The twin playgroup I joined when my twins were about 10 months old turned out to be a lifesaver for me, and six years later Iām still in contact with all the original mothers. Our group consisted of seven mothers and 14 babies, so there was never a dull or quiet moment. There were actually so many unfinished conversations that weād often have a follow-up group email afterwards, giving everyone a chance to finish the thoughts that had been interrupted by a fall, a bite or a diaper change. More
Last week, I wrote about own desire to go straight for the c-section when delivering my twins. But both my cousin Rena and friend Christina are heroes in my eyes, because I couldnāt contemplate going through what they did to bring their twins into the world.
After having her first child vaginally, my cousin Rena delivered her twins vaginally, and hearing her story while I was pregnant with my own set of twins reinforced my decision to schedule a C. My cousin is very much like me in that she tells it like it is. I knew that more than anyone, sheād tell me the real deal without an ounce of sugarcoating, and thatās exactly what I needed.
Iām one of those women who never felt that ānaturalā birth sounded all that naturalāand even if I only had one baby my ideal delivery would have been a c-section. So one of the first things I wanted to make sure was that my doctor would be on board with a scheduled C. Luckily, he believed that c-sections are the safest way to deliver twins and said that would have been his suggestion anyway. More
I was so far gone by the end of the third month that I couldnāt visualize things getting better. My sleep deficit got worse and crying became something I did as regularly as breathing and walking. I couldnāt think of a better plan. I was just slogging away, trying to keep these two fragile little humans alive and happy. More
I wiped everything down with Wet Wipesāthe window, the window shade, the remotes, the trays, and the armrests. I had just started cleaning the seat and the floor with wide strips of masking tape when my seatmate arrived to see that she was sitting next to a Crazy Peanut-Allergy Parent. I assured her I wasnāt a lunatic. It was just our first flight and I was doing everything anyone recommended to get through it. More
First of all, donāt be disappointed if youāre not allowed to sign up. Sad as it sounds, many classes such as baby gym classes (like Gymboree) and swimming lessons have a one adult to one baby requirement. This works out for the stay-at-home-mom with a live-in nanny, women with partners who can take time off, or women with agreeable relatives living nearby. But itās not such a great deal for the rest of us.
One of my friends hired a babysitter to come to baby-gym classes with her, but personally if Iām paying for a babysitter, Iām going shopping or out to dinner. More
One of the best things about growing up in the 70ās and 80ās was the laid-back pace. The āoverscheduled childā problem we see today just didnāt exist. My mother wasnāt constantly driving us from one class to the nextāthe most we did outside of school was baseball, softball and one musical instrument each. Summer vacations stretched out before us with only a week or two dedicated to a trip or vacation. More
I come from a family of worriers so naturally once my twins Allie and Nick were born, I signed up for a āPediatric Emergencyā class so Iād be ready for anything. It was an excellent class led by an experienced ER doctor. He told us all the things you should do if your kid gets hurt, like expect a lot of blood from facial injuries and donāt panic because the large quantity of blood makes it look worse than it seems. He told us that kids take their cues from us, so definitely try not to look panicked when they get hurt or your kid will freak.
Sadly enough when my twins were two years old, I forgot everything from that class in an instant. More
I donāt know any parent who particularly enjoys kidsā birthday parties, but no parents dislike them more than parents of twins. Twins are cute and birthday parties are cute, but somehow mixing the two into a twin birthday party is more problematic than anything I thought something cute could ever be. All sorts of questions are raised by mixing twins and parties, and Iām no Emily Post, but Iām here to offer my veteran advice. More
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Taking care of one sick baby is bad enough, but two sick babies can nearly put you over the edge.Ā One of the lowest moments of my twin motherhood had to be after my twins both projectile vomited in their high chairs, and in a blind panic I grabbed my What To Expect the First Year book to look up what youāre supposed to do when your kid is puking. Most mothers would know what to do, or would stay calm and carry on, but with both babies covered in puke and screaming their heads off, I blanked. More
We made our first pit stop to clean ourselves up, and to find me a new t-shirt. Vaguely clean but stinking like puke, we all got back into the car. The screaming continued as did the vomiting. Despite being more than halfway there, I got to the point where I told my husband to just turn around. I was done, and our vacation hadnāt even started. More
Having twins can be the most amazing experience of your life. It can also cause you to wake up in the morning wishing you were someone else. Twinning offers an honest depiction of life with twins from a mom who … More
Imagine carting around two adorable pieces of luggage that can scream, eat and shit: itās not so much fun. Just the preparation for going anywhere was exhausting. If youāre one of those care-free āletās just wing itā types of parents who turn up without bottles or spare clothes for your babies, then lucky you. Youāll get out more, and Iām sure your baby will survive. Unfortunately Iām the type of self-conscious mom who felt that it was my responsibility to have everything the babies needed at all times. More
My 6-year-old boy/girl twins are either best friends or mortal enemies, and lately they seem to favor being the latter. More