Topic: Twinning

Twinning: I’ve Become Less Anti-Video Games As My Kids Have Gotten Older

Twinning: I've Become Less Anti-Video Games As My Kids Have Gotten Older

When my twins were three, my stance on video games and iPhone apps was pretty extreme: not allowed. I wasn’t anti-technology; I just felt that 3-year-olds would benefit infinitely more from doing things in the real world rather than on a video screen. I wanted to make sure they could use actual crayons and markers before they had a virtual palette at their fingertips. I wanted them to be able to kick a ball across the yard before they tossed them across video fields with a controller. I also saw no need to introduce them to the world of video games when we’d just barely introduced Candy Land. More »

Twinning: I Was Too Much Of A Wimp To Ferberize

Twinning: I Was Too Much Of A Wimp To Ferberize

Ferberizing twins is not for sissies. Any mother who can tough out even one night listening to two babies scream at the same time is a stronger woman than I am. All the moms who had Ferberized their baby or babies back when mine were infants told me it’s just three to five nights of hell, and then you have babies who sleep through the night. It sounds so easy, who wouldn’t give it a shot? More »

Twinning: I Thought I Could Get Away With Not Baby Proofing My House

Twinning: I Thought I Could Get Away With Not Baby Proofing My House

Shortly after my twins were born, I went to a twin mom’s club meeting held at the home of a member who had twin toddlers. I couldn’t believe how elegant and sophisticated her house was—white loveseats in front of a fireplace, a marble table topped with an enormous plant, a staircase that wasn’t flanked with baby gates. It was hard to imagine that even one child lived there. I had to ask her how she kept her house looking so beautiful with twins running around and she said, “Oh I just try to keep them out of this room and when they’re in here, it’s just a lot of ‘No touch! No touch!’”

That was it? “No touch?” and you could have a house that didn’t look like a Gymboree inside? Well I was certainly willing to try. More »

Twinning: There’s No Milestone Race

Twinning: Thereâs No Milestone Race

Everything you read or hear on the subject will stress that you should never, ever compare your twins unless you are trying to ruin their lives or win an award for Worst Twin Parent. While it seems logical that babies who are exactly the same age should be able to master the same skills around the same time, that of course is not the case, for fraternal as well as identical twins. More »

Twinning: I Survived Transitioning To Solid Food

Twinning: I Survived Transitioning To Solid Food

I started making my own baby food for my twins, because apart from apricots and a few other fruits, jarred baby food tastes pretty terrible. I had a fantastic book called Super Baby Food that needs a good edit but I’d recommend anyway. The upside of making their food was knowing my kids were getting the best nutritious ingredients possible, but the downside was how fast it all disappears when you have two babies to feed. Compared to shaking formula—peeling, cubing, steaming and pureeing butternut squash is an absolute shitload of work. More »

Twinning: Playgroups Are A Life Line

Twinning: Playgroups Are A Life Line

The twin playgroup I joined when my twins were about 10 months old turned out to be a lifesaver for me, and six years later I’m still in contact with all the original mothers. Our group consisted of seven mothers and 14 babies, so there was never a dull or quiet moment. There were actually so many unfinished conversations that we’d often have a follow-up group email afterwards, giving everyone a chance to finish the thoughts that had been interrupted by a fall, a bite or a diaper change. More »

Twinning: Some Twin Moms Definitely Go For The Natural Birth Fantasy

Twinning: Some Twin Moms Definitely Go For The Natural Birth Fantasy

Last week, I wrote about own desire to go straight for the c-section when delivering my twins. But both my cousin Rena and friend Christina are heroes in my eyes, because I couldn’t contemplate going through what they did to bring their twins into the world.

After having her first child vaginally, my cousin Rena delivered her twins vaginally, and hearing her story while I was pregnant with my own set of twins reinforced my decision to schedule a C. My cousin is very much like me in that she tells it like it is. I knew that more than anyone, she’d tell me the real deal without an ounce of sugarcoating, and that’s exactly what I needed.
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Twinning: I Never Got Caught Up In The Natural Birth Fantasy

Twinning: I Never Got Caught Up In The Natural Birth Fantasy

I’m one of those women who never felt that “natural” birth sounded all that natural—and even if I only had one baby my ideal delivery would have been a c-section. So one of the first things I wanted to make sure was that my doctor would be on board with a scheduled C. Luckily, he believed that c-sections are the safest way to deliver twins and said that would have been his suggestion anyway. More »

Twinning: Taking My Peanut-Allergic Son Over The Atlantic Went Way Better Than I Expected

Twinning: Taking My Peanut-Allergic Son Over The Atlantic Went Way Better Than I Expected

I wiped everything down with Wet Wipes—the window, the window shade, the remotes, the trays, and the armrests. I had just started cleaning the seat and the floor with wide strips of masking tape when my seatmate arrived to see that she was sitting next to a Crazy Peanut-Allergy Parent. I assured her I wasn’t a lunatic. It was just our first flight and I was doing everything anyone recommended to get through it. More »

Twinning: ‘Mommy And Me’ Classes Are A Bust

Twinning: 'Mommy And Me' Classes Are A Bust

First of all, don’t be disappointed if you’re not allowed to sign up. Sad as it sounds, many classes such as baby gym classes (like Gymboree) and swimming lessons have a one adult to one baby requirement. This works out for the stay-at-home-mom with a live-in nanny, women with partners who can take time off, or women with agreeable relatives living nearby. But it’s not such a great deal for the rest of us.

One of my friends hired a babysitter to come to baby-gym classes with her, but personally if I’m paying for a babysitter, I’m going shopping or out to dinner. More »