Four weeks after the birth of my son I was laid off from the non-profit where I had been working for almost four years. This role had fulfilled my existence for a very long time; it was the job my college aged self-dreamed of having. It involved long hours, frequent travel and stressful days and sometimes nights. More
Topic: SAHM vs. working mom
I had to wonder, would people really think she still lives a life of luxury and languor if they knew that a lot of her days are spent scrubbing and painting and dusting? She isn’t idle, no mom is really idle, and that includes working ones, stay at home ones, new moms, seasoned moms, grandmoms, and empty nesters. More
I was also insulted that people thought so little of what I had to do; raise my child and also feed her sometimes and also pay bills and stuff that they thought I could easily be their free nanny/intern/dog walker More
Itâ€™s perfectly okay if you are a stay-at-home mom and find motherhood to be the most fulfilling job on earth. Itâ€™s also just as okay if you donâ€™t. If you tried to stay at home and couldnâ€™t handle it, or if you didnâ€™t want to stay at home and went back to work, you are still okay. More
Whenever I tell someone I’m a work-at-home-mom, the usual response I hear is, That must be so great for you! I understand the reaction – I really do. I understand that the part of this job that allows me to work from home also allows me to be around my kids more and makes my schedule just more flexible in general. But after doing if for a year, I honestly think my life would be so much easier if I could go into the office everyday.
The number of stay-at-home-moms is rising, and if you listened to the most popular narrative about this, it’s because women in the work force are realizing they “can’t have it all” and it’s time for them to “opt out.” God I hate the narrative that assumes all women have a veritable buffet of choices in front of them. Why is it that when most people hear the word SAHM, they think of a woman lounging around in her yoga pants, making crafts and shopping on Amazon with her husband’s credit card all day? More
It’s not just SAHM’s and dads who are parenting to exhaustion, it’s working parents, too. Somewhere in the past few decades we’ve collectively decided that kids need our constant supervision and direction. When and how did this happen? When did parenting become an extreme sport? More
Obligations suck – bottom line. Whether your obligation is work or kids – it’s an obligation nonetheless. If you think it’s so much better to be at home with kids all day than to work outside the home, you may be right if you had a full time nanny. If you don’t – it’s just a suckfest in its own way. More
Just when we thought all was quiet on the front lines of the â€śMommy Wars,â€ť salary.com came around for the thirteenth year in a row to remind us â€śwhat a stay-at-home mom is worth.â€ť More
What is the point? If someone is a parent and wants to consider that the most important job in the world – who cares? More
This week, blogger Matt Walsh wrote a post called, “You’re A Stay at Home Mom? What Do You Do All Day?” In it, he adamantly defends his wife’s choice to be a stay at home mom. I love it when people recognize how hard it is to raise children and acknowledge that it is a job. But Walsh takes his defense of motherhood way off the deep end.
This new study by the Pew Research Center is sort of hard to make all inclusive because it doesn’t mention same sex parents, so I am going to say this, the person who spends more time with the kids gets to be the MOST FOREVER EXHAUSTED IN ALL AREAS OF LIFE REGARDLESS OF SEX FOREVER AND EVER AMEN. Take that research study! More
Ninety percent of the time I complain about it, but there are definitely pluses that I remind myself of on a daily basis, from the invaluable to the frivolously fabulous. More
Being a stay-at-home mom is boring. There I said it. Sorry if I’m offending anyone. If you’re a stay-at-home mom and you’re not bored to tears by two p.m. everyday, good for you. More