Have you heard of a work husband before? Maybe you have one. For me, a work husband brings me back to the adorable pre-romance of Jim and Pam on The Office: Opposite sex office best friends that spend all of their time together without any strings attached. Well, spoiler alert—Jim and Pam ended up married with two kids, which puts the whole notion of the “work husband” to shame. More
Topic: work life balance
I’m not quite sure why I thought it would be easier than this. Maybe I was brainwashed by years of feel-good family movies and sitcoms. Family life isn’t supposed to be this hard, is it?
I was raised lower middle class, and so was my husband. Perhaps it was because we had three kids in each of our families, but we always felt like money was very, very tight. My dad had more of a hoarder mentality and gave me even more money issues as a child, and later, as an adult. More
When I saw the NY Times story Wall Street Mothers, Stay-Home Fathers, I devoured the entire piece with hungry eyes. I’m not sure what I expected to take away from the piece — something between pride for these women making it work, support for these men who reject traditional gender roles, and curiosity about the way things work for them. But by the end, I was left with one overarching feeling: sadness. More
This research would have us believing that employers are looking at these people, sitting from high above, deciding that “yes, daddies are more worthy and deserve more of my money,” while mommies are inferior by nature and should earn less. I just don’t see it that way in America where everything is driven by the bottom line. More
Every time I hear a complaint about moms or dads who aren’t expected to do overtime or work on holidays, I always want to ask the person complaining why they don’t demand some time off, too. Same goes for every time I hear someone complain about a smoking co-worker. Why don’t you step outside for some fresh air? If your place of work allows you to step outside for a cigarette, I can’t imagine they won’t let you step outside to stretch your legs. More
I knew it was bribery, but I had no choice. I was a vital part of this call and I needed quiet. I led them back out to the kitchen table and stacked five cookies and a huge glass of milk in front of each of them. That bought me seven minutes. Only 173 to go. More
This last year has enjoyed its fair share of working mom buzz words in the media. Sheryl Sandberg with her plea to “Lean-In” and Judith Warner remarking on the trend for my generation to “opt-in” (after Lisa Belkin‘s “Opt-Out Revolution”). Now there’s a new buzz word, “Maxed Out.” I relate to all three. More
Gird your loins ladies and gents, you’re about to be shocked and amazed. Did you know that a woman’s fertility actually DECREASES after age 35? I hope I didn’t cause any shock-related strokes, because this is totally and completely NEW NEWS, right? Well, it is if you’re professor Mary Herbert of the Institute for Aging and Health at the University of Newcastle, who wants to get the word out ASAP.
I have always had an affinity for vintage etiquette books, particularly the ones from places like Seventeen that tell girls how to lose at tennis and ensure a second date without, you know, actually asking for one. But while I treasure those 1950s time capsules as precious slut-shaming artifacts, I don’t expect to find equally archaic sentiments in contemporary advice columns — for contemporary mothers. But this didactic 1950s housewife advice from The Independent is straight out of 2013. More
Given the constant — and needed — dialogue surrounding the lack of maternity leave, affordable child care, and all the other woes that working moms face, it’s nice when you hear about a kick ass mom who totally rocks literally balancing motherhood and the workplace. That’s exactly what happened when a Moroccan newscaster was interrupted on the air by her kid. More
Parents magazine recently conducted a poll. One of the questions asked respondents to agree or disagree with this sentence: “There’s no tougher job than being a mom.” 92 percent of the mothers polled agreed with that statement. Any time a mother agrees with a statement like that, she is opening herself up to ridicule. More
I don’t like being a working mother. I don’t want to be a working mother. And if I had any alternative, I would take it. I work because I have to. My dear husband has a good and noble (read: modestly paid) career, and that is one of the things I always loved about him. Although I lack his passion, through average intelligence and perhaps too much education, I somehow ended up in a well paid career I care little about. More
I think the way we treat our elderly in this country is a serious problem, but one that might not be easy to fix. Personally, I regret not visiting my grandfather (pictured below), who passed away last week, more often. But work, kids, and a 400+ mile distance kept me away more than I would have liked. So this new policy in China kind of makes sense to me. More