Topic: being a mom

Anonymous Organizes #OpOk For Oklahoma And Once Again Makes Me Believe In Superheroes

Oklahoma is heartbreaking and beyond tragic. The helpers I have found are not only those I have seen on the news in yellow hats and safety vests, but those who have no name and no identity, and the only collective agreement that as humans on this planet we need to do anything we can to help. When horrible things like this happen we want and need superheroes, and we want to be able to help those who have lost so much for no other reason than the misfortunes of geography. The heroes are out there, not only in the uniforms of the police, firefighters and doctors, but by the masks of Guy Fawkes. Thank you Anonymous. More »

I Discipline My Stepkid, My Non-Stepkids, And I’ll Discipline Your Kids Too

Being a parent is hard. Having a blended family is hard. But the issues you mention are all little problems! And these little problems all have little solutions and what worries me is that teens have BIG problems, drinking problems, unprotected sex problems, drug problems, driving problems, school problems — and if you can’t nip these totally unacceptable little problems now then imagine what will happen when the big problems do, and trust me, they will. More »

Majority Of Pregnant First-Time Moms Expect Mother’s Day Gifts, Survey Says They Will Be Sorely Disappointed

Do I think pregnant first time moms should receive Mother’s Day gifts? I think a gesture of some sort would be nice. Why not? If you have a baby inside you that prevents you from drinking wine and eating sushi, I think that sacrifice qualifies as deserving of some sort of attention and appreciation. More »

Charles Ramsey Was Just A ‘Bro Trying To Eat His McDonald’s Except This ‘Bro Is Way Better Than Other ‘Bros

We don’t love Ramsey because he is a “hilarious black neighbor.” It helps that he tells a great story, that he seems like the type of guy you would love grabbing a beer and eating some barbecue with, that he is charismatic and honest and funny, but we love him because when so many people in the world mind their own business, Ramsey did the exact opposite. He is the sort of neighbor we all want. He is the sort of man we want to see more of, those who find out about a rape and then think about homicide. More »

Mother Dies After Extensive Plastic Surgery The Press Has Dubbed A ‘Mommy Makeover’

And I hate the fact the press is calling this a “Mommy Makeover” because it makes it sound like Adriana DeSilva was just some vapid housewife who hated her “mommy” body and that she felt she needed a “makeover.” It feels like it’s just another poke at women who are expected to remain somehow flawless no matter what their bodies go through (childbirth) and how they age. More »

Baby Blues: I’m Never Going To Seek Treatment For My PPD

I have to be honest. I’m probably never going to seek treatment for my depression. It’s not just because health insurance would cost more than our rent, or because I have no idea when I would squeeze therapy into my already jam-packed schedule. In truth, it’s because I don’t think I fit the bill for a severely depressed person anymore. Sure, my passive aggressive, semi-suicidal teen self was in serious need of therapy and meds. But my adult self? I don’t know. More »

It Won’t Be ‘Slut-Shaming’ When I Refuse To Take My Daughter Shopping At Victoria’s Secret

For me, it’s much less about having a daughter who wants to wear pretty or sexy underwear and more about raising a daughter who can be confident in her own inherent beauty and sexuality that she knows her beauty doesn’t come from a matching bra and panties. Sure, lingerie is all icing on the girl-cake, but as women I think we all deserve more than this typical brand of sticky pink frosting that doesn’t celebrate women in all of our diversity and strength. More »

UPDATE: Jane Pratt’s New Beauty Website Says ‘Toddlers Are Effing Hot’ – Because Child Sex Abuse Is Just Hi-Larious

I’m not a raging fan of some of the content on XoJane. As a woman of a certain age, who has children, I just couldn’t get behind some of the content that the editors of the website choose to publish. As a feminist I believe that woman can do whatever the hell they want with their bodies, it’s their business, and I really don’t care if adults want to act like idiots their entire lives. It’s just not my jam. But what I do care about is the abuse of children, so when I was linked to this article on Jane Pratt’s new beauty website, XoVain.com, I was pretty appalled: More »

Daddy’$ Money Sneakers Are For Your Teen Who Loves Swag And Sexism!

The ridiculous thing about all of this is that the company could have sold a whole mess of sneakers had they taken out the stupid secret wedge lift, because yeah, I can speak for a lot of parents when I say that we are fine with our daughters being the height they actually are, and naming the shoes something empowering and kickass to young girls. More »

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Jane Daly Makes Beauty Sound So Do-able And Fun That I May Start Getting Out Of My Mommy Rut

I love makeup and nail polish and all of that, but I am just as guilty as any busy mom as far as falling into a rut and on occasion not even bothering to “put on my face.” I don’t think women are required to wear makeup but I like to wear it. Jane Daly is one of the only beauty writers I truly trust because not only is she a mom (she has two daughters, Em – 24 and Biddy, who is 17), she is also great at telling it like it is. She has been doing yoga before it was cool, despises cardio, and she sat down with Mommyish to yammer all about beauty and MILFS and how woman can still care about how they look, even after having babies and discovering their kid is using their favorite eyeliner to color ponies with. More »

I’m Crowd-Sourcing My Daughter’s iPod Playlist Because Music For Girls Sucks

I need to get my daughter some music that doesn’t suck. And it has to be GIRL music, because my 8-year-old has enough BOY music and Mommmmmm, she totally needs girl music, you know, like girls, like cool girls, like you know the girls that her girls listen to at school, mmkay?

But see the issue is, all the shit her little friends listen to at school sucks. I have decided it sucks based on the fact that I have heard snippets of some of these artists on the radio and because I had a long talk with Koa about this recently and we decided that all girl music these days sucks. What is popular amongst the third grade set? Katy Perry. More »

Oh Dude I’m That Mom Totally Telling My Kids About Getting High Behind The Dumpster

I haven’t done drugs of any sort (except for some bitchin’ pain pills after my hysterectomy) since I was 19-years-old. I can remember ditching class with my friends and getting stoned behind the school dumpster. I also had excellent grades and went on to go to college when I was still in high-school. So even though I don’t want my kids to do drugs, well, at least until they have moved out of my house and I don’t have to know about it, I’ve just always assumed being open with them about it was the best thing.
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‘To This Day’ Project By Shane Koyzcan Is Your Cry For The Day That You Will Share With Everyone You Know

Enjoy and share it with everyone. It’s amazing. Truly. Dan Savage said “Had me crying into my salad at O’Hare airport. Seriously.” I don’t think I have ever watched a video more times than this one, and my own kids can almost recite it by heart. The project was started in an effort to to confront the long lasting and terrible effects of bullying. And it is gorgeous. More »

BullyVille Founder Tells Mommyish How Sometimes You Need To Be A Bully To Beat A Bully

James McGibney is sick and tired of reading about kids who kill themselves after being subjected to online and offline bullying, which is why he started BullyVille.com. If he reads about a kid attempting suicide after some jerk classmates litter their Facebook pages with insults, it infuriates him, and apparently he is not alone. Thousands of celebrities have joined his cause, including Becca Tobin from the hit show Glee on FOX and Dj ASHBA, lead guitarist for Guns N Roses. BullyVille has been credited for saving countless young lives and the national media has taken notice. More »

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