Having a miscarriage is a heartbreaking experience. I don’t know any woman who takes it lightly. I do know several friends who have internalized the guilt after having miscarriage after miscarriage. From both real-life relationships and personal accounts I have read online, it seems like a woman that has experienced one or multiple miscarriages is always looking for the cause. Almost inevitably, she blames herself. More
I hate my sister-in-law for having another baby.
Let me backtrack a little – my sister-in-law is a drug addict. Before she had this baby, she had given birth to three more. Three kids that she didn’t take care of properly. Three kids that she had taken away from her by child services because she was a terrible mother. Three kids that, no matter how much love she gave them, she could never fully be a mother to. More
Now what happens? She has to live for all eternity having her name associated with something awful that happened when she was a teenager? WHAT IF the fetus was a miscarriage and she just panicked and had some breakdown and tried to block it out before her shoplifting spree? What then? She gets extensive therapy and support in raising her child and maybe finishes school and tries to go to college and this comes up? We don’t know if she did something to terminate her pregnancy. We don’t know if it was all a horrible accident. But to be posting this kid’s info all over the world for it to remain forever and ever is some terrible crime in itself. More
Since I’ve had my children, whenever I buy something plastic I search for the assurance that it is “BPA free.” Although I refuse to buy anything for my child to eat off of that doesn’t contain these words, I have never done the same for myself. As someone who experienced several miscarriages, it seems BPA is something I should have been trying to avoid. More
This year marks the first time that all three of my kids will be in school, and most excitingly, two of my kids are starting school for the first time. Having an empty house during the day for the first time is bittersweet for most parents, I’m guessing, but milestones like this have been extra difficult since I lost my first born son. More
What happened to Remee Lee might just be every pregnant woman’s nightmare. After telling her boyfriend, John Welden, that she was pregnant, he was less than thrilled. He begged her to get an abortion, but she was adamant about keeping the baby. Reluctantly Weldon went along with it, until a few weeks into her pregnancy when he allegedly tricked her into taking Cytotec, causing her to miscarry. Most people who hear about this case are horrified, but some men’s rights activists, see a deeper issue at hand, and for once I am inclined to agree. More
When it rains, it effing pours, especially for 44-year-old Po Leung who not only recently endured a miscarriage, but also the swift departure of her partner after an affair. To throw even more salt in the wound, Leung’s partner allegedly left her for the fertility nurse who had been over-seeing the couple’s path to conception — for three years. As a result, Leung is now wielding a hefty $400,000 lawsuit and believe me, you don’t want to get in her way. More
I’ve spoken a lot about the many women who experience loss and don’t talk about it. Well, if you have one of those women in your life, remember today what she has been through – and that this might not be the easiest day for her to endure. When you go through the pain of pregnancy loss – you have been a mother. You have lost a child, although most people won’t treat you that way. More
We started to do the math. Literally, we began counting the months. If I didn’t want to be about-to-burst, we’d need to wait until at least the summer to start trying. If I wanted to be pregnant but not too pregnant, we’d probably want to conceive around September. If I wanted that piña colada, pregnancy would have to be postponed until after the wedding. More
Pregnant Kim Kardashian has had, so far, a very stressful pregnancy. So much so that a doctor recently paid the reality starlet a visit and told her to not let her Kris Humphries divorce get to her. There’s even further speculation that the mommy-to-be had a miscarriage scare. So leave it to the Kardashian Empire to parlay all that stress and panic into season eight of “Keeping Up With The Kardashians.” More
I think it’s easy – when you’re not famous, rich, gorgeous, or thin – to poke fun at the lives of those who are. I mean, that’s kind of fair, right? You get to have everything – I get to make fun of you for it. I have been doing this to Gwyneth Paltrow for a while. She’s just such an easy target -what with Jay-Z, Mario Batali, and Madonna as BFF’s, a rockstar husband, and a fabulous life. And she got to have sex with Brad Pitt. Who wouldn’t be a little envious of that? More
I’m not embarrassed to tell you that I was (and am) a particularly complicated woman. And much of this complexity stems from my very dysfunctional childhood, growing up in a house with a father who was the definition of a bad parent.
It’s not really even debatable: My dad was an abusive coke addict for the entirety of the time he was in my life that I can recall. More
Call me crazy, but I feel like miscarriages aren’t exactly the time for jokes. And while Kim Kardashian‘s pregnancy has garnered plenty of snark and sarcasm from every corner of the internet, including our’s, I don’t think a miscarriage scare is the right time for any of that. And according to one media outlet, Kim K and Kanye just had a hell of a scare. More
In early July 2012, my husband and I decided to stop trying not to have a baby. At the end of July, right after my 29th birthday, I found out I was pregnant. I was not expecting a pregnancy to happen so quickly, although of course I knew it was possible. Then, just as quickly as it happened, it un-happened. I had a miscarriage a week before my eight-week ultrasound was scheduled. The appointment where I would have heard the baby’s heartbeat. Instead, I spent that eighth week in a hellish amount of pain; my miscarriage seemed to go on forever. More