Topic: being a mom

STFU Parents: When Moms Lose Their Identity On Facebook

STFU Parents: When Moms Lose Their Identity On Facebook

While these posts are funny, they often seem to translate to, “I’m a MOM now, so don’t ask me to “go out for drinks” unless they come in a sippy cup! And no, I won’t attend events that require attire other than yoga pants, and I won’t apologize for not caring about your meaningless life when I’ve got my awesome kid on my mind, because guess what? He’s more interesting than your marathon training or political views or whatever it is you want to chat about.” More »

I Cheated On My Mom BFF And I Don’t Regret It

I Cheated On My Mom BFF And I Don't Regret It

I first met Kate when I was single in a new town and she was months away from her wedding. It was instant envy from go. Kate is sharp and savvy. A woman who spends time in Paris. A woman who is well-versed in restaurants and art sales. She’s a writer on a show you’ve totally heard of (and may even love, as most of the modern world does). She wears a lot of black, and reminds me of what Daria probably grew up to be. More »

Preventing Breast Cancer Is Now a Mother’s Job – Thanks, Science!

Preventing Breast Cancer Is Now a Mother's Job - Thanks, Science!

Wouldn’t it be nice if scientific research would help us relax a little and ease our fears when it comes to parenting? You know, like how we (mostly) no longer believe in witchcraft thanks to our knowledge of physics. Instead, we get reports like this one from Graham A. Colditz, MD, DrPH at Washington University in St. Louis, stating that more than half of all breast cancer cases could have been prevented by healthy lifestyle choices made in adolescence and early childhood. More »

10 Signs You’re Overdue for A Date Night

10 Signs You're Overdue for A Date Night

As a parent, I know how easy it is to neglect alone time with your partner (what’s mine’s name again?). With bustling kids to and fro, nursing a baby and generally being too ill-rested to want to show my face in public, staying in often seems like the far more sane option. I mean, why go out when home is where the wine and Netflix live? More »

6 Reasons Being Stuck At Home With Sick Kids Is The Best

6 Reasons Being Stuck At Home With Sick Kids Is The Best

It’s fall. The leaves are turning crimson. Your kids have already started costuming themselves for Halloween. And their little noses are leaking an autumn rainbow of snot everywhere. It’s cold and flu season, and there just might be an upside. Of course, I’m not talking about wishing my kids were sick, sick. I’ve endured hospital stays with each of my children, and I don’t wish the fluorescent lights of pediatric units on anyone. What I’m talking about here is a nice smooth fever. The kind that makes the little ones clammy and docile. More »

We Are All Great Moms When We Play To Our Strengths

We Are All Great Moms When We Play To Our Strengths

I know we can all tend to get bogged down by the Pinterest-perfect lives depicted by other moms. Or maybe we are jealous of that working mom that seems to have her act together in every way possible while we struggle with a mountain of laundry, just trying to squeak by. We all have our good points as parents and of course, we all have weaknesses. However, we are all great moms when we play to our strengths. More »

Parenting With Chronic Pain Is A Physical Prison

Parenting With Chronic Pain Is A Physical Prison

I’m sitting here completely exhausted looking through my Facebook wondering how other mothers do it. They take their kids somewhere exhilarating every day over the summer. Monday is pool day, Tuesday is the museum, Wednesday is the day they ride killer whales across the Pacific Ocean. I seem to be friends with a wide variety of “super moms” that never need sleep or food when I can’t even get out of bed without a handful of pain pills and a cherry picker. I am a mother with chronic pain, and it’s dreadful. More »

Halloween Brings Out All My Insecurities As A Mom

Halloween Brings Out All My Insecurities As A Mom

Here is a dirty secret I’ve harbored my whole life: I don’t like Halloween. I have, at times, wondered if there is something wrong with me for not enjoying a holiday other people start planning for in July. I don’t get what’s wrong with me, honestly. Individually I enjoy excessive amounts of candy, shouting at strangers to open their doors, and dressing up like a weirdo. But cramming all these things together on one night just stresses me out. I’ve never been good at thinking up costumes, I’m terrible at making my own dinner much less an outfit from scratch, and the crowds overwhelm me. It was easy to avoid Halloween until I had kids. Then everything changed, and now I spend the months leading up to October 31st worried and anxious about all my Halloween fails. More »

I Am Not The Mom I Imagined I Would Be

I Am Not The Mom I Imagined I Would Be

I had a million ideas of what my mom-self would look like. Having struggled with infertility before my first child, I had years to think about it. I fantasized about the mother I would become – so much so that she kind of took on a life of her own. She was amazing, this future me. I crafted her perfectly in my mind, convinced I knew what she would look like. More »