Topic: slut-shaming

My Daughter Is Worth Way More Than Her Virginity

My Daughter Is Worth Way More Than Her Virginity

Being a woman seemed to come with rules, even when I was small. Most of it hinged on being a ‘lady’. You know, “Ladies don’t run in the hallway. Ladies don’t climb the monkey bars. Ladies don’t get their clothes dirty. Ladies don’t fart at the dinner table.” I always thought that as I got older, I’d have fewer rules. Instead, more came. And these rules seemed to be hinged on just one idea.

You’ll get a reputation. More »

Senior Busted For Wearing ‘Inappropriate’ Dress On Her Last Day Has Mom Wear Same Dress To Graduation

Senior Busted For Wearing 'Inappropriate' Dress On Her Last Day Has Mom Wear Same Dress To Graduation

Now that the school year is finally drawing to a close in most parts of America I hope we get to take a break from all of these totally ridiculous and arbitrary instances of schools slut-shaming girls for wearing ensembles that most of us would find completely reasonable. This one involves a senior at Central Davidson High School in North Carolina named Violet Burkhart who was sent home with two hours remaining in the school day on the last day of her high school career after teachers pulled her aside to tell her that her dress was half an inch too short. More »

These Doctors Will Teach You How To Deal With Your Teen And The Dreaded Sex Talk

These Doctors Will Teach You How To Deal With Your Teen And The Dreaded Sex Talk

There is a new book out for parents that in my opinion is an absolute ‘Must Read’ entitled Got Teens: The Doctor Moms’ Guide To Sexuality, Social Media And Other Adolescent Realities. I like to think I’m some sort of parenting expert, but even I don’t have all the answers (shocking, I know) – what I loved most about this book is that it is incredibly realistic and doesn’t talk down to parents or our teens, it offers advice in practical, sensible, totally realistic ways when you are trying to help your teen navigate through all the icky realities of the world, social media, rape culture, slut shaming and making their own ways towards adulthood. The authors sat down with me to answer some of my most pressing questions. More »

Polly Pocket Doesn’t Sexually Abuse Children – Sex Abusers Abuse Children

Polly Pocket Doesn't Sexually Abuse Children - Sex Abusers Abuse Children

The sad fact is, kids would be sexually abused even if there were no dolls in the world. To make a connection between the sexual abuse of children and the fact that some children’s dolls wear makeup or revealing clothing is beyond offensive because it comes pretty close to blaming children and what they play with for their own abuse. A child is no more likely to be sexually abused if she is playing with a doll or with a rock. More »

Dear Courtney Stodden, It’s Going To Be Okay

Dear Courtney Stodden, It's Going To Be Okay

I have a soft spot for Courtney. I have seen her called the worst sorts of names, names no mother should ever hear in conjunction with her DAUGHTER spewed in headlines, in article comment sections, on message boards, on social media, all over. Put her in a pair of sweats and wash her face and at the end of it, she is just a girl, now pretty much a woman, and it just can’t be easy being her. More »

10 Troublesome Comments From The Christian ‘Modest Is Hottest’ Teen Series

10 Troublesome Comments From The Christian 'Modest Is Hottest' Teen Series

The self-proclaimed “largest community of Christian teen girls on the web!” otherwise known as Project Inspired has a wealth of material for that exact cohort. With beauty tips, polls, books, and advice columns, at first glance the site seems like any other teen girl digital haven. But the site’s “Modest Is Hottest” series, in which staff highlight “modest” gowns on various red carpets as well as “makeover” a celeb lady who transgresses, make for more troublesome reads — and I’m not talking about the copy in the articles. I’m talking about all the crazy double standard, victim-blamy logic that is happening among young girls in the comment threads, all conducted behind the shield of Modesty. More »