Topic: marriage

I Would Rather My Kids F Like (Responsible) Bunnies Than Have A ‘Chaste Courtship’ Like The Duggars

Their sex lives are not my business. As long as they are being responsible and consensual and healthy. And more than that I would never tell them I want them to enter into a chaste courtship, just like I wouldn’t tell them they should go bone a mess of people before marriage. But I’d be lying if I said that the whole idea of a chaste courtship really creeps me out. I would (secretly) prefer that they have a whole lot of (healthy, safe, happy, consensual) sex before marriage. If they even decide to get married. More »

Deciding To Elope Was The Best Premarital Decision I Ever Made

I always assumed I would have a big wedding because that is the cliché that every little girl dreams of. But for a wide variety of reasons, I decided that “eloping” in a destination style wedding was much better for my mental health and my wallet. I’d do it again in a heartbeat. More »

Colorado Wants To Require 10 Hours Of Marriage Education Before Wedding And I Say ‘Why Not?’

A proposed ballot initiative in Colorado would make 10 hours of marriage education classes necessary for those who wished to wed. It’s being called the Colorado Marriage Education Act. While I adamantly believe that as an adult I’ve earned my right to make horrible relationship decisions without the state intervening – this may be a good idea. More »

Former Church Leader Condemns The Modern Wedding Industry Because It’s More Than A Party And White Dress

According to Lord Rowan Williams, the modern wedding industry is bad for marriage, and I couldn’t agree more. More »

RIP Marriage: According To FOX News, You Died In 2013

Marriage is over. It is, officially, judicially, a joke.

So says Dr. Keith Ablow – Fox News personality. Good thing nobody knows who he is or cares what he thinks. Those who do know who he is and care what he thinks, or would go as far as to support the ridiculous things that are spewing forth from his mouth-hole – have got to be pretty stupid. Oh, and bigoted. And homophobic. And stupid – did I say that already? More »

It’s My Anniversary And All I Got Was These Two Crazy Kids

That’s when life laughed at our plans again. Month after month went by and I wasn’t getting pregnant. Since we were both young and in good health we waited the requisite year before seeing a specialist. That’s when we were told we had “unexplained infertility.” There wasn’t much to do besides keep trying. Another 12 months later I finally saw those two blue lines I had been waiting for. More »

Anonymous Mom: My Husband Is Not Invited To My Second Baby’s Birth

With my first child, my husband was very excited to be part of the whole having-a-baby process. He loyally attended every prenatal appointment, went to the labor classes, and helped me pick a dula. When it came time to actually push out the child, I knew it would be mostly on me. He tried to be helpful, but ultimately, he clearly got frustrated by how long it took, got bored, and was generally not a fan of the process. I knew he would be kicked out of the room once I started pushing (part of the reason I felt I needed a dula), but I wanted him out way sooner. More »

New Research Says Online Dating Sites Actually Work, I Believe It Because I Make All My Friends Online Now

I used to think the concept of meeting someone online was totally weird. I insisted you needed to be face-to-face with someone to see if you are actually compatible. I was completely wrong about that. I can’t speak to making romantic relationships online, but ever since I started writing on the Internet I have made friends who I am certain I am compatible with – and these are all people I have never met face-to-face. More »

Polyamorous Mom: I Couldn’t Go To My Boyfriend’s Mother’s Funeral

Recently, a rather unexpected tragedy struck close to home; it jarred the life of a man I’m incredibly close to and love unconditionally. If this man had been my husband Allan, I would have done everything in my power to be with him and help share the burden of grief. If it had been Allan, I’d be writing a column this week on the support from my extra-marital partnership. But because it was my boyfriend Jim, the last few weeks have been a bevy of emotional turmoil. More »

What We're Reading:

Survey ‘Proves’ A Third Of Women Think The Way They Were Proposed To Sucked

A new survey of 2,000 British women shows that about one-third of them were unhappy with the way their partners proposed. The survey was conducted by a jewelry store and also “proved” that a quarter of them wanted to upgrade their rings (how convenient) – but let’s not let that stop us from discussing proposals and how important they may or may not be. More »

Anonymous Mom: I’m A Single Mom Of 4 Kids Since I Left My Abusive Marriage

He was extremely abusive. I wasn’t allowed to use birth control or have a job. My job was home in the kitchen, and that’s that. I almost lost our second at five months pregnant from taking a steel toe boot to the back. After three years, the physical abuse tapered off, but it was daily verbal abuse. I was called a “bitch,” “dirty cunt” and a “whore” daily, in front of the kids. Our second daughter was a HUGE disappointment to him, as it was his third girl, and she has autism. More »

There May Be a ‘Happy Marriage’ Gene That You Can Blame Your Hellish Divorce On

While children of divorce are more likely to grow up and also divorce, the notion that nuptial bliss all comes to your genetic code makes all those “work it out” adages seem even more futile. Resist the urge to ring up that marriage counselor and demand alllll that money back, now. More »

Polyamorous Mom: Swingers Clubs Are Not For Me

I am in Jim’s arms on a large mattress in a dimly lit room trying to concentrate. The female partner of a couple next to me has a tiny squeaky voice that jars me out of any pleasure each time she speaks. Just as I relax again, some girl across the way chirps up “Ok Jenny! It’s your turn!” Oh yeah, and everyone is bare ass naked. This, my friends, is a swingers club and the place where I discovered swingers and polyamorous people are very different folks under the large umbrella of non-monogamy. More »

Polyamorous Mom: 5 Things My Kids Know — So Far — About My Lifestyle

When my spouse and I decided to venture into a new relationship lifestyle, one of our very first concerns was our three children under the age of 10. When we agreed to open our relationship, we had more than a dedication to a 10-year marriage, but also to raising a family. After some reading, researching, and talking we decided to take discussion with the little ones in baby steps. Here is what I have decided is age appropriate for now. More »

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