All of this makes me kind of concerned at times- worrying that I’m making him into my “little prince” who can do no wrong. He is definitely a bit of a mommas boy which makes me nervous. Growing up, I always railed at my mom for going easier on my brothers than me. She was definitely a little softer toward them. I felt like I could commit the same offense as my brothers and be punished twice as hard so when I found out I was going to have a son, I vowed to never favor him over my daughter. More
I know that some mothers and daughters share special bonds and if you have daughters, or you are one of those people who really want to experience raising one, I wish you nothing but luck and great memories, just please donāt try to make the rest of us feel like weāre missing out on part of the mom experience by not doing or having the same. More
I have three boys, two bio and one bonus. From what I can tell so far, I have contributed to raising three guys who are in no way to close to being Douchebag Dudebrosā¢ – you know, the kind of guys who refer to women as “sluts” and beat the shit out of kids they think are “fags.” There are plenty of Douchebag Dudebrosā¢ in the world, I think we have reached our population quote, thanks. More
When I was pregnant the last time my own mother badly wanted me to have a girl, she raised three daughters and she wanted me to know what having a daughter was like, and when I found out via ultrasound that I was indeed carrying a girl I called my mom and told her “Oh well, all I care about is that my baby is healthy, but I am having a boy.” My mom would probably deny this, but she sounded SO DISAPPOINTED on the phone. Like she seriously had a very difficult time hiding her extreme disappointment. There was a whole mess of sighing going on. More
There is an excellent new Ted talk given by parent and former actor Colin Stokes about how children’s movies aren’t teaching our sons how to think about and treat women. He compares his two children and how both of them, around the ages of 4, became equally obsessed with two different movies. For his daughter, it was The Wizard Of Oz, for his son, it was Star Wars. If you have kids I think that both these movies are something that you have shown them at some point, if they both weren’t two of the very first movies you exposed them to. More
We talk a lot about the sexualization of young girls on this site. From spray tanning and padded bras for little ones on Toddlers & Tiaras to young models who are being photographed and styled as adult women. We discuss the problems this creates for young girls who are constantly subjected to the idea that their value is based on how attractive they are. And we hope to protect girls from the idea that their natural appearance needs to be altered to fit into a specific sexy mold. We talk a lot about girls and sexualization, but we tend to look past the early stress put on young boys to objectify females before they can even understand what attractiveness and sexuality are. More
It’s Sexual Assault Awareness Month and every teen should be learning how to respect one another’s bodies and right to choose when to engage in sexual activity. Sexual assault education that focuses on ways in which girls should protect themselves is just another form of victim-blaming. More
Fourteen year old Amber Cole had a trying couple of weeks when video of her performing oral sex on student went viral over the interwebs. The teenager had no idea that she was being filmed by two other students, but nevertheless logged on to find her name all over internet. And while there was a wealth of people on Twitter coming to girl’s defense, the general narrative is that the girl is the problem, the criminal, and the one who needs a stern talking to.
But what about the boys who filmed and thus exploited this young girl by sharing the video? Why aren’t their actions part of our discussion when responding to this story? More
Itās a given that little kids love ā and need ā to play. But what about their parents? Sure, channeling your inner child and āplayingā apparently does marvels for your health and longevity. But how do you reconcile your inner child ā a girl child ā with the realities of raising three young boys?
In my case, you donāt. I hate to play.
Stacking rings, ball ān’ hammer and shape sorters are mind-numbing. Building intricate railway lines and racecar tracks, only to have them demolished by Spiderman and Batman, is an exercise in futility. And light saber battles always get a little too out of hand for this mother. More