Topic: unbearable

This Isn’t Just New Year’s Eve, It’s The Anniversary Of My Miscarriage

This Isnât Just New Yearâs Eve, Itâs The Anniversary Of My Miscarriage

Today, millions of people will head to bars or parties to celebrate with friends and ring in the new year. They’ll drink champagne and make lots of toasts and completely forget the words to Auld Lang Syne. For years, I was one of those people, bickering with my husband over who would be the designated driver and attending my sister-in-law’s annual party. Now, I’m the lady sitting at home alone, mourning, on the anniversary of my miscarriage. More »

Unbearable: Not Every Infertility Story Has A Happy Ending

Unbearable: Not Every Infertility Story Has A Happy Ending

This week, I sat in my doctor’s office to get the results of some recent tests. I went into the office expecting to hear about the next expensive procedure we needed to do. I was prepared for her to tell me that I needed to go to the fertility specialist, instead of trying to trick my insurance by treating my infertility issues through my ob-gyn. I was expecting the same thing I’ve always found while struggling with infertility, a little bad news and a plan of attack.

Instead, my doctor grabbed my hand and slowly began to shake her head. More »

Unbearable: Finding The Humor In An Empty Uterus

Unbearable: Finding The Humor In An Empty Uterus

Just like our amazing contributor Maria Guido, all of us at Mommyish really believe that it’s important to discuss miscarriages. We think it helps us to open up, share our stories, and support one another through difficult times. In fact, just last week some of my co-workers and I were discussing our different experiences and how we handled them. One woman’s response actually had me laughing to myself all week long. More »

Unbearable: Infertility, Mental Health, & Why No One Has The Right To Tell Me I Need Therapy

Unbearable: Infertility, Mental Health, & Why No One Has The Right To Tell Me I Need Therapy

Throughout the process of writing about my struggles with fertility, I’ve received plenty of comments that made me upset, made me sad, and made me defensive. I’ve been told that using a fertility clinic to try to get pregnant was unnatural, and also selfish. I’ve been told that I shouldn’t classify my ectopic pregnancy as “losing a child,” because it’s not fair to parents who lost children that were already born. I’ve heard that I whine a whole lot. But nothing has made me quite so angry as being told that I “might need some therapy.” Let me explain why this comment has me so heated. More »

Unbearable: Me And My Still-Empty Uterus Are Capable Of Having Good News

Unbearable: Me And My Still-Empty Uterus Are Capable Of Having Good News

There comes a point in an infertile couple’s journey where absolutely every aspect of their lives seems to be superseded by their struggles to get pregnant. After you’ve told everyone that you’re trying, after a couple tragic endings, you’re suddenly known as “the people trying to have a baby.” From that point on, any time you try to share information with people, they’re going to assume that you’re talking about your uterus first. More »