scenes from the movie, pick a different movie entirely.

    However, I have this image in my head of you still hovering over the damned remote of whatever kind of device we’re watching movies with when your kid is 12. Still looking to hit that magic SKIP so that the death/scary part is still edited out.

    When are you planning on showing your child the REAL movie? When will the kid ever be deemed ready to see it?

    What a blow it will be to your child to grow up and discover, LONG after her peers, that there are actually parts of movies that make you sad? Jesus! It’s really going to hit her when she experiences distress while watching a movie for the first time and she has No. Idea. It’s. Coming.

    You may see it as good parenting. I see it as a poor decision.

    • Jessica Danielle Cannon

      February 8, 2013 at 7:47 pm

      Agreed! Pretty much EVERY other ‘princess’ and ‘Disney’ article on this website complains about Disney hyper-feminising little girls until they believe a woman adopts just a traditional role of waiting passively for her prince.

      This article points out the lie there. Disney ain’t the problem. If you seriously watch these and think: “Oooh, scary,” then YOU are disempowering your daughter.

      “Honey, (now) you are not brave enough, nor are you adventurous enough, or resilient enough to overcome any of the great tragedies in life. These passive princesses, waiting for some prince to bring light in their life are – you just aren’t.” Why not try to find out how brave and powerful and empathetic your daughter is, by giving her a chance?

    • Brandon Roberts

      February 17, 2014 at 1:42 am

      oh its just movies shave your armpits grow up and shut up with your idiotic psycho babble you think thats bad read the grimm brothers ones they are much much more graphic

    • Brandon Roberts

      February 17, 2014 at 1:40 am

      yes but it is her child my parents let me see these movies and it did not screw me up and i think the egg scene in finding nemo is more traumatic or disturbing than any of this

  68. Patricia

    June 13, 2012 at 12:32 pm

    I’ve watched every scene in these movies since I was a kid. I only have a 4 month old so I guess I view things as far as what’s okay to show her different. I honestly don’t see the harm in seeing these things. I saw them when I was very young. Lion King was an in the theater show for me.

    I understand you wanting to shield your daughter from it. I just don’t agree with it. And that’s totally fine. That’s the glory of parenting, everyone does it different.

  69. Melissa

    June 13, 2012 at 12:50 pm

    I understand the impulse to protect your children from pain and suffering, but isn’t it better for them to learn to handle these situations while you’re still around to support and explain? You daughter is tougher than you might expect. I’m not suggesting you let her watch anything above a G rating, but maybe if you and she can watch Bambi and talk about how it makes you feel, she can start to learn an emotional vocabulary and gain insight into how she feels by listening to you talk about how YOU feel.

    I recommend reading Bruno Bettelheim’s excellent book, “The Uses of Enchantment”, which argues for the importance of fairy tales (even violent ones) in child development. It’s a fascinating read, and might give you a different understanding of this type of symbolism.

  70. Jim

    June 13, 2012 at 1:08 pm

    your a crazy fuckin mom. your poor kid is going to grow up into a little pussy scared of her own shadow. let your kid grow up stop being such a lazy ass because you’ll have to explain stuff she mite not understand now, just explain it anyways and tell her why instead of making her a pussy ass bitch that everyone will pick on in school when shes older

    • Lauren

      July 12, 2012 at 2:25 am

      ok now there is no need to call a 4 year old a “pussy ass bitch”, and also no need to call her crazy, and i don’t mean to upset you by not really liking your comment, but i just believe it’s not right to call these people these names, and she said she doesn’t think her daughter’s ready to see these scenes yet, but someday she will see that she is. Maybe when the daughter’s 5 or 6.

  71. Jennifer

    June 13, 2012 at 5:51 pm

    You have GOT to be kidding me. Are you still going to be this overprotective when your kid hits 18? 21? 35? I’m just shaking my head.

    Good luck when your kid learns what real life is. When I watched CARRIE and THE SHINING as a kid (my brothers had me watch), my parents told me – “it’s only a movie but if you have any questions let me know”…..

    And wow, I grew up to be a normal, upstanding citizen with no real hang ups.

    I can’t even BEGIN to imagine what your psycho, over-protective mind does to books.

    • Stefanie

      June 14, 2012 at 1:13 am

      I agree with you Jennifer!! The fact that this lady is sheltering her kid from some of these life lessons is way more unsettling than these movie scenes!!

  72. Hilary1701

    June 18, 2012 at 10:04 pm

    I had seen all of these movies IN FULL including the scenes you refuse to show your daughter by the time I was four and I’m totally fine. Never once did I get upset or scared. Just asked my mom and she agreed that I was totally fine with them.

  73. Sarah-Jane

    June 21, 2012 at 4:22 pm

    The scenes are there to educate your small children about the horrors of everyday life in a situation they will pay attention to and understand. Good luck explaining a family member’s death when she has no idea what death is.

    • Janelle

      September 3, 2012 at 5:59 pm

      That’s what pets are for. Why would you want your child to relate his grandmother’s death to a comical disney movie??

  74. Eddy

    June 26, 2012 at 6:32 am

    I grew up watching and loving these cartoons, and didn’t grow up traumatized or distorted.

    • Lisap

      July 5, 2012 at 9:46 pm

      Yeah, plus you would be amazed at what kids do and do no remember. Pretty much everyone I know hated Bambi because we all knew his mom dies, yet the only scenes I actually remember from the movie are him finding Flower in the field and him realizing he is a buck.

      And we always loved the chase scene in 101 Dalmatians yet were pretty upset when the talked about skinning the puppies. Still loved the movie and watched it repeatedly though. Still remember the Twilight Bark scene the best.

  75. Trevor

    June 29, 2012 at 1:24 am

    I was five or less, for sure, when I saw Dumbo, so I can tell you without any shadow of a doubt, the pink elephants are extremely disturbing. Extremely. You have no reference for them artistically as a kid, all you see are empty eye sockets, things that you have no reference for, frightening lyrics, sounds, and images, and its total insanity to you. This scene was horrifying as a kid.

    Other one that completely scared me was Bald Mountain in Fantasia.

    And this one may not be everyone, but I think if a child is just young enough it too can be brutally frightening – Ursella steals peoples SOULS and turns them into wretched mud things with no eyes, FOREVER. That was terrifying to a lot of kids. Then she steals Ariels voice, and all kids fear losing body parts or parts of themselves, the whole picture is your soul can be stolen from you.

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  77. Tracy

    July 5, 2012 at 4:52 pm

    Is this an American thing? In the Caribbean, children start school at 3, are reading really welll by 6, getting homework, beginning to learn about writing an essay, etc. etc. I went to college in Iowa, was forced to do a ‘College Reading and Writing’ course because it was ‘required’ as part of the liberal arts core, realised that most…no wait, NONE of the American students had a grasp of good essay writing skills (some actually put the word ‘awesome’ in a descriptive essay), don’t know the difference between ‘there’ and their’ and so on, and the closest to classic literature that any of them had come to was ‘To Kill a Mockingbird’, apparently the only novel read by the American Teenager.

    My son watched the Lion King at about 4, asked questions throughout and I explained whatever he wasn’t clear on. At 3 his favourite Disney Movie was Sleeping Beauty, I had to replay the scene with Millicent over and over just for him. He’s also seen the entire Lord of the Rings Trilogy by 4 and half, every Harry Potter, LOVES the third one with the werewolf, has seen the Corpse Bride, loves that too and why? I don’t overreact to any of the above. With Lord of the Rings I just said ‘man those things are ugly, don’t you think’ and he said ‘yes, you’re telling me’. No big deal. If I acted like it was scary or told him he couldn’t see it because it was scary or tried ot skip the scene (which he would notice), I would make it worse than it actually is. The monster you imagine is worse than the one you see.

    Right now his favourite show is Discovery’s Frozen Planet and yeah, animals fight and die in that for real, no happy little cartoon thing, but you know, other animals have to eat, live, etc. it’s life, and no, my child does not have any behavoiour problems but does have an amazing imagination and can tell a stroy that lasts for half an hour…and he has an attention span to watch all of the above movies in one sitting, paying attention.

    This concept of ‘preschoolers’ in America being these little babyish things who can’t handle anything more than ‘Dora the Explorer’ telling them to do the same thing at least five times is beyond me, ‘hooked on phonics’ wouldn’t have to work for anyone if people would treat their children like human beings and talk sensibly to them, not above them but with them, too many parents drag their children along like these mindless little things. If more 6 year olds could have the scope to see and understand every Disney movie then there wouldn’t be any such thing as reality TV because no one would grow up to be that stupid.

    • Colleen

      July 6, 2012 at 8:33 pm

      Tracy, I have to say, I really wish every parent thought like you do. I completely agree with everything you had to say. I may not have children of my own yet, but I never understood this ridiculous idea of treating children like fragile little things that need to be shielded from the world at every turn. How do you expect them to learn how the world really is and to grow into a capable and well-rounded adult, if you try to make them think everything is sunshine and rainbows and lovely happiness?

      Yes, there will be some things that will scare your child – everyone gets scared of something sometimes. But don’t decide FOR them what is frightening. I worked in childcare for about three years, and I always treated the kids there (ranging in ages from 2-12) like what they are…people. Young and small people, sure, but they’re every bit as human as an adult, except this is when they are most open to learning.

      People would be very surprised at what their children are capable of understanding if they just talked to and treated them with more honesty and trust. Your kid is eventually going to be confronted with all the things you find unpleasant and “age-inappropriate” – wouldn’t you rather they be able to face those things already understanding them, or are you really okay with knowing that because of you, they don’t have the ability to cope?

    • Janelle

      September 3, 2012 at 5:57 pm

      I don’t think people think their children are incapable, they think that if their children are going to have to deal with a lifetime of sorrow, why start them out early? Why do you have to get your child used to pain?

    • Talia Gamble

      May 15, 2013 at 11:12 am

      I want to give you the HUGEST hug right now. I Love You!

    • Elyse Ireland

      December 20, 2013 at 10:51 am

      Thank you so much!! I believe you nailed so much of what I have witnessed and dealt with. I have never hidden the “scary” scenes from my children. If they didn’t understand something they asked and I explained it. Children react to what we show them. If we appear afraid, they will mimic that behavior and in turn make it appear as their own fear. Over time it will manifest into a real fear for them. Talking to our children has gone to the wayside and preparing them for life seems to have vanished. I completely understand when you were talking about your experience in college. Even in some of my Masters degree classes there were individuals that were incapable of answering a discussion question academically. The spelling and grammatical errors reminded me of Jr. High school again. It is embarrassing to see what is happening with future generations and how they are being coddled and pampered. They will never be capable of handling the real world if they are not prepared and have not learned how life works. Death in Disney films made it much easier for me to explain and my children to understand when their grandpa died. They were more capable of expression and they understood that sorrow is acceptable and life must continue to go on for those still living. They grieved and talked and now they discuss memories and happy times. It is all in how the parent handles the situation that dictates how the child will.

  78. MEH27

    July 5, 2012 at 11:49 pm

    I think the bottom line is that parents have a responsibility to judge what is best for their own child…kids aren’t all the same. Sure *I* might think its stupid for a parent to shelter (or in some cases, not shelter) their kids from something in a movie, but it’s ultimately not my business. My daughter is 4 and has seen all of the movies posted by the author-no censoring-except Dumbo and Pinnocchio, because I have never liked those two. She has been watching Star Wars since two and is fine with it, but there are other movies that scare her…took her to see Brave and she was scared of the bears. I just keep an eye on her and judge what she can and cannot handle.

  79. TB

    July 11, 2012 at 7:08 pm

    I’m surprised that you’re uncomfortable with Jumbo’s rampage, but didn’t even notice the song in Hunchback of Notre Dame where Frollo where he demands Esmeralda become his mistress or else be condemned to hell by the hand of the government.

    • Nitpicker

      November 3, 2012 at 4:28 pm

      Hunchback is not a Disney Movie

    • Rachel Dutton

      November 8, 2012 at 10:00 pm

      It DEFINITELY is……

  80. Lauren

    July 12, 2012 at 2:19 am

    ok i’m sorry but some of the comments on here… i mean people come on!! i was never kept away from these scenes myself, but that doesn’t mean it’s wrong to. some people on here say they grew up normal but that doesn’t mean this little girl won’t either. some scared me when i was little, about four, like the snow white scene in the woods. that always scared me SO BAD. but now, when this mother reads some of these comments, she’ll think her daughter will grow up not normal, but she will. so i just want to say, stop with the mean comments.

  81. Yasmin

    July 25, 2012 at 4:33 am

    There is nothing wrong with any of this, what, do you want to raise up a wuss?

  82. Anonymous

    July 25, 2012 at 4:43 pm

    You’re a dumb Bitch

  83. Kayla

    July 26, 2012 at 10:36 am

    Feel very bad for your daughter. I’m 24 and grew up with all these movies and I turned out to be a perfectly normal human being. Being that young you don’t even realize how sad or violent they are. The Lion King is still one of my favorite movies, I am so glad my parents didn’t withhold it from me.

    • Chelsea

      August 2, 2012 at 5:22 am

      I disagree. While I personally wouldn’t censor them, there are quite a few scenes mentioned here that as a child I fully understood the gravity of the situation. Pleasure Island was horrific to me as a little girl and I cried for WEEKS after Mufasa died. Heck, I still do. I wasn’t scarred or anything and it had very little impact, if any, on my emotional development as a child, but I was acutely aware of how sad or violent they were. I agree with the rest of your statement, just not that bit.

    • Janelle

      September 3, 2012 at 5:54 pm

      she’s not saying withhold, she’s saying save it for later so her daughter doesn’t have to be sad now.

  84. Mister

    July 27, 2012 at 2:36 pm

    You do realize this article is just as over the top stupid as the parents you mock daily don’t you? Yea, you are one of them.

    • Janelle

      September 3, 2012 at 5:56 pm

      WHY DO YOU CARE? Her little girl is 4, why do you care if a mom lets her
      FOUR YEAR OLD stay innocent for a little longer? What is the harm in
      letting a little girl not be sad until later? If you want
      your child to cry at 4 because you did, good for you. DO THAT. Why do you
      feel the need to make this mom feel bad just because she wants to
      shield her daughter?

  85. GM Slane

    July 29, 2012 at 11:55 pm

    I am twenty years old college student and I was raised on these movies. I was not traumatized from seeing these scenes. Do I think you are raising your child wrong? I cannot place my judgement on that. Do I feel there are things children should not be exposed to? Certainly. But Disney does provide a perfect chance to explain to your child the facts of life such as Death. Now you can’t look me dead in the eye and say you intend to shield your child from the harsh reality that everyone of us in this world is going to keel over and die. These are great teaching tools for children. We are put on this planet for such a short amount of time and during that time we touch others in ways in which we live on through them. This is a key theme in the Lion King. If you don’t let your child watch the bad she will never learn the beautiful side that comes out of a bad situation, for example, when there is a forest fire but the forest regrows and life blossoms out of the ashes ( Bambi). If you keep it bad and it stays bad. Then she will only know BAD. Its the meaning you’re putting on it not Disney.

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  87. jer-z-ma

    July 30, 2012 at 3:28 pm

    Wow…You know, every mom has the right to do what she thinks is best for her kids. Unless there is something really awful happening I am not one to really care about what other parents are doing. But um, no. I don’t fast foward thru the ‘sad’ or scary parts like you say. And it sounds like you are really not giving your daughter much credit. Dont get me wrong. You know her better than any of us do, shes your kid. You know what she can and cant handle. But I watched every single one of these scenes as a kid and I would have no problem showing them to a 4 year old. Lighten up. Its not that serious. *IF* you showed her and she got scared? thats a totally different situation and very understandable. But just automatically censoring because your daugher cant “handle” these scenes, (which by the way, pleasure island? Cruella de ville? really? These go up on the list with mufasas plunge to his death? ) is really overprotective and coddling IMO.

    Kids have more resilience and intelligence than we give them credit for and while there are definitely lines of what is and is not appropriate for kids at each age, I think that the tone of your article which implies A-that we all agree that these scenes are awful and B-that this is a normal thing that “everybody does” instead of a perhaps a little bit bizarre and unnecessary form of oversheltering your kids, is a little bit off putting. I’m not putting the blame of an entire generation of spineless, babied children on you, because that is just stupid and eye-roll worthy. But I do think that parenting attitudes like this that are becoming more prevalent these days, have a lot to do with the, for lack of a better word, “pussification” of today’s kids. (Sorry, but I just cant think of a better word right now! Baby brain drain!) I could keep going but I’ll wrap it up here before my comment gets too long.

  88. Adelaide

    August 8, 2012 at 12:20 pm

    I do not think that these scenes should be censored from your young daughter. Some things she won’t even understand for years to come. Other things such as death and sickness should not be kept a secret from your child. That is something VERY important that should be discussed with your children. Yes, at the age of four the concept is not very comprehendible, but in a year or two it will be and the subject should be talked about. I had a parent die when I was five years old and although it was hard to understand at first eventually I did. And I’m not gonna lie, Disney movies such as the Lion King really helped me to cope with it(along with family members). Sheltering your children too much now will have negative emotional effects when they are older or when they do experience these situations. Death is not something that can be avoided.

  89. Arisi Foxe

    August 9, 2012 at 2:06 pm

    I watched every classic Disney movie as a kid. The only scene that ever made me cry or mildly distressed was that scene in Fox and the Hound when the old lady leaves Todd in the forest. I STILL can’t watch that one. But Mufasa’s death, the fire scene in Bambi, when Cruella goes off the deep end? Those never bothered me in the slightest. Stop treating your kid like this! “My daughter would never go hiking again” if she saw that scene in Snow White? Seriously? That’s because of how you’re raising her. It’s the same as raising her to be terrified of dogs. Knock it off and let her make her own decisions.

  90. Dani

    August 10, 2012 at 1:19 am

    Very overprotective parents. Children need to realize, even at a young age that the world isnt all happy, sugarplums and fairies.

  91. AnonymousMe

    August 14, 2012 at 10:45 pm

    Oh God!
    These scenes are so terrifying! O_O But, of course, she won’t have a problem with
    Hellfire in “The Hunchback of Notre Dame;” a much less scarier scene and totally
    appropriate for children ^_^

  92. Judith K Littles

    August 18, 2012 at 8:57 pm

    I totally agree with you about every scene you mentioned. I still hate the Mustafa death scene. It ruins the whole movie for me and I’m forty!

  93. Bytegurl

    August 20, 2012 at 2:36 pm

    Personally i disagree. I was shown every one of these films as a child… the Lion King was my all time favorite movie as a 2 year old up to now, and i never missed a scene. I think i grew up pretty well, and i don’t have any irrational fears because of it. If you don’t think that every scene in a film is a good thing for your child to see, you shouldn’t let them see any part of the movie until they’re older. Because they didn’t see every part of the movie, if you wait until they’re older to show them the scene, they’ll be extremely confused.

  94. Andrew Craig

    August 20, 2012 at 6:29 pm

    Well, Lindsay Cross, looks like everybody disagrees with you. Time to show your daughter the real movies. And, I’m going to go out on a limb here, but go ahead and throw away the purell and antibacterial soap too. And the lysol.

  95. Brandi Moon

    August 23, 2012 at 12:03 am

    My daughter is two and cries when Littlefoot’s mother dies in The Land Before Time. Js.

  96. amzy

    August 24, 2012 at 1:02 pm

    with all respect, i’m not trying to sound rude but the purpose of the disney movies is to teach children about these things, hiding it from her could make her even more scared when she is older

  97. Mandi B

    August 26, 2012 at 2:06 am

    Yeah, I don’t remember the bad stuff and I grew up watching the movies. I just loved the princesses and the story. Remember life isn’t all fairytales, bad stuff happens too!

  98. Fluffy_1

    August 26, 2012 at 8:09 pm

    If you think those are bad, then I recommend that you NEVER let your daughter watch “Watership Down”. Oh god no.

    Having said that, I watched it as a kid and was fine with it, cuz I’d read the book beforehand and knew it had rabbits fighting and getting killed in it. Not at four, tho.

  99. Maddie

    August 26, 2012 at 10:30 pm

    Seriously? They’re Disney movies for christssake! More than a few generations were raised on these movies and more than a few of us turned out just fine. I get your daughter is young, but there’s no need to keep classic movies away from her. These scenes are what make the movies! It shows that not everything is rainbows and sunshine. Your daughter will learn that sooner rather than later. It’s almost better that she learns it around trusted family versus people who won’t give a damn if she is frightened.

  100. Mew Mew

    August 27, 2012 at 11:05 pm

    I really hope you’re joking about this, or else you are just a horrible horrible woman and mother. How pathetic is it to keep scenes from cartoons away from your child? How is she ever going to learn how to deal with things that might be a little sad or scary if you never let her see anything but sunshine and rainbows everywhere she goes? It is your job as a parent to teach your child how to handle things, and you’re doing the exact opposite by keeping her from anything that might upset her. She’d never go hiking after seeing that scene in Snow White? Sure she won’t, if you teach her that the woods are scary and you should never go near them. If she never goes hiking after seeing that scene, it’s because you failed as a parent, not because the movie was too much for her.

  101. Sarah

    August 28, 2012 at 8:48 pm

    I am totally with you! I have a 4 year old son. These scenes are not entertaining or of educational value to a pre-schooler. There are much more sensitive, age-appropriate ways to teach your child about death, animal cruelty, mental illness, etc, if it’s so important that the child know about them. I’m not even sure it is necessary for preschoolers, if it’s not an immediate real-life situation–and then in that case there would be some actual concrete, relevant information to give them, rather than plopping them down in front of a cartoon.

  102. Janelle

    September 3, 2012 at 5:53 pm

    I have a comment for every one of you who think this mom is ridiculous. WHY DO YOU CARE? Her little girl is 4, why do you care if a mom lets her FOUR YEAR OLD stay innocent for a little longer? What is the harm in letting a little girl not be sad until later? Why does everyone have an ugly opinion on how someone else should raise their child? If you want your child to cry at 4 because you did, good for you. DO THAT. Why do you feel the need to make this mom feel bad just because she wants to shield her daughter? What kind of world are we living in? Seriously…

  103. imagenscape

    September 4, 2012 at 1:56 pm

    I let my kid watch all of thoes, why should I keep her in a bubble? Sooner or later she will have to know that there are bad and sad things ouut there, better she learn about it now ewhile I’m around to talk to her about them then when shes out there all by herself. Isnt that what parenting is, getting your child ready to face the real world?
    this is as stupid as in day cares the little old lady that swallowed the fly dosent die, she gets a stomach ache, and little bunny foo foo was picking up field mice and kissing them on the head.
    All theses things were made to get kids prepaired for what is out there. Yet in this day and age, we treat children like glass, and one day there going to break.

  104. WhiteGrapeJuice

    September 7, 2012 at 7:12 pm

    I am so glad my parents didn’t shield me from every flipping thing. Innuendo went straight over my head. As for scary images, whatever.

  105. Deb

    September 12, 2012 at 8:10 pm

    I’m a childless 22 year old woman, but I wanted to throw my hat into the ring here. I grew up watching many of the movies you mention in your list – Lion King was possibly the first one I went to see in theaters. Can I tell you what you should allow YOUR daughter to watch? No, absolutely not. What I can say, however, is that these movies are a phenomenal gateway into the tough conversations that all parents needs to have with their children at some point. I’m the youngest, with two older brothers (one is 2 years older, the other is close to 14 years older). Between my parents and my brothers, I always knew what was real and what was fake – movies always fell on the fake side of things. We are not a family that openly communicated with each other, so these films really opened the door to bigger conversations. 101 Dalmations scared me as a child, but it opened my eyes – and I’m now a huge advocate against animal cruelty. While four years old is young, you must realize that you can’t shield your daughter forever. Maybe let her watch these films, but sit beside her and open a dialogue during the film, frequently making sure that she knows the difference between real and make believe.

  106. FunnyButNotReally

    September 20, 2012 at 10:28 pm

    This is a riot! Wow, funny that Fantasia was omitted not due to the RACISM, but dinosaur bones…

  107. KazaD

    October 5, 2012 at 10:03 pm

    Interesting that you don’t show your child the rampage scene in Dumbo, but you seem okay with the scene when all the mother elephants are picking on and bullying Dumbo. It’s the only Disney scene that made my 3 year old cry for days on end. She didn’t understand why an adult would pick on a child. She’s seen all the other scenes (barring the rest of Dumbo, as she couldn’t watch it anymore and still hasn’t to this day and she’s now 12) and they didn’t bother her, because she knew they were make believe and the death ones didn’t bother her because she’d already encountered death in the family by then.

  108. Mike

    October 21, 2012 at 6:20 pm

    What is wrong with you man, i grew up with those sense when i was 4 and younger, you are a bad parent, i feel sorry for your daughter, let her experience things,

  109. Nicole

    October 26, 2012 at 1:33 pm

    None of my movies were censored either. I didn’t get some of it-like Mufasa sleeping with Sarabi on the rock but all the other lionesses in the same room, or why Lady was so hurt that Tramp had “other friends”, but I saw Mufasa and Kerchak die, I saw the entirety of Beauty and the Beast, I knew what happened when Bambi’s mom didn’t follow him all the way to the thicket, and I’m the type of person who would feel cheated if suddenly I realized there was more to the movies. I saw the original Star Wars movies before I was six years old, too. (I’m twenty, by the way.)

    • Nicole

      October 26, 2012 at 1:33 pm

      And when I say “I didn’t get some of it” I mean I didn’t understand some of it.

  110. Sl Melodrama

    October 27, 2012 at 2:36 am

    I’m a bit puzzled though by how your daughter manages to watch the movies with entire scenes missing. Doesn’t she question you as to what happened? Not to be rude or anything, but if she really doesn’t realize that parts are missing then it could be a result of you actually dumbing her down and letting her watch a story regardless of whether she understands or not. I feel sorry for her.

    I watched Disney movies, sad parts and all, all the time. It helped me build up my empathy as a human being and gave me some depth as a person. That cannot be achieved by letting our children live a cutesy life all the time. I know your daughter is only 4 and it would be inappropriate if you showed her Saw or something at that age. But these are kids’ movies and you’re editing THAT too?! That is just unbelievable and counterproductive.

    • Kristy

      September 24, 2013 at 10:54 am

      My little cousin was sheltered similar to the child described in this article. Her mother never even let her watch a PG-13 movie until she was 17! As a result of being too sheltered, she couldn’t even read “Lord of the Flies” as a high school sophomore without crying and having nightmares. If a parent shelters their child too much with movies, then chances are they are sheltering them in other aspects of life. I wonder if the violence among youth today may be partially due to parents failing to allow their kids to experience small amounts of sadness and pain during early childhood? It’s easier to face pain for the first time as a young child than deal with it for the first time at 20.

  111. Heather

    October 29, 2012 at 10:23 am

    It is every parent’s perogative to decide what is and is not appropriate for their children to see. It comes from a) your general parenting beliefs, and b) knowing your specific child and how he/she will react to certain things. A movie scene that is the favorite of one 4-year-old might give another 4-year-old nightmares for months. (I loved The Jungle Book when I was four, but my brother wouldn’t watch it at the same age because he was terrified of the tiger). So, it’s perfectly reasonable to have scenes that you’d rather your child not see at any given time, whether they’re too scary, disagree with your religion, present issues that your child isn’t ready to discuss, and so on and so forth.
    However, if your child is not ready to handle a certain scene in a movie, I’d say to not allow your child to watch that movie until they are ready (the exception would be if they’ve ALREADY seen that part, got scared, but liked the rest of the movie, so you fast forward next time). It throws kids for a loop years down the road when they ARE ready for those scenes. What will happen when a kid who has been watching The Lion King since he/she was four, all of a sudden at age ten finds out that Mufasa is really dead and watches it for the first time? They might be more ready for the discussion of death and more understanding that the movie isn’t real, the scene itself might upset them less (depending on the child), but we now have the issue of his/her entire image of the movie being changed, dealing with the issue that they were lied to, etc. It reminds me of the episode of Friends where, as an adult, Phoebe finally found out what happened to Old Yeller (her parents had never shown her the end of the movie), and freaked out.

  112. Sally

    November 4, 2012 at 9:40 am

    So instead of explaining the difficult things about life that’s presented in movies, you avoid it. Don’t have time? Don’t know how? Don’t like feeling uncomfortable? If you’re avoiding wolves, branches, and death now, how are you going to talk about rape, violence, drugs later? Just going to fast forward through those parts too?

    Do not deny your child the knowledge that suffering is a very integral part of life.

    Maybe disney put those there on purpose to do you a favor and practice approaching difficult topics with your child. Otherwise, kids might grow into a world that doesn’t exist.

  113. Absolutely Horrified by This

    November 5, 2012 at 3:54 am

    Holy Cow. I’m so glad my mother wasn’t like this.

    The whole point to some of these films is showing that while life is sad, and sometimes horrible things DO happen, life goes on and we move on and we grow. What meaning is there in a Lion King where Mufasa doesn’t die, or where Bambi’s mother isn’t shot by hunters? If my mother had done this to me, I would be asking where they went. Suddenly they are just abandoned by these parents who are never seen again? These movies let children see young surrogates coping with horrible situations, pain and loss. These animals don’t crawl into holes and become empty shells. They survive, they thrive, the meet new friends and they get on with their lives. Any movie that must be censored shouldn’t be shown until the child is old enough to see it! What – at seven your daughter goes on a sleep over and they watch The Lion King, and your child sees Mufasa die while with strangers? That’s going to be one hell of a night for her! Movies she’s come to love will suddenly be horrors for her. What’s wrong with crying and being comforted by mom?

    It reminds me of that scene in ‘Friends’ where they are watching Old Yeller and Phoebe’s grandmother had always turned it off before he is killed. She was horrified when she saw it for the first time as an adult. And she is then left wondering what else had been hidden from her. Life isn’t all sunshine and rainbows without sadness. There are wonder discussions to be had when a parent explains to a child what some of these things mean. It is also preparation for life as it really is, and how to cope with it.

  114. Guest

    November 8, 2012 at 9:51 pm

    Pleasure Island????

    • Anonymous

      June 9, 2013 at 2:42 am

      Haha, she meant Treasure Island

    • Guest

      October 5, 2013 at 3:04 pm

      No, Pleasure Island is the one all the boys are sent to in Pinocchio

  115. Rachel Dutton

    November 8, 2012 at 9:57 pm

    I personally grew up watching all of those scenes, and to be perfectly honest, they were neither terrifying nor traumatizing to me. As a matter of fact, those were scenes that we don’t at all understand as children but comprehend as adults and still enjoy it. That’s the magic of Disney. So, yes, I would say that you’re being far too protective, and if your daughter is truly that sensitive, imagine what the darker sides of life might present to her in much more vividness than cartoons offer. I’m not saying desensitize the shit out of her and show her the Exorcist (which I would assume would happen over your dead body), but I think you’ve got a safe enough bet with Disney. From what the majority of everyone else has said, Disney and their talent have absolutely nothing on “horror” as they do for a child’s entertainment. Your daughter isn’t an iPhone, for God’s sake – drop her and she’ll bounce just fine. Let her see every minute of those movies.

  116. Rachel Dutton

    November 8, 2012 at 9:59 pm

    Uh, because the world is the epitome of social “survival of the fittest”, and plus, life is one big fat headache as it is – the sooner a child can experience it and learn to recover and contend, the better?

  117. SMiaVS

    November 9, 2012 at 4:05 pm

    So, the scary bits aren’t okay, but the racist bits in films like The Jungle Book and Dumbo don’t bother you? Mmmkay….

  118. Anonymous

    November 10, 2012 at 12:17 pm

    I don’t think that you should be holding these scenes back from your daughter just because they may have traumatized you before. They’re not even that scary. And if you’re going to be shielding her from these scenes, might as well not show her the whole movie. She’s not even going to be getting the whole story anyways. She’s going to think Snow White is about a girl who randomly met dwarfs and got kissed by a prince. No problems at all, just the perfect ending without anything happening.

  119. Roxanne

    November 17, 2012 at 2:31 pm

    Not letting your daughter watch particular scenes from a Disney movie is lame overprotectiveness. Disney movies are for children. I watched them when I was a kid and I turned out just fine. I hope you’re not one of those demented soccer moms that think their precious little bundle of joy shouldn’t shed a tear in life before they turn 18 or else…I pity your daughter. When you decide she is ”ready” to watch these scenes she will be so ungry at you and embarassed that her friends knew about them except for her.

  120. Doctor Xap

    November 24, 2012 at 7:20 pm

    Every kid is different. Some kids are fine, others totally melt-down at the same scene. Those that melt-down may be fine the following year. One size does not fit all, especially when it comes to emotional development. What is amazing to me is the vitriol with which people attack each other on this site. Perhaps some of the people who were “just fine” may not have learned the best lessons on how to get along with their fellow human beings after all.

  121. Ibad Rao

    December 5, 2012 at 9:16 am

    I agree with the writer. I can understand her fair . My Mom also did the same thing with me and my sis and now when I am a youth I think my Mom did the right thing. Concerned people should take care selecting each and every scene while making movies for kids.

  122. Jenna

    December 29, 2012 at 12:21 pm

    It’ll be pretty awful if something happens in the four-year-old’s real life that makes her sad and she hasn’t learn how to deal with emotional trauma in a safe environment. It’s like parents who replaced dead pets because they don’t want to explain death to their child; but then grandma dies and the whole situation is an awful lot worse.Scary and sad scense in G-Rated films are good for emotional development because it allows children to experience those emotions on a smaller scale in a setting that doesn’t effect them.

    • Lovely

      May 11, 2013 at 1:07 am

      Disney movies are not intended to aide you in raising your child and “helping” them to grow up and deal with trauma. It is a parents job to aide their child with decision making skills and coping skills so that they can handle any thing that comes their way in life. Disney films all have trauma in them, some more severe than others, and they are not intended to be helpful. If you research trauma in children you will find it can cause dissociation and splitting of the personality core. The more trauma you see in your life, and you will see a lot if you start young watching Disney, the more used to it you become. Therefore, by watching these Disney movies(and other traumatic “child intended” movies) you can become desensitized to the horror of it and not realize you are being traumatized. It is a parents job to protect their child and make them feel safe and she should not feel like she needs to traumatize her child because all the other children are.

  123. Brooke

    December 30, 2012 at 2:52 am

    You’re being lame. The dragon never scared me as a child. There are a few aspects that scared me that weren’t even scary. It all depends on your child’s mind. Bambi was very sad, but it’s not going to effect your child either. When I was little the only things that bothered me were the styes of animation, because they were creepy. Alice In Wonderland is creepy, but it’s okay because when she awakes up all, “Oh- it was a dream.” All the children around the world didn’t give it a second thought. If anything the protagonists conquering the villains should give children a sense of justice. A few things are actually inappropriate like Pinnochio. I had no idea Pinnochio’s scenes were vulgar ones until I was an adult. It’s completely fine. Disney IS a pretty protective company. You can even show the 13+ Disney movies to a mere child. Nothing bad will happen unless your husband said something silly to invoke fear on your child. The only things you have to worry about are your child’s actual fears- spiders? needles? skeletons? Whatever. Bottom line, don’t keep your kids from certain parts of Disney movies. It’s just ruining it for them. I agree if you know the sad or bad things now and understand them, it’s safer. It always worked better that way for me, not the other way around. Just take time to explain things. But if you get by a darkish battle-scene with no questions or sounds from your child, let them be. The only thing you only really ever have to worry about explaining is stranger-danger.

  124. Raquel

    January 3, 2013 at 2:35 am

    I think it’s healthy for children to experience things like the terrifying maleficent or the sad death of mufasa at an early age. . . It’s a healthy way for kids to develop those sorts of feelings, and learning how to deal with them. It’s especially beneficial when those scenes come from Disney, because there’s really no safer place than Disney to experience those things. Most kids these days watch rubbish on tv that’s meant mostly for the child’s logical development. . . But what about the development of imagination and healthy human emotions? That’s where disney’s “traumatic” scenes take place. It’s wrong for you to sensor such things because they are so vital to learning lessons on being human. I do believe that the film makers of Disney put those scenes there for a reason.

  125. Zettai

    January 29, 2013 at 2:05 am

    I think this has a lot to do with why kids today take things to the extreme so often. They never learn how to deal with negative feelings or situations so when it inevitably happens to them they can’t handle it. It is okay for your kid to be sad or afraid sometimes.

  126. Anna Banana

    February 3, 2013 at 4:34 pm

    Oh please, woman. My mom made me watch Hunchback of Notre Dame when I was 4. ALL. OF. IT. And I grew up a decent human being, still loving that movie, no emotional trauma whatsoever.

  127. Kaylee

    February 8, 2013 at 12:50 pm

    This sounds like the parents that keep shortening and shortening the height of playground items (swings, jungle-gyms, monkey bars, etc) because they’re afraid of their child falling and getting hurt. Guess what some researchers say about that? They’re discovering that those children end up having difficulty solving problems on their own!

  128. Mbm

    March 27, 2013 at 1:01 am

    Do not protect your child too much, is my advice. Just explain reality from fiction and give good advice about real life and good choices. Otherwise our kids will experience death, mistreatment, bulling and won’t know is not ok.

  129. Lauz

    April 4, 2013 at 3:20 am

    wow a lot of people in the comments think movies are a parenting tool. WRONG. The music you listen to the movies and t.v you watch growing up with affect your worldview. Theres no avoiding it. I pass on the tv and movies altogether and spend time talking and playing with my child instead. Life lessons are learned through living life!! How do you think people survived before tv was invented.

  130. Guesticles

    April 8, 2013 at 10:03 pm

    As I’m sure has been said, it is people like you who make children commit atrocities like school shootings. When your 4 year old has trouble making friends, blame it on ADD or hell…go all the way and call it “sensory depravation disorder.” Actually, that’s probably more accurate as you have deprived your daughter of necessary life lessons by shrouding her from reality.

    Actually, disregard everything I just wrote. You’re using your kid for publicity. She is probably already known as the kid with the whacked out mom.

  131. consern dad

    April 24, 2013 at 7:56 am

    Well Walt disney has subliminal messages in every movie t.v show. Look it up on Utube. Its scary what it does to your mind overtime.

  132. Jeremy Sheer

    April 26, 2013 at 5:39 pm

    OMG you are so freaking freaking freaking overprotective into shelter to your daughter Grow a spine and do better parenting usually the scenes help a child realize what the world is really like these movie scenes change peoples lives if you can’t show your daughter this and you might as well protector from walking across the street

  133. Julie Cooly

    April 27, 2013 at 9:56 am

    .__. I watched those dark scenes as a small child in the disney classics and I turned out just fine! that sleeping beauty scene with the dragon was actually my favorite part

  134. Ashly

    May 10, 2013 at 10:17 pm

    I really hate the Lion King scene too. I don’t want my daughter to see it, I remember crying as a little kid, I don’t understand why Disney who is for kids, feels the need to put these kind of plots into their movies. I know its not always rainbows and sunshine, but for smaller children the majority of the Disney movies is great, but lets leave out the really rough stuff please Disney? I mean Cars was pretty awesome, until you came out with Cars 2 and blew up one of the cars….

  135. Lovely

    May 11, 2013 at 12:56 am

    Don’t let these negative comments cause you to doubt yourself and your motherly instincts. I too withheld a lot of those violent scenes from my child. I grew up watching them and wish that my parents had done the same for me. We are the parents and it is our job to make our child feel safe. The simple truth is that each Disney movie has a scene of trauma in it. Some are more severe than others and it’s a parents job to monitor what their child takes in. Children up to their teenage years are not usually capable of abstract thinking that might help them with this kind of decision making. Just know there are many others who will agree with your decision, even if they do not comment here.

  136. Ljg55

    May 15, 2013 at 10:04 pm

    Your fucking ridiculous. You took out all the most meaningful parts of those movies you jackass.

  137. Anonymous

    June 9, 2013 at 2:56 am

    Other mothers raise their child however they please, but I grew up with all the Disney movies as a kid, Lion king being my favorite and I I’m not going to keep Disney away from my kids. I see all these arguments about how Disney gives little girls false hope but it really doesn’t, you just need to explain to them they are just fairy tales. I’m sure even before Disney kids dreamed of being Princesses. Sure when a child is young and is learning they are liable to believe that this really happens but as they grow older they realize it’s not. Wanting to live like a Disney Princess seems like more of a phase really, even if we sometimes wish we had it as easy as the characters in Disney movies, though we know that never happens.

  138. Savanah

    June 13, 2013 at 11:57 pm

    I understand you’re trying to protect her, but shielding her from those scenes isn’t going to help. What will you do when she is a teen and wants to watch a scary movie? Fast forward through the parts? Disney is very good with there movies and if you fast forward then choose a different movie, like Dora or something. But when she is older she isn’t going to want all that protection.

  139. stella

    June 27, 2013 at 6:46 pm

    … are you fucking kidding me? My parents let me watch Rocky Horror Picture Show [transvestites, lingerie, gay stuff, murder, lots of sex, aliens, boobies, violence and nude male statues etc.] as a young’in. It was my favorite movie of all time, and I turned out fine.

    Get out of this mode of MUST PROTECT FROM ANYTHING REMOTELY OBJECTIONABLE. You’re doing exactly zero good here, and I feel bad for your daughter.

    • nevilleross

      June 30, 2013 at 2:31 am

      Gotta say, this generation is being made into wimps by this kind of overprotection-when it gets to the point that Margaret Hamilton’s role as the Wicked Witch Of The West in The Wizard Of Oz when she guest stared on Sesame Street is no longer broadcast as a rerun, then we as a society are having problems.

      As well, kids used to play with toys and merchandise based on the old Universal Pictures monster characters (Frankenstein, Dracula, the Wolf Man, The Bride of Frankenstein) the Toho monsters (Godzilla, Rodan, Mothra), the Munsters, the Addams Family, and other spooky characters in the 50s, 60s, 70s, and 80s-none of them grew up to be bad, or were warped other than to be warped in a good way (many of those people, in fact, grew up to make movies, TV shows, games, books, and toys due to these influences.) These people were nourished by horror and fantasy-why is it a problem for the coming generation(s) to be like this?

  140. chrassy

    July 9, 2013 at 12:33 pm

    I remember having nightmares due to Sleeping Beauty. Cruella’s freaking out scene was a bit scary too. I understand some of these choices. I could never watch Pinocchio due to some intense illustration, too. Part of growing up though I think. Learn what’s scary & what isn’t on your own, and understand more of it as you get older. I didn’t understand the death scenes, or other things when I was young. Watching it as I’m older, there are some really creepy parts/innuendoes, too haha. It’s your choice what you show your kid.

  141. Katie

    July 13, 2013 at 1:11 am

    Where would she be without her beloved smother?

  142. thisshortenough

    July 16, 2013 at 10:37 am

    Surely it’s better to have serious topics, like death, broken to her through a film that you can then explain to her instead of waiting until a grandparent or god forbid your partner does and you have to explain it to her then.

  143. Ashley

    August 3, 2013 at 11:19 pm

    Although I can see your point, I have to disagree with it. Animation is such an art form that takes time and dedication, so I feel like if they took the time to animate a scene, then it’s essential to the movie. These movies go through TONS of story development and every scene furthers the story, mood, or character in some way. Altering the scenes alters the original desired affect of the piece as a whole. For instance, the forest/huntsman scene in Snow White heightens your sympathy for the character of Snow White. You see her for who she is, a sweet, innocent girl and the fact that she is frightened makes you want her to be ok, therefore helping you connect with the character. Idk, just my personal thoughts.

  144. Bray

    August 20, 2013 at 7:17 pm

    Your daughter could have a more difficult time adjusting to reality or handling unpleasant emotions than her peers do as she gets older and must cope with suffering. Life is much more violent and upsetting than any disney movie, and I would think the more prepared kids are for it the better. My father died when I was quite young, and my mom’s attitude was “lets just toughen up and deal with it, no use crying over spilt milk”. Today I’m a lot stronger and more capable of moving past emotional turmoil and accepting the facts of reality than others my age. Not saying you’re wrong, just a thought based on my personal experiences. Cheers.

  145. American_Muslimah

    September 23, 2013 at 4:25 pm

    Do you know how to edit the movies so that the child doesn’t know a scene is missing? According to my faith you do not kiss etc before marriage. When I have a child I want to still give them the disney experience minus the kissing before marriage. Thank You

  146. Get_Over_it

    October 14, 2013 at 11:30 pm

    There is no reason you need to censor Disney movies! If you’re too afraid of the questions she’ll ask, then you’re not really doing your job as a parent. Good luck with her whenever you continue sheltering and censoring many aspects of her life, and then whenever she is in high school and then goes to live on her own, she won’t fit in or know how to get along with the general population of people that have that had their parents shelter them unnecessarily from things….like Disney movies! I see that this post is years old, and I only pray you are not still doing this. By my math from hitting older posts at bottom of page a few times, and seeing the age of the posts, I figure she is at least seven by now. Do you let her watch SpongeBob now, or are you concerned that the subtle adult themes will warp her mind?

  147. burgundy1797

    November 13, 2013 at 11:25 pm

    You clearly adore your daughter, and are trying to protect her, but in the long run, you’re doing her a disservice. She’ll grow up to be a coddled, useless, emotionally fragile and easily manipulated little thing if you maintain this attitude. I’ll agree that Saw 6 probably isn’t juvenile material, but Disney movies, particularly ones as dull and innocuous as Snow White, hardly approximate real life in the first place. They don’t even approximate the original children’s stories! I’ll argue that kids can and should handle a lot more than that (although I’ll admit that Anastasia terrified me. Something about Rasputin.) Hell, I turned out fine, and instead of that Barney, Teletubbies, and Blue’s Clues stuff as a toddler, I watched soap operas, sports, and the nightly news since before I could even speak. (Not that I advocate the soaps though; I grew too attached to some fictional couples and still resent the writers who broke them up lol. RIP Sheridan and Luis #passions)

    Yet I digress. My point is that this is precisely when you should be exposing her to these different experiences and emotions, while she’s in your care and you can answer her questions, guide and comfort her through it – rather than unprepared in the real world when a bully picks on her on the playground, or some kid tells her something mean and awful. You think children only learn sadness from Disney films? Young children are incredibly perceptive; they pick up on bad home relationships; they can feel loneliness, sadness, and embarrassment inflicted by other students their age. But they’re also very resilient – if you let them be.

    As long as you’re the arms they can run into after a long day, the shoulder they can cry on, and the loving hand to wipe their tears, you’ve done your job, and your child will turn out better and stronger for it. Not to be rude, but you sound more like you’re protecting yourself from watching your baby grow up than actually trying to help your her develop into a fully-formed and functional human being.

  148. Yago

    December 18, 2013 at 8:42 pm

    After an heated argument with my wife about this article and I need to post some points about.

    1.- Censorship is not good in any aspect.
    2.- Just because they are a child doesn’t mean all ages are the same. a 4 years should not be watching some Disney Movies that indeed are more complex (emotionally and psychologically) Is better to way few years to show them those movies. Dumbo and Bambi are 2 very distressful movies, more for a 4 year old (even today at 37 is hard for me to watch Dumbo) So, no all children can handle the same at all ages.
    3.- Many of the points of the writer are not ok, because there is not an excuse to censorship a movie or book. If your kid might have issues with it, don’t show it to them until you consider they are ready to FULLY view the entire movie. There are plenty of non Cartoon Disney movies for toddlers. Harly’s Movies for example. Not because is a Cartoon means is for kids of all ages.
    4.- I do agree with many of the comments in here that our children must learn about the issues of live (pain, deception, desolation, departure, fear, etc) at home in a more secure way to make them a more assertive human beings, but at the same time, I think it should be gradual and in specific ages, keeping Fantasy alive, and doing a more gradual transition. Not doing so, we might deeply synthesized them if we confronted too early into the hardships of life or we could create eternal children unable to defend themselves from the interaction and rawness of Society if we kept them overprotected for too long. Its a balance, and we need to understand the psychology of each state, and that media (books or films) have to be filtered by parents.
    5.- Lord of the Ring is not way a film for a 4 year old. IT’s to complex, and deep for their understanding (not even the Hobbit)

  149. kelly

    January 12, 2014 at 3:24 am

    I feel bad for your daughter as well. Sheltering on this level is unhealthy. She will need to be strong to endure the world and you are not preparing her for that at all just because of your own discomfort. It s your job to get her ready to face life as an independent and strong woman and hiding all of the wickedness and sadness of life from her is just going to cripple her.

  150. Lily

    February 11, 2014 at 9:43 am

    A few would be okay to not-censor..because it’s death. Bambi for example, or Mufasa’s death. Thats nature, and as long as you explain everything well to her and stay with her the whole time, incase she has questions or gets sad, it’s allright.
    But I agree with..well..revenge-parts. I personaly got traumatized by SO many movies, I can’t even think back of some without crying. I remember a movie in which a child got a weird imagination and thought of herself being beheaded. The red, crying face that fell of her shoulders..it was horrible. Afterwards it appeared to be just a fantasy, but it was SO horrible.
    But the things that scared me the most were ‘normal’ things, like revenge on Cruella, things that were supposed to be ‘funny.’ I always looked at her face (covered in oil and feathers while she was being carried to an oven, to become a cruella-cupcake) and just..imagined my own face. And everyone laughing. Thats more ‘damaging’ compared to death.

  151. Brandon Roberts

    February 17, 2014 at 1:38 am

    i grew up on these movies and plus on pleasure island the boys all turn into donkeys except pinnochio i think and belle i think gets saved during the wolves and mustafas death while sad is still not bloody or violent you are just overprotective you have a right to what you want to expose your child to

  152. Rose

    February 21, 2014 at 7:34 am

    If you constantly shelter every bad thing in the world from your child, there not going to make it in real life. I grew up watching these films and so did so many others and were all perfectly fine

  153. Jovita

    May 6, 2014 at 3:31 am

    When I was 4 years old (I’m 19 at the moment), my mom let my younger brother and I watch all the scenes of the Disney movies.

    Yes, Mufasa’s death was sad. Yet, it made us understand that we only have one set of parents. They don’t physically stick around forever. However, “The Lion King” also reminds all of us, children and adults alike, that the spirits of our parents protect us and guides us (e.g. “He lives in you”). In order to fully comprehend this message, one should watch the dying scene — the physical separation of a parent from his/her child, so as to understand that they do live on within us, even after death.

    As for evil characters, well, we all have our unique threshold of fear. Some people are easily frightened and respond to a wide variety of potential stimuli; some are just not scared. Most of us have a few things that we are more sensitive to. If your child is openly afraid of dragons/sinister glowing eyes/evil cackles, then avoid those scenes. Most children eventually grow out of their fears, so just allow them to have time to adjust.

    I, for one, found the part where Quasimodo was strapped down and thrown rotten food at by onlookers quite terrifying at the age of 8. I avoided watching “The Hunchback of Notre Dame” for 10 years because of this. My mom never pressured me into watching it again. She respected my choices. Now, I don’t mind watching it and I even encourage teenagers and older children to see it as it holds some very important messages.

    So, don’t avoid the death scenes. Only skip the parts which your children really fear. Don’t worry, Disney movies might induce some temporary childhood nightmares, but no one is really scarred for life.

  154. Pinky's Mom

    July 9, 2014 at 1:18 pm

    You’re trying to be a good parent, and that’s admirable. I do think you’re choosing the wrong movies if you think some of their major expository scenes are too vivid for her. However, I also don’t think you should be asking thousands (millions?) of strangers to reinforce your parenting choices. Who cares what we think? Do what you think is right to do. Do you really need the opinion of numberless strangers? Just make your decisions and get on with it. Social media as a sounding board is overrated. Have confidence in what you think is right. In a few years, your daughter will be telling you to back off anyway. Grab your chance to influence her now.

  155. Pinky's Mom

    July 9, 2014 at 1:50 pm

    My post seems not to have appeared here. I will say it again, but more briefly, in case the message didn’t come through before. You are being a good parent, and that’s admirable. But you don’t have to ask the whole Internet what your child should be watching. Just decide for yourself. When she’s older, she’ll tell you what she wants to see, and what she’s ready for. Grab your chance now to influence her choices, especially as pertains to violence.

  156. k

    July 18, 2014 at 6:46 pm

    .Lol…the only other time I’ve heard of someone doing this was Phoebe’s mom on Friends. “The one Where Old Yeller Dies” I can see her having this experience in 20 years.

    Phoebe: What is happening to the world? I mean, because E.T. leaves, and… and Rocky loses, Charlotte dies…
    Richard: Charlotte who?
    Phoebe: With the web. The spider, she dies, she dies. She has babies and dies. It’s like, you know: Hey, welcome home from the hospital. Thud.

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