Am I the only woman sick of hearing the advice, “Make your marriage stronger by having sex even when you don’t feel like it?” How about, “NO.” Enthusiastic consent doesn’t only apply when we are teaching our kids about rape culture. Enthusiastic consent should be a given every, single time you have sex. And if you don’t feel like having it — men or women alike — you shouldn’t be guilted into it on the premise that it makes you a better partner. More
I used to be a believer in abstinence until marriage. In fact, I was âsaving myselfâ as a virgin until marriage, until I re-met my husband at the age of 24. While I technically have only been with one man, my husband, we decided to rapidly switch gears and live together in sin two years prior to getting married. One reason was because my husband was already divorced at the age of 24, a marriage he rushed into because of the abstinence doctrine. More
In the interest of honesty, I’m going to admit something: I hated being pregnant. Before becoming a human incubator for the first time, I relished hearing stories from women who absolutely loved pregnant. Hell, even my mom loved being pregnant (she craved waffles, which explains so much about me)! But once I actually lived it, my tune totally changed. More
I have heard so many parents my age wax poetic about how much “better” music was when we were younger and clucking their tongues about the terrible lyrics and misogynistic tone of current music. They say they can hardly listen to the radio anymore with their kids in the car and that they don’t want to explain to them what a “ham sammich” means in the context that Jason Derulo is using. More
I won’t get into graphic detail but suffice it to say, I knew too much too early and had positively no idea what to do with this information. I remember feeling scared and ashamed that I even knew these things and was afraid to talk to my parents about it. As I have gotten older and had kids of my own, I have made it one of my parenting missions to be sure my children have not only a healthy attitude about sex and their bodies, but a healthy knowledge of it in an age-appropriate manner. More
Well, where to start. I’m a young mother living in upstate New York, weathering my way through community college for my an Interior Design degree. I live with my fiance in a nice house, with our five-year-old daughter. On the outside, I’m exactly the kind of parent that people expect me to be, and that I always wanted to be growing up; I discipline when needed, make sure my girl knows what she should and shouldn’t do, and I feed her right. She gets playtime at her school, her friends come over to visit, we’re a comfortable family.
But we’re a family with a secret, and it’s one that very few people know about: My fiancĂ© and I are adult babies. More
The standard postpartum wisdom is to wait six weeks after having a baby to attempt P-in-the-V sex. Of course, if your hormones are raging, and youâre raring to go, you can talk to your doctor about your specific circumstances. Many doctors confirm that six weeks is just a guideline to help a new mom heal and make her feel more comfortable. But I highly doubt that any doctor would condone getting it on in the delivery roomâjust a few hours after popping out your kid. More
Sex is a HOT topic in the Christian community, to put it lightly. Again, my perspective doesnât encompass all churches and all denominations, but I have âgotten aroundâ in the Christian circle. I think itâs fair to say that many, many people in the Christian community believe sex and especially masturbation to be wrongâin a certain context, outside of marriage. More
If you say you don’t love Chipotle so much that you wouldn’t have sex on the roof of one then you are totally lying to me, because Chipotle means a lot more than just casual Mexican food to go and pretty decent tortilla chips, it also means SEXY TIME. At least it does according to this couple who were busted getting busy on the roof of a Chipotle located in Newark, Delaware. More
I have a personal, dorky question that will once and for all expose me for the thirteen-year-old perv that I am on the inside. I want to talk to you about your sex life, big time. More
I can fully endorse the fact that itâs really hard to find time to have sex as a new parent. And as a not-so-new parent. And even as an older parent, I assume. In case you havenât heard, parenting is a massive time-suck and libido-drain. Having kids is the highlight of my life, but this joyous endeavor takes up 24 hours of the day. Once you beg and plead for your infant children to start sleeping through the night, youâre so exhausted by 7 PM that all you want to do is watch Netflix on your laptop with one eye open and then go to sleep. More
We all know it takes two to tango. However itâs hard to deny that by nature most of the âthinking about baby makingâ falls to the woman. But men arenât immune to the whole process, right? Right?? More
Pregnant sex was one of my least favorite things. Sure, my husband and I managed to keep things regular throughout both of my pregnancies, and we generally had a good time. But in retrospect, sex after the baby was made was far less fun than the sex that made the baby in the first place. More
So a âvacation from getting pregnantâ is a great idea if youâve been at this for a little awhile. You donât necessarily have to go anywhere either if thatâs too hard. But just putting a designated mental âtimeoutâ on the process can be healthy for everyone involved. Even just for a few days. Itâs easy to get tunnel vision about this and sometimes itâs just nice to get back in touch with the person you were, before you were the person trying to get pregnant.