Topic: parenting styles

10 Lies I Have Told Other Moms About Parenting

10 Lies I Have Told Other Moms About Parenting

When you have a group of moms together and someone mentions when their kid started walking or talking or reading or some other developmental milestone I have, on occasion, chimed in about how my own kid did that. But earlier. Or better. When in reality I think my kids sort of did everything at the age of what the parenting books said they should be expected to. We all want our kids to be some sort of special snowflake, when the truth is all of our kids sort of suck equally. More »

Fostering Independence In A Child Isn’t Always A Choice, But A Necessity

Fostering Independence In A Child Isn't Always A Choice, But A Necessity

A NYT Motherlode column titled, “Confessions of a Mother Who Couldn’t Say No” got me thinking about what exactly the function of “no” is. It turns out those of us that don’t have the luxury of being able to smother our kids all day long, may actually be okay mothers, too. I’m fostering independence in my child because I have to – not necessarily because I choose to. More »

10 Things I Know For Sure That Are Total BS When It Comes To Raising Kids

10 Things I Know For Sure That Are Total BS When It Comes To Raising Kids

Because I have four children I have been around this baby raising block a bit. I may not have all of the answers, but I do know at least ten things that are utterly one gazillion percent totally, completely, utter bullshit when it comes to raising kids. You are going to hear a lot of obnoxious nonsense when you have babies. Some of these things will be said to your by your own parents, or relatives, or by well-meaning strangers who have no idea what the hell they are talking about. More »

New Study Says ‘Kids Love Being Kids’ So They May Never Move Out Of Our Basements

New Study Says 'Kids Love Being Kids' So They May Never Move Out Of Our Basements

I always assumed that “nonviolent parenting” – which I thought I practiced, meant not hitting your kids or screaming at them or berating them. If nonviolent parenting also includes not using rewards, bribes or punishments than I’m totally not doing that, because I bribe my own kids a lot. And I love having my kids open and honest and able to talk freely with me and their father, but that doesn’t include them using unkind language or being tiny little assholes to us. Childhood is such a fun, magical time in many ways, and I’m glad so many kids don’t feel in a hurry to grow up, but I really don’t think kids feel this way because parents are “helicopter pampering” them or letting them get away with being jerks. More »