Topic: mommy wars

The ‘Mommy Wars’ Don’t Exist

The 'Mommy Wars' Don't Exist

Since I began writing about motherhood – I have been attacked plenty. I’m not complaining. I think anyone who puts words on the Internet should be ready to be attacked occasionally. It’s not a one-size-fits-all world. We don’t all agree on everything all the time. And I’m fine with that. I just think it’s hilarious that every time a group of women disagree with each other, and those women happen to be mothers – it’s coined a “mommy war.” Oh please. Shut up. More »

Maybe ‘Sexy Moms’ Want To Look Good For – Gasp! – Themselves

Maybe 'Sexy Moms' Want To Look Good For – Gasp! – Themselves

Oh, TIME magazine. First you cause a whole big stink with your controversial breastfeeding cover – you know, the one where a total hottie is pictured nursing her almost-4-year-old-boy – then you publish a piece about the “tyranny” of the sexy mom. Puh-leeze. I get it, I get it – I work in publishing, too, and so I know that certain topics “sell” better than others. But still, I’m sick of the message that moms feel enormous pressure to look good soon after childbirth because (a) celebrities do, (b) men expect them to, or (c) they fear they’ll be judged by other women. Maybe, just maybe, these women want to bounce back into shape for themselves. Maybe they feel like crap being 30 lbs overweight, and maybe looking good means feeling good, which always translates into a happier, more confident person. More »

Of Course Anne-Marie Slaughter Is Turning Her ‘Having It All Piece’ Into A Book [Updated]

Of Course Anne-Marie Slaughter Is Turning Her 'Having It All Piece' Into A Book [Updated]

I think Anne-Marie Slaughter might have it all. She just landed a book deal, for chrissake! Okay, just kidding, nobody has it all. But are we surprised that her infamous essay in The Atlantic, “Why Women Still Can’t Have It All,” has inspired a book? Of course not. I mean, what did you think would happen? (Though, truth be told, I was wondering which would come first: book deal or reality TV series.) More »

Mommyish Debate: Is Amy Sohn’s ‘Regressive’ Picture Of Motherhood Courageous Or Contemptible?

Mommyish Debate: Is Amy Sohn's 'Regressive' Picture Of Motherhood Courageous Or Contemptible?

Amy Sohn, the woman who painted a nasty picture of Park Slope ladies with her last book Prospect Park West, is at it again. This time around, she’s described a controversial version of motherhood at The Awl – in part to promote her next novel called Motherland.

The piece was meant to stir debate and described a new type of mommy. Sohn and her friends are older moms who are over the labor-intensive younger years and have reverted back to their own adolescent immaturity. She describes nights out partying, rampant drug use and plenty of less-than-maternal behavior.

Her piece caused plenty of debate here at the Mommyish office. More »

And So It Begins… Giuliana Rancic Already Criticized For Working So Close To Baby’s Due Date

And So It Begins... Giuliana Rancic Already Criticized For Working So Close To Baby's Due Date

As a working mother, sometimes you just can’t win. Just ask Giuliana Rancic. The E! News host is not even a mom yet – Rancic and husband Bill Rancic are expecting their first child via surrogate in late August/early September – and yet people are already attacking her for covering off the London Olympics so close to the baby’s due date. And that, my friends, is just not cool. More »

I Don’t Judge You For Disliking Motherhood, So Don’t Judge Me For Loving It

I Don't Judge You For Disliking Motherhood, So Don't Judge Me For Loving It

Well, as Shawna already mentioned, the media loves a good Mommy War lately. And the latest piece to stir up controversy is by Julie Cook, titled “I Love My Son, But Being A Mother Bores Me.” And I wouldn’t have such a big problem with this piece, if Cook didn’t suggest that those who don’t agree with her are thoughtless non-entities who are incapable of worrying about anything other than motherhood. More »

‘Being A Mother Bores Me,’ Admits Journalist Julie Cook – Let’s Thank This Woman For Her Honesty

'Being A Mother Bores Me,' Admits Journalist Julie Cook – Let's Thank This Woman For Her Honesty

“I didn’t know until I had my son — and found myself forcibly immersed in this world of play dates and parenting talk — how much I actively dislike children.”

This candid admission comes from 31-year-old journalist Julie Cook – mother to a boy named Alex – who has written a just-published piece for the Daily Mail called “I Love My Son, But Being A Mother Bores Me.” If we’ve learned anything from TIME magazine’s scandalous breastfeeding cover or The Atlantic‘s bold-faced assertion that women can’t have it all, it’s that publishers love a good Mommy War. Cook’s latest piece will stir up yet another controversy – mark my words. More »

My Mom Friends Are Taking Their Issues Out On Each Other

My Mom Friends Are Taking Their Issues Out On Each Other

The day I became a mom was the day my friendships with non-moms started to suffer: all of a sudden I couldn’t stay awake past nine, stopped smoking, curbed my drinking and lost all ability to string together a sentence. But at least there was one member present who could hold up their end of the bargain.

Mom-on-mom friendships have twice the handicap. At times you’re both grumpy, moaning about the kids, their father, their teachers, their friends. Maybe your kids are fighting. Maybe they’ve committed a crime with a permanent marker. Whatever the situation, inter-mom friendship is a risky proposition. More »

Stay-At-Home Moms More Depressed Than Working Moms – But Don’t Search The Classifieds Just Yet

Stay-At-Home Moms More Depressed Than Working Moms – But Don't Search The Classifieds Just Yet

Every five minutes, a new study comes out comparing stay-at-home moms to working moms and analyzing which group is more miserable. The latest one comes via Gallup poll, which found that SAHMs are more depressed than those fabulous career women-slash-moms (you know, the ones from those really cool Stock photos who balance a baby in one hand and a laptop in the other). More »

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