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13-Year-Old Slut-Shaming Video Girl Talks Purity Balls With Anderson Cooper

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The smart 13-year-old girl who schooled countless viewers on rape culture with her slut-shaming video on YouTube was on Anderson yesterday. And aside from learning the young girl’s name, which is Sarah, we also got her two cents about purity balls.

Other guests on stage were Jessica Valenti who chatted about how the movement of purity balls further sexualizes girls by bringing the focus once again to girls’ sexuality. The notable feminist added that purity balls are yet another way to tell girls that their value is determined by their sexual activity, not say their scholastic accomplishments, their compassion, or their even their interests.

Then, young Sarah offered this to the conversation:

“I do think that they [purity balls] put men in a better place than they put women,” Sarah says. “I find that the abstinence movement sort of promotes traditional gender norms in saying that women’s worth and women’s value come from their sexuality, which is completely untrue.”

I tweeted at Jessica Valenti asking for her advice on how parents can be both pro-sex but anti-sexualization — how they can navigate this middle road of encouraginging healthy sexuality without resigning their daughters to hypersexualized pop culture or demanding that they pledge their virginity. She responded with some simple advice:

sexualization of girlsScarleteen is wonderful fact-based website that fills all the holes that sex education often leaves behind. The blogs and FAQs won’t shame your daughters about their sexual desire, nor encourage them to be sexual should they not be ready. They’ll also learn a lot about consent, STDS, pregnancy prevention, and how to say no.

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13 Comments

  1. Nicole

    January 22, 2012 at 12:43 am

    Sarah and Jessica both have some very good points. It’s a shame that most people have to take this information from a 13 year old. While it is okay to want to be “pure” and to have a “purity ball”, your sexuality should not at all define you. Where are the males in this? How come they aren’t putting their sexuality on a pedestal?

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  4. Lithels Ugelman

    February 2, 2012 at 2:01 am

    It’s too bad that most people don’t believe in Satan, because if they did they might realize they were duped by him. For example, all the people who clapped when the woman in the second video said sexuality didn’t have to do with anyone as a person would not have clapped if they would have known the truth, namely, even, the Lord Jesus Christ, Who ALL will bow down to one day and go to hell. By the way, those who bow now will go to heaven.

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  6. dave

    April 17, 2012 at 2:04 pm

    she is going to make some alpha male high school boys very happy! finally young boys don’t have to be respectful or chivalrous to get some 14 year old pune….you just have to learn to display qualities that young feminists find sexy and you get all the azzzzzz you want. .viva feminism!

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  8. A.

    August 7, 2012 at 7:11 pm

    I would be so proud to have a daughter like this! Good for her; hopefully, more and more children will be brought up knowing these things.

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