Topic: moms feeling judged

There’s A Special Place In Hell For People Who Judge Cancer Survivors For Not Breastfeeding

There's A Special Place In Hell For People Who Judge Cancer Survivors For Not Breastfeeding

Women wrote in about being accused by strangers of poisoning their babies with formula, about doctors who were not allowed to use the word ‘bottle’, about being reduced to tears after being harangued by nurses and consultants. Some of these women were cancer survivors, some of the were just women who didn’t want to or couldn’t breastfeed, and not a single one of them deserved to be treated this way. More »

Paper-Thin Walls Let My Neighbors In On My Parenting Defects

Paper-Thin Walls Let My Neighbors In On My Parenting Defects

The saying goes, they don’t make ’em like they used to, but our house was built more than 100 years ago and I reckon I could have done a better job. In fact, I’d like to invite the builder of our house – or at least his living descendants – to come over and experience what it’s like to live with seven children and six adults. Because that’s how many roomies I feel like I have.
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The Mommy Wars Are All In My Head

The Mommy Wars Are All In My Head

I felt like the worst mom ever when my older son started preschool. Like most working moms, I’d drop my child off in the morning, say a quick goodbye and then bolt out of there in time to get to my downtown office by 9:20 a.m. (20 minutes later than my 20-something colleagues). I wasn’t around to do pick-up; I never volunteered for class trips; and I visited my son’s class a total of once to hand out cupcakes on his birthday.

The worst part, however, was feeling judged by the other moms. More »

The New Mommy Wars: Are You A Slacker Mom Or A Super Mom?

The New Mommy Wars: Are You A Slacker Mom Or A Super Mom?

As I sit reading the latest edition of the ongoing saga that is The Mommy Wars, as reported in various newspapers and on my favorite websites, I get tired. Irritable. Anxious. Not least because I don’t seem to fit the exhaustingly rigid constraints that these labels suggest – it’s okay, neither do you – but because as we all know, there is no longer a one-size-fits-all style of parenting. Heck, there is no size at all these days! More »