Topic: stepmom

10 Signs That You’re A Stepmom

10 Signs That You're A Stepmom

Despite the growing prevalence of blended families, step-mommying still manages to leave a bad taste in some people’s mouths. Cultural weirdness around step-parents, specifically stepmothers, bubble up over notions you think we would have outgrown by 2013. But being a stepmother isn’t just limited to what people want to say about you, but how you experience the parenting world around you. More »

Unlike This Reader, I Would Not Freak Out If My Kid Called Someone Else ‘Mom’

Unlike This Reader, I Would Not Freak Out If My Kid Called Someone Else 'Mom'

I just have a few questions for you……1. Do you have children? 2. If yes, are you married? 3. Are you married to your child’s father? 4. If not, is he remarried, and do you co-parent with him and another woman? If you answered no to ANY of my questions then HOW DARE you call Leann mom, to Brandi and Eddies boys. She is NOT now nor will she ever be their mom!! They have a mother – She may not be the most adult or polite woman on the earth but she is their mom. Their ONLY mom! Leann is their STEP-mother, and I’m certain the kids do NOT call her step-mother when speaking to or about her. They refer to her as Leann. When they speak to or about Brandi I’m quite certain they call and refer to HER as mom or mommy!! Please!!!!! Don’t ever make at STUPID mistake again!! And NO I do NOT know Brandi. More »

I’m Scared That My Stepchildren Will Let Me Down This Mother’s Day

Iâm Scared That My Stepchildren Will Let Me Down This Motherâs Day

Now I have stepchildren in my life and I’m not really sure what to expect, or how to be proactive when it comes to my two stepchildren. I don’t want to feel like Mother’s Day is the Biggest Let Down of The Year. I know I shouldn’t EXPECT anything. And while I don’t really, I can’t help but know my stepchildren are in my house 50 percent of the time. More »

Anonymous Mom: I Wish I Had Accidentally Gotten Pregnant

Anonymous Mom: I Wish I Had Accidentally Gotten Pregnant

When I was 17, I was in love with a boy who was my entire world. He was a few years older and enlisted in the military, going off to boot camp and serving in far away places throughout his military career. Meanwhile I finished high school and enrolled in college, trying to continue my life while writing daily letters, awaiting intermittent phone calls and widely spaced visits in person. At the time, I thought that he would eventually get out of the military, return home to me and then we would finally get married and raise a family. I was too young and naive to fully grasp what that plan truly encompassed. More »

Being A Stepmother Has Made Me Want To Be A Biological Mother

Being A Stepmother Has Made Me Want To Be A Biological Mother

I met my husband’s children about a month into our romantic relationship. It was a bit soon, in case you’re wondering. They’d never met any of the other women he dated and viewed me with the kind of suspicion that either rendered them rude or mute in my presence. As empathetic as I felt, “Why are you always here?” is not a question that endears a child to anyone, especially when you’ve only met them three times and have taken care to make sure they’ve seen their dad alone in between those visits. More »

Splitsville: How To Integrate Step-Parents Into Your Family

Splitsville: How To Integrate Step-Parents Into Your Family

Welcome to Splitsville. This weekly column will focus on parenting after a divorce, break-up or one-night stand that didn’t end like a Katherine Heigl movie.

Blended families aren’t really known for their simplicity. The family structure is rarely predictable and the schedule is hectic, to say the least. But hopefully, every group can find a rhythym that works for them. It takes lots of communication and plenty of give-and-take, but a compromise can be reached!

Once a family hits this precarious balance, it’s hard to break from the habit. You begin to build a routine and no one wants to throw a screw in the system. And nothing alters a blended families balance more than a new addition.

That’s right! Enter the step-parents. More »

My Boyfriend’s Ex-Wife Wants Nothing To Do With Me

My Boyfriend's Ex-Wife Wants Nothing To Do With Me

My boyfriend’s ex-wife does not want me at her daughter’s birthday party. She feels “uncomfortable” and “not ready to meet me,” as my boyfriend has just told me. (She’s also told her children this.) I’ve been dating him for a year now, and my daughter, his kids and I are now “blended.” They sleep over often. We hang out often. There are plans for him and his kids to move in with my daughter and me. (He has 50 percent custody.) There are a number of feelings I have about her not wanting me at her daughter’s birthday party, even though her daughter wants my daughter and me to be there. More »

Splitsville: ‘Two Daddies Makes Me Special, Duh.’

Splitsville: 'Two Daddies Makes Me Special, Duh.'

Welcome to Splitsville. This weekly column will focus on parenting after a divorce, break-up or one-night stand that didn’t end like a Katherine Heigl movie.

Blended families have a notoriously difficult time with the titles for each parent. Even more confusing can be explaining those pet names and relationships to those outside the family. My daughter has come up with her own system, but not everyone understands it. More »

LeAnn Rimes Enjoys Being A ‘Bonus Mom’

LeAnn Rimes Enjoys Being A 'Bonus Mom'

Here at Mommyish, we realize that ‘stepmom’ might have some troubling connotations. Our very own Rebecca Eckler has discussed the need for another title, any title that doesn’t remind us of fairy tale villains. LeAnn Rimes obviously agrees, because she’s decided to go with the name “Bonus Mom”. Rimes and new husband, Eddie Cibrian, were out with his two young sons recently in Malibu. Here is Rimes pushing her 4 year-old stepson, Jake, on the swings. More »