Topic: SAHM vs. working mom

The Number Of SAHM’s Is Rising, And It Has Nothing To Do With ‘Opting Out’ Or ‘Leaning In’

The Number Of SAHM's Is Rising, And It Has Nothing To Do With 'Opting Out' Or 'Leaning In'

The number of stay-at-home-moms is rising, and if you listened to the most popular narrative about this, it’s because women in the work force are realizing they “can’t have it all” and it’s time for them to “opt out.” God I hate the narrative that assumes all women have a veritable buffet of choices in front of them. Why is it that when most people hear the word SAHM, they think of a woman lounging around in her yoga pants, making crafts and shopping on Amazon with her husband’s credit card all day? More »

Blogger Masks Archaic, Sexist Views About Raising Children By Putting SAHM’s On A Pedestal

Blogger Masks Archaic, Sexist Views About Raising Children By Putting SAHM's On A Pedestal

This week, blogger Matt Walsh wrote a post called, “You’re A Stay at Home Mom? What Do You Do All Day?” In it, he adamantly defends his wife’s choice to be a stay at home mom. I love it when people recognize how hard it is to raise children and acknowledge that it is a job. But Walsh takes his defense of motherhood way off the deep end.
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As A Working Mom, I’m Happy Fox News’ Megyn Kelly Spoke Up For Working Women

As A Working Mom, I'm Happy Fox News' Megyn Kelly Spoke Up For Working Women

I can’t help but think people like Erickson are just grasping at straws to bolster their own confidence. I’m guessing he would feel emasculated if his own wife were to get a job outside the home, and this speaks volumes about his own weakness. If the only way a husband can feel powerful and successful is by keeping his wife and other women down, what does that say about him? More »

I Was A Sanctimommy Because I Was Compensating For The Prestigious Job I Had Just Walked Away From

I Was A Sanctimommy Because I Was Compensating For The Prestigious Job I Had Just Walked Away From

I thank my lucky stars that Blair Koenig hadn’t yet started STFU Parents when I was a new mom, because I would definitely have been a prime candidate.  When my first born was an infant I wrote Facebook statuses like:

I wish I hadn’t taken those 3pm coffee breaks for granted, now I’m a slave to the baby’s schedule!

As if I couldn’t get coffee without the permission of my newborn.

Or:

Baby’s up from his nap, time to do the alphabet again – bye Facebook!

Translation: my baby is so smart because I spend hours a day talking to him and teaching him one-on-one while your kid is being ignored by his nanny or catching a virus at daycare. More »

Baby Blues: I’m Getting A Part-Time Job To Save My Sanity — And Therefore My Daughter

Baby Blues: I'm Getting A Part-Time Job To Save My Sanity -- And Therefore My Daughter

If it weren’t for my postpartum depression, maybe I’d be okay with continuing to work exclusively at home. But that’s not my reality. Having depression and continuing to be home 24/7 is a hopeless path for my life. Getting this job may not be a perfect solution, but I can no longer ignore the fact that depression is (and always will) impact the lives of everyone in my little family, and it’s up to me to minimize the negative effects of it More »

I’m Quitting My Job And Moving Into My MIL’s Basement To Be A SAHM

Iâm Quitting My Job And Moving Into My MILâs Basement To Be A SAHM

I have always assumed I wouldn’t want to be a stay-at-home-mom. A friend says to me at some point, “I LOVE my kids, but I don’t want to hang out with them all freaking day.”

This seems totally right to me, totally reasonable. I’ve heard stories about people who go weeks without having an adult conversation, grown-ass women describing their 1-year-olds as “my best friend.” Seriously? I like work. I like productivity. I will love my baby, but surely I will want to keep the rest of my life the same as before, right? Mm hmm. More »