As someone who’s recently found herself back on the dating scene after QUITE SOME TIME away, I can say definitively: dating sucks ass. It’s all weird now and everyone hikes or goes to the gym and like, I don’t do any of those things. Online dating is a particularly awful venture. There are lots of options, like Tinder and Match, but pickings are slim. And I cannot for the life of me remember which way to swipe for losers and winners. But now there’s a new, even more awful reason to run screaming from your Tinder app: Tindstagramming. Single forever is looking really good right now.

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Tindstagramming is when someone you’ve rejected on Tinder slides into your Instagram DMs and takes creepy to a whole new level.

Tinder, if you’re not familiar (and you’re so lucky if you’re not), is a dating app. You swipe left on people you don’t like, right on people you do. It’s pretty simple, there’s minimal work involved in signing up, and you don’t need to talk to anyone you don’t want to talk to. No one can message you until you’ve “matched”, meaning you both swiped right on each other. So in that sense, it’s nice. But in 2015, Tinder started allowing users to link their IG accounts to their profile. You can see some of their grid on their profile, but if you click a picture, it takes you to their IG page. That is where Tindstagramming is becoming a real problem.

Women are sharing their stories of dudes taking their interest off Tinder, and sending them DMs on Instagram. Tindstagramming, you are the worst.

Pro-tip, dudes: if a woman doesn’t match with you on Tinder, she doesn’t fucking want you to DM her ANYWHERE ELSE. Male privilege and entitlement rears it’s ugly head again!

Hmmmm, I can’t imagine why she wouldn’t want to pursue a relationship with this guy. What could it be??

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Dating is hard enough, without now having to worry about your rejects following you all over the internet. At this point, we need some sort of app that poofs these assholes out of existence when we swipe left. Let us live, fragile males!

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